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ok well i messed around with this kid (lets call him rob) and well lets just say we ddint go all the way but we had fun.. but anyways i have a boyfriend and another kid that i am suppost to mess with ( im not a hoe ) and i mean this kid rob is like everything to me and i dont think he
really likes me.. how can i tell if he does? and what should i do should i still mess with him?
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I'm warning you. This is going to be harsh, but you need a wake-up call. Ok, you have a boyfriend and someone else you mess around with , THEN there is Rob. Face it girl. You are a classic HOE (slang for whore). Have you ever heard the term monogamy? What about abstinence? Look them up in the dictionary! A hoe is a female who is loose with her body. Fooling around with three guys is being VERY loose. Of course he doesn't really like you. You are just easy. What you should do? Read a dictionary and learn what you are to those who understand the meaning of basic English. Only when you understand yourself can you make mature relationship choices. You have no clue. Good Luck!
Is there anything wrong with wanting to give a guy head instead of jacking him off?I honestly tink that it is fun and I have only given one guy head, but I still like it even though I am not getting any plesure out of it at all.
The only problem with giving head is that you can contract most of the same std's from it as from regular sex. This is including AIDs. I enjoy it too (No pleasure? Pfft. With the right guy it can be better than foreplay.), but you need to be aware that it posses a health risk. Just because it won't get you pregnant doesn't mean a whole lot. Hand jobs are a lot safer, and you can't watch a guy's expressions when you're face is in his crotch. It is suggested that a condom be worn during oral sex. Which is one major thrill kill, but very important since it could very well save your life. Think about it, have your gums ever bled when you brushed your teeth? A mingling of blood is all it takes to kill you, sweetheart, and blood transfered stds are carried in sperm and pre-ejaculate. Just be careful.
my grades are so low....and im in the highest program at my school and its too hard for me...ive always had good grades till now...im doing my homework and everything but i dont know..im not understanding ANYTHING...ive talked to my mom about and today she talked to my dad but he started yelling saying im on the computer too much and talking on the phone too late and my social life is taking over and he wont let me change out of the program...he said hes not gonna let me see my boyfriend *of 6 months* anymore..=\...wut do i do im so upset? he said hes gonna have a talk with me tonight..(hes not mean hes just strict about my grades/school
Does he have a point? If you are struggling, could part of it be your social life IS getting in the way, or have you spent more time on your social life because you've given up on your school work? Think about that before your dad starts talking to you about it. I was in high level classes and had to drop out, but mine was due to depression not social life. I was able to pick some of them back up later. Is there some kind of tutoring/mentoring program you can get into to help you understand the course work? Sometimes getting someone else's perspective helps alot. Good luck!
ok i have this HUGE project due TOMRROW and my partner (we got to pick our partners) shes my friend and everything but she is so flakey!! she already has a F in that class and i didnt know that and i tryed getting together with her over x mas vacation to start it and she never could...and i talked to her about it at school and shes lkie OMG ya when is it due again? OHH tuesday...well lets do it on sunday...and then so yesterday about 2pm i called her and she was getting ready to leave and then she was like lets just do it at lunch tomrrow...YEA FINSIH A PROJECT IN 30MINS AT LUNCH TOMRROW! but the thing is IM HOMESICK TODAY!! i am throwing up and EVERYTHING...and my grade s already a low c in that class....should i just do the whole project now and 4get about her (because for all i kno shell forget to go in at lunch today) and if i did do the whole project id only write my name on it...not hers....but the thing is we signed up and the teacher nows were partners....wat should i do...its a huge project but i have all day and if worse came to worse id hand it in a day late...
Do it yourself. Give your friend no credit. She already has an F it's not like this will hurt her grade point average. She has ditched you time after time and deserves whatever she gets. Don't let her irresponciblity pull you down. Sorry for your trouble, sweetie. Good Luck!
Is masterbation a sin? Some people think it is, and some people think it's not. Some people think it is-- only under cirtain circumstances. Like if it's for lust, then yes it is, but if it's not for lust then it isn't..> Is it? Or isn't it?
ok , masterbation is a means of self relief. God created your body with needs and desires. There is something called Temperance, the responcibility to balance your needs and desires. In other words God made you to get joy and physical relief from masterbation, but don't do it too often. All things in overabundance are a sin. Overabundance is anything that cuts into your life and causes a tilt in your personal balance. If you find yourself masterbating everytime you are alone, you have a sin. Otherwise don't worry it is normal, and God designed you this way. Big hug!
