Member Since:
November 25, 2006Answers:
353Last Update:
July 4, 2007Visitors:
20606Favorite Columnists
hotpotato
sugarplum07
xgracee8P
tommys_baby
MaRii
about
UNDER MAINTENANCEadvice
13/f
ok, a couple weeks ago i went to a party in miami.
i used to live there so i knew a few people there.
but there was this one guy that i didnt know.
and i was dancing with him all night.
before me and my friend left i made out with him.
EVERYONE knows about it.
even at his school.
im going out with him now.
and he was the first guy i ever made out with.
but, do you think im a slut?
thanks in advance :]
Haha, not at all. :]
A slut is somebody who'd be dirty just for the heck of it with anyone
But making out is just a part of what you do growin' up.
Don't worry about it.
how did you become a model?
i think im pretty and am dying to become a model! my aunt works at elite models and she said she would consider me when i turn 16, but not until then. how did you get started? any tips? thank you so much!
OK, well I'm not really like an International Model, but I can still help you out! OK, well my Dad had these friends in Texas who were fixing up a car for him, a Jenson Healey car actually and it took a couple years because it was in bad shape at first. Then my dad found this magazine about a Jenson Healey car, and his friends told him about the company that have people come down, they do a photoshoot & you're on the cover! Yes, it's that simple, weird I know. LOL. I don't know what the company name is but I'm going to the photoshoot in a couple of months I believe and I'll find out and get back to you if I can have your email if you don't mind?. It doesn't make you famous (unfortunately =[) But it will get you known better & you'll most likely be recgonized if you'd like to do it. It's not really the runway type of thing, although Fashion Bug has those shows, just not really becoming a model, they just have you model clothes at a fashion show type thing. Now for the tips...
1)Don't be like those girls who want to staples, it looks really, really bad!
2)For magazines, smiling is GREAT, but on the runway type of thing, don't smile too much because it takes away kind of that mystery sense that captures peoples' attention.
3)Always try to be on time. If you can't let the photographer know!
4)If you're talking to somebody you work with in modeling over e-mail or online avoid saying the phrase "Lol" etc. because you won't be taken seriously.
5)When buying new clothes try on something that you wouldn't normally like..I do that all the time & I end up buying the outfit!
6)Avoid Modeling Scams at all costs!
7)If you got it flaunt it! (On a magazine or runway)
8)You'll need a modeling portfolio
I really hope I helped and I good luck with your modeling!
If you need anything else, feel free to email me at starstruckby182@aim.com so we can keep in touch about the name of the company and everything.
okay, i have two questions.
1) I have a gut and i really want to get rid of it FAST! I feel really uncomfortable with my body because of it. All my friends are nice and fit and im the only odd one. Does anyone know any really quick ways to get rid of the gut by the summer besides crunches and sit ups?(I go swimming during the summer A LOT and i wear two piece swim suits and i feel as if people always stare at me.)
2) I have these weird dots on my arms and i don't know what they are. Anyone else have this? Does anyone know any skin care tips i could use to get rid of these dots? They look kind of like pimples and if you pop it, white stuff coems out but it isn't watery. It's solid.
Crunches=painful if done too many at a time
Do 50 crunches one night, then advance to 75 a couple nights later, then 100, & keep going from there if you don't feel the need to stop at 100. I did 100 the first night & the next day it hurt really bad and I'm not overweight! I couldn't do it the night after so take baby steps lol. They get you somewhere! Somewhere faster. If you start at 100, you'll get discouraged & quit. Now for the skin care,
ProACTIVE is just for acne but it kind of sounds like you have it on your arms..I doubt it though because of what the person said below me. So since it's uncurable I wouldn't blow my money on ProACTIVE but I heard it works if you have zits anywhere. I used to have really bad acne, and I used proactive (which is alittle expensive but worth it, if it's acne!) & it's a miracle! LOL
Good luck with your skin & Weight loss!
