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completely awful?
15/f
okay, so this is probably going to sound really bad but i need help. i dont really know why but i love "getting around"- not sleeping around or anything though. but like every guy that im into ill make out with them and i always let them finger me. but girls are starting to hate me and saying im a whore but guys really like me. and i know most of them just like me cause ill let them play around with me but i really dont mind- i really like it actually. but after most weekends i look back on what all i did and i let like at least 1 guy finger me a weekend- a lot of times more. is that really bad or am i just having fun? and feel free to be honest. thanks!
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Honestly, I've been there. And while it may be fun and all, But you will regreat it someday. Like maybe when your ready and have a real realtionship, No guy will take you seriously because you atract what you put out. If you dont repect your body and slef, No one eles will eaither. And belibe me there is nothing better like a man who worships your body but respects it and is someone who will stick around. And also, I know you may think i'm being dramatic but belive meee if you dont smartin up will you move on to other things like sex. And that is a very bad place to be. Worrying about STD's and wondering if your pregnet or if that person you slept with will stay around if you are. And when you fall in love someday, Your going to wish you had a clean slat that way you can enjoy that intimate stuff with the person you love.
This is currently what i am dealing with. I was lucky to not be pregent or have STD's by the time i stoped being so stupid and learned to caryy myself recpectfully. And it was not long before i met myself the kind of guy every girl should have. Before i just got a bunh of gusy who could carelss about me other then when we did stuff. And i still deal with the sterotype, And its not something fun.
And just so you know, I'm not some woman pep talking you. I'm a 16 year old who knows eaxcastly what you are going through.But i've been there and back and only hope that you dont end up having to go through what i did.
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first off, i respect you for letting us be honest. more people on here rate ones or chew the person out for speaking their mind. so here's what i think.
at 15, thats pretty much the definition of a whore. the girl that said the other girls are jealous..thats crap. i literally dont know ANYONE who would be jealous of that. definitlyyyyyy not me. you will have a REALLY rough rest of high school if you keep acting like this (and i know things will only go farther and get worse). you said yourself that the girls hate you and the guys only like you cuz they know they'll get some. you can't honestly tell me that makes you feel good about yourself can you?
life is all about the people you know. you'll get jobs and promotions based on who your potential boss talks to. you dont want one of these girls to tell your boss about your promiscuity, do you?
if you need action to calm youself, masterbate. don't be your class' 'easy girl'. you'll have that reputation forever, even at your 10 and 20 year reunions.
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Ill not fill you head wi babble, girls say that because theyre jealous thats all it is, i know a girl at my school she used to be like that and all the other girls hated her. but to be honest if you want a boyfreind and stop doing what you doing, it could make your fella umcomfortable...beleive me i been there
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The reason you like this is because it gives you an adrenaline rush to be doing something taboo, forbidden or naughty. Basically, you're hooked on that kind of high here. There's no mistaking that it's fun and enjoyable. But, you can get hurt and taken advantage of.
You have to raise the bar rather high with guys whe it coms to fingering or activity below the belt line. Make them work for it and show you they belong with you or down there. get into a relationship that lasts before letting guys touch you in such an intimate way.
Clearly theses guys are talking and likely embelishing to their friends and other girls what they did with so and so and how "easy" she was/is. You don't need that shit so stick to kissing, above the belt stuff and reserve fingering for the one guy you know you will stick with.
The reason you feel awful afterwards is that you know these guys are taking advantage of you and that you're getting a bad rep but don't know how to stop. All I can say is present guys with boundaries neither of you will cross and force them off if they want more but aren't thinking of stopping.
You're letting too many guys take advantage of you here and need to slow down and set rules for you and them. You'll be fine then. You also need to assert yourself and tell these guys that if you ever catch them talking about what they did or didn't do with you that they'll regret the day they met you.
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thats a bit much. you dont want guys to think of you as easy..have more respect for yourself and cut down on that. you told me to be honest..so if i heard about you in my school i would probably call you a whore too. hearing that you get fingered once a weeekend by different guys..thats a bit much and i understand you want to have fun but its not good to be known for that. but this is just my opinion..live your life how you want to. my advice is to cut back on that stuff..do other things to have fun. go out with friends, and maybe meet a guy to settle down with. but if you truly are happy with yourself and are ok with the choices you make, then thats all that counts. just be careful
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I guess it all depends on the person.
To me, I'd prefer friends rather than just guys who are in it for the fun.
Do you want the reputation of coming off as easy?
Because soon enough it could turn into more.
and there's a lot of stuff out there you have to be careful with.
It seems more so you're doing it because they make you feel wanted and special for the time being,
a good friend could do that for you too, just not the sexual part.
It could be a phase you'll grow out of, but maybe slow down a bit so that when you look back at it you don't regret it, you know?
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Well, to be honest, maybe the girls are jelouse of you, because you're getting so many guys attention, but you shouldn't let the guys 'finger' you if you mind. I'm kinda concerned that because you let them do that, they'll take advantage, and so are the girls. So just try to keep your body to yourself for a little while, OK?
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The one question you need to ask yourself is, "Am I happy with who I am?" If you feel comfortable letting all these different guys inside you then there's nothing wrong with it. (That you think) But maybe you should think about it a little. I mean, you don't want to expliot yourself as a slut and don't want guys being nice just so they can have a little fun. If you're asking this question you probably have a little guilt and you feel it's wrong. In my opinion, I think you should take a break from all this "fun" and just spend sometime with gal pals. You're still young to be doing this all the time and in high scholl it's hard enough when rumours go around.
I hope I could help
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