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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Laura!




--Jack

advice

what are some really funny your tube videos? your favorites?

Here are a few of my favorites:

Harry Potter Puppet Pals: The Mysterious Ticking Noise:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=Tx1XIm6q4r4

Shoes.. its really old.. but still funny:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=SMF2Eb0Wa_I

Love Letters:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=QWXUi8fOJA4

Muffins... this is my favorite one!:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=MNxwAU_xAMk

Hard-Hitting Questions:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=HW5wXjdUJyk

Enjoy!

--Jack
(15/m)

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is there any way that you can make your info on aim unavailable to a certain group of people on your buddy list? i have the orriginal aim and my mom wants to get a screen name so she can have another way to contact me and my info has stuff in it that she wouldn't approve of so if i put her into a certain category on my buddy list can i make my info unavailable to her?

No, sorry. You can't block certain people from seeing you information. If you really don't want your mom to read it, just get rid of it.
Sorry again.

--Jack
(15/m)

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About 2 weeks ago my xboyfriend said he wanted to be friends and I was fine with that. We broke up about 4 weeks ago but ever since we had been friends he been wanting to have sex

I don't know what your question is, but I'm assuming you're asking what you should do.
Tell him no. I mean, if you want to be "friends with benefits", then go right ahead, but it seems really shallow of him to break up with you [not meaning that he necessarily did it, you may have broken up with him, but regardless...] and then he wants to have sex with you. Obviously he's just going to be using you for sex, and why would you want that? He knows that being "friends with benefits" has no commitment, while dating someone does.
So, I wouldn't do it, but do what you want.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I don't have many extra curricular activities
All I have is: field hockey, piano, track, lacrosse, and a lottt of community service hours.
I also speak three languages fluently, but I don't think that's an extra curricular activ.
Does anybody know if this is enough to get me into a GOOD college, like UCLA. My GPA is also a 3.8.
Any other extra curricular activies I could do?

Well, I don't know whether you're a girl or guy, but if you are under 18.. and about 15 or 16.. you could always get involved in the Boy Scouts or Girl Scouts... colleges are really impressed by those.
You could volunteer at a local elementary school and set up a homework help program. If you set it up, that would also be impressive.
If you really want to.. you could become involved in another sport, like soccer, basketball, or whatever.
Student Council wouldn't be a bad idea. That shows leadership and dedication.
I'd say your GPA is really good, and as long as you score really well on your SAT, you're golden.

Ask your counselor if you think you may need more ECAs.
Good luck!

--Jack
(15/m)

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On Facebook, I have a 9.8 avg rating for the application Hot or Not.
However, I did get a 1 & 2, but the rest were like 7-10s, but with the 1 and 2, my avg was really a 7.5? Sooo why did it say 9.8?

Most of the applications on Facebook have kinks.. and the "Hot or Not" is no different. Its added it wrong, or something. Try going onto the application's page, and post a topic [not a wall post] about how your rating is messed up. I'm sure the creator is working on getting the kinks out!

--Jack
(15/m)

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well, i'm coming to you with this because you always seem to know what you're talking about. i'm thirteen, turning 14 in less that two weeks. i'm very mature for my age. and my brother has this friend mike, he's 17. me and brother get along really well so i hangout with him and his friends sometimes. well i have been a lot and i'm really getting into Mike. We're okay, like we talk sometimes on myspace and aim. but not often. i just need some advice on how to impress him. and make him notice me as a person instead of his friends sister.. if you get what i'm saying? sorry if this is long. thanks in advanca, and i appreciate it.

Well, first.. thank you for coming to me. I really appreciate it!

This is a tough one... Whenever I see a question like this, I normally just rate it [a Level 1 Moderator's job] and move on. I do this because normally my answer would be, "Be yourself around him, and just let things happen," but it always seems that that answer just isn't enough.
I guess you could always magnify your current self.. so like things you do [lets take laughter for example] and either do it more, or do it more noticeably.

I really feel like I'm not helping you much.. and you probably feel the same way...

