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By the way I really enjoy your advice and I figured I should ask you since you are good at it.
I just started high school and met a boy during the first week. We have talked for a long time and I have liked him for a few months now. I used to REALLY like him, but he was always interested in other girls. He always went to me to talk a lot and never saw me more as a friend I guess. I felt hurt for awhile and tried to get over him. . .well of course now he is interested while I am getting over him. It's weird, I wait for him to get online because we talk everyday and we feel weird when we don't talk for one day, and he will IM me and I ignore it or try to avoid him..yet I waited for him to get on? I don't know I am so mixed up right now. When I see him, I get butterflies and I am always smiling and just..feel great. Then I try to avoid him when he IMs me or texts me. What do you think I am doing? Playing hard to get? I can't even read myself! Thanks:)
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OK, for your question. The simplest part is that you don't want to get hurt. The reason you wait for him to get online is because he makes you happy and you look forward to the connection you get with him and the way he makes you feel. The reason you avoid his IMs is because it is easier for you to distance yourself when he's not in front of you, plus people are far more candid through things like the internet and the phone. You don't want to tell him something that might drive his friendship away. Though it may be what you really want you are afraid he may want to take your friendship into something more serious. Part of you knows that when romance gets into a friendship it can be the greatest or worst thing in the world. Not only do you act differently toward one another, changing the way you talk to each other, how you react to what they say reading motives into actions and words that you just accepted at face value before, but you also know that if the romance doesn't work out there may be no way to salvage the friendship. You value the friendship and it is something real and solid that you can hold onto. Taking it to another level is a terrifying risk to your friendship and your heart. Knowing all this, you still want it, that romance, that extra closeness. It's impossible not to want something that feels so good and right even if it could fall apart and leave you with less than nothing. You are not playing hard to get. That would imply you had a plan to your behavior. You are simply conflicted between what your heart wants and what your heart already has. What you have is very good, but you know there could be something more. I've been in your situation before. I went for what my heart wanted and for a while I was the happiest girl on Earth. If you choose to follow your greatest desire you may have the greatest relationship of your life, but it is a gamble and nothing that good lasts without hard work and understanding. Every relationship goes through troubles and misunderstandings. Be willing to put effort into making things work. Don't expect everything to be purfect, but also realize that it may not work. Luck and Love! Let me know what happens.
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