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My toes are hairy.. what should i do about that? (im a chick)

Everyone has hair on their body, it's normal and natural.
It's just the fact that some people make a lot of effort to get rid of it.
If you don't like it, remove it! (shave, wax, etc)

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do all girls masturbate and some just dont admit it? or do many really not do it?

Works both ways. Some probably don't want to admit it because, well, it's personal. and some just don't do it. Then you get the ones who don't care who knows...
Same as guys.
Not every person in the world masturbates... especially when they have a partner they're sexually active with.

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What made you want to start putting your pics online for everyone to see?

"Everyone" can't see all of them, only certain people can, so it's not that bad. Basically, It's just to show fun times and how I've changed. Nothing more, nothing less. :)

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So I have some stretch marks on my sides.. not horrible, like not at all, I mean i guess they are noticable but whatever..
I'm wondering if it would be bad if I had a tattoo over them? Like could you tell there are stretch marks there? I mean i understand that it might be more raised than opposed to the other skin but yeah .. just wondering what would happen and if it would still look good and if anyone of you have that??

If they're not that bad, then getting tattoos over could actually be a nice cover up job, I've seen plenty tattoos over stretch marks. Some do justice.. however, some don't.. depending on the stretch marks of course.
As with all things like this though, you will need to go to a reputable tattoo parlour and have their say on the matter.

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in you're opinion, do you think a person means it when they tell their gf/bf that they love them when they're drunk? Serious, honest answers, please, thank you!

It can go a few ways..
Alcohol might be an excuse for some people, meaning, they need a bit of dutch courage to say it, because they're scared of the reaction they will get.
Others blab things they do mean, just not at the best times..
Then you get the people who don't really care what they say at that particular moment and just say things, without necessarily meaning it.

I think it's a load of bull when people say alcohol brings always brings out the truth in people. Sometimes it can..but it's not something you can 100% go by. I've had plenty of occasions with friends blabbing on about crap when intoxicated, lots of it not actually true.. I've probably done the same in the past, too, depending how much drink was involved!

So, it depends on the person etc.
Personally, if this happened to me, I'd bring it up when they're sober, ask if they remember saying it and if they meant it.

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How do I hack a facebook profile?

Sorry, you can't. If there was a way to do this, everyone would be hacking each other.. and that wouldn't be pretty!
If you're trying to get your own password after being hacked, go to lost password to try and recover it.. if still no luck, you can contact Facebook to try to retrieve it. You will however, need to prove it is you.

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I know you would think that a girl would know her own body or something but when my girl friends talk about their clitorus I just kind of giggle and go along with whatever they are talking about because I have no idea! I know every girl has one but I don't know where mine is or even what it looks like to find it!

Can you help me out here? Is the clitorus on the inside or the outside?? Anything helpful?

You can't miss it. It's on the outside, in the middle, at the top:

Here is a diagram:

http://www.macmillan.org.uk/Cancerinformation/Livingwithandaftercancer/Relationshipscommunication/Sexuality/Femalesexorgans.gif

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I overheard my cousin on the phone talking to his friend and he said he was around this girl he likes and he got a boner or he wanted to bone her or something. So what would that mean? What is a boner? Or did I just hear it wrong?

A boner is a slag word for an erection.

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I just started using tampons so please don't be mean to me if this is something everybody already knows! Can you pee with a tampon in?

So, if you can how do you keep from peeing on the tampon string?

Thank you

Of course you can, you urinate from a different hole anyway.
You may get it on the string, so you might want to hold it, or just change it every time you need to urinate.

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I just broke up with my long-distance boyfriend 2 days ago because I couldn't handle the distance. I really do still love him, and I'm not handling the break up well.

We decided mutually to be friends, but it's not really working. He's being unusually mean to me (which is to be expected I guess, since it's only been 2 days). This is too hard on me, and every time I end a call with him I end up crying. My feelings for him are still strong, but I do want to stick with my decision. Today we planned to chat at a certain time, and it's about 2 hours past & he's nowhere to be found.

My question is: should I cut off all contact? I really would like to be friends, but I can tell it is clearly going to take me some time. Also, if I do decide to cut all contact..should I tell him or just do it?

Btw, I'm leaning more towards the 'just doing it' option, without telling him, because after I talk to him it usually leaves me wanting to talk to him again. If I just stop contact, I won't have a chance to talk to him first. My only concern with this option is that when I am ready to be friends (maybe a month or so down the line), he won't want to speak with me/be my friend because I did the no contact thing without telling him. Ahh, please any advice would help!! I just want to be happy again. Thank you.


You got it in one. It's too soon to be friends on this occasion. Some people break up and get on fine after, some people cut off all contact permanantly and others take time to be friends.

