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I'm a 17 Female
There's this guy who goes to my friends church. His name is Collin. Anyway, I've thought Collin was cute for a while and I noticed him looking at me a few times during church and stuff. Well I told my guy friend, Aaron (who's friends with him) about it. Well last Sunday night Aaron went up to Collin and asked him what he thought about me (I didn't know what he was doing at the time. All I saw was Aaron talking to him and Collin smiling a lot.) Well Aaron told me that Collin smiled and nodded and said "Nice" (like he thought I looked good or something). Aaron told me I'd have to start talking to him because he's shy or w/e. Well when I got home he was online and my friend Crystal (whom he barely knows by the way) IMed him.. and asked him what he thought about me, again. And he told HER that he wasn't my type or something like that.. Could someone tell me what he means by this? I mean.. I know he's saying he doesn't think He's my type but.. why did he act like he was interested when my friend Aaron asked him but completely turn the tables when Crystal asked him.. Could it be that he doesn't know Crystal and didn't really want to tell her, or what? If anyone could help me, I'd greatly appreciate it! :)
Well, since you say that he said that *he* wasn't *your* type it could be that he doesn't think you would want to go out with him, or that you are in a differnt league from him. Might he have know at least that Crystal was your mate? If so maybe he was shy about admiting his feeling to her, afraid that word would reach you and you would reject him before he even had a chance.
I thingk that you should just go ahead and make friends with this boy. He sounds sweet, and who knows, even if he is unsure about his feeling towards you now, it could devlop into somthing much bigger.
So go for it, and good luck :)
ok... i met this guy and he lives like 2 hours away. but i really like him and he is soo sweet to me when we talk... but my mom gets all upset when i talk to him or ne thing bc she doesnt want him to be sum pshyco. he is 16 and im 14.. i mean like when i met him over vacation we had so much fun togetether and i want my mom to like him n all so he can come visit... but she has never met him before and shes afriad for me i guess???/ HELP!
I agree that your mother is just being protective of you, so maybe you could arrange for some kind of family thing so she can meet him and his family and vice versa in a safe environment.
Good luck :)
17/f
Hey!
oookkk i need major advice lol cause my friends def. dont give me any. i really like this guy, but he does a lot of stuff i dont like. he smokes a lot, drinks to much (i like to drink but he drinks all the time) and hes just kinda known as a "bad boy". a lot of people tell me i could do a lot better. he gets into trouble a lot and starts fights with people, but im really comfortable with him and i like the way he makes me feel. i dont know what balances out more or if its worth going through stuff he does... and if i should keep being with him cause i really like him but i really dont wanna get stuck in his drama and the stuff he does. i dont want to lead him on either... so if i should get away from him i need to. hes a really nice guy and he has a lot of friends and i know he would never hurt me... but the things he does really bothers me... and i dont like to see him get hurt or get in fights. I NEED MAJOR ADVICE!!!
-kelly
Okay I think your best bet is to talk to the guy and tell him how you feel. If he cares about you back, he should at least be willing to cut back on these things you don't like and that are bad for his health, and then you can take things from there. However, if all he does is break promises or laugh at you for being so concerned, then I would get rid of him, he's not worth your time.
Good luck :)
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If you ever worried about some aspect of your health then its always a good idea to go to your doctor, so I would suggest going.
Good luck :)
ok how can i cook a small meal for my mom? i dont have much of a varity of food can you people please give me some ideas! i want to make a fancy and nice meal for my mother! i need some good cooking ideas now!!
If you have tinned vegtables you could cook them and put them with some kind of meat product.
Spanish omlette, thats simply omlette with whatever you want in it.
And remember, that anything can look fancy if it is displayed right, or has a simple bit of garnish.
Umm, do any of you guys have good hair styles you can give me that would look good.
I have blonde hair
I dont like Ghetto-y looking!
It depends on what length hair you have really, and what your personal style is like. I suggest you google for somthing like 'hair styles long blond'.
good luck :)
i think my boifreind is scared of my mom and dad he woln't make a serious commentment without asking them what should i do?
Talk to him. Find out if this is correct then maybe you can recitify it. Are your parents scary to other people you know, like mates? When you say 'commitment' do you mean marrage? This might have somthing to do with the stupid tradtion that a man must ask the father for the daughters hand in marrage, from the days when women [I hope I don't wronglly assume you are female] were objects.
