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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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I like this guy and we have made out before, but i wanna do it again it has been a long time since we did make up so im basically starting fresh. Anyway i really want to know what some tips are too change from me cute, funny sweet girl to more sexy...
Weird question i know but im tired of me and guys always being close and them loving my personality i want some to just want me Please help..
ok i know a lot about being sexy haha.
here's the #1 tip you HAVE to remember- being sexy and being slutty/trashy are completely different things.
Sexy- wearing something stunning and reveals a little skin (legs, arms, chest). wearing small high heels, wearing a little more make up, doing your hair pretty like curls or braids.
Slutty/trashy- wearing something too revealing (waist, butt cheeks, cleavage etc.) wearing tons of make up, wearing something uncomfortable like too high heels.
You ever hear that phrase 'less is more'? well its true for being sexy. I read in a magazine that guys think its sexier when a girl wears no make up and is completely natural with just a white T shirt on and jeans, rather than a mini skirt and tight shirt and tons of make up.
good luck and don't over do it :)
I have been single for awhile because I cant seem ta find my match and I refuse to settle for less again. Im only twenty but im ready to be in love again wheather it involves finding someone at a local place or online. Any suggestions?
here's a great suggestion.. be yourself.
guys will love you for who you are, not who you're pretending to be
stop trying so hard and let love come to you. That way- it will be more special. If it takes a few years, then that's life. You can have the occasional hook-ups if you really want.. but that could give you a bad reputation and just make you look trashy and slutty. If you really want that.. then go to a bar and find a guy to get laid on. Or go clubbing and take a guy home.
its whatever you want. Just be safe and make sure its what you really want..
I'm twelve years old and my sister is fifteen years old. I also have two other sister.Me and my fifteen year old sister are always fighting she always teases me and then I yell at her. We just never seem to get along. How do I stop? I don't want to be hating her when I'm and adult.
talk to her about it. Tell her you need to speak with her about something really serious. And just empty your heart out to her. Cry if you have to. She is family. And you should be able to tell your family ANYTHING. Just tell her what's on your mind.
Most importantly, tell her you love her. and that you don't want to hate her and you don't like fighting with her.
If it doesn't work, then talk to your other sisters about this and see if they can help. Or ask your parents.
hiya im 18 and female, for sometime now i have been questioning my gendre and wanting to be a boy. I walk like one, talk like one and i often dress like one as i find it more comforting, more myself. I just dont know how to bring it up with my parents, i am scared of there reaction. I have even researched all i need to know about the operations. How do I start the conversation of? please help me i feel trapped
you should realize.. parents are a whole generation different from ours. I know because my parents dont see eye-to-eye things with me either. I ask them if I can stay out past 1am and they say no. Its just how life works. So I think its more likely that your parents will be shocked when they hear about your sex change, because at their generation, sex changes weren't common. Its a new topic for them so they might be shocked. Be prepared for that. Expect that reaction.
I'm not sure how to start the conversation with them.. but just sit them down one day and tell them the truth. Say that some people, even yourself, have started to notice that you are acting more like a guy. You've thought about this and have decided to get a sex change. Ask them for their opinions and thoughts. Yes they will be surprised and shocked, so don't put them on the spot. Let them think about this and tell them they can get back to you with their thoughts.
If they get mad, well that's their problem. Its your decision. You're 18.. legally an adult. You can make these decisions for yourself. Parents are supposed to support you and take care of you. If they don't because of this.. well that's their fault. They should realize that you're their child and they need to look out for you and support you.
Good luck!
Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?
you can either completely ignore it and move on with your life. Or you can talk to that guy and get closer with him. If you guys kissed, well it obviously means something. Nobody just kisses for the hell of it and then walks away like it was nothing. But if you guys do start something together, make sure its what you want. Because when you just ended a relationship, and then kiss another guy, it tends to be a rebound and you're just looking for someone to take your mind off the pain. If thats the case- let the guy know. Maybe he's looking for a rebound too and you both can help each other out. But you have to be careful with this because as soon as 1 of you gets serious about the relationship, then all hell breaks loose and it causes more problems and drama.
If I were you- take a few days/weeks to yourself and think about what YOU want.
Hello. I'm 20 f and I've been single for about 3 years. I don't know why. I've been told that I'm very beautiful and I think I'm a fun person. I thought that because three days I've been feeling do lonely, I could ask a good friend of mine to find me a match. Not to force anything just one date or something. But I feel kind of embarrassed. I don't have many girlfriends and maybe its just awkward because my friend is a guy but a very nice person. I just want to broaden my horizons and expand my love life and this person can help me. I just don't know how to ask him. Thank u!
