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hiiii :] does anyone know of any really cute, sweet, lyrical love songs? thanks in advanceeee :] ♥
Remember When- Alan Jackson (that one makes me wanna cry, lol)
Firefly-A*teens (kinda kidd-ish but it's cute)
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol (that one's more depressing but it's kind of about ups & downs of love)
Unchained Melody-The Righteous Brothers (An oldie, but a Classic)
Be the girl-Aslyn (Not totally romantic theme but it's cute depending on your style of music)
Inside your Heaven-Carrie Underwood (Beautiful)
in short... i was living with my cousin and his wife and son. he molested me. i ran away then turned myself and him in. now im in foster care. anyone have advice on how to cope with this stuff without strangling myself ?
Let me first start off by saying, I'm terribly sorry that this happened to you, but you did the right thing by telling someone!
Solution number one: Keep a journal of your thoughts, feelings, regrets,& happy endings. It will help you look back on days that weren't so great, or really fun times. One day, when you leave Foster Care,& you take that journal you'll be able to say. "Whoa, I've really been through a lot. But it's really made me stronger than I ever thought I could be."
Solution number two: Pray. Praying can get you through ANYTHING! I mean it.
Solution number three: If you feel bad about yourself because this happened, when you get up & look in the mirror, compare yourself to the average person. Sure there may be positives & negatives but one positive to start you off with, is you know your limits now, & what you're going to put up with. Chances are, you'll probably be able to figure out who YOU REALLY ARE, which isn't easy to do. I don't even know who I am, in a certain sense. But don't do it too much, that's how people become vain.
Solution number four: Try to find a fun activity to do whether, singing, drawing, painting etc. to take your mind off the pain.
I hope I helped, you're in my prayers.
Ok..So this girl who went to my school last year, I met through one of my best friends. At first, she thought I was one of those weird guys, that was really immature and what not....But then she started to like me a little more and we became friends. Near the end of the school year last year, we were talking on AIM, and she had to go and she said "luv ya babe!" and I was like ok, since when does she "luv" me..? And then about two months ago, she started calling me "her little punk" and then just recently she started calling me "my love" and saying she "loves me" instead of "luv ya"....
But my question is, what's with all the sudden phrase/nickname changes..You think she's starting to like me more than a friend? PLEASE HELP.
That's just her way of flirting with you. When she says "Love ya Babe", that's normally how girls talk to other girls when they're just kidding around etc. but when she says it to you, I think she wants you to say "Love ya" or whatever back. Although that is kind of a weird way of flirting, if you don't like it...just sort of drop her hints you don't like her back. & yes I do think she likes you as more than a friend & you must be leaving her with some type of an impression for her to continue, sounds like the flirting is getting stronger, so if you don't like her back, be careful what kind of an image you're painting!
Good luck
Ok, so this girl I like asked me to go to a play with her one night. I was just talking to her on AIM and she says "Hey, do you want to go see Le Miserables with me...?" I was like "Sure...?" So we went to the play and everything and we talked some...But I wanna know if this was a date or not..Please tell...
Haha, yes that was a date. She's dropping hints that she's interested & she just wants you to be interested in her as well. Flirt with her a little & see how she reacts, then ask her out. =]
Happy dating!
~ Depressed_Poet
are there any sites that that cute clothes for kinda cheap?
~ GoJane.com
~ FredFlare.com
~ Garmentfashioner.com
Have fun shopping!
my computer has about 4000 viruses on it including Spyware and Malware. Please tell me any FREE antivirus software that i can download to SAVE my computer. Its has ALL my informations of it and i cant let it crash:(
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE i need help fast!
System Restore
I did it for mine, my dad set it up for me because he de-bugs computers all the time where he works. You can restore your computer's health to a certain date of your choice.
Good luck!
Since I don't know how my dad did it, google it. IT WORKS VERY WELL! =]
my room mate has really bad breath she has for awhile (a mutual friend and i have noticed) but recently all of our friends are starting to say things and noticing it . She is sensitive about most things so i don't want to say something that will hurt her feelings or make her mad but i think she needs to know rather than hearing it from someone randomly. what should i do? and how should i do it?
Be like, "Hey I got some Winterfresh gum, you want some?" Or do the mint thing. I don't think many people would get mad, just make sure she's in a good mood if she's really that sensitive. Don't tell her in public, just tell her when you're alone with her. Or if you're afraid of her reaction, maybe like...e-mail her? I know it sounds stupid when you live with her but, if you think there's a way she could be embarassed in person e-mail's the way to go.
