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hey! well me and this girl have been friends since i could remember! im a girl too and i am 13. it use to be that i could talk to her about ANYTHING! but lately i have found that i cant talk to her the same way. now whenever i have some secret to tell her i feel embaressed and usually i just dont tell her at all! she has no idea about how i feel with anything thats going on in my life right now. and i feel like i need to talk to someone....but not her! i start crying a lot lately because of all the stuff thats going on in my life and i feel that if i could talk to someone i would feel muchhhh better. but i cant talk to her. what should i do? its just not the same as before! thanks (link)
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Have you thought about writing to her- a letter or email? By doing this you can get all your thoughts and feelings down in one go without any interruption. Just tell her how you feel and that you are upset because you don't understand what you've done wrong or why she is being like this. I'm sure you will find that she will realise that she's been mean to you. If anything she probably has something she wants to tell you but doesn't know how as she's embarrassed or worried what your reaction will be. Tell her that she is your best friend and that she can tell you anythingbecause of who you are. Best friends keep secrets and don't judge.
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me and my bf have been together for a long time now. we haven't gone very far at all. he loves me and i love him but he is pressuring me into going further. i know for sure i don't want to because im not ready. im 14. i love him tho and i want to make him happy... what do i do? he respects me and everything so its not like he is like DO IT OR I WILL BREAK UP W/ YOU i can just tell he really wants to and he asks me if i will and stuff. sometimes he tries to do stuff and i tell him to stop but he keeps trying. later i talk to him about it and he says he jsut cant help it. ill rate (link)
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If he really respects you then he will wait until you are ready. you have to let him know that the more he is pushing you into going further he is actually pushing you away and making you unhappy. You are still young and the worst thing you can do is do something you are not ready to do just because your boyfriend want s you to. You will feel used by doing so and will DEFINITELY regret it. He obviously really cares for you and finds you really attractive and that compilation will make him want to go further-you have to explain to him that just because you aren't going further with him doesn't mean you feel any less for him-tell him he is the one you want to be with and no one else and by being patient and waiting til you are ready will mean a lot to you. Good luck, and don't worry
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my guy friend came over a little while ago. i like him alot. but he is still getting over a past love and wants to go out with her again when her and her new b/f break up. only thing is i know he likes me. should i make a move or wait for his thing for this other girl to blow over? (link)
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Definitely wait! If you really like this guy thenwait until he has got over his ex. A lot of guys will go on the rebound especially if their ex starts going out with someone else. If you make a move and start seeing him you will always be thinking about his ex,whether he is thinking about her still, wishes he was with her. You will probably compare yourself to her aswell especially if you know he hasn't got over her. If you make a move before he sorts his head out then you will get hurt and things will only become awkward between you two. If you really like him then he will be worth waiting for and your feelings won't go away and neither will his. Let him know that you are there for him whenever he needs to talk , and by doing that you will get to know eachother better and become closer, before anything happens.
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My boyfriend and I had sex about 2 weeks ago almost and on Monday (This passed monday) He didn't have a condom on the first like 10 seconds we did it but then after that he had one on and we didn't finish because I was scared we just stopped. It was a total of about 5 minutes at the most. I woke up on Monday and I went to go to the bathroom and it would burn when I'd pee. So I went to the doctor and she took a urine sample and I just got the test results back today and she said that it was positive for a bacteria. I'm a little scared because I don't know if there is a chance I could be pregnant at all. I was at my least fertile the day we did it but I'm just scared. I've been trying so hard to get information on it and I'm fed up searching countless sites for the answer. Can ANYONE, for the love of GOD PLEASE tell me if coming up positive for a bacteria could be that I am pregnant? I've talked to my boyfriend about and he said that the chances were very low and this was before I got my results back. Can you Please please please tell me if getting your urine sample back as POSITIVE for a BACTERIA could I be pregnant? Thank you SO much if you can help me!! (link)
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No, positive for bacteria means that you might have an infection such as cystitis which is very common, most people will get it at least once in their lifetime. Symptoms include a burning sensation when you pee. Drink loads of water and especially cranberry juice. Couples quite often get this when they first start having sex with their boyfriend especially if they are doing it frequently. I'm pretty sure you won't be pregnant but if you're really worried about it then just take a test! If you're worried about buying one then go to your doctors and they will give you one. Don't worry, you will be absolutely fine! If the doctor thought you might be pregnant then they would have said so immediately.
