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fingering
my boyfriend wants to finger me but ive never been fingered before and i know him well so im sure he will be rough .. when he starts to make it hurt what should i say to make him slow down a bit?
and please dont tell me not to do it- or talk to him before. thanks!
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Tell him the truth. If something hurts let him know or he will keep doing it more. Tell him "Actually that kind of hurts." He'll apologize and then you can tell him that it's okay and to touch/rub here as that feels right or to be softer and gentler.
Just be honest as most guys have no idea what the hell they are doing or about female genitals. You have to teach them as you go here. The plus side is he'll learn where to touch and focus on and exactly what you do or don't get pleasure from.
Now, even though you don't like the idea of talking to him before it's actually well worth doing. He'll know going in how rough is too rough and what you respond to sexually. If you don't tell him he's likely going to be too rough.
The best thing you can do is instruct him and guide him as he's probing down there and let him know what you like. He's not a rocket scientist or expert on your genitals. You need to share that information and expertise with him. You know your body best and well he doesn't (yet).
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if he goes too fast just tell him to slow down and if he doesnt listen then close your legs and push his hand away. hopefully he will listen and respect you.
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The first time I got fingered I was so nervous but, if they know how to get your right spots its great!
If he hurts you just tell him to stop or slow down and if he still doesen't listen close your legs.
Hope I helped. x
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dont be too worried about it you'll be fine. and if he does end up getting a little rough i find it best to kind of slow him down with your hand he'll get the hint. good luck
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this is just a girl thing!! do what ur instict tells you!!
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Unfortunately, I am going to tell you to talk to him before. If the two of you are ready to be getting more intimiate you should feel very comfortable with one another. You should feel open to discuss what you like and dislike. Same goes when you're "in the act". If you don't like what he's doing..speak up. Tell him something simple, like "be gentle, or not so rough". Same goes with what you like, speak up so he knows. Most guys are clueless. If he cares about you, respects you he will completely understand. Just always remember to stick up for yourself and what you want--in any situation. :)
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