Hang out with your friend and just ask him about his friends. ask who his best friend is. If he asks why- just say you're not busy the next few weeks and are looking to meet some new guys and was wondering if he had anybody in mind.
Also- you don't need your friend to hook you up. you can find guys by yourself.. you're a big girl. Just go out and do the things you love to do, and you'll find a guy who has similar interests. For example- hang out at your favorite place (like a coffee shop, park, restaurant, mall, etc) and if you see a guy you like, make the first move by saying "hi" and introducing yourself. Start up a conversation by giving him a compliment and ask questions. (for example- Hi my name is sarah. I noticed your jacket, and I really love it. Where did you get it?) and just casually talk with him. Make sure to flirt too so he know's youre interested. Laugh and smile a lot. Stare into his eyes. If you're brave- ask for his number and say you'll talk to him later to catch up.
Just be yourself and the dudes will come to you :)
My girlfriend whenever were alone and were getting into it like making out and stuff she grabs my hands and puts it almost down her pants...i end up kind of trying to change the subject and just emsphsizing on making out so she forgets about it because its both of our first times and i dont know how to finger a girl or even where to start. i dont want it to hurt her either so i ruin my chances in the future. what should i do that will actually make her like it? i heard u rub her clit at first in circles but i just need answers.
well there's no "right" way to do it... you just take a finger and stick it up the vagina. Its not difficult. If you can pick your nose, you can finger her haha. its pretty much the same thing, except vaginas are warmer and wetter. you just take a finger and slide it in and out. It feels good if you start slow and then get faster. Oh and a tip for you- cut your fingernails and make sure your hands are clean before.
Make sure she's relaxed too. If she's tense and nervous, that mean's she's not ready for this. It will feel better when she's ready and relaxed and WANTS to do it. don't force her to do anything.
Sorry if this is in the wrong category for Sexual Health and Reproduction.
So I am 15, and a male, thinking about having sexual intercourse for my first time.
I don't really have a private place to do anything sexual, and my girlfriend suggested a movie theater but I am not sure what could happen if we were to get caught. What would happen if we got caught? I told her i wasn't to sure about being in a movie theater. She said she would atleast give me head, but i still am not sure if we should even do that there because it is still a public place. What would happen if we were caught while she was giving me head? What are your thoughts about this?
ew.. no. don't do it in the movie theater. That's literally disgusting, i'm sorry haha. Put it this way.. lets say you're at a movie theater and in the corner of your eye you see 2 people having sex.. wouldn't you be grossed out??? That's what other people would be thinking if they saw you 2 having sex.
Also.. having sex for the first time is a SPECIAL thing.. You don't want to look back and think "my first time was in a movie theater.." that's so un-special. If you have to wait a few extra days so you can do it in a bed, then wait. Sex shouldn't be rushed. Especially your first time. Take your time and do it at the right time.
i honestly can't tell you where to do it. You could try your bedroom (but then you've got your parents haha) you could try in the car, in a private park, at another friends house. but honestly those places aren't ideal for your first time.
Oh and just one more thing.. I don't mean to sound like a parent (considering i'm 18) but be safe. please. and make sure it's with the right girl. think about this before you actually do it. It's really not a big deal if you wait until you're older or when you find the right person.
And well, I'm on my period. I started yesterday. I don't know what to do! I really want to go, Because it's my best friend's birthday and if I miss it, She's going to be mad! I can't wear tampons, My mom said I can't. I know pads will get all soggy in the pool...What do I do?! Please please please help. I'm scared!
umm.. why won't your mom let you wear tampons?? That's really weird. Tampons are safe, you just have to change them every 4-6 hours. They are comfortable because you can't even feel them. It's as if you never even had your period haha. They are really easy to put in too. Its difficult your first few times because you don't really understand your vagina that well.. but you'll get the hang of it eventually. They are amazing because I can literally do whatever I want on my period. It's so stress free :)
Talk to your mom about tampons and ask her why she won't let you use them. They are normal, a lot of girls wear them. If she still won't let you use one, I say use one anyways haha. If you use a pad, it will just get messy and embarrassing if anyone finds out. Plus you'll be stressed out and always worrying about leaking etc. There's instructions in the tampon box on how to put tampons in. Also, I'm really good at giving instructions for tampons, so if you need help with them, inbox me because I can really help you with them.
