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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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what does it mean to feather your bangs? pictures please :]

I heard Google is a good way to get information when you don't know something.

14/f

i think i developed bulimia around last november. ever since thanksgiving i've been throwing up like everything i eat. i used to binge but i stopped and i try to only eat when i absolutely have too. but today i ate some chips, freaked out and purged and i threw up some blood. i'm scared. it's never happened to me before. what happened? what do i do? i don't think i can stop i really can't. if i do i'm afraid i'll get really fatter.
i'm like 5'6" and last time i checked 121 pounds. normally i check everyday but i've been afraid to lately. i don't know what to do. i'm scared. my mom kinda knows about it but she's only said something to me twice. i don't get how i could overcome this. how?

any advice?

thanks so much.

You need to see a counselor and a doctor. You need help. Bulimia is a serious disorder & you're just now getting scared? What the hell is wrong with you? Oh wait..

Just see a doctor & get help before you kill yourself.

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Hi, there is this one girl I like but she acts like a complete playerette. Pretty sure she makes up most of what she says but not positive. Just wondered if you had some tips for dealing with her and talking to her. Other than that she is pretty cool. Thank you.

If you think she's a liar, then you need to call her out & make her look stupid. Chances are though, she'll have an excuse for everything she says.

If she is in fact a liar, don't associate with her. She'll end up hurting you & then lying to you about it.

how come whenever i put up an AIM away message then i look at my profile to see it, the away message says "No Information Provided"?

There might be something wrong with your AIM, or your computer.

Either do a virus check or download a new version of it.

DoES ANYONE KNOW if the music video of true freinds are her real best freinds or just actors/actresses

They're her dancers, but she's friends with them too.

okay so to go on with my other question, i just foudn out that one of my friends has like a sickness or whatever. like something wrong wiht his stomach. and also the doctor said that approxuimated time he'll die is 31... what do you think it is? i mean, i really care about him. we really dont talk but i actually kind of like him.

if you hav ean idea of what the sickness is , please tell me. and also what it does.

thanks alot.

Honestly, by what you told us, nobody can really tell you.

It also makes me question the doctor. What kind of doctor says someone has a sickness, but doesn't say the name? o.O He might wanna not be a doctor.

22/f

Well we had to stop at the gas station for gas and she looks in the rear view mirror and says she sees a cute guy with a motorcycle behind me. I go to look and they had already walked into the store. So I start to fill my car up and she goes inside. Well the guy came outside and I was able to get a look at him. and yes this guy is very cute. Well it turns out I knew the guy from a play we did together way back and I go up and give him a hug and we start talking. Everything going fine and my friend comes back outside and loudly says "I didn't know you knew cute biker guy" I wanted to kill her! Not sure if he heard her or not. I ignored her and introduced them and we had to get going because our food was getting cold. She found it hilarious ERRRR!!
so any ideas would help me out. nothing drastic but just to settle the score. please let me know. I need everyone's ideas

I think that if you're over 18, this is a little immature. I would expect this from someone my age, and maybe a little younger, but you're well over an adult & you should know better.

Your friend told the guy you thought he was cute. SO WHAT? Honestly, it's a good thing she let him know what you thought of him. He might always think you're cute as well, so in a way, she did you a favor.

It's a little childish to wanna get back of her, don't you think?

Why do sleeping pills have warning labels that state :'Caution: May Cause Drowsiness? because we know that its a sleeping pill desgined for that purpose? or is it just there in case they might get sued or whatevre like mcdonalds put "caustion: hot" on their coffee

Because then people who have no common sense get hurt & cause unncessary lawsuits.

Is Hayley from Paramore married?
Cause i heard that she was, but im not sure if its true...

thanks

No. She may be legal to marry, but I'm pretty sure she's too busy with her career & her band to think about marriage.