Ok so does anyone know anythin i can do to lose weight if i dont have like any time to exercise like any thing at all would be great thanks
If you're between the ages of 11 and 18 stick to a 1700 calorie diet, but make sure it consists of healthy foods and a balanced diet. Replace sugary foods with fruits & vegetables, you know...the basics? If you have no time to exercise then try doing 100 crunches a night, I tried that but it was like...ouch. I advise you to do 50 one night, 75 the next, then advance to 100 eventually step by step because my stomach was hurting all day because it wasn't used to all that & couldn't do it the night after, it was too painful. =[ And I'm not even outta shape either so yeah. I also heard Coconut Oil (NOT 100% IF IT'S SAFE! But I know someone who has been using it, & they're fine to the best of my knowledge. They do have health problems, but I don't think it's connected to that). Coconut oil will make you slim down a bit, just like a spoonful a day and she's seeing results within like a week. But only like 3lbs. Grapefruit also raises metabolism & burns 10 calories per grapefruit I believe, so add more of that in your diet. Good luck
hOpE i HeLpEd
Last summer I noticed that my body tanned really nicely, but my face was still pretty pale. My mom said that she had the same problem when she was a little older than me for a few years. I hate it though does anyone know why this happens? I don't want to have to wear makeup to feel good about it, especially in the summer when I will probably swim a lot. Any idea why this is happening and how to fix it?
Hmm...
It could be genetics..sounds weird but if your mom couldn't tan her face easily, she could've passed it on to you. Keep wearing sunscreen though because if you don't you'll get bad sunburns that sting, leave scars & scabs, then peel off, & turn into wrinkles so you look older. Disgusting process, I know! OK well this solution is kind of like makup but different...
I found the lotion at Bath & Body works & it's like magic! A special tanning lotion, self tanner kind of thing. You put it on every morning for like a week and there are HUGE results, but what I'm doing right now, is I'm only applying it on the palm of my hand to see how it looks at the end of the week & to see if it blends well with my skin color, so you might wanna try that too. It's called True Blue Spa glow and steady daily moisturizer. You apply it ever day for a week and see how it works. Good luck!
why does it always seem like those people who have lost everything (parent, close friend, sibling ext.) are always so open to love and companionship and always seem happy? i know that they are not always, but still they are able to move past that loss and continue to love in this world, but then there's someone like me who has a decient family, friends who say they care and a job and i have never lost someone terribly close to me and yet i always feel alone and lonely and depressed and ignored even if i really am not. Why do i feel this way? why can't i open up with anyone and tell them how i really feel? is there something wrong with me or am i just a lunitic? Someone please help...
Ohh, don't worry you're completely normal. =]
Maybe it's because you haven't experienced a loss that's so crucial on your life & you might take for granted about what you have & feel guilty for it? I strongly advise you to focus on the positive things in life, & bring out the good things! If you really feel you're depressed, ask your parents to see a doctor or get some depression medicine. I think those people that suffer through those things just...didn't take as much time to get used to things and become attached? I actually think they DO feel awful about it, but they only show YOU the happy side so you don't feel worse. Everyone has a side you don't see-and sometimes for a reason, no matter how good you may think you know the person. Maybe they run away from their pain, I went through that but I had to let myself feel sad & once I did, it just left me. A burden was just lifted & I felt so much better. If you ever have dreams about running away from someone, it means that you're running away from sadness about that person. That's what happened to me. It took me a little while to get over the situation & a really long time to recover but that's partly because I ran away from the bad feelings for such a long time. I hope something in there helped. :] Good luck!
what are some good dares and truths?
Truth
Have you ever had a crush on a member of the same gender, or even felt slightly attracted?
Dare
Sit on a person's lap for the next three rounds. (make them choose, it's more interesting)
Truth
Which is better? Barbie or Bratz? Which is worse?
Truth
Have you ever been attracted to someone more than 20 years older than you?
Dare
Pretend to have an orgasm. (Haha, that one's kind of bad...)
LOL
Have fun!
Can you help me find ways to get whiter teeth just short of having them professionally bleached?
Any details on the "bleach them with equal parts baking soda and peroxide" mixture/solution? will be greatly appreciated.
Will there be instances in which Crest Whitestrips don't work? My dad won't let me use them but maybe with some help I can convince him.