Everytime i make out with my boyfriend i feel like he is attcking me with his tongue is this normal or does he have issues??? Can i have some advice to work around this!!
I have this problem. He's wanting more passion from you either tell him to back off abit or attack him right back. Good luck!
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Okie!For the past few days my best friend and my ex boyfriend have been fighting. I am not exactly friends with my ex boyfriend but we have been talking about why they are fighting. She is mad at him because he doesnt call her anymore, or really ever talk to her and she claims that he is different. My best friend and ex boyfriend are best frineds also. I dont see why she is mad at him at all. He is kind of differnent but no much and I wouldnt make such a big deal over it. I just want them to get along bc I hate seeing them fight. She just wont talk to him and she cant explain to him how he is differnt. The reason he doesnt call her anymore is because when you are on the phone with her she never talks. All she does is talk to her friends online and not the person on the phone. So I see why he dont call her! What can I do to make them not fight? I've been telling them both to work it out and they cant. He trys to talk to her and she compleltly blows him off. Its retarted because he is innocent in this. What can I do? Please help?
Tell your friend she is being totally rude. Point out to her that when someone calls if she answers the phone that is who she should talk to. Other wise don't answer the freakin phone. Conversely he could chat online with her. There is something else going on here though that you don't see. I don't think you'll be able to help them out too much. Sorry. Good Luck!
Hey, I'm a 17 Male from TN and I need a little help on how to deal with my brother. We are ferturnal Twins and a pretty close. He is a heavy drug user, smokes pot usually about twice a day and takes other drugs with it like Adderal (which he is not perscribed to). He's been doing it for around a year and a half now. He drives while hes intoxicated about everyday. He's been to Juvy, had his car taken away at least 3 times, and been on probation, but he wont quit!.
I want to tell my Mom about all hes doing, but it would ruin my relationship with him and would probably make his friends and my friends hate me (because we are twins we have a lot of the same freinds). Also, hes been in trouble so many times and hasn't changed that if i tell on him he might not change because of all the other times hes been caught. His life is in danger though and I might be doing the wrong thing by not telling him, but a lot of people need to choose by themselves or they won't quit. So I don't know what to do.
Ask yourself this, sweetheart. Do you want him alive and angry with you, or dead and not feeling a thing toward you one way or another? Is his life worth the alienation of some friends with bad influence? Trust me there will be some in his drug crowd who will support you, even in silence. You are right that most likely he won't change until he reaches the bottom and choses to help himself, but then again could you live with yourself if the bottom turns out to be death if you didn't at least TRY to do something? Big hug! I know you are going through a hard time. My uncle was very like your brother. MY mother used to let him drink at our house so she could keep an eye out for him. If he was there and drunk, he wasn't somewhere else and high on God knows what. This worked ok for a while, he was one of those sweet, happy drunks who tells stories. It wouldn't have worked as long as it did otherwise, but still he came down. Ended up in rehab and AA. He's clean, has a great job and an awesome, funny wife. It can work out. Good luck!
Hey guys! I'll try to make thise short.. okay, so I want to go to this high school in Aurora, IL and I am from Springfield. It's called Illinois Math and Science Academy. My parents don't care or anything but they say that I can't go to Florida with my youth group or Puerto Rico with my friend Erin over the summer if I want to go to this high school. It's a 3-year school and it would mean I skip 9th grade, but I would also get to study many cool subjects like astronomy. Which should I pick and why should I pick it? i rate high. Thanks in advance! ~Brit
Am I right that this is a money issue for your parents? If so you need to weigh your options. Sure the experience of the trips would be fun and educaional, but will you be able to go farther with your career plans by getting the advanced education from this school? Your problem is a matter of instant gratification verses long term gain. Only you can make that choice. One is neither better than the other in my opinion, but then I never had any plans for a career in math or the sciences. I'm a Liberal Arts baby. I'd definately take the trips. You are not me though. Take a deep breath and think about the goals you have for your future. That's where your answer lies. Good Luck!
