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Hey, I'm Mara. I love dancing. It's practically my favourite thing to do. I love House, R&B, pretty much everything with a good beat, and Benny Benassi is my hero; that's why my column is a shrine to him. I graduated this year and am now in my first year of college where I'm trying to pick a major. Chances are you'll see some of my Psychology questions floating around somewhere here. I'm also extremely interested in Political Science too because I, like half the people living in Canada, somehow want to change the world. I particularly want to find a cure for poverty, corruption, cancer, AIDS and George Bush because honestly, I think those are the biggest problems we have right now. I have decided that maybe I should take the time to live a little before I start though because I have a good fifty years ahead of me to fix all the issues there are. Currently my life consists of: studying, working, socializing, eating and ocassionaly sleeping. I spent practically all of my high school life being a delinquent and partying to huge extents until I discovered my brain sometime in the middle of my senior year. I still like to have a good time every once in a while but you always need to find that balance (I haven't exactly found it yet but I'm getting close). Unfortunatley, a habit that has stuck with me from school is my obsessive gossiping. I just can't stop and you know, an article in Cosmo says that gossipers are healthier people because they bond over it? Who would have thought? Anyway, I do have my limitations and I don't condone nasty, brutal gossiping and I don't gossip about anything my friends have told me in confidence or something about someone else that they have slipped to me, however, if I find you in a washroom at a random party making out with my bestfriends's boyfriend, a few people are probably going to hear about it. Actually, more than a few people will hear about it because one of my absolute pet peeves is parties where the all the bathrooms are occupied due to sexual activity or... puking activity. Sooooo what else is there to know about me? My favourite thing in the world is shopping and my worst fear is existantialism. I am OCDey in a clinical way so you can ask me questions about that. You can ask me practically anything you want except for dumb questions but I'm not going to answer them in my little column here because it's a huge waste of space when I could be writing about myself (Click 'LookIt' on my menubar for answers to dumb questions so you don't have to embarass yourself asking them and getting bitched out from me). What I can do, is offer you three pieces of truly inspirational advice. Firstly, never live your life by what others want of you, cherish yourself and everyone around you, and never beat yourself down about anything you couldn't have avoided. Secondly, donate at least ten percent of the income you earn in your life to someone who needs it. Lastly, never get into a bulldozer when you're under the influence and start driving it towards a poor freshmen (I am never going to another kegger ever again... ever). Ok, I'll shut up now. You can start asking me stuff, if you haven't hit the back button already.
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How can you tell a real louie vuitton purse?
Yeah, Louis Vuitton isn't made in France but some vintage models are.
And seriously, you could find this all out on google:
http://www.google.ca/search?q=spot+fake+louis+vuitton&hl=en&lr=&start=10&sa=N
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hey..does anyone know the diet Beyonce went on to lose weight for her move "dream girls"...i remember her saying it on a variety of talkshows but i cant remembre the specific name
thanks
She starved herself and she is an idiot but she gets paid millions of dollars for doing it.
If you're trying to lose weight, just up your level of physical activity and eat healthier.
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How can I learn more about fashion?
Every one who answered before me have the right idea. Buy a lot of fashion magazines. I'd go with high end ones like Vogue and those directed at the middle, like Elle.
Usually magazines are broken down into a few parts. Some of the articles hint at what is in during the season and recommend items according to price or distributors (eg the save vs splurge).
Then there is always the fashion spreads (usually in the last few pages) that model the key looks. There are always a few key looks in the season so the spreads in different magazines may vary.
A lot of the magazines portray celebrities wearing whatever is "in". A lot of them are good sources but you have to be weary of them. Some celebs screw up and their look may be nice for a day but tomorrow, it'll be so yesterday.
If you're searching for classic fashion and it's origins, look up all the houses on www.wikipedia.com and trail them down to what they are today. A lot of modern designers got their start with major designers and branches off to create their own labels.
You can also go on to the Barneys website, search all the brands and look up on news and history reports for them.
Fashion is like a mastery. You can never fully learn everything about it. It changes all the time. I always keep a good eye on whats going on because fashion is important in our world and what you wear can effect your job, your friends, you boyfriend et cetera.
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Today for Christmas, I got $110 and I already had $80, so now I have $190. Well I was thinking of buying this Coach purse for myself: http://www.coach.com/content/product.aspx?product_no=3337&category_id=460 in the brass/khaki/camel color and I was wondering if its a waste of money for $138? Anyone who has it please tell me if it is worth buying and if it has good quality. Please dont say ask my parents to buy it for me or ask anyone else to buy it for me because they sure bought a lot of expensive things for me for Christmas. Thanks!