Just wanted to say thank you because me and the guy I liked talked about intersting things. And I suppose he wanted to get to know me more then what he know's now. Today we didn't talk that much and didn't talk on the phone. Do you think he think's I'm wierd or doesn't want to talk to me no more? I don't know why. And I wonder if he's mad at me. We didn't talk about anything bad yesterday only the positve stuff.

No problem. =)

He may not have called you because something came up, one of his friends came over or he was just busy. Don't assume that he's mad at you because he probably isn't & he probably doesn't think you're weird.

If you have his number, call him. Don't always rely on the guy to call. A relationship is a two-way street.

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The guy that I liked told me to call him later on. Why do you think he told me to call him? We talk we're friends we sit next to each other in two classes. Except for today though. And what do you think we should talk about I can't think of anything. Thank you. Very much.

There could be a lot of reasons why he told you to call him. Maybe he wanted to talk about school, or get the homework in case he missed it & didn't hear what it was. Maybe he just wants to talk as friends. Maybe he likes you & wants to ask you out. There's a million possibilities as to why he asked you to call, but feel lucky that he did ask you. =) It shows he's interested & probably wants to get to know you better than what he does now.

As for things to talk about, here are some topics:

- School.
- Music.
- Friends.
- Family.
- Sports.
- Movies.
- Food.
- Hobbies.

With school, you can ask how it's going for him. You can ask if he likes it so far, if he doesn't, what classes he has & doesn't have, what teachers he has & if he likes them or not, what lunch he has..etc. There's a lot of possibilities for that, so that's a pretty broad topic.

Talk about music! Ask him what his favorite bands are, or what type of music he likes. Ask if he goes to concerts or if he'd just rather jam out at home. Stuff like that. Music is a fun topic to talk because you can really debate about artists & genres and stuff like that.

Friends could be a good topic too. You have friends he probably doesn't, and the same goes for him. Talk about what you guys do with your friends, where you like to go & what you like to do with them. Stuff like that. =) Same goes for family.

Sports is good too, especially because he's a guy. If you like sports, let him know that because then you guys will have something in common & can discuss them.

Movies are fun to talk about. You can ask him what his favorite one is, or what movies he'd like to see this weekend [or just in general]. You can also ask what movies he'd never watch & why. Things like that can generally be associated with movies. You can also ask him who his favorite actor/actress are.

Food's cool too. Ask what he likes & doesn't like. What are his favorites? What would he never touch when it comes to food, stuff like that. Guys love food [and so do I] so that'd be a good topic, but it'd get me hungry after a while, haha.

& finally, you can talk about hobbies! Ask him what he likes to do when he's got time to just relax, tell him the things you like to do. Maybe you can find some common ground & do those things together.

If the conversation goes well, ask him to hangout this weekend or after school. I'm sure he won't decline. I'm sorry I answered so late! I hope this comes in handy though. =) Good luck!

i went out with this kid for 7 months and we broke up about 4 monhts ago. all of our friends are friends so its kinda awkward when we all hang out. now school just started and were in the same homeroom, lunch, and spanish. i still have feelings for him, but i dont think he has any for me. i at least want to be friends with him because i just miss talking to him and i think that we could be really good friends. The only thing is i don't know how to go about to this. Like, we talk alot on the computer but never in person. i want to go back out with him but i think i need to start off by just being friends and then getting more and more flirtier once were comftorable again...the problem is i dont know how to start talking to him.
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Well, I already see positive situations for you to talk. You said that you talk online really well. That's good & that should make it a lot easier to talk in person...not harder?

Honestly, just go up to him & say hi. Ask him how his classes are, what he likes so far, what he doesn't like, if he has cool teachers, etc. Start that as a basis for conversation & then keep it going. Once you're comfortable to talking in person again, then you can talk about more stuff like you do online.

Eventually, you'll get to being good friends again & you can hopefully discuss the reasons why you broke up [in case things aren't clear; that happened with me and an ex. He thought the feelings for break-up were mutual & that's why he didn't bother to try & get back together.] & see what else happens. Eventually, you'll become closer & whatever & keep going further. Also, when you see yourself becoming good friends, ask him to hang out outside of school together. It can be a group thing or it can be alone, whichever you think is better for the time. For right now, I'd say a group thing because alone time right now could be a little awkward & maybe a little weird too.