So... I'm going to refer you to a few of my favorite columnists:

LaUgH_OuT_LoUd_x0x -- She is the best! She will probably help you a lot!! http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=LaUgH_OuT_LoUd_x0x

help4ualwayz17 -- She can probably help as well!
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=help4ualwayz17

and

Igotamonopoly -- She will help too..
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Igotamonopoly

or any of my favorite columnists on my column!

Just remember that you shouldn't ask more than one or two columnists OR the pool [everyone]. I wouldn't want you to get banned!

Sorry I wasn't much help.. hopefully you can get help from someone else.

--Jack
(15/m)

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http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=13
How come you're allowed to ask yourself a question? Why would you do thaaat?
I understand that you CAN ask yourself a question, but why doesn't it result in your banning?

I guess maybe its to establish that you can give advice.. or maybe some general questions you see.. you can ask yourself, then answer them. Then I guess you could post the link, so that people can view them.. and they can see the answer without having to ask it like everyone else.

And you can't rate yourself, so it doesn't affect your rating.

I don't see why it would result in one's banning.

--Jack
(15/m)

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my boyfriend and i had sex and he ejeculated a lot ON my vagina. not in it..but could i still get pregnant? please help me out..

Yes. Anytime sperm gets even near your vagina, you could be pregnant, as it very well could have gotten in your vagina. The only way to know for sure is to take a pregnancy test.

Please, next time, use protection.

--Jack
(15/m)

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How do you break up with someone who really really loves you, without hurting them? How can you let them know that they're really great, but you just can't be with them?

Just like that. Tell them what you just told us. Sit them down and just break the news to them. There isn't really another way to do that other than to be completely honest. And it should be in person.. doing it over the phone or online is the LAMEST thing you could do.
I told my ex-girlfriend straight up.. with a little explanation.. but my mind was so jumbled.. things I said weren't true.. and they ended up biting me in the butt later.. So basically she ended up think I was using her.. which wasn't true...
So the point.. write down what you want to say.. and you don't have to read it, just know what you're going to say before you say it.

Good luck. I know what you're going through is going to be VERY tough. If you need any more help.. feel free to post in my inbox. I will do my best to help you out.. I know you'll need all the support you can get.

--Jack
(15/m)

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is there any way to get music on your ipod without using itunes? because it wont download on my computer:if there is how do i do it?
thanks in advance! :)

No. I'm sorry. The only way to get music onto your iPod is to have iTunes. They are meant for each other. Sorry.

--Jack
(15/m)

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i have been dating this guy for over a year & i love him alot and don't want to be with any guy besides him. but, i look at other guys - i talk to them, flirt, etc... and i think it would be fun to kiss one of them, hook up with one of them.. but i don't want to be with them, i just want to be with my boyfriend. i want to be like, a slut for a day, but not a slut.. but i still want my boyfriend.

what should i do?

Don't do that. You'll regret it if you cheat on your boyfriend for "just one day". He'll get mad and your relationship you apparently love will be done with. Don't make the mistake. If you want to make out with someone, do it with your boyfriend. If you love him, why would you do that? I know you have urges.. but don't act on them, please, whatever you do.. be faithful to your boyfriend.. don't give in.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Hey, I just read a question on here asking how long a surf bracelet takes to shrink and I was wondering, what is a surf bracelet? Thank you!

only search advicenators.com


http://www.jewelryindonesia.com/bracelet-3-bali-surfer-jewelry/bali-surfer-jewelry.html

Maybe that site will help. Please next time, google it.

--Jack
(15/m)

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okay so about a week ago this guy fingered me, and afterwards he jacked off to himself.afterwards maybe a couple hours later he fingered me again. i don't think he washed his hands after he jacked off so could this mean that i may be pregnant?

