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Q: HeY! Besides taking Midol or asprin, what a good way to realive or get rid of cramps?! ThAnKs!! I really need the advice! =)

I have this stuff from wal-greens it just a white bottle and says menstrual pills or something-trix

Q: Okay im like 12 and i have this boyfriend that we'll call danny, i wanna kiss him so bad but i don't wanna make the move. I want him to. What should i do? I really love him!
-wanna kiss
p.s.
i rate real good!

Give him time when he wants to he'll make the move.. your kinda young and if he is the same age i wont be surprised if he is shy.. but give it time-trix

Q: Ok. I know 2 ppl who when they are around me act like they like me but they really hate me. They don't want to be mean to me and tell me to my face they just like to talk to me behind my back. Should i try and talk about them or just tell them off or ignore them?? Plz help me!!

Try and talk to them about it.. give it a shot-trix

Q: hey. i have no friends becuz my x best friend got the whole elementry school on me becuz i talked to her boyfriend on the phone becuz i asked him wut the homework was. i have no life. wut should i do?

Well just tell her your side of the story and get her bf to tell the same side of the story or maybe you could go to the counsolar with her and talk to him/her about it. but wait till u get in jr. high you'll have alot of people to choose from i have like 350 to choose from in my grade-trix

Q: okay well here it goes ... well i went to the fair w/ a few friends -n- we were in line for the zipper -n- some girl behind us, she looked about 17-18, started talking to us and well she asked me if i played softball and i said i did and then she asked me my name and i told her...and then she goes well do you know who i am and i said no and she held out her hand for me to shake it and said "well i'm your sister, crystal" and it kinda scared me cus i haven't seen her in 8 yrs., she gave me her number but i don't know if i should call her b/c i'm scared to get to know her b.c we are half sisters and she knows my dad and i don't...so wut do i do????? PLZ HELP!!

Well you cant be mad with your dad because your dad had someone before you.. with another women.. that relationship just obviously didnt work out as well as your dad and your mom... you should get to know them there are many out there that would kill to re-meet there family.. dont pass up this chance tell me what you decide-trix

Q: i am still very good friends with my ex..but when i talk to him online, he doesnt talk as much when HIS ex, who he still likes..help? oh yeah and im 14

I didnt get that.. that didnt make sense when his ex.. what?.. but uhh maybe sometimes the convo's just arent the best online.. try phone-trix

Q: ive liked this guy for a while now but im not sure if he likes me . weve talked a few times but he never realy expressed or showed any emotions. i dont want to just qive up on him and move on . . please help

Well dont give up then just try to figure out whats up with him and whats going..-trix

Q: I'm miserable.See over spring break i met this kid lets say his name is Jake..and over the past 4 months we've been talking every day.I most likely wont be able to see him again until next summer.The real problem is i like everything about Jake* and he likes me too..we're like perfect together.But he's at camp right now so i haven't been able to talk to him and i miss him like crazy.ne ideas on how to pass the time..n also could u help me try n get over him..ive tried but no guy ever compares.please help asap.

admin. plz don't delete. ;-(..

thankz guys.

You are never going to meet someone just like jake... jake is his own person and if you like him he must be speacial and my bf is gone to from thurs-tues and i cant talk to him while he is gone! I miss my bf but I just pass time by catching a movie or going over to my grandpa's (theres always half the neighborhood there) ill call someone or go to someones house or just go riding bike-trix

Q: Where are good places to meet nice wholesome friendly guys besides school..cuz all the guys at my school like the sluts

Skating rink.. mall.. arcade.. beach.. pool.. dances.. park just about anywhere-trix

Q: "i care bout u and i like u...and if u dont feel the same way bout me then f*** it...we'll be friends" my friend just sed that to me and idk wut to say. cuz remember how i sed that i think i liked guy1 and guy2 well this was guy3. the guy i didnt like. and im scared to say sry i dont like u cuz i know that hell take it personally. i would talk to my other friends about this but they r not on and tomorrow they have a bball tourney. please help and answer asap cuz idk how long i can keep from not saying anything...thanx ..me...:(

Well just tell him how you feel you dont want to hurt him in the long run.. just let him know that you really really value your friendship and you dont want anything to happan to that friendship of yours!!-trix

Q: how can i meet cool guys at camp? and how can i get them interested in me?

Just be yourself and flirty and humorous. Being Flirty is the main key.. guys love to flirt-trix

Q: how can i help my best friend through a really tough breakup?

Just be there for her and take her out to places to help her meet more people dont rush her back into another relationship just to meet some guy friends-trix

Q: If you wear a condom during sex does that mean you most likely won't get pregnant or do you have to take birth control pills too..?

