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Breaking up is hard to do
How do you break up with someone who really really loves you, without hurting them? How can you let them know that they're really great, but you just can't be with them?
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Exactly that. Just be casual about it, and tell him the truth, because he deserves nothing more. Don't lie about it, don't try to sugarcoat it, just tell it how it is.
There's no easy way to breakup. Sorry babe =/
But good luck!!
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i really think there's no easy way to leave someone who really loves you but if you dont love him then your hurting him even more by being with him un willingly hope this helps,y-vet
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I think if you are going to break up with him, he deserves to hear it face to face.
You can't break up with him without hurting him, but you will only hurt him worse in the long run if you stay with him for all the wrong reasons. Because you don't want to hurt him is about as wrong a reason as one can have to stay with someone.
Just tell him like you said it- he's really great, but you can't be with him any longer. Tell him you just don't feel for him as does for you, and because you respect him, you refuse to waste anymore of his time and yours.
Tell him he deserves to be with someone who harbors the same feelings for him, and you deserve to find someone to feel that way about.
ygs-29/f
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this is always been a problem of mine. in fact, the reason my relationships are so long, is because i've always waited around for the guy to break up with me. but here's what i've told my friends to do in the past:
i personally think writing it out is so much easier. that way, you get your word in, and you won't forget your points (it's so much easier to forget what you want to say when you're under pressure, like that).
if writing is not for you, make sure you two are alone when you do it. that way, it's less embarassing.
make sure of two main things. let him have a say. this dosen't mean, let him get his way. but it does mean that he deserves a chance to say what's on his mine, aswell. also, make sure your reasons for breaking up are all true, and fairly straightforward. don't go around things; be completly honest! i've learned this the hard way, because you end up having to lie in the future. for example, if it's not true, don't say you don't want a boyfriend at the moment, or you don't want to date, or something like that..
you could tell him that you think he's amazing, but you two arent' exactly compadible anymore.
really, the whole thing is to be honest. try to list the reasons to yourlself, and then write out what you'd like to say in a calm, kind manner.
really, write it out as if someone else were writing it to you. think about how you would feel reading it, i guess..
i know this has been long, but i really hope it helps you out, somehow!
best of luck!!!
xoxo
kat.
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Just like that. Tell them what you just told us. Sit them down and just break the news to them. There isn't really another way to do that other than to be completely honest. And it should be in person.. doing it over the phone or online is the LAMEST thing you could do.
I told my ex-girlfriend straight up.. with a little explanation.. but my mind was so jumbled.. things I said weren't true.. and they ended up biting me in the butt later.. So basically she ended up think I was using her.. which wasn't true...
So the point.. write down what you want to say.. and you don't have to read it, just know what you're going to say before you say it.
Good luck. I know what you're going through is going to be VERY tough. If you need any more help.. feel free to post in my inbox. I will do my best to help you out.. I know you'll need all the support you can get.
--Jack
(15/m)
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