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boyfriends and the holidays.....
ok, i have three really good friends that are girls. (lets call the jane, lacy, and kacy) jane goes through guys like a kid eating candy! every week (just about) she calls me to tell me about her new boyfriend. lacy and kacy both are in a long term relationship, and have had a long term relationships before. i have never had a boyfriend, never held hands, kissed.... and i am feeling really left out! one of my guy friends likes my best friend, and i feel so jealous! i dont have a "crush" right now...i dont throw my heart out there. my cousins both have boyfriends, and are bringing them to Christmas at my house. i am feeling really jealous and left out...any tips? what do guys look for in a girl? sorry this is so long...its just very important to me.
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First thing is first, you really dont need a bf rite, but it totally normal to feel like that. yet dont rush things, if a guy was meant to be he will come toward you. just try to be more outgoing and not shy, be yourself, and have confedense. BE YOURSLEF, with a little more flirt, but dont go over the top. Love is a delicate thing, dont go overboard and have someone love you for someone your not, beacause if you do, in the end you will feel worse than you do now.
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Don't stress so much. Make a lot of guy friends if you just want male company, but don't "like" any one. Guy friends are really awesome. They give you sort of a nice yin-yang structure to the relationship, even if it's platonic. And an added bonus, some of the best boyfriends come from guy friends, because you know you'll get along. BUt really, don't stress about not having a Bf, it just complicates things and makes you feel guilty about flirting when you do. Yeah, it can be fun, but it's not all it's cracked up to be. The single life is a lot of fun.
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i'm going threw practically the same thing. All the guys like my best friends, it sucks majorly. I get jealous, alot. I've never had a b/f or anything else you said. I dont like putting my heart out there either. But now I'm getting more open. Just be yourself. Try making more guy friends because most friendships go to relationships.
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the best thing you can do is just be yourself. Do you ever feel like you have to pretend to act cool or be someone else because you think that will attract guys? You have to learn to love yourself and be relaxed arround them. As soon as you do they will start to relax too and want to get to know you. I am really shy too and quite often people think that the people who seem really stand-offish and stuck-up are the big-headed ones when in fact they are shy just like you and me. I found that after I went out a couple of times with friends who I told my problems to, they helped me relax more. One big thing is to smile loads which I'm sure you do anyway just not when you're nervous. As soon as you smile you will look ten times more happy and approachable. It worked for me and hope it works for you!
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Don't worry about, it's just you haven't found the right guy yet! Just start meeting new people! Try to make guys notice you! Try not to be shy, guys don't like that! Just be yourself and not any thing else! Guys love self-confidence! If you have other guy friends, flirt with them if they don't have girlfriends! See, I'm 14 and I haven't had a real boyfriend yet and I know one day, he will come! Everyone is meant for someone so one day, you will meet that someone! If you ever need someone to talk to about this, feel free to ask me any of your questions! Hope I helped! Good luck sweetie :)
-Karen
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