Good luck
Yesterday this guy admitted to me he used to really like me, and I asked him if he still did and he said, "eh i do in a way, its hard to explain though" what could he mean by that? My friend asked him why he doesn't just ask me out, and he said, "mainly its cause i know she doesn't like me and im just plain scared of relationships" i dooooo like him though. how can i get him to ask me out & not be scared of relationships?
Scared of relationships? I don't buy it. Sounds to me like he's afraid to get close to people, because he's lost a lot of people he really loved or felt attached to, and doesn't want to go through with it again. Maybe he's never really had a serious relationship & he doesn't know how to act? Maybe his girlfriend did something like cheat or break up with him & he was hurt? The possibilities are endless. I guess what I'm trying to say is, you can't MAKE him ask you out, but you can't MAKE him tell you...he's gotta trust you before he can tell you why he's so afraid of relationships. If you want to make a move, just let him know you're always there for him, and you'll help him out through his hard times.
I dont want to call them my parents because they do not love me.They love my brothers but not me. Its not a gender thing because when my brother dropped out and did nothing they did the same thing to him. But my oldest brother Scott is the success he can do anything and it wont madder they'll still love him.Hes probably going to jail for a DWI and my parents were planning to buy him a calling card and stuff because they wont let you bring in a cell phone... my mother told my dad not to tell anyone and im joking and im like too late and my mother starts swearing and says.."SHUT UP i wish i was buying it for you" so now my mother wants me to go to Jail be punished for scott being dumb. BUT she still loves him. Both my parents call me names too bad to put on here its swears and IM sick of.. I do nothing wrong why do my parents hate me...?
No one can really tell why they don't treat you as equal as Scott. But you deserve to be treated well, not like shit. Sorry for swearing, I don't normally but this type of thing gets me so friggin' pissed off as you can probably tell. There's really not much you can do, I think you should ask to talk to them in private and say,
"Mom, Dad... I would really appreciate it if you could please talk to me about something important. Well, I've noticed that you're sort of behaving differently with me than you are with Scott. I mean, you guys are my parents & with all do respect you should treat me for who I am, I deserve to be treated with dignity just as much as any other person in the world. You're my parents & it's not thinking you don't want me. I really mean this in a respectful way! I love you and I don't want anything to interfere with us. Could we spend more quality time together? It would really mean a lot to me, if you tried." I know it sounds sappy and mushy, but they need to hear the truth. And I would hate for this to continue. You're in my prayers,
I hope everything works out!
~
i'm 14/f and i've had my period for about 2-3 years now and i HATE pads so much. i've tried to put a tampon in so many times but whenever i do i don't know exactly where to put it and it doesn't just slide in easily do i force it in? will it hurt? how long can you keep it in there? when you take it out do you just pull the string? i've never stuck anything up there before. i'm so desperate any advice would help. thanks soo much!
You're supposed to push it past the bony ridge, so you don't feel it. But one dangerous thing about tampons, is since you can't feel them, ( & you should have a new one every 3 hours) people forget to put in a new one so they catch some bacterial disease. Just a warning!
Here: This link should help,
http://www.ehow.com/how_1185_insert-tampon.html
Sorry for sending you a link, but it can explain it better than me, most likely!
my boyfriend's birthday is like really soon and i do not know what to get him!! it is really important to get him something because he gets me alot of stuff.. anyway what can i get him?
~ A scrapbook of your times together, it will show him how much you thought of him.
~ A C.D. of his favorite music
~ One of those oragami napkin tricks, where you wrap it into like a rose shape, then give it to him with a bouqet of real ones with a note attached that says "I'll be here for you until the last one dies".
~ A gift certificate to his favorite store (s)
Just some friendly ideas. Hope he likes what you decide to get him!
I found out a few hours ago that my grandma isn't doing very well. She had a surgery on her hand the other day and since then she has passed out, felt dissy and felt really sick. Everytime I think about it I want to cry. I am so scared something really bad is going to happen to her. What should I do?
Write down how you feel, it always helps me. It's like pouring your emotions & finding a simple solution to a burden lifter. Cry if you need to, running away from the pain makes everything worse for longer trust me! Once I rain away from pain for such a long time, I had weird dreams, later I found out it was because I was running away from my sadness & emotions. If all else fails, talk to somebody about how you're feeling, or pray to God to help you get through this. You'll feel better, it's ok. But remember one thing: What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. In other words, the more you're put through in your life, the easier it is to put up with it. Good luck, I hope your grandma's ok, you and your grandma are in my prayers.
So i'm generally considered a 'good' girl.. even prudish by some of my less closer guy friends. But last night at a party, i went to second base with a guy friend who's interested in me... it was my first time and in retrospect it was a really really stupid idea. looking back, i dont even know why i did it!! and now i dont know what to do.
