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My Two Best Friends...
15/f
Alright, so i have two best friends. They went to a party the other night. I was walking with one of them home and she told me what she was doing and i was shocked. She said that he went out drinking at the party with my other friend, and they were making out with guys and whatever. I know it may not be a shock to you, but they would NEVER do that.. and when she told me i was devestated...although i could'nt tell her, i was dropping hints, but that doesn't help much... so now i have no idea what to do, i figured that they would never do something like that and now, im by myself... the only person who has probably never gotten drunk in my entire grade....but thats not the problem, the problem is i dont think i will be able to forgive them... i dont care if you think its what all teenagers do, its not because im living proof that not all teenagers drink and smoke, so dont give me that. I just want to know how to cope with it.
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First of all, I want you to know that I agree with you 100%. Alcohol is a horrible substance and I have lost an uncle to a drunk driver. The sad part is, however, you can't control what your friends do. I think you need to come right out and tell them that you're worried and you really wish they would jeopardize their health (not to mention their reputation) all over a silly little bottle. Just let them know that you care about them and that's that. If they want to go and ruin their lives, there's not much you can do to stop them.
I'm not saying you have to forgive them for doing that stuff, but you need to understand that they are making their own choices. As long as they aren't trying to get you to go and drink, try to just let it go. All you can do is tell them how you feel.
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Ok I have a friend that this happened to. I didn't go to the party but I heard she was really wasted and she hooked up with three different guys. I was shocked/surprised because this was a quiet girl. But from what I've learned, you can't hold it against them. You have to accept them and their decisions, even if you don't agree with that they do. If it poses as a growing problem and you think they are going to endanger themselves, then you should approach them about it. Also, about the drinking thing... I have never been drunk and I know a bunch of people who haven't in my grade and I am a sophmore. Don't feel pressured that you have to drink because your best friends decided to. That's the last thing you should do, drink/smoke to fit in. I don't know if I helped..
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I can only imagine what you're going through right now, so I'll do the best I can to explain what I think you should do.
Eventually, they will start asking YOU to do these things with them. A person feels bad if they drink or smoke etc. by themself but to know someone else is doing it with them is reassuring them it's ok when it's NOT! I'm not saying they're terrible people, (I'm sure they're great people) but you're hanging out with girls that have a bad influence on you & your future. I strongly advise you to find a new group of friends who don't get overcome by the wrong things to do. I know it will be hard, but you will be glad you did it in the end, really.
Think about it: Would you rather stop hanging out with those girls & have your future all set up for you & have a great life ahead of you? Or would you rather do drugs for your friends & wreck your relationships, grades, personality, & your future? Think about it...
Not only that, but Drugs make you feel like crap. They make you feel suicidal, because when you're a teenager you feel like nothing gets better & you can't really see you're way out on drugs (when depressed). They make you depressed, you get tired, breath stinks...
Not fun
You get diseases, & people stop hanging around you. I could say more but I don't think I need to, & I don't want to lecture you, lol. I think I've said it in every way possible that you shouldn't do what they do.
-Depressed_Poet
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honestly i think your making the right choice. If i were you i wouldnt hang out with your friends who drink, i know you probably think im crazy that im telling you to not hang with your besties, but if you do keep hanging out with them they might pressure you into drinking or maybe even drugs, thats what happened to my aunt when she was in her teenage years. Trust me if your friends keep drinking and get hooked, they'll regret it when there older..so live above the influence and be smart, and make good choices:]
hope i helped
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