~Merry Christmas!
Well Coach purses go for up to $800 dollars and its a huge status symbol. $138 is a pretty good deal considering that the purse has the signature print and isn't the size of your toenail.
I'd buy it but if you aren't into designers then there isn't much of a point in getting it.
If you're trying to impress your friends, its a good buy if they've only heard and seen Coach purses but don't own any. IF they already own designer purses, a $138 Coach purse looks cheap compared to their bigger Coach, Gucci or Louis Vuitton purses. It all depends on who you hang around if thats why you want it.
If you want to buy it quality-wise, Coach purses always have a quality guarantee and on regular use should last at least a season and with occasional use, a few years. If your purse falls apart in a month, go back and complain. It's probably a defect.
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hey. i was wondering how you do those scroll things on the top of your page.
any help is greatly appreciated,
flaggal
You get a paid account from here:
http://www.advicenators.com/paidaccounts.php
and then make your own style and put the scroll script at the top of your page under the title.
It's $10 for a year and you get a bunch of nifty tools that help you answer questions. You can figure out a person's age and see any previous questions they have asked. You can create your own styles and change your advice column layout. There's also a Supporter Discussion where you can talk with other supporters and voice your opinion on what goes on in the site. It's seriously worth it.
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Hey well. I have a tote bag and a messenger bag. I just got my messenger bag in the summer and I have had my tote bag since the summer before the last school year (like 2 summers ago). My tote bag is getting kinda dingy, and I sorta want a new one but I don't know if I should just wait till the summer to get one or to just get it now during winter break. I dunno, what do you think?
Get it right now or in January. This is the time when all the summery-type bags are on sale.
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where can i get nice creme charcoal eyeshadows? like to make my eyes small
MAC or Urban Decay (from Sephora).
You can also go talk to a few Sephora sales associates, they'll give you makeup that's more specifically suited to you.
And why on earth would you want smaller eyes? When it comes to eyes (among other things), bigger is better. Guys go ga-ga for huge eyes and women would kill for them. I'd be trying to put nude eyeliner on them to make them look even bigger.
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15/f
there is this guy who i am really good friends with-
and i like him and he likes me
and i can tell he is going to ask me out soon from what he and other people tell me
the thing is, he was the type of friend who i could tell annything about me, up intill i told him about my past permiscuous-ness. now he talks to me about sex a lot and sais things like "i bet you wanna bang me in the autotorium tomarro", witch makes me uncomfortable.
im OK with talking bout sex to him, but we talk about it so much im starting to wonder if he only likes me because he thinks im going to do something with him.
im trying to find a way to ask him that question but im kindof scared to, because i like him a lot
i dont really know how to word the question either
so can you guys please help me?
thanks
I think instead of asking him, just maybe slip into one of the deep conversation you're having that you want to lay off the sex little and have a relationship with a guy that will be more meaningful first.
If he's interested in you, he'll prolly just brush it off and keep pursuing you.
If he looks like he doesn't want to have anything to do with you or worse, tries to convince you to change your mind, ditch the loser.
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whats a hooka??
A hooka is a bong-like instrument that is used in southern Asia and the Middle East. It is also called a sheesha.
Its used to smoke liquid tobacco. In modern days, sheesha or hooka shops and cafes have introduced flavored tobacco so you can smoke mint or banana or cappuccino.
Hookas can also be bought from specialty stores around North America and can differ in prices according to the size of the hooka.
Although, it is safer that cigarette smoking, the smoke fills your lungs and can result in lung cancer.
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are glory holes real dont plan on using one just curiouse seems dangerous
Yes, they are usually found in sex clubs, adult arcades, adult theatres, and adult bookstores.