You arent 100% safe with a condom but its safe but no not if your using a condom but its not a 100% safe-trix

Q: A girl just moved in across the street and since its summer I'm the first person shes met. We've hung out once but now she wants to hang out everyday. The problem is shes really annoying and I really don't want to hang out with her. I feel bad for having to make up lies about why I can't go over to her house. But is there anyway I can give this girl a hint?

I think she should be getting the hint by now tell her nicely that you just are pretty much booked for the rest of the summer and if there is extra time you are resting because you are so busy-trix

Q: hey.. i just need some advice on sex.. me and my boyfriend have been going out for awhile now but im not sure when we'll be ready to u know.. do it.. can u please help and just tell me when u think the right time would be? by the way, your VERY pretty i love you smile.. im sure you get that a lot hahaha.. yeah well i'll let you go plz respond!!

xoxo-
shelly

Well it depends on how old you are.. make sure you and your bf are doing it for the right reasons and not the wrong.. because that could be a mistake and you could end up regretting this weather you relize it or not.. Alot of people go and do this and relize "I made a dumb move and i wish i could take it back" but this isnt something you can take back and it is something you relize you made a mistake afterwards not before hand so i would talk to your bf and i would go out at least 2 yrs b4 u do anything but remember you are most likely to young! I think even 17 is to young. 18 is pushing it-trix

Q: I'm 15 right now and I'll be 16 this September. I am fixing to start high school 9th or 10th not sure since I was getting homeschooled. I want to go back to normal school though. Ok so I know I'm like all pretty and I have no problems with the way I look. So see the problem is girls have a problem with me. They are all like wanting to kick my but and crap for no reason and saying crap like "oh get a tan" and blah. What should I do? I think girls are totally jealous of me. I am afraid of going back to school because I wanna stay out og trouble now. Basically I'm wanting to go back to school to get friends and stuff. Since I'm getting homeschooled I lost all of mine. I am thinking about getting a job this year maybe I'll meet people then. What would u do?

What do you mean by oh get a tan? like oo get a tan.. like you already have one or they are telling you to leave and get one? But just try not to immtimidate the other girls by acting better then others.. you seem a bit full of yourself here but thats just my side of the story but I would get a job and go to school this coming year.. but thats just what i would do .. why worry about a few girls? just go and make some new friends and you will be just fine!!-trix

Q: There is this guy,Josh I like him and he likes me. I know it sounds like theres no problem with that but weve gone out 2 times already and hes gone out with like all my friends ( well but jessica lol). I think the longest realiship was like 2 weeks. He is like never satisfid. He also likes my other two friends.I dont want to get hurt and i dont want my best friend jessica to get hurt, and we both like him and likes us!! I dont know what to do!! plzz help i rate!!

I would just leave it alone he seems to me like a mini player or something. He seems to be the village bicycle or something like that. I would just try to find you two new nice guys-trix

Q: i like this guy and he gave me his phone number. but i am too nervous to call him cause i LIKE HIM ALOT! now my friend and i were looking at the number and now we both think that this number is a fake. it just doesnt look like a home phone number or even a cell. and this guy is the kind to play pranks on everyone. u see he wrote this in everyones year book. and i think it isnt a real number. so should we call it? or just leave it alone. it is really bothering us. it racks our brains. !!!
thxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Well if he gave you his number it means something and it he obviously wants you to call him... if you gave him your number would you want to wait around for him to call you and he didnt? i dont think so get on that phone and call him! But just call it to find out and if its a fake he wouldnt know that you called..-trix

Q: ok, i think im cute and attractive, ((brunette w/ hazel eyes here)) and guys like me i thought...but it ive only gotten asked out by a guy ive known since like 2nd grade ((and im in 7th)) i just dont no y guys dont ever say nothin...please help...guys preferably but girls ok

...katie...

Maybe your more the sisterly type of girl and all the guys just look to you as that and not gf material next time you meet a guy just act more flirty and ect-trix

Q: I have this friend, hes like the coolest guy ever, and like we get along really well, and he said the loved me, and i love him too, so he askd me out and we got together and like, he said he felt awkward cuz he kissedme and i didn do anything, and i was nervous, i didnt kno what to do.. so he told me he didnt feel right , but he still liked me alot and stuff, but im confused, like i dont know what to do know, cuz after that , our communicating got kind of bad, like we bearly talk now and we get in stupid arguments and stuff, and i really hate it. i dont know...is it my fault? , my friends say i should kiss him when we go out again, so that maybe it could help us get back on track, should i? and how can i make our talking get better and more fun?

please help me. thanks

Did you tell him you were nervous? that could have helped. Dont put the blame on yourself some people just freeze up You should kiss him and it probably would get you back on track again so he doesnt feel so awkward about it all and as for talking im sure that would go with you kissing him to _trix_

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"