I haven't seen my mother for 9 years, I'm 14. She's been on methampthetamines my entire life. I just got word today of where she is, I talked to her about 3 years ago. I need to go see her so that I can get over the fact that she will never be my mom. I just need some advice on what to say to her, and I really want to tell her to stop doing methampthetamines. I know that I won't be able to help her, but I just need some advice on how to deal with the fact that I will never have her as my mom, and that I will never be able to help her. I know it's hard to answer, but please, if anyone can help me. The pressure is too much, I'm seeing her this weekend. Please help me. I have no one else to turn to. 14/f
Meth is a rough way to go, and you are right that you can't help her with it. Here's the thing, dear. She will always be your mother, she just isn't able to care for you and her habit at the same time. You have faced the fact that she will never be there for you. That is very mature and I applaud you for it. When you see her, all the plans and thoughts will likely go out the window. You won't know the situation until you are in it, but try to keep a few things in mind to deal with the pressure. 1) She did not abort you, this means she wanted you on some level or another. 2) You know who she is and what she is. (Your mother and a drug addict.) 3) You can't help her, only she can do that, and she may never want to find that help. 4) You love her. That you care about this meeting is proof enough for me that you love her. Loving does not mean you have to trust her, or respect her, or even like her. In this instance Love is an acknowldgement that she is a part of your life even if she is not there and you haven't seen her in years. She is and always will be in your heart. 5) You need to accept her for what she is and take into your heart the reality that she will not change. Her addiction, I know, seems like a betrayal to you that she cares more for her drugs than the life she SHOULD have had with her child. Know that addicts don't think that way, Sweetheart. This isn't a choice for her; it's a sickness. There is nothing left in her after the drugs take hold to give anyone. Herself, your father, or you. 6) NO PLACING BLAME! Your mother is not going to be able to understand what you have suffered because of her absence. If she's been on drugs this long, it's a wonder if she knows anything but the name of her pusher. To bring up your problems will either make her angry or a blubbering mess. Niether will help you resolve the issues between you.
Good Luck and Big Hug!
I am 14/f and don't tell me i`ve made the biggest mistake of my life...i know i've made a mistake and i`m gonna follow my responsibilities. My boyfriend, who I have been with for 11 months, has been in jail for 6... he just got out and we really like each other you know? Well, while he was in jail-i had a little side thing...with a 16 year old black male...lets call him mike..me and mike really liked each other and did it a lot..but when we did it on the first day of my period-something happened. Last night, my stomach was hurting sooo bad while talking to my boyfriend. So bad that my mom took me to the emergency room. She decided to give me a pregnancy test..and it`s positive. I`m nervous and all and 6 weeks pregnate in the 9th grade... I have the money and skills to support it..but MIKE doesn`t want anything to do with it. My dad wants it aborted but I want it...my mom does too. What would you do in my situation? And how do i explain to my boyfriend who is trying to get his life back on track?
Personaly, there is no way I'd even concider abortion. What I'm not sure about is whether or not I'd keep the child. If you don't get your father's support things will be much harder to deal with, but that is something you and your mother will need to work on together. He knows that he and your mother will take the large part of raising your child. I know you think you're capable of taking care of yoursel and the baby, but trust me you'll realize the lie in that if not by the time the doctor bills for your pregnancy come in then by the time you actually have to take the baby to the doctor and leave whatever work you have to take care of it when they are sick. Your dad KNOWS the baby will end up being his and your mother's resposibility. He doesn't want to be burdened with this. I can't blame him, he didn't get pregnant. However,it is your child and will be his grandchild and your mother's grandchild. I can't imagine my father abandoning any child I would have regardless of the circumstances. If you keep the baby, make DAMN sure Mr. MIKE signs away his legal rights if he has no intention of helping you support it. He can't sign until he's 18, but make sure to do it ASAP. I have no clue how you can tell your boyfriend, but be honest and tell him as soon as you can. This is not something he needs to figure out on his own. Big Hug, Sweetie. Whatever your choice, your road will not be easy. Good Luck!