Start hanging out some & then see if he develops feelings. Don't have your friends ask though. It's a lot easier on you, yeah, but I'm pretty sure a guy/girl would much rather hear the question from you & not someone else. It's more mature to ask someone if they like you yourself rather than having a friend do it. I hope I helped in some bit...Good luck!

where do you all work? (i am looking for suggestions just seeing where everyone else is)

As much as I dread saying these words, I'll say them anyways: I have no job. I consider my column my job.

However, there are loads of jobs out there, however it depends on the store. I'm not sure how old you are or even if you're a male/female since you didn't specify, but I'll give you some jobs I think are suitable for a teenager around 16/17 years old.

You could work at places like:

- Hot Topic.
- Journey's.
- Pac Sun.
- American Eagle.
- Victoria's Secret.
- FYE.
- Rue 21.
- 5.7.9.
- Wet Seal.
- Lola.
- Zumies.
- Abercrombie & Fitch.
- Hollister.
- Charlotte Russe.
- H&M.
- Spencer's.
- Best Buy.
- McDonald's.
- Burger King.
- Arby's.
- Pizza Places [Pizza Hut, Papa John's, Domino's, etc].
- Wendy's.
- Dollar Tree/Store/King/Whatever.
- Petco!
- PetSmart.
- KB Toys.
- Lola.
- Dots.
- Movie Theatre.
- BlockBuster.
- Subway.
- A local grocery store.
- Library. [I have a girlfriend who works there, & it's not volunteer work. She actually gets paid a good amount of money, so you might wanna check & see if they have positions available.]
- Walgreens.
- Rite-Aid.
- Dunkin Donuts.
- Tim Hortons.
- Krispy Kreme.
- Denny's.
- EB Games.
- Starbucks. [They hire at 18, though.]
- A cookie shop @ the mall.
- An ice cream shop.
- Applebee's.
- Taco Bell.
- Popeye's.
- KFC.

Places like that usually hire around 16, sometimes 15 if you're lucky. I would apply to places to like that & keep calling them & bugging them. You'll get an interview when you're persistent & you'll eventually get the job. Good luck!

in all of the VMA commercials on MTV they have the same song playing in the background with a really cool beat to it.

does anybody know the song they are playing?

It could be a load of songs since every commercial I've seen has a different song. Or maybe I'm just imagining things.

It could be Crushcrushcrush by Paramore, so you could try & check that out. I'll try to listen to the music on the commercials today when I watch Newport Harbor & The Real World & I'll edit my answer & let you know. So keep checking back to this during the day.

are guys supposed to be shaved "down there"?

No, but it's a personal decision. Just like it is for us.

does anyone here have clinical depression or bipolar or something like that? ever since i was 9 i had fits of serious mood drops. i even tried commiting suicide at 13 (i have no idea how i survived i took a new bottle of asprin and panadol and a whole box of capsul medicine i didn't know what for -probably dad's coz he has diabetes and cholesterol and HBP- anyway i went to bed and woke up as if nothing happened)
then i tried it again but my sister had beat me up to take it (she's basically my mom... my mom's so passive... scared my dad wud blame her for screwing up the family)....

oh and the reason i'm asking about bipolar is that i usually get weired mood swings. i am so depressed and misrable and aloof all through the day but get so hyper at night and try to kid with my family and they just say i am weired....

also recently, my first time away from home, i went with a bunch of my friends for about 4 months and i totally went crazy. no boundaries no fear of danger no nothing. then i went home i was fine but my younger brother told my parents and so now new rules even though i am away from home... its basically house arrest or with my probation officer (my dumb annoying brother).

so i am not sure if it is my home condition or if i have something wrong with me :s .... i cant go to a shrink because me parents will freak out. and as i've said i can't leave without someone with me....