My teeth are yellow. i dont drink tea or soda. i used to not brush for quite a long time. i have been brushing regularly for almost half an year (i brush my tongue and floss too). what can i do to get whiter teeth asap? i will continue with the brushing routine but my teeth are annoying - i cant smile. i may be brushing incorrectly.
also i am getting braces. will that interfere with anything? is there a color brace that wont make my teeth look even yellower
Don't try to dye or whiten your teeth with braces because it will make everything whiter except for the part the braces are covering & when they take it off...
Brush your teeth for 2 minutes every morning, and 2 minutes every night, maybe a minute to a minute in a half after meals etc. But don't brush them too much! It helps within about like 3 days? For me it did anyway. It all really depends on how yellow or white your teeth are. Try that mouth-wash that turns your mouth green where there's plaque etc. so you can brush there again until it turns normal again.
Also, I have pink braces, & they make your teeth look yellower so don't go there! Blue & green=WHITE! Yay! LOL, good luck.
15/f
Alright, so i have two best friends. They went to a party the other night. I was walking with one of them home and she told me what she was doing and i was shocked. She said that he went out drinking at the party with my other friend, and they were making out with guys and whatever. I know it may not be a shock to you, but they would NEVER do that.. and when she told me i was devestated...although i could'nt tell her, i was dropping hints, but that doesn't help much... so now i have no idea what to do, i figured that they would never do something like that and now, im by myself... the only person who has probably never gotten drunk in my entire grade....but thats not the problem, the problem is i dont think i will be able to forgive them... i dont care if you think its what all teenagers do, its not because im living proof that not all teenagers drink and smoke, so dont give me that. I just want to know how to cope with it.
I can only imagine what you're going through right now, so I'll do the best I can to explain what I think you should do.
Eventually, they will start asking YOU to do these things with them. A person feels bad if they drink or smoke etc. by themself but to know someone else is doing it with them is reassuring them it's ok when it's NOT! I'm not saying they're terrible people, (I'm sure they're great people) but you're hanging out with girls that have a bad influence on you & your future. I strongly advise you to find a new group of friends who don't get overcome by the wrong things to do. I know it will be hard, but you will be glad you did it in the end, really.
Think about it: Would you rather stop hanging out with those girls & have your future all set up for you & have a great life ahead of you? Or would you rather do drugs for your friends & wreck your relationships, grades, personality, & your future? Think about it...
Not only that, but Drugs make you feel like crap. They make you feel suicidal, because when you're a teenager you feel like nothing gets better & you can't really see you're way out on drugs (when depressed). They make you depressed, you get tired, breath stinks...
Not fun
You get diseases, & people stop hanging around you. I could say more but I don't think I need to, & I don't want to lecture you, lol. I think I've said it in every way possible that you shouldn't do what they do.
-Depressed_Poet
xOxO
hAvE a GoOd OnE
can you watch movies on your ipod nano?
No, you need an iPod Video
Sorry (not sarcastically) =/
My friend wants to have a formal party. There would be girls and guys all 13 or 14 years old.
The only problem is that we have no idea what we could do once we're all dressed up. She's already picked out a fancy dress and everything..we just don't have any ideas for the party. Please help. :)
Organize like a lot of things to do
Like Kareoke...
Dance party w/ kareoke is soo fun!
You could play spin the bottle or truth or dare, it's so funny
Or 7 minutes in Heaven, as long as there are girls & guys at the party
You should definitely throw it like in someone's basement or backyard. With like a HUGE selection of music, from burned CDs, to iTunes, to Limewire, etc. Or hook up an iPod to one of those speaker things, I have one & it works great, it just goes through your list of music! Maybe hire a DJ?
Or better yet...if you know some friends that are like in a band or something you could have them perform because it'd be REALLY HARD to book a famous band, & it would cost so much. You gotta pay a lot for them even to show up, so you should just get some friends to perform or something. Have fun @ your party!
if pee is clear does that mean youre hydrated
Yes that's exactly how it's supposed to be.
Clear-Perfect!
Yellow-Should be drinking more
Dark Yellow-Dehydrating...
Orange-You're in trouble!
how do they take your barces off
I have braces...
They have this tool that like fits around each brace set & they like kind of hook it around one at a time, & pull the thing that makes it stay together apart, then pull the wires loose.