Oh and once you start getting your period, you are becoming an older woman.. which means you should start making your own decisions in life. Maybe now is the time that your mother stops making decisions for you. Make your own decision because soon enough, you're on your own and will have to make your own decisions your whole life. Start now.
Good luck! :)
how do i get a guy to noticee me ?
Be yourself...
There are small things you can do, but none of them will work if you just rely on the tips. You can be flirty like giggle, touch the guy a lot, smile, laugh, stare/gaze at him, bite your lip, play footsie, etc. But again, you can't just rely on these things alone.. personality comes along with it.
If you want a guy to like you, and REALLY like you, you just need to be who you are. Don't try to be something you're not.. because then the wrong guys will fall for the wrong "you".. and you don't want that. If you act yourself, then the right guy will come along because he will fall in love with YOU and not something you're pretending to me.
Oh and don't over do it.. lots and LOTS of girls over-do the flirting and it just becomes obnoxious and well...trashy. I see girls all the time with pushed-up boobs, fake tans, mini skirts, and flirt endlessly.. Its really unattractive.
Ok.. so, I've been trying to not wash my hair everyday because it dries out if I do.. However, I feel like I sweat a lot through my head and feel like i need to wash it. Is there anything i can do? thanksss
there's something new called Dry Shampoo. Tresemme has a line for it. Its pretty much a powder that you sprinkle in your hair and it soaks up dirt and oil and crap and makes it look and feel clean :) without the water and washing.
I have a boyfriend whom had done many things, with disregard of respect, against me. Such as lying from the early days we had gotten to know each other to 3-4 months into the relationship. Lies regarding past relationships, calls to the ex, smoking fake weed, what he does when I'm not around, and so on. He does not tell me right away when he wrongs me. Most of the time I find out on my own search for the truth or the few times I work to make him feel guilty. There are few times he disregards my values even when I tell him he's doing it. A lot of his misbehavior has toned down since the second chance I had given him. However, so much of the actions he had done are obscene to me. We're still together but I'm not sure if I still want to be with him. There's another thing: I sort of live with him. I do have somewhere to go if we end our relationship but it would be to horrific circumstances. What do I do?
Well if this is how he is treating you, and you don't like it, then I see absolutely no point in keeping the relationship haha.
As for the "horrific circumstances".. just go with it. Thats life. Be spontaneous. If you guys live together and break up, find your own place. yes it might be hard work, but hard work pays off. Life isn't easy... Take this as a chance to work towards something. Who knows, maybe it will be a wake up call for you and you'll experience new things on the way (for example- learning more about yourself)
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions! :)
I’m a 19 year old boy from INDIA, and I have a younger brother of 13 year old.
I was a slow learner in school and a I Stammer while speaking,
My mom never cooks food which I like the most, and instead she cooks food according to my younger brother’s choice.
I really don’t get any respect in my house.
I’m really very shy to go out in public because I don’t have good dresses to wear, but my brother gets all the good dress to wear.
And my mom keeps comparing me with other boys of my age..
Please help me..
I'm so sorry!
Try talking to your mother in private. Tell her how much it hurts you. Tell her that you love her very much but wish sometimes she would treat you better.
Communication is key. It solves a lot of miscommunications and problems.
Also, don't let it get to you. Be your own person and just have fun! Relax and just live life to your fullest :)
Okay so I'm texting this guy let's call him Kyle So me and Kyle have me like 2 times in person and now we are texting. He told me and my friend he thinKs I'm cute and he likes me a lot. I also told him i liked him a lot too. So we texted for like three days after tha. And yesterday he said "I will tet you later Im eating :)" and I was like okay bye(:. Then he didn't ever text me back. I texted I'm later that night and I was like "it's taking you a long time to eat haha(:" and he still didn't text back. Then today I texted him and I was like heyy(: and them a few hours lasted I was like "not tryingto be annoing or anything but why haven't you been texting back?" and I know that all the messages got to his phone cause my phone puts a check besid the message when it gets there. Everything was going fine and he told me he loves texting me. So I don't know what's wrong. I guess I'll drop it but what is it? What do youthink? 14/f
haha you're just being really paranoid about this.
He probably just lost his phone. Or it died and lost his charger. Or he's really busy.
Just relax :)
I was your age 4 years ago and I did the same thing. I spazzed whenever a guy wouldn't text me back. But as you get older, you realize that its not that big of a deal. Its nothing to worry about. If it worries you that much, just call him. Talk to him about it and tell him you were worried.