i get really upset if i THINK i did something stupid in front of friends and family and i end up getting so depressed because of it, moping for days and just staying in bed.... i have a fear that people will think i am stupid and just leave me.. i admit i had a very.. well complex childhood. we had money but its not about that... i knew i was different from the day i was born... my parents say i am spoiled, oversensitive, dramatic, complex.......

oh plus we have depression and bipolar running in the family... uncle and aunt and my older bro (though i sometimes think it was either from his surgery he suddenly went crazy, or he wasn't and dad just pretended he was and put hem in with all his connection so he could stop interfering with the business...)

what are the odds of me having it!?

and what can i do to find out?

--
Scarborough, Ontario, ca

I suffer from depression, and am currently suffering from it right now. =( I might be bi-polar, but I'm not going to say I am simply because I'm not a doctor, and can't diagnose myself. Plus mood swings are pretty normal when you're a teenager because your hormones are rushing around & making you weird. However, mine can be a little severe.

Anyways, I would highly suggest that you see a doctor to see if you have these things. You cannot self-diagnose because you're not a doctor & websites with a list of symptoms won't help either. It's okay to suspect you have something, but to say you have it without getting it checked out would be stupid. Even if your parents would freak out & pounce more rules on you, you should definitely tell them about how you're feeling. If you don't, these problems you've got are just going to get worse & you'll dig yourself a deeper hole. With that, I suggest you tell them because if you care about yourself & your health, you'll want to fix this. Depression & Bi-Polar aren't exactly things you should mess around with. If not treated, they only get worse & could get potentionally dangerous to you & those around you.

Tell your parents sweetheart. They're going to get scared & freak out, but your parents love you & no parent wants to see their kids sad or upset for whatever reason, so they will definitely get you the help that you need. I hope you decide to see a doctor, and remember that there are always counselors at school that are free in case you're tight on money. I hope you get the help you need. Good luck!

I found out my wife is cheating on me and she is pregnant with this other guys baby whats the most worst way to get back at her? And trust me she deserves it.

You punch her in the ovaries.

Then you divorce her.

What are some good creative convincing words to use for these questions?
1 State your qualifications as a captain [[team leader]]

2 How do you want to be remembered by your teamates after the season?

I need this by like 7 30 please help!!!

I've never been on any sort of team before, so I'm gonna try & help as best as I can, but please know ahead of time that I probably won't be that great at this.

Anyways, I can't answer number one. I don't know your skills or whatever, so I can't really tell you what to put for that. If I was on a team though, and I thought I'd be a good captain, I'd put that I was a good leader, I was respectful, nice, and I had good skills that could probably lead the team to victory all season.

As for two, I can answer that one.

[2] I want to be remembered as the person everyone had fun with & that everyone liked. I want to be remembered as the team leader, the person that gave us everything & helped with everything. I wanna be remembered as the spunky kid who gave her all & gave her wit in order to qualify for everything.

Stuff like that. I hope you make captain, and I hope I helped!

What's EXACTLY dry humping and why does it feel good? Can it give you or your boyfriend an orgasm?

Thanks :) xo

It's sex with your clothes on.

I'm not sure why it feels good, but I'm pretty sure it can give you an orgasm.

any new rap or hip hop songs only new please like really new. i also like remixes thanks

Songs on the left, artist on the right.

Crank Dat Soulja Boy - Soulja Boy.
Same Girl - R.Kelly & Usher.
Same Girl Remix - R.Kelly, T-Pain & Usher.
I'm The Shit - Hurricane Chris.
Ay Bay Bay - Hurricane Chris.
Coffeeshop - Young Joc.
Whine Up - Kat Deluna & Elephant Man.
Wipe Me Down [I don't know who it's by]

I'd give you more, but I honestly don't know any. I'm more into Rock music, but I know of those because my brother's a hxc gangster & listens to rap, haha.

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