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Q: how come that almost all of the people i know that own sidekicks, only use the sidekick for aim and texting and not as a regular phone? it seems as though most people have a seperate phone for calling people.

but why don't alot of people use the sidekick 3 as a regular phone? is it because of the large size?

i can't have 2 phones, so will i look like an idiot if i use the sidekick for texting AND talking on the phone and calling people??

haha no, not at all. i use it for both reasons, i actually use the phone more than aim and texting.

Q: im getting a sidekick 3 and im wondering if AIM and internet comes with the service. how much is the service if i wanted AIM and text messanging? and does those features come with plans?

Those are called Sidekick features, you have to buy them additionally, and are 20 dollars extra a month I think.

Q: I didn't know what category to put it in, but oh well. I'm interested in getting a sidekick 3 for chrtistmas or something, and I was wondering if anybody could just.. tell me all about it.

Like, the montly cost and everything. My friend told me that for 40 bucks ( just normal cellphone bills ) you can get unlimited texting and everything and calls, but then I heard from someone else you only get minutes and you can't get unlimited anything.

So just if anybody has one or knows about it, can anybody just fill me in on anything about sidekick 3s?

I have one, there are sidekick features that's I think 20 dollars a month, and you get free aim & internet, everything else depends on your plan. :)

Q: how do i restart my computer like its brand new? i've done it before but i forget how.

You have to use the restore disk that comes with computer.

It's very easy to do. :)

Just remember you lose EVERYTHING!

Q: What exactly is an unlocked phone?

Can somebody explain what exactly the point is?

that girl isn't right.

an unlocked phone is a phone that can use any sim card from any cellular company and work.

so you could put a cingular sim card in a sidekick, and it would work if the sidekick was unlocked.

Q: Okay well my bf is 17 and I am 14..
We were thinking about having sex but we had 2nd thoughts because of diseases and pregnancy.
I don't know if he doesn't have any diseases and I'm not sure if I do.
But he really wants to do a lot of sexual things.
He wants to have anal with me and I don't really want to because I hear from a lot of my friends that it hurts.
But this may seem weird but we sometimes have phone sex and masturbate to each other while talking on the phone..
When we're together we're always making out and trying new things together but we haven't gotten to sex.
I'm not sure if I should have anal or sex with him.

Enjoy being young, don't have sex. I, as well as the other people responded noticed since you are unsure, you aren't ready. Plus, accidents can happen, the condom can break, or if you decide to not use one, you raise your chances by a hell of a lot to get pregnant. And if he's positive for any diseases, don't have sex with him.

Q: well like a month ago, me & my ex were arguin reallly bad , he was cursing & i was cursing back at him & he told me i was fukin stupid & that he was done wit me & he dnt need all my bullshit & he's ahppy in his relationship & he wants me to take my ass & leave & get out of his life so im like watevver i dnt need him ... & after awhule i miisssed himmm liek carziii but i aint trynna begg him to be my friend soo a month went by & on my birthday which was yesterday he IMed me & said happy birthday rena! & he had a lil convo. but im confusedd! why he hurt me & yell at me den is all nice!! is he pretendin to liek me. his gf which is my close friend told me that he told her that he was gunna tell me happy birthday. iuno wat i should doo. cz im gettin mixed feelings from him & dat makes me get mixed feelings for him..

Please learn to spell, and then maybe i could help you out.

Q: Hello, I am 6'4 295 pounds and 19 years old.
I really have just been sitting for the past few years gaining weight without really paying attention.. But as I realize how terrible it is for me to be 295 pounds at 19.
I need some good advice to take off the weight.

Also, what would be a target weight for someone of my height?

A little background :
I used to drink 12 packs of mountaindew every other day, have regular flavored taco chips at least 3 times a week and eat lots of white flour products. I stopped drinking soda about 7 months ago and have a can once or twice a month now.
I have cut out white flour within the last two months.
I have been a vegetarion all my life up until recently, Now I don't eat any animal products except for omega3 free range eggs.

I have freetime up the yinyang and am ready to do ANYTHING you have to suggest, I have a treadmill capable of upto 10MPH and a weight set with upto 300Lbs of weight already.

What you can do is play a sport, like just with your friends, like baseball, tennis, hockey, football or something that you enjoy. To tell you the complete truth, calories are good, to some extent. Calories are what give you energy. When you eat more calories than you burn off, then that's where the calories convert to fat. So you need to take note on how many calories you're eating; once you realize that, if it's too much, then cut back on some things that you eat/drink. You should drink lots of water, it cleans your system. So to keep a balance with your calories, you need to burn what you take in. You can also go to the gym, and get a trainer, and he will give you a diet, and encourage you, so you get the confidence you need to burn off. The trainer will tell you you need lots of protien. So to get a head start on that, start eating things with lots of protien. :) Hope I helped!

