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my friends tell me i give good advice,
i hope i can help somebody.
i've been more than you think for a 14 year old.

"never judge a book by its cover,inside on those pages could be the best love story in the world"- lea ellen

advice

when i go to dances and grind with boys i don't really know what to do. i feel awkward doing it. what is the girl supposed to do while grinding? please help me this is so embarassing! i rate good for anything!

basically you like, rub yourself all over the guy, and he rubs himself all over you.
if anybody is actually doing it, watch them do it. other wise, dont be brave enough to try it.

there usually ends up being a lot of making out while you grinding.
its not really like humping.

most girls who do it end up getting laid by the end of the night.. so....

if you venture to try it,rub youself all over the guy you're with and make out(biting his bottom lip is pretty fun)

a trashy slow dance is a lot classier than that.
in which that you basically are like being indecent and slutty

-hope it helped-

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What is your opinion on religion? I've heard about the theory of evolution and it makes a lot of sense.
And right now the theory of god and heaven doesn't seem real. There's no proof.
Can any of you give me your point of view? I want details b/c i'm really troubled with this.
plz help
thanks!

how does evolution makes sense to you?
the bible has historic accurasy and physical evidence.
people think they found noahs ark in the middle east. the ark was in the bible, there is still the hill over there where christ was cricified.
the bible is the most accurate book you can read.
it doesnt really make sense to me how some one can think that everything was just by chance. thats too much chance and there isnt any evidence to back it up.
the earth was created in six days, and all of that is recorded in genesis...
other than that,
you have to have faith in what you believe
because if you dont,
you have
no religon at all.
you're just kinda there.
-hope it helps you spiritually-

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my *area* down there is constantly ITCHY!!!!!!! i don't know why! *female* i can't have crabs because i shaved the hair off it. i'm not sure if that was a good idea but once again, i really don't want to ask anybody in my family because they might make fun of me or embaress me etc. its REALLY itchy please help!

lots of girls these days wax down there. but i'm sure you're not the only girl that shaves down there for various reasons. shaving there has the exact same reaction that shaving your legs.
so if you want to keep doing it, do it.
if you dont, dont.i dunno how to help you bout the itches.. sorry.
-hope i could help-

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i really really really wanna boyfriend. im 13, going into 8th grade and i really feel like no one likes me. its bringing down my self esteem because all my friends are hotties and guys try to pick them up every where they go. literally. i need a way to get noticed before school starts (sept. 7th). its not that i only think guys will like me if i look good i just want them to notice me that way, like 'omg that girl is hot, i wanna try to talk to her' then he'll get to know me. if that confuses you im sorry but i really need help with this. sorry for the lenght. i rate high!!!

be really flirty,
find a guy,hot or not,
and flirt soo much that there is not way they dont know you want em.
its all in the personality.
so dont be too flirty, that makes you seem desperate. when you get a boyfriend you'll get a boyfriend. if you dont you dont
-hope it helps-

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ok, im 13, and i don't no what to do, i want to start to wear makeup but i kind of don't, i mean if i do, how will i tell my mom ,and if i don't when do i start?

i'm almost 14 and i dont wear makeup.
i have never really felt the need to wear makeup
exept for some heavy mascara and eyeliner and brown eye shadow,
but if you do, make sure you get the right color or it'll look really bad, and never put on to much, and if its not exactly youre skin color, make sure you do it on your neck too, or your face will be one color and youre neck will be a different color.

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Me and my borfriend just broke up about 3 months ago. I know that it has been a long time since we broke up but I just now am getting over him. So' Ok it's over... What do I do next. I've been depressed ever since. How do I brighten up my spirits? Should I talk to him anymore or should I not? I still can't completely stop thinking about him.
SIGNED
Needs Cheering Up
&hearts
Ps. im sorry its so long but ill rate on good answers.

odviously you aren't over him.
maybe he's not over you.
keep in contact with him
you'll either get over him
or you'll get back together.
either way you'll be happy again

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I think my dad is going to ask Jan to marry him? What do I do. I like her but am I possitive?
ill rate!

TELL HIM!!
you might have to
put up with her for the rest of your life
if you dont
forget about how you're dad might feels for a minute,
think about how you feel and what you want, then TELL YOUR DAD HOW YOU FEEL!!!!!

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Hey. I'm so close...so close to killing myself. Everyday I have to FIGHT not to, its the hardest thing i've ever done. My mom knows... im seeing 3 colnsulars.. but nothing helps. Nothing at all makes me want to live anymore. It hurts to talk, it hurts to smile... I've stopped doing everything i used to love. Nothing can make me happy. I don't want to hurt my friends though, their the only ones keeping me from..ehh. If you cant help me, please do..

ive had a feeling like that before,
the feeling that you have nothing to live for, no friends or family you want to live for.
i was tired of pretending..
so dont pretend. be who you are.
there are ways to express yourself
besides killing yourself.
you can undo, or fix everything in your life,exept death.
dont let the last decisoion you ever make be, i dont want to live any more, so i'm not gonna.
you might could go back on everything you ever do, exept dieing.

