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How can i relax? I've tried breathing exercises and stuff like that and writing down all the things that stress me out (which isn't much), but they don't really help. the only time i really feel relaxed is when im by myself at a park or someplace like on vacation =) but who doesn't?
I also can never 'be in the moment.' like.. I'm just not IN it. i don't really know how to explain it but once i heard soemone say they felt that way too and it was like "watching yourself in 3rd person." or whatever. I don't feel completely like that but sometimes it does.. & it feels like i just can't focus.
It's not terribly bad, but I was wondering what can I do to stop feeling that way?
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You're trying to achieve a mental state that no one can describe for you. Since you think that someone else's description of this experience is something you can strive to accomplish, you have failed before you've begun.
Instead of trying to match some one else's mental state, just simplify, simplify, and sit still, listen to your breath, in, out, . . . in . . . out . . . . . . in . . . . . . . . out . . . . . . . slowly, regulary, . . . . . . . . in . . . . . out, follow your breath . . . .. . allow your breath to become your state of mind. That's key. Your present experience, your state of mind, is all about your breath, and nothing but your breath. The breath is not important, but if you follow it with concentration, you aren't following anything else.
Of course, now I'm describing a state of mind you can't obtain because it's a state of mind that I've obtained.
Meditation is as personal as thought.
The only guideline I can give you is to sit still, and sit regularly, and I know the rest will come. It will be authentic, as all mental states are. Stop trying to obtain something that someone else has described. Write your own script.
Dr. Chad
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It may not be "terribly bad" but is bad enough for you to write in upset about or asking help for. If you can never relax and feel like you're not even aware of the moment you are in something's wrong.
I would visit your family doctor and tell them how you have been feeling and the fact you can't relax and feel detached from things.
The odds are you probably have a minor anxiety issue and that a prescription drug may in fact make you feel better.
See your doctor and then see a psychiatrist (this desn't mean you are crazy at all) who can prescribe something and help you with this issue better than anyone else can.
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Try a walk! Just go around the block or the park or something and take in the scenery, get some fresh air. Leave your worries at home.
It's a great way to clear your head and get rid of anxiety.
And also, make sure your eating good. I don't know if this is the same thing, but I remember when I played tennis, and all I had was a bag of lays for lunch. A little after I started playing, as much as I tried, I couldn't focus at all. It got to the point where I wanted to cry and I had no idea why. So lookat your diet..maybe that could be the culprit.
Hope I helped!
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