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For Christmas I may get my belly button peirced, I need to know a few things. Does it hurt? How long until you can change the belly ring. How much do belly button rings cost? Thats it... thanks in advance. (link)
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It depends on your pain threshold-I've been with friends to get theirs done and some found it more painful than others but its only painful for a second as its getting pierced. They spray disinfectant and numbing stuff on it first to make it less painful and its over pretty quickly. As long as you disinfect it, I think it's twice a day, with salt solution and wear a dressing over it to stop it rubbing on your clothes, it will heal quickly and I think you can change it after a month?
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I have been with my boyfriend for three years n still havent got pregant n it is really scaring me because I want a baby now.What shounld I do. (link)
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How long have you been trying for a baby for? A lot of people who are desperate for a baby find they can't conceive because they are so stressed about it and that does affect how your body works. Have you found a book on pregnancy? That give you tips on foods you should eat, excercise you should take, as well as certain times of the month and during the day that it is easier to conceive. The main thing to do is relax and enjoy the fact that you will be a mum at some point. Books and websites have great advice on tips you should take whilst rying to conceive. You can also take daily pills and vitamins which I know some friends took before starting a family. Good luck and don't worry!
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I was thinking about asking this girl out. The only problem is ... Shes my cousin. I mean shes not like my first cousin. Shes my grandmothers nephews daughter. Shes such a hottie. I love her. Is this wrong? Would it be considered incest? please give me your opinions about this. (link)
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Does she feel the same way? The problem is that unfortunately for you she still is considered family and, although you might not think it matters, your family being more old-fashioned-will have a real problem with it. If I were you you would be better off trying to forget about it before anything happens.I know its difficult but it really is in your best interests to do so as well as hers. Good luck
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My exbf chris and I broke up 5 months ago. I broke up with him but heres my problem WE GO TO SCHOOL TOGETHER. He hates me and I honestly dont knw why. I am completly over him and I used to want to be friends with im but I just gave up. Everytime I see him in the halls I get this funny feeling in my stomach. IDK what it is. I am not gonna lie I still care about him, and its like he thinks that its a crime if I care about him. He is sooo mean to me and I try and be nice but it ends up bitting me in the ass. What do I do? Just completly ignore him or what!
Im 15 and a female (link)
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Men are very stubborn and the fact that you broke up with him will have bruised his ego. The best thing for you to do is give him space - I know that is difficult cos youre at school together but the more you see of him right now, the more mean he is going to be. My boyfriend was exactly the same to me. I left him alone for a couple of months and then bumped into him at a party and he apologised for being a jerk but said he needed space and time to get over me and by seeing me every day didn't help and made it worse. I think you are in the same situation so give it some time and leave him alone for a bit and it will get better! Good luck x
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My best friend and I have gotten really close in the past year or so. He is such a sweet heart and I love him to death. He treats me like a queen. Whenever I see him we always make out and stuff. We havent done more then that, but lately I have been like really horny and I just want to seee him and have sex with him. I dont kno what to do? I am always horny. It's practically as bad as a guy. Even if he and I dont have sex I just want to get closer because I am in love with him and I kno that he loves me. What should I do???
**Samantha** (link)
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Are you seeing him? You have to think about the consequences of what would happen if you do sleep with him and the best thing to do would be to talk to him about it. From what you have said, he obviously really likes you but by talking to him then you won't have to worry about what happens after you sleep together-if you do. Sometimes by sleeping with someone-especially a friend, it can change the relationship-I think you can have a brilliant relationship, but as long as you talk first before just sleeping together.