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if you talk to a boy online and you never saw him and you love eachother and have soo much in common and stuff, is that considered have a boyfriend even though you have never saw him and stuff?? bc i really love this guy and he feels the sam way but he lives real far away. is this like a boyfriend? and if it is say i went out with him and then i have a boyfriend here, would that be cheating on my online boyfriend?
I RATE SOOOO HIGH!!!
please help me quick!!

signed,
young, curious and in love

its only considered cheating on him if youre actually going with him? has the dude you talk to on the internet actually asked you out?
if he has, are you at a place that he could visit you? and you dont want to go to him, just incase.
if he hasnt, he isnt really your boyfriend.he's just some dude you talk to online,
trust me, i know, i've gone through the exact same thing.

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This may sound odd, but how do you grind?

its a dance, which usually includes lots of serious making out in the process. if you dont know what it is.. you probly shouldnt be doing it, but if you do, you probly dont want to be doing it. its very very suggestive

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I want to do something fun and exciting on a date wiht my bf. somethin that will really be fun. any ideas

basements are always fun
hehehe
you could watch a movie down there
and end up making out.

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i am 5'2"
and i weigh
117
is that fatt???????
b.c i feel it

plz tell me!!!! thanks

x0xfattness?

i am an inch taller than you
and you are not at all fat.
and if you think you're fat
look around...
you aren't

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Okay, you know how bed sheets have a certain number thread count? What does that mean?

more threads are better
more expensive though
but they hold up better, they are neater. and if you break one thread somehow, you still have like 200 left in the square inch.
-hope it helps-

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So I'm getting my hair cut soon, and I am sooo excited! Right now my hair is almost 3 inches past my shoulders, and I wanna get it cut so that it sits right on my shoulders, with side-swept bangs (similar, but not identical to Kristin on Laguna Beach, and no, I'm not being a dumb wannabe). Do you think that sounds cute? (I'm a natural blonde, and am sooo sick of long hair, I had it for about 4 years.) Anyway, I was wondering if you guys could tell me some sites or post some links to photos of that haircut so I could show my stylist lady exactly what I want. Hope you can help!

i personally,
don't cut my hair. i'm 14 and my hair is almost to my ankles. you could go on the laguna beach website. or mtv.com and click on the laguna beach link.
-hope it helps-

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There's this guy that I really like, and we're in a couple classes together. The problem is, we never really talked last year. But I'm really shy. How can I get over my shyness and just talk to him, or even say hi? Rate 5's for good answers.

walk up to him and say hi
it'll scare the crap out of you
but it works.
you'll get that feeling like you're first solo
in choir
or you're first kiss.
ask him stuff like whats his schedule
and if he likes all of his classes.
chances are he wont,
so you can talk about them.
-hope it helps-

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okay my crush wants to talk on the phone..and i do too but i hate when there are awkward silences! like it kills me and i never have anything to say. what are some topics i could bring up? and like what things can i say to like lead him on and kinda make him realize i really wanna go out with him but not make myself sound
retarded and freaky! please help! FAST!

surveys are good,but sometimes you can ask to many questions. ask him one, and after he has answered it tell him an answer of yours.
never ask him something too personal. that might create some tension. ask him stuff thats like, in general. like favorite movies, actors,pets.
anything that makes just enough conversation to fill in the gaps.

-hope it helps-

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my boyfriend went to college on thursday.. hes a freshman.. and im a junior in high school. he went out lastnite n stayed out til 5 am n didnt go to bed til 7 am..im wondering what he did in between those hours..and i dont want him to be out partyin all the time cause i know he'll cheat on me. as much as he says he wont..i really think he will. we wont be able to see eachother alot because hes away at school..should i worry? please help ill rate high

if you think he's cheating
go see him
and follow him around
without him knowing
or
you just have to trust him
if you like him enough to be his girlfriend
you gotta trust him
or
if you're positive he's cheating
start going with other guys
let him feel what you feel when you think he's cheating
or
tell him to his face
that you dont know if you can trust him
and hope that he'll confess he's been a bad boy
or he'll make sure that you know he loves you
and he's not cheating on you

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im sure everygirl has the problem but i am confused me and my bf were at a party on the golf course and there was the bench like away from everyone he asked if i wanted to go up there with him and i said yes...so we went up there and all he did was sit there and barely even talked...i was kinda let down if u know what i mean.. but finally he started to talk and all of our freidns came up there being there nosey little selves........it seems like im making the first moves ..... i know he likes me but how or what can i do to make him come out of his shell

tell him to his face!
only one of two things can happen

he likes you back
or
he doesnt

personally, i tried it, and
it turns out the guy had liked me forever
but was to shy to tell me

so
if it turns out he doesnt
its really no tragedy.
cause at least you'll know

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