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I just got hit with a shock today. I am 61/2 months pregnant and my baby's father just told me that he wants to name our daughter after his best friend. I was upset because she is sort of the reason we broke up. I had just found out I was pregnant last summer and while we were having problems his best friend, 8 montns pregnant at the time and married was coming to visit him from out of state for the week end. I asked him if I could meet her and he accused me of being jealous and broke up with me. We had broken up a couple of weeks prior to that because we were initially going to have an abortion. We had a miscarriage back in april and he didn't want to be disappointed again. We were actually fighting about him not going with me to the procedure. We then got back together 4 days later and decided to keep the baby. Then we broke up again because of the reason mentioned earlier in this message. We fought for over a month about things with the pregnancy and everything. Then we finally worked through some things and it was decided that we would see where things go between us. Things are the same as before we broke up only he no longer tells me he loves me anymore. I will admit I was jealous when I first became pregnant but when I asked to meet his best friend I was really trying to be a good sport, figuring this was his best friend and I had hoped that extending my understanding for the situation that maybe he would see I was trying . When he broke up with me instead I was devastated. We made a deal because this is his only child, I have 4 others, that he would get to name the baby. We just found out we are having a girl yesterday and today he hit me with this. I have to admit I lost my cool. I see it as naming my daughter after someone who unknowingly had everything to do with our break up. I also feel a little hurt that his reaction for me wanting to meet this person is the reason we broke up. We fought about this back and forth today. I ended up recognizing that a deal is a deal.I agreed to name the baby according to his choice. He wouldn't even try to come up with any other girl names. He told me if I didn't agree to it then he wasn't naming the baby and he placed that responsibility in my hands. I didn't want that. I just wanted him to understand that it made me feel really hurt that he wasn't thinking about how I would feel about naming my daughter after her. Whenever we argue we often fight about how unreasonable he was for breaking up with me because I wanted to meet his friend. Even though that woman didn't mean to come between us, even though she is married with a family of her own, I still feel betrayed by this whole situation. He says I am being silly. I don't know about that. I feel like the man I love is asking me to agree to name his daughter after a woman who means more to him than I do. What should I do?He also informed me today that she will be coming to visit before I have the baby and will be around when the baby is born, he claims she is bringing her husband this time but I don't know what to feel. I think it is more apporpriate for her to come after we have the baby. This is our time. Coming to see the baby is one thing but coming before and staying until I have the baby makes me kind of angry. She has had kids before so you would think she can respect the situation. I would think my baby's father would understand that part too. If I have to name my baby after this woman I feel my birthing experience should be as I see fit. Please tell me if I am doing the right thing here or not.
You have a pretty good point going there.
Honestly, if I were him, I'd tell him to put up or shut up.
I'm not exactly a radical feminist but I do think that mothers should get a lot more say when it comes to their baby than the father. If he was lugging it around for nine months and forcing it out of his vagina, he has the right to name the baby after his pet bunny and have a nascar-themed baby shower thrown for him.
The period of your pregnancy is -your- time. Everything should be according to your comfort level. If you're going to be the mother of his child, he should learn to respect that.
As for the woman, write her a note, give her a phone call, send her anything to tell her that you would appreciate it if she holds out her visit until later.
Hell, I don’t know about you, but I’d probably stick an ultimatum to him. Either be there by himself and come up with a compromise-name for the baby or have a nice little visit with the woman and her family while you’re having his baby 300 miles away and bear with the name you come up with.
I’m sure he’ll come around once he realizes he may have to start introducing his kid as Flowing River Graceful.
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okay well the question is really short, but first im gonna give you the story:
I have this friend, Taylor. we're not like, best friends or anything, but we sit with each other at lunch. we live in a really small town, but im from the city. but, anyway, she has this boyfriend, Jared, and he was normal looking last year, but this year is hott!! all the girls at school deny that they think he is hott, or else they truly dont have the same taste as me or anybody from my old school in the city, because i KNOW they would LOVE this guy!! well, this guy and i are friends and everything, and he has told me i was hott before, and at all the dances, (taylor wont dance very much), he always stops dancing with her and comes to me. we even slow dance. and im not the steal-your-boyfriend type. im nice and i wouldnt want to hurt her. and it doesnt bother her that i dance with him, but i know that if i tried to move in on him tomorrow night at the dance, there would be a lot of drama. she would say that she isnt mad at me at all and they would break up once again like always, and then get back together and i know he really likes her. and i know it sounds like i am kinda out of their picture, but thats the complicated part. im not!! just take my word for it--i have a good chance of getting jared. so tell me what you think i should do.
Chicks before dicks honey. Hot guys are a dime a dozen, and you'll find more around as you get older.
Just put yourself in her position, how would you feel to be in the middle of drama all the time even though your boyfriend and you really liked each other?
Lay off him and ignore his advances. You can find tons of guys like him later.
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so i was flirting w/ this guy last night online and i gave him my number and vice versa. and told him i MIGH text him if he was lucky (in a flirtacious way). well its the next night and i want to but wat should i say? it has to be flirty like along the lines that hes lucky i texted him and stuff but ask him also be something he can respond to
"You should be happy all the other hot guys are away, so you get to be the one I'm talking to"
"So how does it feel to be the one lucky guy out that I'm texting?"
"You better make up an excuse for all the guys who are gonna come after you because I'm ignoring them for you."
