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im still confused
i thought this was a movie..
they show it in theaters (stage) too? and the audience dresses up and brings props??? has anyone participated in this? please explain. (link)
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Rocky Horror Picture Show was originally a play turned into a film. Yes, in some cities at art house theatres (such as Bloor Cinema in Toronto) they screen the film for patrons who dress up as chracters. Often they might bring props and prizes are given out.
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my boyfriend wants to finger me but ive never been fingered before and i know him well so im sure he will be rough .. when he starts to make it hurt what should i say to make him slow down a bit?
and please dont tell me not to do it- or talk to him before. thanks! (link)
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Tell him the truth. If something hurts let him know or he will keep doing it more. Tell him "Actually that kind of hurts." He'll apologize and then you can tell him that it's okay and to touch/rub here as that feels right or to be softer and gentler.
Just be honest as most guys have no idea what the hell they are doing or about female genitals. You have to teach them as you go here. The plus side is he'll learn where to touch and focus on and exactly what you do or don't get pleasure from.
Now, even though you don't like the idea of talking to him before it's actually well worth doing. He'll know going in how rough is too rough and what you respond to sexually. If you don't tell him he's likely going to be too rough.
The best thing you can do is instruct him and guide him as he's probing down there and let him know what you like. He's not a rocket scientist or expert on your genitals. You need to share that information and expertise with him. You know your body best and well he doesn't (yet).
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15/f
okay, so this is probably going to sound really bad but i need help. i dont really know why but i love "getting around"- not sleeping around or anything though. but like every guy that im into ill make out with them and i always let them finger me. but girls are starting to hate me and saying im a whore but guys really like me. and i know most of them just like me cause ill let them play around with me but i really dont mind- i really like it actually. but after most weekends i look back on what all i did and i let like at least 1 guy finger me a weekend- a lot of times more. is that really bad or am i just having fun? and feel free to be honest. thanks! (link)
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The reason you like this is because it gives you an adrenaline rush to be doing something taboo, forbidden or naughty. Basically, you're hooked on that kind of high here. There's no mistaking that it's fun and enjoyable. But, you can get hurt and taken advantage of.
You have to raise the bar rather high with guys whe it coms to fingering or activity below the belt line. Make them work for it and show you they belong with you or down there. get into a relationship that lasts before letting guys touch you in such an intimate way.
Clearly theses guys are talking and likely embelishing to their friends and other girls what they did with so and so and how "easy" she was/is. You don't need that shit so stick to kissing, above the belt stuff and reserve fingering for the one guy you know you will stick with.
The reason you feel awful afterwards is that you know these guys are taking advantage of you and that you're getting a bad rep but don't know how to stop. All I can say is present guys with boundaries neither of you will cross and force them off if they want more but aren't thinking of stopping.
You're letting too many guys take advantage of you here and need to slow down and set rules for you and them. You'll be fine then. You also need to assert yourself and tell these guys that if you ever catch them talking about what they did or didn't do with you that they'll regret the day they met you.
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okay so im 15/f and my boyfriend is 18. we started dating about a week ago. well hes older than me hes just a lot more experianced than me. we make out all the time and hes really like "fast" with it but its been fine with me. but i let him finger me last night and it was the first time someone has. well he was really fast and when it started to hurt i told him to slow down and he would just whisper to me that "ill be fine and he knows what hes doing" and he kept going just as fast. so i finally told him to just stop and he didnt and so i closed my legs and he just pushed them back and held me there until he was done.. im kind of scared now cause we've talked about having sex but im scared he'll hurt me a lot more and i dont really know what to do cause i dont want to break up with him but it really scared me when he was basically holding my legs apart when i was telling him to stop. what should i do? (link)
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What he did is assault you. In a sexual situation if a girl says no, stop, quit, get off me etc etc. and the guy doesn't well that's being assaulted as it's unwanted sex or sexual touching. I'm not sure if he could be charged in this instance but if so he bloody deserves it.
If this ever happens with anyone again solve it with a kick in the groin and shove or kick them if you have to. You should have fought him off whether he was your boyfriend or not.
You have to get rid of this jerk as fast as you can and move on. You shouldn't be around someone like him who has done something like this to you.
