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im a 20 year old girl whos in love with a 25 year old guy who i know that my parents would never be approve of him...ive been dating a guy for three years and ive cheated on him with the 25 year old guy my parents love my current boyfriend and they think that this guy has been the best thing in my life but i donn feel the same way towards him and im scared if i end it with my current boyfriend hes ganna be devistated...something happend to me that i feel in love with the 25 year old even more but i know there will be no future with me and him becouse we come from two diffrent worlds..him to me is like a fantacy and right now whenever he calls he plays games with me and i have no idea how to handel myself wenever im around him or wenever he calls...i need help
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If you know it's all games, drop your 25 year old lover. Why would you set yourself up to get hurt? If you know he doesn't truly value you, then STOP. As far as your relationship with your boyfriend goes, it's obviously pretty rocky (at least, from your end). You need to make a decision here. Do you want to dump him and stay single? Or do you want to stay with him? Regardless of your decision, you need to end your affair with the 25 year old. And whatever you do, do NOT tell your boyfriend you cheated. It will only hurt him, and it won't do any good.
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Well you have arrived at two important revelations here. First, you don't love your current boyfriend like you used to. You haven't loved him for some time and have cheated. The cheating part you need to feel guilty about but the other you don't.
The second important thing you have arrived at is that your relationship with the 25-year-old is fantasy and all a game and perhaps merely physical. You know you'll never have him to yourself or that life with him.
What you need to do is tell your boyfriend that you no longer have feelings for him and must move on. Come clean about the cheating as it's the right thing to do though it's hard. Your parents may love him to pieces but you aren't out to date someone just to make them happy. If You're miserable with him move on.
Ditch the 25-year-old and tell him that you appreciated his company but that it's split you and your boyfriend apart and just isn't healthy any more. Tell him unless he commits only to you and quits with the mind and sexual games you have to move on even though there's a strong connection.
This is what you need to do to have everything be a healthy situation for you. It's not about who your parents like or love. it's about who you like and or love and what makes you happy. Being honest with yourself about that and with your family is what is required of you now.
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