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I've been thinking about it a lot... and i've been dating this guy for over a month now and he's always saying, "we'll figure it out or 'we'll' do this and 'we'll' do that" Does the fact that he includes "we" mean that he wants to take it to the next level or at least sees us as a couple?? When I told him that this other guy was bothering me to go out with him he said that I should tell that other guy that I'm seeing someone... does that mean that "we're" a something since he's being kind of showing ownership of me? erghh why are guys so confusing X_X
Yes, he considers you a "thing" and that means that he wants to exert some sort of power over you. This might not mean that you're a couple yet, but it's somewhere along the lines of it.
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hey i need to save some work ( around half a gig's worth) and as my brother is rebooting the computer i need to save it somewhere fast !! my usb stick is full..and i don't have any floppys what should i do ?!
p.s: i do have an email account if that helps ?
Get a gmail account and start sending stuff to yourself. It takes a lot of time but it does the job.
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is it unhealthy to have less than 750 calories a day if you still get all your vitamins?
Yes
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hi. i'm a guy and i'm eighteen. okay, let's being w/some background information...
there's this girl i met thru my friend. she found me on myspace and added me. then like as soon as i accepted she left me a comment. so we started talking thru there and i asked for her s/n. we chatted on there for a long time [two hours or so] and she asked me for my number. about two days later she calls me and we have a two hour phone conversation. nothing in particular, just talking. before i was about to hang up, she asked me to call her early in the morning to wake her up, so i did. [she's been asking me for these wake up calls since then, btw.]
the next day, my friend messages me saying 'are you trying to get w/_____ b/c you know that i like her, riiight?!' i don't really know my feelings toward her, she's cute and has a great personality, so i guess some feelings are there. i'm just not really sure what i should do about this, he's my friend but i have a strong feeling that this girl has feeling towards me. what should i do? i don't want to lose a friend, but i don't want to break a girl's heart. i need your advice!
Well chicks before dicks, bros before hoes right?
Honestly, just end it before you actually figure out whether or not you like her, because if you do, you're going to be in some serious shit.
Even if she feels the same towards you, would you go out with her knowing that your friend is probably dying inside? Probably not.
You can find someone else or stay single, either way, it's pretty clear that this girl is off limits and it's good that you found out this early on.
It might be tough to think about now but yust distance yourself from her. Right now is the easiest time to do it.
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can someone tell me what a hussy is? someone called me that, i dont know what it means. thanks
www.dictionary.com:
hus·sy
1. a brazen or immoral woman.
2. a mischievous, impudent, or ill-behaved girl.
www.urbandictionary.com:
hussy 117 up, 31 down
1. A slut, ho, whore, chicken or slapper.
2. n. bitch. In the 1930s through the 1950s the term for a demanding, self-centered, hateful female.
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can yu get preg. when yur on yur period?
Yes
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*kind of a lot of intro into my question, sorry*
my birthday is in the summer, and so is my best friends birthday. my other friends is coming up soon.
my half birthday was just a few days ago, and my friends half and my other friends real is coming up soon.
so we have been saying for a few years now that at school we would celebrate each others half birthdays (and real one for the other girl) since we dont get to celebrate with each other during the summer.
last year my friends did nothing for me, but i got them something, by no means was it anything big but it was still fun and cute and all
this year we have been talking about it for weeks. they have been saying that we need to do this and that for each other and really celebrate this year. when my day came up, nothing. nothing at all, just like the years before.
at the end of the day i subtly reminded them of what today was, just in case they had been planning stuff but forgot(which would have sucked anyways) but the next day i went into school and still nothing.
so it sucks that they did nothing for me again ok? right!?!? YES!
but then that same day they start talking about what im going to do for them, they're like you need to do this for 'so and so' and ill get her this.
and then 'so and so' is like, you should do that for 'missy miss' and i'll do this.
they are like saying that i should wrap their lockers and buy them balloons and presents and all this shit.
but they never did anything for me! NOT ONE SINGLE THING! NOT ONE SINGLE YEAR!
i mean, it terrible what they are trying to do to me but i dont want to be mean or rude to them...(even though they deserve it...)
--Should I just suck it up and be nice to them even though they really hurt my feelings?
--Or should I just do what they have been doing to me, ignore it?
--Oooor, Revenge! haha, just kidding.....sort of...
Honestly, I'd just tell them you're putting a stop to the entire plan because it obviously isn't working out.
You can have this conversation with them if they bring it up or just wait till one of their days go by and nothing happens.
Just explain that you're not being petty, but that it either has to be the same for everyone or for no one at all. It just won't work if you're the one spending money and time and not getting anything in return. Be gracious but firm about it.
It's a great idea, except it leaves you out if it isn't done right.
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