Tell him it's over and to look up the definition of no and to learn to stop when someone says to. Proceed to tell all your girlfriends and other female classmates what he did and to watch out for him.
I would also tell your mother and father that he tried to take advantage of you. As hard as it may be to do so they need to know as they can have him dealt with and give him a kick in the ass.
I know you wouldn't want to admit to them that initially you agreed but pushed him off. Once you do that it's no longer agreeing to a sexual act or activity but being violated.
You have a respinsibility to yourself and other girls to stand up against this guy and make sure they know he's looking to get his kicks sexually and doesn't care who he hurts to get what he wants.
Also tell this person that he's not mature enough to be having sex and won't be having it with you any time soon. If you're scared and he scares you bail immediately. I's the only logical choice.
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Hi! Well I am an aspiring actress. It is a HUGE dream of mine. And I know that is is like a 1/9234753498723489327 chance that i would become one, but anyway.
On this one website they had this competition were you could send in a video to audition to be in a move [I did not win]
But does anyone know any more websites where you can do that?
Or any websites holding auditions or anything, or advice!!!
By the way im not THAT experienced of an actor but people tell me that im really good at it.
ANY ADVICE IS APPRECIATED! I RATE HIGH! THANK YOU!
14/f (link)
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You need to be aware of a few things. Anything on the Internet or advertised there or in a local paper looking for new talent is something to run away from.
Odds are it's a scam and believe me people are looking to sucker those desperate to be in the business. Avoid those web sites like the plague.
Nobody casts movies, Broadway or TV through the Internet nor will they look at pictures, videos etc. on there or put there by others.
If you want to be an actor start at the local level and do some community or youth theatre. If you enjoy that experience the next thing I would recommend you do is hire a Background Talent Agent through SAG or ACTRA in the U.S. and Canada respectively.
Background talent agents can put you in crowd shots in movies and TV shot in your city or a large metropolitan city near home. At this stage you cannot yet aquire a principal talent agent because you don't have a resume or lots of professional work.
Don't pay anyone for photos or to join an agency. Snapshots work fine for now. The only exception to paying anyone any fee is if you join a kids/teen only agency or a background talent agency. Why? people tend to flake out especially kids/teens when they see this is work more so than fun.
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i accidentally threw out my photobooth.. and ive tried many ways to get it back, is there anyway i can get it back..
HELP IS APPECIATED (link)
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Call 1-800-MY-APPLE and ask for the number for American technical support. In Canada it's 1-800-263-3394. They'll tell you what you need to know better than anyone else can. You should buy the Apple Care Protection Plan as it covers the hardware and everything on the machine.
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13/F
Is it bad for a kid my age to watch porn? I mean, I just look at pictures of naked ANIME characters. I think it's funny. Me and my friends always make fun of it. is it bad? I mean, it's only ANIME porn! It doesn't sounds bad... But I justed wanted to know is it? Um, also, please don't anything rude. I don't like rude peeps cuz they're... well... rude, so yea. Jus ttell me if it's bad or not. I mean, the pictures don't really show much. They cover the guys bottom half.
I'm more comfertable by the way, watching anime porn then ACTUAL porn. And, I like GAY ANIME PORN too. Does that mean, I'm a lez or something? I hope not... PLEASE HELP!!!!! (link)
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At your age pornography for you is all about looking into things you are curious about. For you these pictures or anime are of interest and sometimes humorous. Nobody is getting hurt here and you aren't weird. Somewhere there's another group of kids wondering about this kind of thing. You're fine.
As for gay themed anime again it's a curiosity thing and does not mean you are now a lesbian. Nothing is wrong or bad here nor weird. However, I must stress that real porn and adult films are meant for adults for a reason. Cartoon pictures or drawing of any nature isn't going to harm your development or life.
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i cannot stand my friend. she is mean to me. although sometimes she is nice. but i cannot endure anymore. i feel like we're a rollercoaster, switching between mean and nice. i will not elaborate on the reasons why. does anyone know how how i can stop being friends with someone? i think its easier to break up in a relationship but how do you do it with friendship? i have no idea. okay i do not want to talk things over with my friend because she is hard to deal with and that would not work. i do not want to stop talking to her completely. if there is anything i can say or whatever i can do to tell her i dont want to be friends with her anymore in a nice way? (link)
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You have obviously been friends for a long time. There must be something there still worth saving. I think what you ought to do is find a friend who can referee a dicussion between you and this girl.
