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Q: I currently live in Virginia but I want to attend an Ohio College. Does anyone know how long you have to actually live in the state to claim in-state tuition?

it varies from state to state. i dont know about ohio. but alaska is one year, california is one year , new mexico is six months. you need to contact the university of ohio (google them for their website. look for the word "registrar") they will tell you how long.

Q: How does a person become a film actor? Basic and rather stupid question I know, and I'm guessing it's a lot to do with luck, but really - how do succesful film actors typically get there? I'm talking about in England and America principally. Does anyone know or have any experience of this? Is it just a case of somehow getting a good agent and hoping you have a 'look' someone spots for a role? If so, how do you get an agent? Assuming you have no contacts in the industry.

once you have some experience. you attack the industry like your are going to war. you get a head shot move to hollywood and start going to auditions and more auditions and more auditons. a good place to start is local playhouses. the idea is to get a part in something/anything to get what is called a sag card. sag is the Screen Actors Guild. it is a union you must be in to perform on screen. To get the card though you have to have an on screen credit. Be prepaired to support yourself with something else for a number of years before you can break into the industry. IF you have bad luck you may fail completely. if your lucky you could get a break two days after you arrive...good luck.

Q: Hey. I've recently decided to go vegan. I'm new to all of this and I dont know what to buy in terms of food. I know they do not associate themselves with animal products at all. This is going to be a challenge for me because I like cheese. But for the animals' sake, I'll do it. So can anyone tell me what ingredients in foods, and makeups, etc. etc. I should be looking for. Also, a site that has vegan recepies on it would be a big help as well! Thanks Alot!

although i applaud your decision to go vegan i would advise you to talk to some people who are living this lifestyle. i know several people who just went vegetarian and because they didnt know how to eat the right foods to replace the things they were cutting out they got really ill. one of them was hospitalized. i am not putting down the idea but just be careful to have a complete balanced diet.

Q: I had changed my fuel filter in my 99 accura legand, and after I had done so, it doesnt go into reverse, or it doesnt shift gears. I was wondering if perhaps there may be a vaccume problem there or something of that sort?

not to be repetative but the fuel filter in not related to the transmission. if your car start up, idles,and you can press the gas and rev up the engine with it in park (or neutral for a stick) the fuel filter is just fine. if this is a stick shift and you are having problems shifting in and out of gears, try pumping the clutch. if pumping the clutch allows some minimal movement with shifting you probably have a leak in the clutch system. you can check this. there is a little resovoir under the hood next to where the brake fluid is. the is the cluctch slave cylinder. pop open the top. if it is not full poor a little dot 3 brake fluid in there to top it off. if you clutch immediately starts working you have a leak in you clutch system somewhere...good luck.

Q: So me and my mom are pretty close. We talk about anything to eachother. but it seems like once a month we fight. Everything thats been bugging her builds up until she blows up on me for the stupidest thing. She'll start pulling major guilt trips. Whenever I tell her how I feel and what she does she just gets even more mad. I can never talk to her. She talks about how her life is stressful and all the things shes going through and how her life sucks and she wants to kill herself. Well what am I supposed to do in that situation? She ends up making me feel like I'm a bad daughter and I don't appreciate anything she does. I tell her thank you all the time. Once she said thank you wasn't enough. It drives me crazy. Sometimes she gets so bad she'll start pushing me around all just because I tell her she shouldnt try to make me feel guilty for things that i cant help and things that arent my problem.It will be like that for a few hours and then she acts like shes fine. I think she has a problem. She denies it.

it sound like your mother is using you to vent off her frustration with the rest of her life. i dont condone this behavior but i certainly understand it. She may not have anyone else to vent to. Try to be understanding especially when she goes on about things you can do nothing about. try to be the bigger person and realize that parents needs parenting too sometimes. if it only happens once a month or so try to recognize the signs of when its going to happen so you can be on your best behavior when it happens cause that will help alleviate the pressure your mom is feeling. If you lines of communication are open like you say, try to suggest she get some outside help (like therapy)but i would only suggest it when she is in a good mood though and you can calmly relate to her how much her outbursts are upsetting you.

Q: Please don't tell me it's bad for you, i know. I'm going to begin tanning this week because i have a "ceremony" to go to this Sunday night. It will be my first time tanning at a salon, and to tell teh truth I'm kinda nervous. I want to get as DARK as possible. Is there anyway I can go twice a day? How longs shoudl i go for one session? Do i needa get lotion, if so which kind and where can i get it? Also, do I need to buy goggles? Am I too young to tan? 14, going on 15 in 2 months. thanks : )

totally go either the spray on tan or the bottle tan you can buy at the drug store. with the stuff from the store spray in a non-normally visible test area and see how you like it. i have heard better things about the spray on salons but the bottles are cheaper.

as for being good or bad, getting a tan from a bed in so short a time isn't just bad but stupid.

why be stupid when there are alternatives?