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Okay last night my best friend dylan called me up and we started talking. He told me that his mom wants to put him in rehab bc she found an empty bottle of tekila in his bedroom and the night she found it, he came home drunk. He and I dont see eachother or talk as much as we used to but I know that he smoked weed and drinks. I just dont kno how much he does it. He really worrys me when he tells me things like this and I think that he needs to get checked into rehab or go to a clinic or something. I really am worried about him and IDK how to confront him about what he is doing. I love him and want to help him out, what do I do? (link)
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Does he have any close friends apart from you ar anyone to talk to properly? The best thing to do if you want him to talk to you about it is perhaps to ask his advice about something, real or make-believe. By doing this you are opening yourself up to him and letting him know that you find him important enough to share your secrets and problems with him. By doing this a few times he might start to open up to you more. People who drink and smoke weed are usually unhappy about something and they try and make it go away by soking and drinking. Let me know how it goes or write back if you want to ask anything else
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ok, i have three really good friends that are girls. (lets call the jane, lacy, and kacy) jane goes through guys like a kid eating candy! every week (just about) she calls me to tell me about her new boyfriend. lacy and kacy both are in a long term relationship, and have had a long term relationships before. i have never had a boyfriend, never held hands, kissed.... and i am feeling really left out! one of my guy friends likes my best friend, and i feel so jealous! i dont have a "crush" right now...i dont throw my heart out there. my cousins both have boyfriends, and are bringing them to Christmas at my house. i am feeling really jealous and left out...any tips? what do guys look for in a girl? sorry this is so long...its just very important to me. (link)
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the best thing you can do is just be yourself. Do you ever feel like you have to pretend to act cool or be someone else because you think that will attract guys? You have to learn to love yourself and be relaxed arround them. As soon as you do they will start to relax too and want to get to know you. I am really shy too and quite often people think that the people who seem really stand-offish and stuck-up are the big-headed ones when in fact they are shy just like you and me. I found that after I went out a couple of times with friends who I told my problems to, they helped me relax more. One big thing is to smile loads which I'm sure you do anyway just not when you're nervous. As soon as you smile you will look ten times more happy and approachable. It worked for me and hope it works for you!
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i used to go out with this guy. he wasnt exactly a loser but some ppl thought he was. so i got really insecure about it and stupidly dumped him. this happened about 4 weeks ago. lately i have started to regret dumping him and i miss him so much!! should i tell him this? (link)
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who thiught he was a loser? were they your friends? if they weren't your friends then you shouldn't worry. They are probably fake people who he realises are fake and therefore choses not to be friends with. However, if they are your friends then you need to ask them to try and get to know him. they obviously don't know what he's like and therefore just presume that he's a loser, theat's what most people do. If you really like him then you shouldn't care as it is him that is making you happy and not your friends. Ask them to be more supportive towards what you want. If you want to get back with your boyfriend then explain that you were confused about what you really wanted and say something like you were scared the relationship was moving tooquickly. Don't tell him the real reason as he will be gutted. Good Luck,
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Ok.. hi. See me & my sister are like 9 years apart, she's 23 & I'm 14. She is always talkin bout how I shouldn't be mean to her, but she used to ditch me for her friends & crap. Ok, well, she's all of a sudden wanted to be "sisters" and I'm just like, no. She's all whiny & she's babyish. It really gets on my nerves but, when I wanna spend time with her she's always "busy". Ok well we have alot in common but she wont open up to me & tell me about her problems. She goes & tells mom (BIG mistake). Then mother goes & tells daddy & they talk about her so bad. I dont know what to do! I know I don't like her sometimes but hey, she's my sister. Please help!! (link)
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It's difficult becaus eshe's older than you and so thinks that she has more 'power' over you. You need to stand up for yourself and tell her that you will spend time with her when you want to and not just when she wants.
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okay.. my b/f gave me a condom just in case we went a little too far one time.. and i kept it in a little compartment of my purse that no one really notices.. well when my b/f was over today.. my mom washed that purse! and i walked in the room.. and the zipper for the area was unzipped.. but the condom was still there!! ahh omg! what could i say to make my parents think i'm not having sex?! please answer this! i'll rate 5's to anyone that answers! (link)
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Are you sure she saw it? Has she been acting more weirdly since she washed it? I don't know how old you are but if your parents really were worried about it they would have confronted you by now. If anything they should be pleased that you are showing your sensible side and having a condom in your wallet. You need to find out if she really did find it or not. And if they haven't confronted you then you have nothing to worry about.