Oh and just in case you didn't already know- guy DO think its annoying when a girl is obsessed with him and won't stop texting him. So maybe you're texting him too much and he's annoyed by it and just ignoring you. Take it down a notch and maybe don't text him as much. Let him come to you and want to talk to you :)
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
Okay so I ran cross country last year and I pretty much sucked, they came close to kicking me off the team ( there are no tryouts). It took me 15 min to run a mile and I felt so sick afterwards (yes I know I'm a failure) what can i do over the summer to get in shape? My parents made me sign up again but I really don't want to embarrass myself again :(
practice makes perfect :)
you've got the whole summer to prepare. So this is the perfect time to start. It's going to take a while but you have to be patient. You should also realize that you can't just wake up one day and run a 6 minute mile haha. It will take a few days/weeks to build up to it. Start off slowly. One day run 1/4 of a mile at your own pace. The next day run the same length but faster. Then increase the distance to 1/2 mile and run at your own speed. Then increase your speed the next day. And so on... until you run 5 miles under a half an hour lol.
There are way to make this easier. Run on a treadmill because you can adjust the speed, the incline, you can see how far you've ran, etc. It also helps a lot of you set a goal and try your best to reach that goal. For example- try to run a mile under 8 minutes by Sunday. If you achieve this goal- you reward yourself by doing whatever you want. If you don't achieve the goal- you plan your next goal and work even harder to earn it! Another BIG thing to remember is that Motivation is key. If you have no motivation, it's going to be really hard for you. Try telling yourself each day that you want to be the best runner on the team. And that this year you won't make a fool of yourself haha. Think about other things like you'll get more attention and boys if you are a better runner haha. People will look up to you like a role model and a leader. Motivate yourself to work hard for this.
I'm not in cross country but i've been through some thing like this. I play volleyball and i've been on varsity since my Sophomore year in high school. i never got playing time until my senior year. When it was the summer before senior year, I was so motivated to finally be the starting player and captain. I worked really hard and I became the starting player during the season!! So if there's one thing I learned- its that hard work does pay off :)
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
Okay. well I've known this guy for about 7 months. I've always been there for him and now we've been seeing eachother. were hanging out more but the thing is i'm really shy around him. And hes starting to question why. and i don't know what to say. I like him alot but I always don't know what to say to him. This is my first Relationship so I don't know what to do. Can you help me?
It's normal to be shy around a guy you like, especially since he's your first relationship.
Try this- stand in front of a mirror. Stare at yourself for a few seconds and just talk. Get comfortable with your voice, your face, your smile. In order to be comfortable around other people.. you need to get comfortable with yourself. (I know it may sound weird because you're talking to yourself, but this helps boost your self confidence and self-esteem). Once you can talk to yourself in a mirror for a few minutes and not get shy or embarassed, you can move to the next level. Try talking to strangers. Go to a big mall and find someone and just casually start a conversation. Its easier if you start slow- like asking someone who works there about an item. or even just waving to a stranger, smiling, then walking away. THe thing about talking to strangers is that you'll never see the person again, so it doesn't really matter if you embarass yourself or not haha. its great practice.
Once you get comfortable talking to people, just tell your boyfriend that you've been shy around him but you're getting better.
:)
inbox if you have more questions!
I'm always crying and my eyes are usually swollen, I've had a rough year, constantly getting bullied. My teachers just pretended that they cared what was going on in my life. My face is usually greasy + pimply, and I have a crush on a guy who will probably never like me back. I hate being 12.
hey there
I know what you are going through. Being a tween/teenager is such a rough time. There's always lots of drama and lots of pressure put on you. At this age, you're always competing.. competing for guys, being the prettiest, having the most friends, being the smartest, being the best at everything.. well let me tell you this- none of those things really matter.
I'm 18- that's 6 years older than you. I went through the same thing you did, and almost everybody went through this too. Its called growing up. Everybody has experienced it at least once. Let me give you a heads up- none of these things matter. I used to think that I had to have a lot of friends, be really popular, look the prettiest and have a ton of boyfriends. That was just high school haha. But then I realized.. i'm never going to see these people again. Why does it matter?? Why should I put myself through all of this trouble, if it doesn't matter?
Set aside those stupid "stereotypes" and be your own person.
You're young. You should be enjoying life and having tons of fun. Don't start stressing about these stupid little things. Actually, i wish I could go back to being 12 years old and take my own advice. I regret so much that I was worrying constantly and always pushing myself way too hard. I never really had any fun either. Because I was pushing myself and it just wore me out and I never really had fun.