You need to tell her what is hurting your friendship and ask her to work on it or move on. You don't have to stop talking to each other if you decide to go seperate ways. All you need to do is be civil towards one another.
You really have to show her how she has hurt you and what is ruining your friendship before ditching her. This is just good sense as the person needs to respond and correct their mistakes. Give her that opportunity first.
If this doesn't work say "I have enjoyed being your friend but for now need to move on because I'm hurt etc." More or less it's like a regular breakup but don't make it into a blow out. Try to talk things out even though you don't want to. You owe her that.
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im a 20 year old girl whos in love with a 25 year old guy who i know that my parents would never be approve of him...ive been dating a guy for three years and ive cheated on him with the 25 year old guy my parents love my current boyfriend and they think that this guy has been the best thing in my life but i donn feel the same way towards him and im scared if i end it with my current boyfriend hes ganna be devistated...something happend to me that i feel in love with the 25 year old even more but i know there will be no future with me and him becouse we come from two diffrent worlds..him to me is like a fantacy and right now whenever he calls he plays games with me and i have no idea how to handel myself wenever im around him or wenever he calls...i need help (link)
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Well you have arrived at two important revelations here. First, you don't love your current boyfriend like you used to. You haven't loved him for some time and have cheated. The cheating part you need to feel guilty about but the other you don't.
The second important thing you have arrived at is that your relationship with the 25-year-old is fantasy and all a game and perhaps merely physical. You know you'll never have him to yourself or that life with him.
What you need to do is tell your boyfriend that you no longer have feelings for him and must move on. Come clean about the cheating as it's the right thing to do though it's hard. Your parents may love him to pieces but you aren't out to date someone just to make them happy. If You're miserable with him move on.
Ditch the 25-year-old and tell him that you appreciated his company but that it's split you and your boyfriend apart and just isn't healthy any more. Tell him unless he commits only to you and quits with the mind and sexual games you have to move on even though there's a strong connection.
This is what you need to do to have everything be a healthy situation for you. It's not about who your parents like or love. it's about who you like and or love and what makes you happy. Being honest with yourself about that and with your family is what is required of you now.
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There is an episode of the tv show boy meets world where Cory and Shawn read the book "Black like Me" and as a project they dress Shawn up as a girl and then write an article for the newspaper.
Does anyone know which episode of which season it was in? (link)
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http://imdb.com/title/tt0105958/
Hit the numbers 1-8 for the seasons and once there you can see all the episode names and plots. That's the easiest way to find it with a search on IMDB using the method and link above.
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does anyone know any tips or home remeies to cure acne. i have it on my forehead and in a few areas on my face. i have tried everything to get it to go away but it wont. i have tried clearisil,clearisil ultra, clearisil gel, clearisil 3 step thing, acne free(same as proactiv but cheaper and bigger bottle),equate acne pads,stridex acne pads,aspirin with lemon juice,asprin and lime juice, rubbing alcohol, washing my face more often, not touching my face and a combination of each. please help!!! (link)
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Over the counter acne creams handle minor acne issues only. In some cases they won't help you at all. Why? there is no medicine in Proactive, Clearasil, Oxy etc etc. It's the medication you need that will do the trick.
You need to see your family doctor or better yet a dermatologist and ask for prescription acne medication. This is pretty powerful stuff as it burns away all the acne and destroys the bacteria in a matter of a week or two. You keep using it afterwards to avoid reoccurance.
Most family doctors will be able to write a prescription and may even have a small sample tube they can give you to start with. My recommendation is not to do any home remedies, over the counter, Internet or Tv product. They're destined to fail in your case as you've been seeing already.
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im SUPPOSE to be getting witht his boy. but he just doesnt seem interested. i ring him and we talk on the hpone for about an hour a night. although he has ditched me for his mates twice in one week. he says he likes me but he just doesnt put any effort in the relationship. he is an nice guy but is he worth it?? (link)
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Tell him that you know his friends are very important to him. Let him know you would never put yourself between them. Then level with him.