I dont want to seem 'easy' or anything and i definitely dont want to be used. My other guy friend said not to believe him when he said that he doesnt care that im not that sexually active. It's just awkward to see my guy friend now, especially when he wants to go out with me and i dont know if i want to... hes not very attractive but he has a great personality and i dont want to seem shallow or anything... what am i suppose to do? i think that if i do end up going out with him we might touch second base again or something because i wouldnt let him go far in that.
any help or advice please?? any hurtful rude nonhelpful comments will be disregarded because im really worried about this.
Well you can't change the past, so there's no use in dwelling about it, just make sure it doesn't happen again. Everyone makes mistakes, & this was one of yours. However, he should feel a little more weird because HE was the one using YOU, so he too is at fault for this.
Tehcnically, you are not sexually active, like you mentioned. And don't worry, because this doesn't make you "EASY", it just makes your liking to someone a little more... obvious. And don't worry about being shallow, because if either of you in the situation here are shallow-it's him. He sounds like he's just trying to get into your pants, so I would try to consider him more of.."Just a friend" If I were you, because you don't wanna make another mistake again-and I'm sure you wouldn't!
Good luck with this whole situation.
Hope everything works out
Be strong. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
My Daughter is 11 and she tells me shes old anough to babysit but i dont know if she should. I started babysitting when i was 11 but i want to make sure its a good age. Please help!
I would say 13 or 14, after she's had courses, they take you through CPR & how to handle certain situations etc. I thought I was old enough when I was 11, but now that I'm older & I look back, I really wasn't. Just to be safe, probably target around the age 13.
I hope I helped
-Depressed_Poet
hi, well im 15, and my sisters 18. Well she's really annoying, and it really pisses me off. She acts like a kid when she wants to be treated like an adult, and she's really like, bossy. the other day, she was all "come in here when you're done, i need your help" then she tells me to help her pick out an outfit, and when im all "um i dont know..." she gets angry, like its my job. then she tells me to clean her room while she hangs up her clothes, and if i tell her to do it her self, shes all "you know you're attitude really stinks" and she keeps complaining, even though she's worse. is this normal? or is she just wierd. i think the second one but ide like someone elses opinion. thanks in advance :)
Haha, she's not abnormal don't worry. She just doesn't look at the situation from other peoples' points of view & she's probably used to people doing things for her. And since your sisters are 18 I'm sure they'll be off to college soon so you won't have to put up with it for much longer! I think you should enjoy the time left you have with her because you won't live with her for much longer since she's eighteen. Has she been doing this kind of thing for years? Or has it just started recently? If the answer was recently, I think she just wants to spend more time with you, & doesn't really know how to talk to you about it. Next time she does that say, "You know, we won't live together for that much longer, is this really how you want your last year of living with me to end?" It will make you both think. & yes it's a harsh thing to say, but it will make her think about spending more time with you because you guys are sisters, be glad you have each other =]
~ Trust me, it could be worse
13/f
I'm going on a Carnival Cruise very soon and I was wondering if there are any particular ways to make friends. I have a lot of friends now, and I can be pretty outgoing at times. I will probably be going to the Club Carnvial program for teens 12 to 14, has anyone experienced this and what should I expect there? I want to make a few close friends to hang out with on this cruise. (:
Thanks
Think about how you made other friends before, &/or how you met. Maybe go up to somebody who looks about your age & just be casual. Say something like "Hi, I'm (your name)! What's your name?" Then they answer. Then talk more like, "So what do you like most about this cruise?" Or ask questions like, "How old are you?" Or ask them what their favorite T.V. Show or band is, & you might have something in common so you can talk more about it! Ask them for their e-mail address &/or phone # so you can keep in touch.
Have fun on your cruise!
i know how to babysit but i don't kbow how to tell people about my interset and that if they need a babysitter im available...help
You could...
~ Post adds around the neighborhood
~ Go to like a Block Party & see if anyone needs a babysitter in your neighborhood.
~ Make an Add in the newspaper
~ Ask your parents to talk to other parents and bring up the topic of babysitting & reccomend you. Word gets around because those people will tell people who will tell more people...(you get the picture!)
~ Babysit for relatives &/or your parents.
Im a sophmore in highschool. There is this girl who I have known for ever and I've always thought of her kind of like a sister. But recently I have started to have deeper feelings for her and don't know what to do. I need to know if there are any signs I could look for to tell if she is interested in me as well, ways I could bring this up in conversation with her that wouldn't be akward, and physical things I could do that wouldn't be too agressive. Thanks.