I tried once to grow herbs, but nothing happened. Then I heard about this method of putting a small plastic baggy over them to help keep them warmer and keep up the humidity. The problem is, when I tried to wean them off the baggy's, they all died! Could anyone tell me what some good beginers herbs are, and how to take care of them? Please? It would mean a lot tro me, because I am a vegetarian and like organic food, especially herbs for pasta. Thank you!
First off make sure you are buying perinnials. An annual, like Basil, is going to die in one season anyway. I'm not very conversant on a window herb garden, but I know you can buy Chia pet herb kits that are made to help beginners. I have always had a half cask planter for the poarch or a small garden out back. Try starting with 4" seedlings. " is the size of the pot they are in when you buy them not the size of the plant itself. Go to a nursery not Walmart or someplace like that. You'll get better quality stock and they can actually give you growing tips other than the preprinted card that comes stuck in the pot at Wally World. Oregano, Thyme, catnio, Lemon Balm, and all kinds of mint are easy to grow. They just need enough space.
i smell. i dont know why. i shower. i go tot the doctor. i clean myself. and i still smell. i wear pefume, but i still smell. i dont know what to do . i take showers twice even 3 times a day. help me please.
Try drinking a glass of water with one or two teaspoons of baking soda in it twice a day. A Pakistani friend of mine told me this was how she kept the smell of curry from her body. Curry is a spice that her family uses in most of their cooking. The spice comes out in the sweat, like alcohol does. Totaly rank smell. If it is something you eat that is causing you to have bad body odor this should help. Give it a few weeks and see. Good Luck!
i am very gassy. I know I know, it sounds so gross, and i am alwyas so embaressed about it , but i dont know what to do. I alwyas get gas everywhere i go, at the mall, at the movies at school and even at home! Its not what im eating because i eat very healthy. And my mom says its stress, but i know its not becase besides the gas, im happier than i have ever been. And also its not silent gas, and its very smelly. I ALWAYS get so red when i have gas on the bus or in class, and everyone looks at me. I don know what to do , i have tried medicines and stuff but theuy never seem to work! help!!!
Yes, it is what you are eating. Eating healthy promotes gas because it stimulates your digestive system. Also vegetables and fiber rich foods that are the best for your health and well being are the foods that cause the worst and smelliest gas. This doesn't mean stop eating right, it just means you may need to invest in Bean-o and possible Lactaid if you have problems with milk products. You can buy Lactose reduced milk that will help decrease gas and though a little more expensive it is just as good as regular milk. You may want to talk to your doctor if you've tried the bean-o and stuff and it hasn't worked well for you. It maybe that you can work with him to find supplements to relieve the problem. Good Luck!
By the way I really enjoy your advice and I figured I should ask you since you are good at it.
I just started high school and met a boy during the first week. We have talked for a long time and I have liked him for a few months now. I used to REALLY like him, but he was always interested in other girls. He always went to me to talk a lot and never saw me more as a friend I guess. I felt hurt for awhile and tried to get over him. . .well of course now he is interested while I am getting over him. It's weird, I wait for him to get online because we talk everyday and we feel weird when we don't talk for one day, and he will IM me and I ignore it or try to avoid him..yet I waited for him to get on? I don't know I am so mixed up right now. When I see him, I get butterflies and I am always smiling and just..feel great. Then I try to avoid him when he IMs me or texts me. What do you think I am doing? Playing hard to get? I can't even read myself! Thanks:)
Thank you very much for the compliment. I do try.