Hope that wasn't TOO confusing
LOL
-Depressed_Poet
i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 4 months and all we have done is make out so far. i would like to go farther and im sure he does too. what is a good way to bring it up?
OK here's what you need to do...
Ask him this...
"Can I talk to you for a minute? In private?" & then when he says yes, take him somewhere where nobody else is at the moment & then say, "it's a secret, you have to come closer.." until you're close enough to makeout or kiss, you know? I hope that works, good luck!
My story is pretty confusing and sad for me.
Well i would like to say alot of the guys at my school hate me, I dont know why but they do.
One of them, I had sex with.
He sure acted like he didnt hate me back then and then school started and he became an asshole again.
I still liked him, no matter how much of an ass he was to me.
Then after a while, he started randomly being nice to me and talking to me a little bit.
That lasted a whole week, and then he went back to being mean.
Again he tried being nice and then went back to making fun of me and calling me ugly,fat,,bitch,gross,etc.
It made me so sad because i like him so much.
Then his best friend told me , he actually likes me but he wants me to think he hates me and he tries to act mean to me , to be like everyone else.
His friend said not to believe anything he says,just know he likes me and his girlfriend [he has a girlfriend ] alot.
I want to get over him so bad, but at the same time how do I know if his best friend is telling the truth?
I believe it , Because he wouldnt lie.
But if he liked me, how can he be so mean to me?
Lately Ive been noticing hes being twice as mean as he was.
This just makes me so sad,I cant get over him because ive liked him for so long.
What exactly should i do?
You probably don't want to hear this, but you need to! If he REALLY likes you enough to actually have boyfriend potential, he wouldn't go back to being mean over & over again when he's around other people. It sounds to me like, he's just trying to impress other people while he's wanting you to like him, but he can't have everything. If he does ask you out, I advise you to say no, because you deserve someone better than that. When all the guys hate you, you deserve a boyfriend that would stand up for you, not help tear you down. He's kind of sending mixed messages about liking you, but I think it's because he's afraid of losing his guy friends he hangs out with. One way to tell how a guy will act around you, is to see how a guy treats his mother. I know, it sounds kind of weird, but it's true. If he's a "momma's boy" he's obviously gonna kiss-up a little & probably not know what to expect. But that doesn't go for everyone. Now to help you get over it...
I think you should get together with all your girlfriends & go to the mall or see a movie. Things you used to do. I know...life was a lot easier when boys had cooties. LOL.
But I guess what I'm trying to say is, you WILL get over this guy, you just need to concentrate on spending more time with family & friends etc. Maybe have a movie marathon with some friends when you get together. Or like a sleepover or whatever? You could do truth or dare? But nothing to do with guys...
I REALLY HOPE I HELPED! I know what you're going through & it's tough, but I PROMISE, you will get over him. I can't tell you when, but it won't take forever.
i'd like people's opinions- do you believe that it's possible for two teenagers to fall in love? i'm 16/f and he's 17/m. this is our relationship in (very small) nutshell:
we talk about everything. we care about each other to the deepest, most loving extent possible. i don't see other guys [friends, random guys] in the same way i used to. neither of us would ever do anything to hurt the other [emotionally & physically, for that matter.] and anytime either of us even suspects something is wrong [which has only happened twice], we bring it up and talk through it. he makes me genuinely happy- the happiest i've ever been in my life. i'm constantly in a state of bliss when i'm with him, no matter what we're doing or what's going on. we've been dating a year and almost seven months. i can honestly see marrying him and spending the rest of my life with him. no words can describe how much i love him.
i'm sure i'm forgetting other things. but anyway- in love? or just a "teenage love"? [in your opinion. of course, my opinion is the former, haha.] thanks in advance (:
It doesn't matter how old you are to fall in love! In my mind, you have to really believe in the feelings you get when you fall in love & not be cynical to ever experience falling in love with somebody. I mean, who knows? You could be 12 years old and fall in love. Not a very likely story (obviously), but anything can happen. But no one can really tell you whether you're in love or not. It's not just something like..."Maybe I'm in love." It's instinct. You just know when you're in love! And I've heard it's the most incredible feeling anyone can get. In some cases there is a difference in teenage love & falling in love but who says you aren't falling in love as a teen? Follow your heart, because your heart is the only thing that can tell you, you're in love. "Trust with your heart, & not your mind."