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OK, there are 2 parts to this. There is this guy at my school that I really like and I know he likes me back!! But I don't know how to tell him!! I had a crush on him since last year and people say I should ask him out. But you see, I have NEVER been on a date and I'm 13 years old!! Everytime I think about him I feel like I want to kiss him so badly. He just got a haircut and now he looks even cuter, that it's driving me crazy!! OK, the 2nd part is that ever since these 2 girls found out that we liked each other they have been teasing like "So, how's your boyfriend?" He has been acting weird like we used to flirt a lot and he would always smile at me and do nice things to me now he doesn't do that anymore!! Do you think he dosn't like me no more!!?? PLEASE TELL ME!! Sorry it's so long!! (link)
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I think he is probably quite nervous as a relationship is a private thing and these girls are letting everyone know about it. If they say things again just laugh and say whatever but be lighthearted about it. If you see that he has seen the girls being like this towards you then go up to him and just say 'looks like you.ve got some admirers over ther' or something and almost make a joke of it. He will see youre not taking it too seriously and he'l relax. The girls will stop too as they'll see that it doesn't bother you.
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im secretly in love with this guy in my homeroom and science class. his locker is 2 away from mine and he sits pretty close to me in science. (alphabetical order.) anyway, ive never told anyone. not even my best friend. sometimes out of the corner of my eye i see him staring at him. when i look somewhat in his direction his eyes dart away. should i look at him when i think he's staring at me? you know, to see if he really is...thanx! (link)
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If he really is staring at you then yes, he probably does fancy you but is very shy. Perhaps suggest that you help eachother with homework one day, if not just you two then maybe a couple of others too so its not too awkward. That way you can get to know eachother much better!
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I have this really weird fear of phones, I don't know why it is because I'm naturally a very outgoing person and talking to people in public is just fine and dandy, but when I dial somebody's number my heart starts racing and I get all tongue-tied and start blushing. This is really bad considering I have a boyfriend and I believe that communication is key in every relationship. It's especially bad because his phone clicks over to answering machine after two rings so that they can know who it is, and I have a tendency to ramble when I'm on an answering machine. Is there any way I can get over this? I REALLY need to! (link)
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Are you worried about what to say because you are not face to face with them? Practice by writing down what you are going to say before you make the phone call and it will be easier as when ever you then become nervous then look at your piece of paper and get ideas from that. It will get easier I promise, but practice.
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I'm not sure what to give my 1 year old child for breakfast. He is allergic to eggs and I don't think those baby jar foods of mixed cereal and oatmeal fill him up that much. Anyone have any ideas?? (link)
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Mashed up bananas are good, also yoghurt.
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I'm a 15/f and I haven't been interested in dating until recently this year. I'm starting to want to have a boyfriend really badly. Do you think the fact that I am so inexperienced in the "physical" side of love (ive kissed three people but I've never made out or gone beyond that) that no guys will date me. This is the only thing holding me back from dating. Also any tips on easy ways to say no to getting physical soon or telling guys that I've never made out that wont make me seem like to much of a loser?? Thanks! (link)
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You are not alone. In fact the guys you end up being with will most probably be in exactly the same situation as you but not let on that they are! Guys will not be able to tell that you have never made out or gone beyond that. When you get a boyfriend you must remember that most people don't want to go out with someone just so they can be physical all the time. They want to go out with someone because they enjoy being with them more than anything. When it then comes to the physical part then it will come more naturally as you will feel more at ease with them. Write back if you have any more questions about it.
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do you think it'll be hard to babysit 2 kids(grl-3)(the boy-6)on the first time ever havin to babysit? (link)
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It depends how old you are and if you are babysitting them during the day. If during the day you can sit the boy infront of a video or ive him some things to draw or play with. You will have to spend more time with the 3 year old as she will have a short attention span and need to be kept bust doing something all the tim. If its at night,the 3 year old will go to bed early and the 6 year old, not long after that so it will be easier. If you need some ideas of how to keep children of that age occupied easily then write back. Good Luck!
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