To be honest, if I were in your position, after breaking up with him, I wouldn't be calling him up and making set times to speak anyway. Especially since its only been 2 days. If you 2 are to speak, it shouldn't really be planned.
Perhaps if you're both online at the same time, maybe say hey, or see if he wants to start a conversation first. Just try not to hassle him, it must be hard for him still having you call him up etc, knowing you aren't with him any more.
I doubt I'd cut off all contact either, especially if I wanted to be friends in the long run. I'd just tone it down, a lot and maybe wait to see if he speaks to me first.

Things take time, don't rush it.

I remember with an ex of mine, I did the no contact thing for a few weeks and we turned friends after and are still good friends now.. but since this is long distance, you won't get that opportunity to bump in to him and if you delete his contacts.. then you may have deleted him for good.

Hope this helps in some way.

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nice way of letting someone know you're not interested in them? besides saying that they're like a brother

By not beating around the bush!
You don't need to think up some long winded, sugar coated speech to let someone know you're not interested. You can't help how you feel.
Just say something simple and to the point, such as "I just want to be friends".. It gets the point across and isn't harsh. Just make sure afterwards, you don't lead them on in any way.. as some people hold on to that tiny little bit of hope..

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alright so me and this guy from uni were planning on going to the movies together.he had told em that he likes me and i had told him i like him too.we had been flirting and txting a lot.oventually i asked him if he wanted to hangout as friends and he said yes and suggested to go to the movies.
anyway we planned this a week before the date and spoke about it all the time and how we were both nervous and excited and couldnt wait etc etc.
so the night before the day we were txting and like i remninded him about meeting up and not to be late etc etc.
so thew next day came and i was waitng for him at the movies.i waited and waited and oventually i txtd him.after 10minutes he txtd back and told me hell have to txt me later because hes at the physio for his leg.didnt say anything about us meeting up.i was really angry at the time.hours later he txtd me and apologised and said he was just thinking of himself etc.he promised to make it up to me and wnated another chance.
now i wnated to ask.should i give him another chance or do u think he probably didnt even like me to start off with?
if you think i should move on how should i stop myself from forgiving him and falling back into his trap again?
thanks in advance

Hmm, it's obviously not the best start!
It really is down to you, though.
Personally, I'd be pretty annoyed just like you, but I'd probably give it one more chance, especially if I liked him.
Hey, he said he'd make it up to you, so see if he sticks to his word this time.. if he continues playing about, then at least you know you tried.
You don't know the full circumstances as to why he "stood you up".. but at least you did get an apology etc.
I think the problem with girls these days is they are too stubborn.. it shouldn't always be left to the guy to do the running about, it should be equal. I'm in no way aiming this at you hun. it's for future reference and I'm trying to make you realize you shouldn't feel silly for initiating a meet up with a guy, even if it doesn't go too great the first time.
You never know what could come of things unless you try. I'd forget about the day you were supposed to meet and try once more.
Good luck with whatever you do. I'd quite like to know what you decide and what comes of it, so let me know in feedback.

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i was talking to this guy i like and hes been busy with work and we was texting he said he was going to bed so i said goodnight silly text me sometime even if its fuck you or something laugh out loud and he said ok next time i want to fuck ill holla laugh out loud jk(just kidding) i said laugh out loud your funny what i mean is text me sometime because i kno your busy but id like to hear from ya and that your still alive and kicking he said damn wasnt tryin to be funny laugh out loud ok i will get some rest. what does he mean by all of that?

Sounds like he's flirting. You can determine whether he's joking or not. You know him, not us. :) You should know his personality.. or if it confuses you, seriously just ask him. Better than being confused.

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So there's this girl.

She's smart/funny/pretty etc. etc. (read: I'm into her, a lot). She lives pretty far (a long plane ride) away, but that isn't really as big of a problem as it sounds because her job keeps her constantly on the road. I've met up with her a few times (every time she happened to roll through my city), and I keep in touch with her on AIM weekly, whenever she has a chance to get on.

The problem: She's famous. I use the word "famous" loosely because it's not like she can't go out in public without being mobbed, but if I had to guess I'd say she gets recognized by at least one person around half the time she goes out. I know the obvious next step is to just ask her out on actual date it's just...

I don't know. I guess I'm asking you if you think it's worth pursuing, given the circumstances. I really don't want to lose her. I know you don't know me and you don't know her, so you can't tell me what's right for me. I'm just looking for some input, but I also know it's not a very straight-forward question.

Side note: I'm almost finished with school, so it's not like I can just pick up my life and run away with her if things work out. Not to mention, even if I wasn't in school I'm not sure I'd want to do that anyway. Writing this out it seems like there are so many hoops we'd have to jump through to make this work that I'm wondering if it's worth the trouble (and that's not necessarily a reflection of how committed I am/would be to her).

Hey there, thanks for inboxing.

Famous or not famous, distance or no distance, I reckon it's better to see what comes of it, instead of wondering what COULD happen..and never doing anything about it.