Possibly. If he didn't wash his hands, he can't of gotten all the sperm off of his hands [that is if he got it on his hands]. That being said.. he did finger you after this, and even though it was many hours later, you still have the chance to be pregnant. The only way to know if you are pregnant for sure is to take a pregnancy test.
Next time, tell the guy to wash his hands.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I have this friend. He is cute, nice and we were going out for a year. I gave him my e mail adress, cause he wanted it. Than he emailed me right before I went on vacation. Than i didn't get back to him for a while. Then when i got back i emailed him and a week later he still hasn't replied. I dont want to call him or send him too many more e mails but I want him to email me back. What should I do?

I agree with TiNA_DUH. Wait it out. You did the same thing to him, maybe he's thinking you don't check your email often, so he doesn't feel the need to respond right away. Maybe your email didn't send right. Maybe he hasn't checked his email lately. Maybe he's waiting to think of the right thing to say.
You never know.. the best thing to do is to wait.

--Jack
(15/m)

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well don't take this the wrong way because im NOT slut at all...i'm 17 almost 18 and i've been with 2 guys..but i always ask myself this question... if you have a boyfriend and you have sex frequently not like ALL THE TIME but about once a week..sometimes less then that and then u guys break up and u don't have sex with anyone for a couple months does like the whole in your vagina get smaller and tighter again? i don't wanna sound nasty or anything but i was really just thinking about this question and i couldn't find the answer on the internet.

I believe it stays the same. It is what it is. It isn't like when you get your ear pierced and then not have an earring in it.. and the hole gets smaller.

I could be wrong, though.

--Jack
(15/m)

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is there a way you can block people on here??

No, but you can have the option to not see columnists that have under a certain rating on search pages.

If you have a problem with someone, file an abuse report here: www.advicentors.com/abuse.php

--Jack
(15/m)

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i have the honesty box application [on facebook] & i was just wondering, is it REALLY true that no one can ever find out what you said in the honesty box?

i thought i cracked it - someone sent me a message and i put my mouse over the "???" and a link came up on the bottom of the screen (in the gray part - it says Done). i wrote down the link & tried going to the site, thinking it was the link of whoever posted it, but it didn't work.

can you figure out who sent you something that way?

thanks so much.

No. You really CANNOT find out who said what. It REALLY is true. Really.

And no you can't do that to find out, because its 100% confidential.

--Jack
(15/m)

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are you a virgin? if not what age did you loose it? because you sound expirienced

I am a virgin. I don't plan on losing it until I am married.

And do I really sound experienced? With what?

Haha. Thanks.. I'm flattered.

--Jack
(15/m)

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My friend called me yesterady and told me that she just got done having sex while on her period. The boy cummed inside her and she wanted to know if she pregnant.
Can you get pregnant if you have sex on your period and the boy cummed inside of you?

Anytime sperm enters the vagina without a contraceptive, and even with, there is a chance of pregnancy.

--Jack
(15/m)

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lol okay im 16/f and i like my friend whom i known since i was 4. and i talked to him in 7th grade. and then yesterday on myspace. and i like him a lot.and we might hangout at the mall. and im not sure if i should tel him yet that i like him.because im afraid he'll get scared. because i notice guys do get scared when u tell them you like them or something. what should i do?

Is he your friend or just someone you've talked to in 7th grade and yesterday?

If friend:
You should be honest with him.. if you can't be honest with him.. how can you expect that he'll be honest with you? I think you should tell him.. and yeah.. in person is probably the best.. rather than over AIM, MySpace, or whatever. Just sort of ease into it.. don't suddenly say "Oh yeah! I like you!" when you first see each other. Maybe ask him if he likes anyone, then he'll probably ask the same about you.

If acquaintance:
I probably wouldn't tell him right away. Maybe get to know him a little better and see how it works out.

Either way, he'll do that "scared" thing you're talking about. Its perfectly natural. If you tell a guy that you like him, he probably wasn't expecting it, and will be a little flustered at first. If he doesn't seem to want to continue with that subject, change it, and maybe act like you didn't say anything for awhile. Maybe soon he'll open up to you. Who knows.. maybe he'll realize he likes you too!

--Jack
(15/m)

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