Q: OH YEA also.... when you grind when you bend over (like doggy style..?) how long do you stay down for before getting back up (also, any tips on how to do it)

AND ALSO --> how do you know if a guy wants you to touch-the-floor-grind

for the fist part of the question the answer is , your grinding away in circular motion for as little or as long as you feel comfortalbe doing it.

as for the second part, you do it then turn aroung and ask the guy, "did you like that?"

Q: How do you give a lap dance, which way do you face, and for how long do you do it/does it last?

if you want to do a good job the answer is both. if your dancin' your movin' and shakin' it. if your a girl doing for a guy he wants to feel the front(breasts) and the back(butt) and everything else. basically a lap dance is sex with your clothes on if done right.

Q: I am not exagerating i need help please help i rate high i have seen everthing on T.V 1000000000000000 times and i have surfed the entire internet i realy need help please help.Please can someone think of any non-internet related things to do please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

make a movie, try to take over the top spot on youtube. go outside to a park , play a sport, paint your house, paint your bedroom a funky color then paint it back. before you paint tag your walls with offensive remarks. take pictures to show people.

Q: Well, lately i have been feeling very very tired, i have slept about 22 hours in one day just with breaks in between,my ears are hurting and they itch very badly and im losing hearing in them,my throat is sore and itchy and im not coughing THAT MUCH but i still am. So, as you can see i feel like crap and i have NO idea what is going on. If anyone could explain this to me it would be great. One of my friends had mentioned that i may have mono, and my mom said i could have low iron...But, i wanted to hear youre honest opinions about it.

Thank youu!

i am not a doctor and if these symptoms persist i recommend you see one.

now, the ear & throat itch and soreness are alway alergy related when it happens to me.. the sinuses get clogged (causing ear pain & itchiness) and i get a post nasal drip when i sleep (causng sore throat ) and when i wake up i cough a bunch of crap up that dripped down my throat all night. Try some Benydryl. it is cheap, relatively safe and if it cures your problem you can be pretty sure it is allergy related.

and i will say one more time, i am not a doctor and you should probably go see one. if you dont have your health what do you have?

Q: For some weird reason, I've been feeling down lately and I DON'T KNOW WHY..... It's just that I'm always not in the mood these past few days.... It's like I couldn't find any reason to cheer up.....And I've been thinking, "I wish I had someone to make me happy...." You get it, right?

I've always enjoyed my single life and my girl friends are even jealous of me because of this.... But right now, I dunno..... I'm getting sick and bored of being single.....Argh!!!!! I really dunno what to do to make myself feel better..... Help!

dont plunge into a relationship in the hopes of finding hapiness. if you dont know what you want right now time will inevitabley steer you in the right direction. I know this sounds old fashioned but why dont you try "dating". ask a guy out to something (movies, ice rink, local event) see if going out boosts your spirits, if it does maybe your ready to take the next step. there is lots of middle ground between being single and in a relationship that most people dont explore in todays world.

Q: ok so heres the thing theres this guy that i work with and well hes sort of a player he plays games head games and i think he does it to feel better about himself because he really anit all that goodlooking but yet his personality gets me you know even though i know hes a player but anyways he was dating this gurl and was flirting really firting with me and than him and the gurl had problems and suppossedly broke up but than he was flirting with everyother gurl and shit and now hes fucking 2 gurls and dating another while talking to his ex and still flirtin with me and neighter know bout the other and yet i know and i still keep going back im a fucking fool and he told me that he would date me but he cant because of my brother he plays head games and yet i still go for it he said he liked me though helppppppppppppppppppppppppp

sound like your player friend has a bunch of drama going on already and you thinking of joining in. i say flirt with him all you want but know that he aint gonna take you seriously no matter what kinda garbage comes out of his mouth. if you are looking for a boyfriend look somewhere else or wait till this guy gets burned enough times to grow up a little.

Q: I've been a cheerleader since I was 7. I am now 14. I've been trying to quit for three years because quite frankly I'm sick of the fear of tumbling, the drama with the snots, and just the pressure of being a cheerleader and meeting expectations.

My moms forbid me from quiting for so long, she's even bribed me to keep cheering. But I've had it, I'm going to high school next year and I want to concentrate on my volleyball instead because it appeals to me so much more. I also want to shake of that cheap, snotty cheerleader image people get of me before they even know my name.

However, what do I do if I begin to miss it?
Cheerleading to me is sort of like my first love ya know? Its something I don't just hate right away, I still love it, but at times I can't stand it.

What should I do to make myself move on?
My moms certainly not helping. Thanks.

i think you should just quit. since this is not your last year at school you can alway join again later if you miss it too much. when your young you have the luxury of trying lots of new things so go out and have some adventures. I think you also need to ask your mom why she wants you to cheer so bad.
But if it is the image that you are most concerned about, realize that in the high school you go to, cheerleaders may have a totally different image that what you are dealing with now. a little research might be in order.