OK, for your question. The simplest part is that you don't want to get hurt. The reason you wait for him to get online is because he makes you happy and you look forward to the connection you get with him and the way he makes you feel. The reason you avoid his IMs is because it is easier for you to distance yourself when he's not in front of you, plus people are far more candid through things like the internet and the phone. You don't want to tell him something that might drive his friendship away. Though it may be what you really want you are afraid he may want to take your friendship into something more serious. Part of you knows that when romance gets into a friendship it can be the greatest or worst thing in the world. Not only do you act differently toward one another, changing the way you talk to each other, how you react to what they say reading motives into actions and words that you just accepted at face value before, but you also know that if the romance doesn't work out there may be no way to salvage the friendship. You value the friendship and it is something real and solid that you can hold onto. Taking it to another level is a terrifying risk to your friendship and your heart. Knowing all this, you still want it, that romance, that extra closeness. It's impossible not to want something that feels so good and right even if it could fall apart and leave you with less than nothing. You are not playing hard to get. That would imply you had a plan to your behavior. You are simply conflicted between what your heart wants and what your heart already has. What you have is very good, but you know there could be something more. I've been in your situation before. I went for what my heart wanted and for a while I was the happiest girl on Earth. If you choose to follow your greatest desire you may have the greatest relationship of your life, but it is a gamble and nothing that good lasts without hard work and understanding. Every relationship goes through troubles and misunderstandings. Be willing to put effort into making things work. Don't expect everything to be purfect, but also realize that it may not work. Luck and Love! Let me know what happens.
i have a friend.. she's 5'9 and 127 pounds.. she's athletic and all, she lifts weights and plays vball all year around. recently her and her bf broke up and shes been really depressed. shes been losing sleep and she can barely eat.. she only eats like one thing a day. would she be considered anerexic ? and are there any other symptoms for it besides lack of eating ? anything is appreciated ! thank you
No, that's not anorexia, it is simple depression. People handle depression differently. Some eat too much, some can't eat, some sleep too much, some can hardly close their eyes. As she starts getting over the break up things should improve. Just be there for her, and try not to worry too much. An anorexic is obsessed with body image, not really the food issue. They see themselves as huge and will do anything to loose the weight. An anorexic wouldn't force herself to eat even one meal a day. She would be happy that she felt no need for food and try to hide the fact that she is not eating at all. It is a self perception illness that can be complecated by depression, but I don't think your friend is having this problem from just the little you've said. Good luck. Hope your friend feels better soon.
theres a guyat school name mitch. A lot of people hate him. But when you get to know him he is really nice. He asked me out. what should i say? I need help!!!!!!!
If you want to go out with him, do it. It's your life and your choice. If you get some flak for it from your friends don't worry about it. You like him.
I enjoy watching tv series on DVD. Ones I have enjoyed are "Soprano's", "Sex & the City", "Star Trek TNG", & "Dawson's Creek". Can anyone recommend a new series for me to watch with a continuing story line; not a comedy like "Sienfeld."
Roswell, Angle, Tru Calling (awesome), and my personal favorite Dead Zone seasons 1 and 2. Also 24 is out, and Stargate SG1. Lots of good stuff out the plus they have released some of the old series like MAgnum PI and The Dukes of Hazard.
Okay, so I have this problem, im 16/f and ever since i can remember...Ive been harrassed by hispanics because of my butt. I have a ghetto booty and im white. People call me racist because I dont like talking or getting to know hispanics but its not that im racist i have NOTHING against them because i know a lot of them arent "dirty mexicans" but those who are, Im SCARED of them, I cry in public because im harrassed and the littlest things they do like wink at me, will make me cry just because i have been sexually harrassed since I can rememeber...Ive talked to my parents and they say im full of myself and that I think everyone is in love with me, so they dont help, ive talked to my sister , same thing and my friends cant do anyhthing about it. I talked to a lot of people about it, and im honestly scaared to death of them because they always make me feel uncomfortable, ive had them grab my butt and say dirty things in my ear, and I just cry...in public, please help :( I cant take it anymore. Please dont answer if your just gonna call me racist because Im not. Im scared.
How incensitive of your parents. Anyway, the Hispanic culture is loud and colorful and the men don't generally make bones about their desires. You are a shy girl, and harrassment is terrifying when you don't know how to handle it. It's bad enough when you do. I would suggest some professional counceling and making sure you walk with friends as often as possible. See if you can't get your mom to go with you to a few places so she can get a first hand example of how you are treated. Unfortuately there is no legal action I think of to help you unless something more serious happens. Good luck!
I have just moved to Virgirnia from Oklahoma, and I want to buy a new car. However the registration of my old car is expired. I am wondering whether I can trade-in this car when I buy a new car. If I can not, how can I get rid of it?
As long as you have a clear title it shouldn't be a problem. Call a major car dealership and ask. They will let you know what needs to be done if anything.