Just talk to your Guy, and good luck :)
hi there- this probably has little in the way to do with relationships, per se, at least of the interpersonal sort. however, i'm in a bit of a panic... could use some advice on a living situation. i read your advice, and i like what you have to say. thanks for reading! if you get this twice (if no one replies), i'm sorry :).
i am a med student, so peace and quiet are nice things. pleasant surroundings also important for those few, precious moments at home. i moved into a GORGEOUS loft-style apt in a cool up-and-coming revitalizing-itself kinda neighborhood. my apt has a claw-foot tub, skylights that open to the fall new england air, stainless steel apps and the most gorgeous hardwoods you will ever see. problem is: my house was sold/bought during my lease, and the new owners are pushing a lot of construction through on the 1st fl. they claim it's nearly over, and i will be starting surgery soon (hence not at home as often to bothered by it, maybe..?). but i don't know whether to move or not. i found a new loft-style apt, and it has tons of charm, character, and the building is lovely and well-maintenanced. but it is not the same. the neighborhood is also not as cool, although, it is nice enough. i have to make a decision as i am trying to study for a major licensing exam, and i have allowed this to gnaw away at me. i am at the point of screaming or tearing my hair out with all the various stresses. any thoughts? much appreciated, sorry for the length. sincerest apologies.
Well, I'm not sure how much I can help you, not actualy having owned my own property yet but I'll try....
When you say during your lease, I assume this means while you still rented your current accomidation? I think you need to find out what sort of changes they have made, for example, have they completly changed the whole appartment or are they just having double glazing installed? Once you have seen what they have done with it, this may change your mind as to whether you still like the place.
I doo know what you mean about the other place not seeming quite so good since you have set your heart on the current place.
I think all I can suggest is you look at what the new owner are planning/ have done and decide if you still like the place.
I hope I haven't mis-interpreted your predicament, and good luck whatever you ultimatly decide :)
NO MORE
You laugh at me. You point, you say "how Weird" you say "how Ugly" you say "how Stupid".
I turn the other cheek so you can just laugh and point some more.
I have cryed my tears. I have hated myself for you.
I will always be here and you can't change that.
You will never make me feel bad again. NEVER!
So you better give up!
When I see you I laugh and say "How Pathetic!".
You have put me through this to make yourself feel good.
No More.
I have cryed my tears. I have hated myself for you But no more.
K.J.B.
Hi all advicenators! This is the only peom I have been able to write in the last 4 months and I was wondering if this is a good poem. i also want to know if I did all punctuation right? please answer it would be helpful.
K.J.B.
Humm, its not bad, but cryed is cried, and I would seperate the first line a bit:
You laugh at me,
you point.
You say "how Weird!"
"how Ugly!"
"how Stupid."
I don't think you need the second line, or maybe chnage it to the past tense: 'I have turned the other cheek, but still you laugh and point more.'
Maybe the fourth line shoud start with 'but'.
The second stanza [verse] could be longer, detailing how you have gotten over them.
Yeah, its not bad, but could use some work :)
My brother has a gf. and i like her as a friend (im a girl im not lesbian) shes a good girl. and she wont break his heart. hes been hurt in the past. thing is he has like these mood swings and he has a trust issue with people outside of me and the rest of my bros. she wants to help him out and understand him better but like i said before he has a trust issue. but he says he loves her and everything. thing is i know that she wont stand for his mood swings and all that much longer i want to help him and her so they stay together. i dont want my brother to get his heart broke again. they're a good couple. HELP!
Does the G/F know about these issues? Maybe you should tell her, or get your bro to tell her. I'm sure she will understand and stay with him, unless he starts getting abusive. Has your brother tryed counceling or going to a doctor for help? Maybe its somthing he and your family should consider.
Good luck :)
what does licking a girl out mean?
Exactly what it says on the tin: her partner puts their tongue inside her vagina and moves it around. I know it sounds grose, but its *very* nice for the girl ;)
my b/f and I have been going out for 1 week. He asked me out. I thought I liked him so I said yeah. But I dont think I do anymore. I never want to talk to him and I dont want my friends to know that I'm goin out with him. He really likes me and he has for a long time. We've gone out numerous times before. I'm always the breaker-upper. I dont want to do it again but I htink I have to. What do I do? If I should dump him, how should I do it??
Thanks for all your help. Peace
*-S-*
From what I have seen of life, there is never any easy way to dump or be dumped. The best thing to do is be completly honest, no 'I just don't want a relationship right now' crap.
You say you have dated on-and-off for a while, which implies to me that you have done this whole 'I like you, but now I don't' routine before. Maybe this implies some deeper issues? I don't want to sound to patronising, but maybe you should stop messing with this poor guys head.
Good luck whatever you do.
ok i have a really big problem with depression, and i was really depressed tonight i spent the enitre night crying ym eyes out, while my boyfriend went to a social ( a wedding anniversary for his friends parents that is basically a really big party). Is it wrong of me to be mad at him for going when i have been puking up blood all night and crying and wanting to kill my self?? i just needed a friend and he would rather go to a big party then comfort me. should i get rid of him or am i totally wrong and i shouldnt be mad that he went out, when i had a terrible time at home.
I think that you are overreacting a little with the whole 'Should I get rid of him?' thing. does he know how you feel? Yes its okay to be a bit pissed at him, but if he had arranged this ages ago he might have been under presuer from his parents or something.
I think you need to talk throught this with him, to see if he understnads exactly how you felt about his leaving you, and maybe ask that he not do it next time.
*hugs* Good luck
Hiya!