This IS a rather peculiar question, although I know it CAN work out, given both people like each other. How do I know? Well, I know a few "famous" people myself who travel a lot and don't always get to see their other half, but they do make it work. Anything can work if both people want it to.

Just the hard part now is finding out if she likes you, without coming on too strong.
Next time you hang, ask to take her somewhere, which hints you like her.. see if she accepts.
Get a little closer to break the friendship barrier, try to hug, invade her personal space a bit to see how she reacts (what I mean by that is, touch her arm when talking to her for example, to see if she backs away or doesn't seem to mind)

I wouldn't normally tell someone to tell another person how they feel about them through AIM, but for you, it's different because you don't see her a lot. Next time you chat, perhaps maybe hint at it, but don't blurt out "i like you, do you like me rawr rawr" I know a lot of the time, you shouldn't beat around the bush, but you have to be careful, as you don't want the friendship to go funny, considering you don't see each other much anyway.

Does she have a mobile and do you have her number? If so, text her every now and then, it normally lets someone know you're interested.

I'm sorry my advice is rather vague with this question, but like you said, I don't know either of you and don't have any background info other than you've hung out and she's kinda famous.
If you do need further help, don't hesitate to ask. and I'm curious to know how you get on and what you decide to do. Let me know in feedback.

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today i got a haircut and its past my shoulders and i like everything but the bangs. they look horrible, i asked for long side bangs and she cut my left side just straight across kinda ..above my eyebrow. i hate it, how can i fix it till it grows out? all i know is a headband. i cant even clip it back.. any ideas or pictures??

Ah man, I'm in the same boat at the moment!

Normally, when you just cut your hair, it looks different to what it will look like in a few days time. Wash it, blow dry, straighten (or whatever you normally do) and see if your hair settles into a different position. If it doesn't...

You could risk going to a hairdresser again and see what they can do, they can chop into it for you to make it less straight (if you're not confident doing it yourself)

Play around. Crack out lots of hair appliances/products and get creative. You can buy some really cute hair pins etc now too, so have a gander at what can help make your hair look prettier. Without buying a clip on fringe (sadly, they do sell those! lol), you will just have to accept it.. but remember, it will only be for about a month 'til it's longer.
Just remember... it could always be as short as this persons!
http://www.flickr.com/photos/gemmajones/2445541102/
Hope that cheered you up somewhat. :)

P.S.. try not to make it all about your hair.. so what, you've got a bit of a short fringe.. enhance your eyes (makeup) to bring the attention to them instead. :)




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How do you get the end ball of the barbell off? I figured you just twist it but it won't come off? I just got my industrial done in February and I wanna switch the barbell but it won't twist off.

Are you twisting it the right way? try the other ball, on an industrial, there should be two?
Sometimes, when you get them done, they screw them on really tight so it doesn't accidentally unscrew and fall out - if you can't do it yourself, go back to the place you had it done and they'll do it for you.. or any other piercing parlour - but they may cost a small fee.

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i use dream matt mouse and its great i love it, but after a few hours of it being on my face it goes blotchy and doest look very nice, how can i stop this happening ?

Tips to try:
*Put moisturizer on first and use concealer under eyes and around nose.
*Use a foundation brush as opposed to fingers or a sponge.
*Make sure you blend really well.
*Seal it after putting it on with loose powder.

If the above fail, it may be time to try a new foundation. If you like that one, try dream satin liquid - although it's in liquid form, it doesn't go blotchy, even after hours of wearing it. I've tried both and dream satin liquid is better. :)

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What steps do I have to take to move text from a wordpad Document (in my computer) into a post that I'm making on an Internet forum, using XP and Mozilla Firefox?

Simple copy and paste:

Highlight the text you want to copy, by clicking the beginning of it and dragging your mouse to the end of the text.

Right click your mouse and click copy
OR
press ctrl and C (which is a keyboard version of copy)

Go onto the internet forum, right click and select paste
OR
click edit on firefox and paste
OR press ctrl and V.
OR
shift and insert


as you can see, there's a few different ways. :)

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what's something you can say to a guy to make him yours forever, well not forever but just to make him stay with you.

Nothing. Sorry.
Saying things to someone isn't enough to make them stick around.
To have someone forever.. well, you have to find the right person for you for a start. and let the relationship grow from there, be faithful to each other, get through problems together, there's so many things to even list.
It doesn't just take sweet words like "I love you" .. it takes time and effort.

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I went to the theatre and watch the Green Zone movie last week with my boyfriend. In the movie, they started to panic and call off some information to each other about what they were after. During it, they kept saying things like Alpha Bravo and Zooloo (or zulu or zuloo or HOWEVER you would spell it). Are these army slang for location or something? I couldn't figure out what or who might be Alpha or something so...what did it mean? If it's army talk for something then can somebody tell me more army words just for future reference? THANKSSS

I went to watch it last week with my boyfriend too :)
Instead of letters, they say words. You can't make mistakes that way. You must have heard it other places too, like when police use it for example.

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