Q: I am pretty confused on this. The question is
Which ion in each pair has a smaller atomic radius?
Ba2+ or I-

Can anyone explain this or give me a website to refer to?

according to my research the bromine ion should be smaller than the iodine from the chart i found (see link below)

http://www.webelements.com/webelements/properties/text/image-balls/atomic-radius.html

seems to indicate that atomic radius is smallest in the upper right hand corner of the periodic chart and largest in the lower left hand corner. Since Br is directly above I it should have a smaller radius. There might be rules i am not aware of but this is my best guess.

Q: What does it mean when a guy and girl have sex or she performs oral on him and he finishes fast because he says that he is "very excited" && we was gunna do it a second time but he couldnt get hard.

Does that mean anything?
Is there anyway that i can get it hard again?I really didnt do anything, i just sat there soo maybe i shoulda tried. But anyways, what does it mean?

Thankss

when i was younger doing it several times a night/day was no problem as long as there was a break. as i got older the second and third time become a little more difficult. the best bet is to make the first time last a little longer and that will happen easier if it happens more often than once a month or once a week... anywhere from once a day to 2 or 3 times a week is generally the norm for most men.

Q: what would you do if you were doing pet related tasks for a neighbor and they promised to pay you but after 5 months of hardwork they still didn't pay you or even mention? would you ask them for the money and how would you do it? or would you just quit?

if you have a problem with direct confrontation become official. sit down at your computer and invoice them with a bill.
title across the top ie. freds pet helper service.
then a sentence like " this is a bill for service rendered from (date x/x/2006 thru x/x/2005)
this bill is for $ x hours/days as x per hour/day for a total of .$x dollars
if this invoice is not paid by x/x/2006 service may be discontiued.
then say " thank you very much' and sign your name.
make sure to give them a week or two to pay if you do it this way. then either put it in their mail box or tape it to the front door. everybody gets bills they have to pay and alot of us ( including me ) dont remember bills that dont nag us a little bit. good luck!

Q: any tips on getting started on your homework? mind tricks to play with yourself or something? i seem to find a way to justify not doing my homework just about everytime...help me help myself.

the carrot and the stick. reward your self for doing it good and punish yourself for not doing it. if you have a discipline problem and can't seem to motivate yourself, ask for help. Be it a friend you trust, a parent, or a sibling, get them in on helping you and maybe give them control over your punishment/reward. Nothing like knowing your older brother is going to give you a wedgey to motivate. I would only suggest the last measure if you are desperate though, giving siblings power tends to go to their heads.

Q: hello.. i wasant sure of what category to put this under...anyways i have a problem with my breasts...the nipples are inverted and im scared that when i am with a guy they think its weird....is their any way to pop them out..i hear this is pretty common but im not sure...:/
thanks

guys are so happy to see breasts that the nipple is like the cherry on the sunday. Do not be embarrased, i have known girls both with and without and the girls without inverted nipples are embarrased because their nipples stick out so much when it is cold. now if you start growing copious amounts of hair i would say you have something to worry about. otherwise dont

Q: Im dating a guy who is cousins with one of my closer friends they talk about me and i know they do, because she feels that we shouldnt date anymore we've been together for almost 2 years (few more months to come) but my bf feels that i've stolen him away from her like i hog him to much & she feels the same way. I dont want them to think that. Im not heartless i think family is important so why'd i want that for them right? i want them to know that i do believe its important that they still do see eachother, I want to write her a letter explaining that i do think its important they hang out, spend time together, u no? So could you help me get started with a letter or tell me some things to put in the letter?

send her a letter inviting her to do something with you and your BF. Maybe go camping, or something touristy. make a point of letting your bf do stuff with his cousin since you know that she is not competition with you , there is no need for him not to spend alot of time with her. IF your bf feels the same way maybe he is not quite ready to make as big a commitment to your relationship as you are. If you think he is worth it maybe you should step back a little and see what his reactiion is, if he chases after you, you will know he has made his choice.

Q: Everyone in my grade is going out. Its kind of new this year since were is 7th grade. All the girls and boys are crushing or going out. No one like,likes me. I feel really bad. It's not like i want a boyfriend but i want someone to like me. I don't know why, i just want someone to like me. What should I do?

dont be desperate. just relax and have a good time and guys will flock to you. Everyone wants to be with the smiling happy girl. And if some guy does start to like you, feel free to ignore his advances if you dont want a boyfriend right now.

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i am a work in progress but i pay close attention to everything. I feel it is a good thing to share the knowledge i have acquired in my travels to anyone asking and it brings me pleasure to do so. i have lived in California, Alaska, Idaho, and New Mexico and been married and divorced. I have no children of my own but have fostered several .