She is everywhere. Won't let me breathe, all the time we have to be together. Do everything together, all the time! AHG! It's driving me crazy! I've tried telling her, but I couldn't do it, I'm like her only friend! I've given her hints but she's not picking them up or she is just ignoring them. What can I do? I am actually ahsamed of being seen with her! I'm got a good friend, she's really nice and all and she desevres a friend who can give her all she wants but I'm not that friend.....But I still don't want to call it an end to our friendship, seems a bit drastic. And, we hang in the same gang so she's 100% unavoidable!!! She wants to be BFF's and I just can't do that! She's driving be crazy, alll the time she needs to prove to everyone that we are close friends and I'm sick if it because we're not! I really like her and all but it's just way too much! What can I do without huring her feelings?? I have one plan in mind and that is to come drunk to school! yes! That is a good plan! She hates people who drink, and yes, i party from time to time even though "she doesn't approve"...sooo If I came to school drunk, she would stop hanging out with me! Right? Does that sound like a good plan??
Drunk is just a little drastic don't ya think? She must be pretty bad if you're about to come to school drunk! Just maybe bring up the topic about drunks & tell her that they can't help it, & disagree w/ her judging by hating people who drink. If it doesn't work just tell her, the only way you're going to be friends with her is if she gives you some space. Because she sounds very annoying, and who wants to put up with that? Sorry if it's too harsh, but the girl has to hear it at one point or she won't know how to act around her other friends which will hurt her more in the future.
-Depressed_Poet
I'm always singing. I love it, and now that I started voice lessons, I'm singing even more. But, I sit next to my crush in science. Whenever I sing or hum he's like, "Stop singing!" but it sounds like he's joking and he smiles afterwards. Does he really just like it and should I keep singing?
14/f
Oh yeah, it's not like I'm a horrible singer. I may not be the best, but I don't think he tells me to stop because I'm bad.
Nah, I think he's just trying to tease you. You know...get your attention?
LOL
Next time start singing again & right before he says stop, say "Wait. I'll stop singing...but only if you tell me why I should first." And then smile. If he says it's because it's annoying say, "Well let's here you sing! Are you any better?"
Good luck!
ok so there is this guy who is two years older than me. i don't know him that well but he's cute and he reminds me of someone who passed away. i have a crush on him and i really want to know how to talk to him. how do i start a conversation with him? how do i keep a conversation with him? how do i get him to feel conforatble with me? how do i get him to like me back? help me please
Walk up to him & say the classic line...
"Hey, how are you? A couple of friends of mine are going to see a movie with me this Saturday. We're seeing the movie ______. So do you wanna go with us? You can bring a friend if you want." It sounds kind of cheesy but a group IMMEDIATELY takes the pressure of one-on-one becoming tongue-tied & nervous. But before you do that, (because you can't just go up to someone and ask them out! It'd be too easy!) So a couple days before then just say "Hey what's up?" When you walk by. Then when you get to the point where you're comfortable with that & wanna take the next step up, ask him out!
After all
"How did you learn to walk when you were a baby? You had to fall. But the important thing is that you got back up. Or else you'd still be crawling today!"-Lauren Cronin
I love that saying, it's my favorite.
Hope that helped
-Depressed_Poet
XoxO
im going to my ex's party tonight and i need to make him see what he is missing
what are ways to look extra gorgeous?
he has a beautiful girlfriend and i just want him to see im prettier
and specialer
i am curling my hair
but any way to act? im a good dancer so ill do that
what drives boys crazy? i need to know!
thanx!
I advise you NOT to flirt with other guys etc. because you're just using them & it will make you feel guilty later..& you'll regret it. Plus other guys will here about it, and stay away from you. Anyway, I think you should mainly stay away from him so it looks like you're not interested anymore which will catch his eye & leave him guessing. Start talking to different groups at a time (one group at a time obviously, duh lol) & casually talk to other guys. Maybe say a quick hello when you walk by your EX-boyfriend & his new girlfriend when you walk by but make sure you flaunt your stuff! LOL. You know what they say-if you got it, flaunt it! Good luck, HOpe i HELPED
-Depressed_Poet