Tell him that if he wants to be with you there are no more games. Either he does what he said he will and doesn't blow you off or put simply you move on. Not to be vulgar but it really is a shit or get off the pot scenario. Either he wants to be with you and puts effort in or you're splitting.
I have a hunch he could be a nice guy but he may also be the player type and looking just to hook up. Then again he may not be in to you like you are to him. Just give him a dose of the stuff listed above and let him know you really are pissed he keeps doing this.
You are woman. Unleash your roar and don't be timid here. He's got to know exactly what he wants. You need to know where things stands and show him that nobody messes around on you. If you don't do that he'll walk all over you like a cheap rug or welcome mat.
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well ive been homskooled all my life, until last year we moved to my dad's home town and they finally agreed to let me go away to public skool! i was sooo happy when they let me go to skool cuz for about a year or so i had thought about klling myself cauz i never did anything i was always at church or at hom ewith my family who ignores me! well i did my very best last year and i got all A's! but this year i over heard my parents talking and they sadi that if i made just one bad grade on my report card that they would pull me out cauz my parents told me if i didnt that they would pull me out of skool and id be back to homskooling. the bad thing is im making a c in english and the report cards are coming out thsi friday! i really dont want to be pulled out cauz then i will go back into my depression state, only this time i would cut myself cauz then they'd have to send me back to skool or i'd keep cutting myself, and if they dont do that they'll have to send me to the place for crazy ppl! i know thats a rally bad place cauz ive had friends go there an d come back adn they sadi it was awfull, but i dont care just as long as i dont come back to this god forsaken house everyday doing nothing but homeskooling and going to church!
how do i get me parents to understand that im not their perfect genius who will always make A'S? (link)
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Talk to your teacher and principal. Tell them what your parents have threatened you with and have them intervene on your behalf. Be BRUTALLY HONEST with your teacher and principal and tell them how home schooling makes you depressed, you don't associate with others and had started cutting in the past.
Tell them you need their help to stay happy and healthy in their school where you are otherwise thriving except for one grade. They can assign you a tutor to pull it up etc. It's not the end of the world but do talk to them.
As far as them sending you to a hospital or mental health facility it's not going to happen any time soon. Unless you have shown signs that you will harm yourself and or are delusional nobody will have just cause to put you there temporarily.
Let's say it did happen (which it won't) aall that would happen is they would put you on prescription anti-depressants, give you therapy and keep you safe until you can handle being back at home and the symptoms that brought you there disappear.
It's not a brutal, awful experience as you're given a lot of love by the staff and support. Your friend's may have gone through a tougher experience but are slightly exaggerating that it's awful and horrendous. It's not a picnice but it's about getting you rested and well. I can say these things as I've been in one.
Tell your teacher and principal and get you and your family some counselling to deal with all these issues. I know things will be alright.
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wouldn't your penis like smell weird if u have anal sex? (link)
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I won't try to repeat what everyone else said in my answer. I did want to point out that people need to wear condoms and use lubrication for anal sex. The walls of the anus are paper thin and can tear. This activity is high risk for easy transmission of HIV from one person to another. Know your partner's history well.
Will the guy's penis smell? If he's not using a condom it would for sure. If he's wearing a condom perhaps not. Bottom line bathe afterward considering where it's gone.
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okay so i really like this boy named mike and hes really doesnt know me. so im sitting here like umm okay. and like hes in band and im in guard im an 8th grader and hes a sophmore. soo. and he made out and has had sex before and i dont want to go that far. then i like this senior thats a crack head and i dont know what to do because other people like him and i just got over him and only like him as a friend but i dont know what to do about mike because i really like him but my friend sean was like umm no he will make you cry. HELP (link)
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When it comes to the guy from band just introduce yourself. Ask if he would like to hang out with you and your friends at a movie etc. some time. This way he knows you are interested but you won't be embarassed if he says no.
You asked him out but not in the love or date sense there. If he responds no or doesn't seem interested than you'll know he's not in to you.
If someone is abusing drugs or acting in an unacceptable manner like guy number 2 don't get involved romantically or friendship wise. The person unless they straighten their life out is bad news for you because you get dragged into that situation by association.