I'm Annie (13, fem, MD). There's this guy and we used to be together like last year but I gave him the dump. I'm starting to feel that it was a mistake- I mean thinking about it, I can't remember why I dumped him in the first place. It was for my own good, and I know good from bad, don't smoke straight-A's only drink a little is my description. But this guy- he's so amazing. I totally can talk to him really closely and he has all these amazing aspirations for his life. He hangs with me at parties a little but he's a little safe- no kissing, no sex, though he is a druggie. I like the fact that he has very few friends- I admire people who don't require a possie to function. SO anyway, you probably are accustomed to giving guys advice but I really hope you can help me. I need to know if he likes me at all. How can I tell? And if so, what moves should I make, like how fast should I make them, aswell? And what can I do to keep him liking me? Please help!
*muah*
***~I'm pretty cute looking, but I havee kinda small boobs. Would him being predjudice against that be a big factor in the eqation, particularly at this age? Do guys REALLY care about that?
Heh, nope, I give everyone advice...
Anyway, you sound like someone anyone would be glad to have, and whist some guys do worry about the size of a girls breasts, they probably arn't the one's we would want to date [as this usuallymeans they only have a few things on their mind]. Well its usually a good idea to flirt with him a little, if he returns the favour then he probably likes you.The other sure fire way is to write a note, or ask him. Umm as for moves, I'm hoping you are not meaning sexcual advances, you are well under the age of consent. But you need to do what feels right for both of you and your situation, ie, maybe start with holding hands, then cuddling, then maybe kissing. Fastness again, its up to you and him to decide what you feel comfortable with. If he is uncomfotable with somthing you do then he sould tell you. As for keeping hm liking you, well if he likes you in the first place then you shouldn't need to do anything, however remember that you are only 13 and have lots of time to find the right partner.
I am however a bit concerned when you say he is a drug addict, I would be very careful on that point, as many drug users/ abusers tend to tun violent towards their partner, so be careful and as soon as trouble starts get the hell away from him.
Home some of that ramble helped, and good luck :)
I'm 24 and I recently got married. The problem is that my mother is horrible to me. She has always been. She refused to be involved with the wedding in anyway, she refuses to have contact with my kids because she says they are bad(how bad can a 4and 2 year old and a 10 month old be?), she hates my husband and says its his fault she won't come around. She does not "allow" me to talk to my 17 year old brother unless she is there. And she won't allow me to see my daughter that she conned me into letting her adopt. That's not how mothers are supposed to treat their children. She recently told me she doesn't want to see me anymore. Should I just cut her out of my life and let it be?
It sounds like you need to put your foot down and be firm: 'Mother, this is my life and I will *not* allow you to ruin it. If you do not wish to be a part of my life then so bet it, but I would rather you were. If you do want to be then *you* have to start treating me and my family better.'
If she is really sure that she doesn't want to be part of your life then from the horribl things you've said she has done I would let be.
I'm curious how she conned you into letting her adopt your daughter, and I'm sure there is some legal proceeding you could try to get her back.
how do you make out with someone if you have braces???????? this boys wants to make out with me but i have braces so i donno how?? and its my first time!! help now!
I've had a few mates with a varity of braces and they say that you just don't notice the braces, that you kiss in the normal way.
Good luck :)
hi there i have a big black head problem i have a million black heads on my nose and a few around my eyes...whats the best way to get rid of them without them coming back???????? HELP!!!!
I personaly would squeeze them all out to prevent a white head forming, and then make sure I washed everyday with either a anti-blackhead/ medicated lotion, or something abrasive. Then I would try to stay away from foods that would make my face greasier like deep-fat-fried stuff.
good luck :)
whats oral sex?? phone sex?? dry sex???
Oral sex is sex done with the mouth, so licking a girl out or giving a guy a blow job. Phone sex is when you and someone else roleplay having sex over a fone and you both masterbate. dry sex I would imagine is either your partner masterbating you, or intercourse that is performed with clothes on.
i am addicted to cutting my wrists and i know its bad but i just cant stop what should i do? im not going to go to a doctors because they just dont understand and i didnt tell my parents because they would think i was crazy
You can't deal with this problem on your own. Most people cut becuse there is something wrong with their life, and theyuse the pain to help them escape.
You need to tell someone, even just a mate, so they can keep an eye on you. Get rid of any knives etc you own and have your mate hide any others, and watch you to see you don't cut. It will take a great amount of willpower. Next you need to try and find out why you do this, and try and make that better.
I would also suggest that you get a theripist, so s/he can help you.
That fact that you acknowlage you have a problem is good. Good Luck.
i have this friend and we used t be really close but she acts so dumb and shes really annoying so i told her that shes annoying sometimes but she was like ya so what do i do to get her to stop? we are close but it gets on my nerves and stresses me
You need to tell her in no uncertain terms that she annoys the hell out of you, and if she does the 'Yeah, so what?' you need to tell her what; That it annoys you so much, that it makes you stress.
If she doesn't get it then you need to say that you won't have anything to do with her for a while, or ever, depending on how strongly you feel.