Do you know what living life actually means?? its not about how much money you have, or how many friends, or how pretty you are.. that's not how you "live" life. Living life is when you're happy. YOU are happy. You are pleasing yourself and doing things to your fullest potential. This means you shouldn't do things to please other people. Do whatever makes you happy, and let other people think what they want. Because in the end, their opinions will never matter. All that matters is that you're having the best time of your life. 10 years from now, you want to look back at your life and smile, and think "wow. I had so much fun when I was 12." instead of thinking- "I had a terrible time when I was 12 because i was always worrying about small stupid things".
Just go out and be your own person and have fun! If small things like acne and being overweight annoy you, then try eliminating them (in a safe way!). Wash your face 2x a day and use acne products. Work out more to lose a few pounds. Get that courage to talk to that cutie boy and ask him for his phone number and to hang out. Hang out with your friends and go do fun things like a girls night out, shopping, sleepovers etc.
Don't worry about the small things because they never matter. All that matters is that YOU are happy :)
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for the past year or so, I have been shaving 'down there' and ever time i do i get really itchy and small red dots in that place. But after a while they go away? WHat is up? WHat are they? Im a virgin so I know it cant be an STD or something so what are they? Also whats better to use an electric shaver, or a razor ...ps im f/15
Its just razor burn. What kind of razor are you using?? I used to buy the cheap kind from Walgreens for like 70 cents haha and i got REALLY bad razor burn. But then I splurged and bought Shick Quattro razor for women. its pricey but its made for sensitive areas like your bikini line. When you shave- make sure you wait a few minutes in the shower before you shave. The steam and hot water will open your pores down there and it will make it easier to shave off, as opposed to shaving outside the shower. make sure you're shaving in the direction of the hair (for most women, its shaving downwards). That way, it wont irritate the hair follicle and it wont cause the bumps.
Make sure you're using shaving cream too. Thicker the better. There's also gels/creams for your bikini line that are made to prevent the itchy bumps. Just look for them in your local pharmacy store. mine is just called bikini zone gel for razor bumps. Make sure you put lotion down there every day. it will help keep the skin smooth and soft. When you're done shaving, PAT the area dry, don't rub the area dry because that causes irritation too.
Whenever me and my girlfriend are texting we dont really talk about much and sometimes ill ask "want to have a good conversation.." meaning flirty and like talk about stuff we do when we hang out...but most of the time shes never in the mood doesnt wanna talk and when i dont text her she gets sad saying why dont you text me anymore...what should i do?..
text her but start off simple. Start off by telling her about your day- the things you did and how much you missed her and how badly you wanted to see her etc. Then ask about her day. Just talk like she was in front of you. After about a half an hour or even hour of just simple talking, then start to get flirty and tell her something sweet like you're in bed and thinking about her. tell her you wish she was in your bed to kiss her. and just work your way from there. If she seems distant while you're talking flirty.. then its time to sit down with her and ask her WHY she's acting that way. Communication is the key in relationships. If you both have no clue what each other are thinking and feelings.. well its really hard to have a close relationship that way. Oh and when you do sit her down to talk to her.. make sure its in person and not in text or over the phone.
inbox me if you have more questions!
My friend asked him out for me and I always try to impress him but never works because I always make a fool out of myself. He just broke up with his girlfriend and he said he liked me as well.
This is what I'm going to say "Hey look, I know we haven't spoken in a while but I like you a lot. I know you know and I just want to get this off my chest, not from anybody else. I know you just broke up with your girlfriend, that's OK, I don't expect you to feel the same way about me but I just want you to know how I feel so we don't feel this awkward barrier between us". If a girl or a guy said that to you what would you say HONESTLY?
Because we work together, there's never a time where I can talk to him about this because he always runs off.
we never talk like we used to anymore because it's so awkward right now. It's just hi and bye. I'm 27
I say go for it and tell him how you feel.
You only live once.. why hesitate?? Take the chance and do whatever you want, because in the end, you want to look back at your ACCOMPLISHMENTS, not the things you were too scared to do.
If it does get awkward, well its his fault because you didn't do anything wrong. All you did was tell him the truth about how you feel. After you tell him how you feel, the ball is in his court. He has to decide what to do next. And if it becomes awkward, well thats his mistake for making it awkward.
I know this may sound scary.. but your life could end tomorrow. It could end next week. Or next month. You never know what could happen. Stop being so hesitant and scared. Do thing things you want to accomplish before its too late.
Inbox me if you have more questions.