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I would like to have an editor (or whoever chooses which books get published or not) read and hopefully publish a book. But the problem is, I'm not sure exactly how to go about it. Does anyone know how to get in contact with someone from a publishing company? Do you have to actually talk to them about the pages in person or will they take faxes/emails/etc. with the pages attached? And, also if anyone knows the answers to these, can you also tell me the names of publishing companies, who to contact, a way to get in touch with them, and any requirements they need? Thank you so much for all the help. (link)
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You need an agent. In this case a literary agent to represent you and your book. They take several months to attain after sending only 3 chapters of said book. They deal with the publishing companies etc and you don't. That's the professional way of getting a book published.
In fact if any of us gave you names and addresses for publishing firms you wouldn't get very far. For legal reasons (ie: fear of being sued for stealing ideas) publishers destroy all manuscripts and proposals that are sent to them unless it came through a literary agent.
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There is this show I want to go to on Sunday. It's sold out, but my friend has a pass that can get me in.
Thing is my other good friend has been dying to go, but since it is sold out, she can't. She is devistated. I don't know what to do.
I really want to go, but I know she does too.
Do I let her go? Or should I just go? (link)
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I bet you anything it is not sold out in the strictest sense. When a show goes on sale and all the pairs are gone and singles are left Ticketmaster or the promotor will list it as sold out because they can't sell singles easily.
Have your friend do an Internet search tonight for single seats. She'll probably get one and often in the best sections as people always buy 2 or 4 in a row leaving a 5th open throughout the venue.
If she cannot get a single than I would be a good friend and tell her you have the pass and give it to her. That's the right thing to do because you can always see them again. She would be devastated you went and didn't help her out.
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Okay so my friend Jake is running for president, and he asked me to help think of a slogan that was funny, good, deep, and wasn't a spin'off of his last name(Cheriff) could anyone give me some ideas? (link)
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You can tear a piece out of Mike Harris (PC Party of Ontario) former premier of that province's book "Common Sense For A Change" just modify for it like this "Vote Jake it's common sense" or "Jake (last name) it's common sense."
Or "Clear Vision For A Change." "Jake (Blah Blah) is focused and determined."
You want something bold and strong and not funny. Trust me, funny doesn't win. It gives the impression that the person running thinks the election is a joke. I've won three VP titles and one presidential and always looked for the mistakes others made.
Pick a slogan that shows what Jake actually stands for and better yet what he can do. Your friend needs to talk to the principal and find out what the real issues are at the school and what he can't promise etc and campaign smartly.
Buttons, stickers, candy and all of that suggest you are desperate and trying to buy votes so are promises of victory parties etc. Make sure he's not about cheap tricks and serious about wanting to change something. Just an added tip or two to think of.
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has neone tried it? is it bad?
i odnt do it, im just asking. (link)
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There is nothing bad or wrong about doing it all on your own. Essentially all fingering amounts to is a partner doing your masturbation for you. In this case you're just masturbating by yourself. Both are fine to engage in and perfectly normal and natural for teenage girls.
While I'm not female I'm sure you'll find more answers soon about what it feels like etc. Nobody can give you tips etc. just so you knew as that's against all the rules and amounts to someone being banned.
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How can i relax? I've tried breathing exercises and stuff like that and writing down all the things that stress me out (which isn't much), but they don't really help. the only time i really feel relaxed is when im by myself at a park or someplace like on vacation =) but who doesn't?
I also can never 'be in the moment.' like.. I'm just not IN it. i don't really know how to explain it but once i heard soemone say they felt that way too and it was like "watching yourself in 3rd person." or whatever. I don't feel completely like that but sometimes it does.. & it feels like i just can't focus.
It's not terribly bad, but I was wondering what can I do to stop feeling that way? (link)
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It may not be "terribly bad" but is bad enough for you to write in upset about or asking help for. If you can never relax and feel like you're not even aware of the moment you are in something's wrong.
I would visit your family doctor and tell them how you have been feeling and the fact you can't relax and feel detached from things.
The odds are you probably have a minor anxiety issue and that a prescription drug may in fact make you feel better.
See your doctor and then see a psychiatrist (this desn't mean you are crazy at all) who can prescribe something and help you with this issue better than anyone else can.
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