Q: im really popular now
but im so scared that im not gonna be throughout highschool.
Ive been pretty popular for a few years, im just scared
and i know its not all about being popular
but once you get used to it, then its hard to not be it.
help??

you'll be popular in your class in highschool, thats about it.

Q: ok so when ever i go to the bathroom or something like that i notice this white goopy stuff in my underwear, like coming from my vagina. sometimes theres a lot and it grosses me out. i dont know what it is, but how do i get rid of it or most of it? like make it stop?

ive had sex before, but im not pregnant..if that helps

It's discharge, and every girl has it, don't worry about it. :)

and you can't make it go away unfortunatly.

and yeah like the person 2 spots below mne said, just wear a pantyliner, or a thong pad. :)

Q: Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75

eat, please.

Q: ok, so i've been into rock lately, and i have a lot of rock songs right now, but i was wondering if there's any really really good rock songs that ya'll like. what i'm looking for the most are the songs that aren't all that famous, but are still "good quality". i'm mostly into punk, emo, alternative, and a little of gothic. i'm open to hearing everything. i would really love it if you can give me songs and their artists, if you can.

10 Years, Silverstein, Fear The State.

Q: For Christmas I want an Ipod or mp3 player. But Im not sure which one to get. I understand that an Ipod is the name brand of the mp3 player. I just want a small that could hold about 200 songs. So could someone please let me know what i should get.

http://search.ebay.com/search/search.dll?cgiurl=http%3A%2F%2Fcgi.ebay.com%2Fws%2F&fkr=1&from=R8&satitle=mp3+players&category0=&submitSearch=Search

***EDIT*** all the information about those mp3 players are on the site. theres no need for me to restate them.

Q: well yeah. i just started taking birth control last sunday.
and i just went to take one and while i was getting a drink of water from the faucet to swallow it i dropped the pill into the focet and it went down and i couldnt grab it.
so what do i do.

my boyfriend and i have planned to have him ejaculate in me on christmas eve so do i really have to worry about it. and just go on taking them or not?

Thats kinda weird how you plan to have him ejaculate in you hah but anyway, i would keep taking them, and please remember there is a chance you may STILL, with the pill, get pregnant; so be careful. My friend and his sister, when his mom got pregnant with both of them, was on the pill both times, so be careful :)

Q: Does anyone know how to say harder in spanish?

http://www.freetranslation.com

Q: Am I the only one alive who thinks it's terrible that kids (13-16) are having sex? I'm only 18, but when I was 13, I was riding my bike and doing karate, not giving blowjobs on the school bus. But thats the norm now, and if you haven't had sex by the time you're 17, you must be ugly or way religeous. What on earth!? Am I the only one disgusted by this trend?

They want to be cool. That's all.

I'm also disgusted.

Q: Hey Guys!
I really need a homecomeing fress under 75 dollars.
If you could answer before tamrrow night that would be great.
I really eith want a cute black dress that goes past my knees or one that fairly light colored like light pink or blue. What do you guys think any suggestions.
I'm going shopping tomarrow night.
Here a picture of me if it helps:http://i11.tinypic.com/33o45g3.jpg

Also, i kind of a large tummy and thighs so anything that covers that would be best.

Thanks so much!

http://www.debshops.com

Q: I've decided to get a PS3 on launch day and I have the money but I was wondering, does anyone know of a place that still takes reservations? If not does anyone have any tips on how to get one the day it comes out without a reservation?

best buy, circuit city, those kind of stores, and if you can't get a reservation anymore, then just go to the store EARLY so you can be one of the first ones in when they open, i can imagine a lot of people will be doing that, but there's not much you can lose.

Q: For baseball, if there's a runner on first base and the batter strikes out on a wild pitch that hits the ground, can he run for first if the runner is stealing second?

Thanks.

I'm pretty sure you can. It's called "drop third strike", and the runner isn't really stealing second, it's like a hit basicly, only not really lol.

Hope I helped. :)

Q: can you wear color contacts even if you don't need regular contacts?

if so, where can you get them and which are the best brand?

thanks so much.

yes you can, but i'm not exactly sure which kinda is best, because I need prescription lol.

Try going to your eye doctor and talking to them about it, you know, they are the specialists. hah. :)

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