Start by making a little more eye contact, & see how she reacts to that first. Then if she's staring at you back, advance to real flirting like, arm around the shoulder in the hallway, & when you're not interested in what she has to say, really pretend like you really wanna hear it. Give her more compliments & ask her opinions of things..but don't get too carried away. Tease her a little like...jokes about her but see how she takes it, most girls take it well and joke back but there's always a 50% she won't if she's in a bad mood. So that's a risky one. Offer to help her with homework or something. Just an excuse to hang out with her a little more. Have fun
well im just wondering what would you say if you won an award, ANY award, what would you tell your fans on the stage who to thank what to say and all that lol just wondering you can name whatver award and tell everythig thanks i just wanna hear
You would mention how much the award means to you, how hard you worked for it, & tips for other people to get where you are. Thank God, your family, friends, & fans. Thank everyone who doubted you because that most likely motivated you if you're anything like me! Thank everyone who rejected you because that's how you got there.
Have fun lol :.:Depressed_Poet:.:
Background:-
My party on Saturday. 40 people. All my good friends were allowed to bring people as long as they were responsible for them (this was very clear).
Aime: My friend
Jane: My friend
Ashley: Known her since June. Is at school but came to visit. Brought Mary.
Aaron: Friends with all of us for a year or two. Has been in California since September. Mom is in Seattle and knows that he is here. Dad and stepmom don’t know (he hates them). Has been staying with a friend. He claims to be a thug. Doesn’t have any friends left in town, don’t know why. Brought Katie.
Story at 1:00 AM:-
Aaron: Mary took Jane’s beer from the fridge so he made Mary give him five dollars. Mary was crying. Ashley came up to him raging drunk and flipped. Ashley got into a fight with Katie and Aaron pushed her a little to get her to back off. She was so drunk that she fell over.
Ashley: Aaron took money from Mary by force so she asked him to give it back. Aaron got violent and pushed her. She fell, hit her head and was unconscious.
Everyone else: Not sure but they heard an argument and saw Aaron push Ashley and she passed out. Asked him to leave.
1:15 AM:
I came down and heard what happened. I cut through the forest to find them. I started yelling at Aaron and telling him he was in trouble. I told him to call Ashley and apologize. He said no because Katie was his friend and he brought her to the party so he had to protect her. Katie kept cutting in and saying it wasn’t his fault and stuff. She then named her cousin Justin who who I had heard of vaguely and I informed her that I was not impressed. She told me that she could protect herself and she could hit me if she wanted. I ignored her for the most part but I told her that she should try … and she did. She tackled me to the ground and I was pulling at her hair but she was mostly hitting me and kicking me till I got a nose bleed. Aaron pulled us apart. He told her to run. I dragged him back to my house with me and he tried to take his shirt off to soak up my blood but I refused it.
We got back and Aimie was on the phone talking to Aaron’s stepmom so he peaced it.
3:00:
Aaron’s stepmom and Ashley’s mom showed up at my house. Ashley’s mom took Ashley and left. So did everyone else. Next morning we found Ashley’s wallet empty (it contained credit cards and her Social Security Card) on the side of the road where we fought. Aaron left to California but told a mutual friend that I had started the fight by mouthing off to Katie, then Ashley had come outside to hit Katie and then he pushed her.
So… I have my blood soaked clothes and his blood soaked t-shirt with Katie’s hair on it too (from where I yanked it out) in my bathroom. Either one of them could have taken the wallet. I’m not sure whether I want revenge, I don’t really care. We just need Ashley’s ID back. We found out where Katie lives and her home number.
a) What should we do now?
b) My face has lots of scrapes, how can I prevent them from turning into scars?
A)Call the police, & tell them the whole story about everything especially the part about the ID, SSN (Social Security Number, which by the way... is the worst thing to carry around with you because if someone else finds that they can wipe out EVERYTHING, credit cards, previous accounts, saved information ANYWHERE, they could even get into your bank account!) & credit cards. They will help you investigate the situation further obviously. You can't really do much on your own & it's better to have someone who is trained for this to help you out! =]
B)Most likely they will heal naturally but to be extra safe, put lotion on it every night, just a basic moisturizer for scratches, damaged skin, or dry skin. Or apply it every morning.
And..
C)There really wasn't much else to do in your situation, especially when your adrenaline is rushing & you don't have time to think for the best logical answer or agenda. And as for the revenge, I advise you not to, it will just come back & hit you harder. Now, what I'm about to tell you can tell you A LOT about what person may have taken those things.
Forensics-here's one way of forensic NOBODY else knows about! I'm pretty sure, anyway.
Handwriting. Yep, strange I know. But if you just got a sample of each one of their handwriting & gave it to an expert, they can tell you whether or not they're a criminal. It's crazy, but I know about this because my mom does it for a living. And no matter how much you disguise your handwriting, you still can tell because of the strokes in your writing. And that's impossible to change!
Good luck.