Just your average nice girl next door. Married the love of my life at 24, widowed at 29.
I love cats and sailing and get to the beach as often as I can.
Gender: Female
Age: 39
Member Since: January 7, 2005
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Last Update: July 17, 2006
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I'm 5' tall, 125 lbs, 34 yrs old, 34D. Short and plump. I wear big shirts and tight jeans to hide this. I really want to dress for my age as well as my body type. Any suggestions or pictures of outfits??? (link)
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Hi! Fit is the best thing.... don't wear tight jeans, find a good cut and the correct size for You. Go to a tailor and have them hemmed, it's only about $7
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ok... so i know this is going to be one of the dumbest things you've ever heard... but... my best friend.. idk she doesnt make me feel very good.. she does things that cause me to cut myself.. and she steps all over me.. i bend over backwards to try and make sure she's happy and everything.... but she just doesnt seem to appreciate me.. i'm a really pure hearted girl.. and it's gotten to the point where she could slap me and say she hated me and i'd still love her.. kinda like when you hear about those guys that beat there wives and they stick arond and dont rat on there husbands.. i know its dumb.. but idk... im not happy in life... she's made me weak and insecure... she swore she hated this girl amanda....those two hated eachother for the longest time... and now its like nothing happened and they're best friends again.... i hate it.. and all of my friends say to just forget my bf because she isn't worth it.. but no one understands how hard that is for me..... i know i shouldnt stick around... but gosh.. its so dang confusing.. please help me anyone!
5's to anyone that helps...... :'( (link)
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honey! she is NOT your friend!!! True friends would never ever treat you that way. Friends are loving and caring and supportive. I know this... i stuck with a "friend" that constantly put me down and embarrassed me for years (from ages 12 to 28!). Close the book on her and if she asks why, just say that it's time for you to start a new chapter in your life. If she keeps bugging you say the exact same line over and over. Don't take her calls anymore, and don't reply to any messages. You are better than that - and you don't treat people that way, don't let them do that to you!
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I have been renting a home for 10 months now and I've paid an overraged of at least $300 dollars due to water leaks. I'm trying to find out if my landlord should be responsible for the difference in comparison to a normal water bill.I can't find advice without having to pay for it. Single mom with children and can't afford it already as it is. (link)
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It depends on what state you live in, and how your lease reads. In Mass, landlords are responsible to pay for all water and water overages. (I had senior citizen tenants that didn't hear the toilet running for six months!!! and cost me, as the landlord $360 higher than the usual bill). Your lease may state the same, and if that is the case you should have reported the problems to the landlord immediately AND keep track of when you told them and when they fixed it, etc. (ps... i worked in real estate and rentals for 8 years) You can also check with your local Board of Realtor for information on Tenant's Rights.
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Last night I went to the movies with my guy friend & my friend (who he used to like). I have a crush on him but I don't know if he feels the same way. Some stuff happened last night that made me want to believe he might like me too.
-For example, my friend sat down, I sat down on one side of her & he decided to sit on the other side of me.
-We flirted the whole movie, throwing popcorn at eachother.
-We shared the armrest & I had my head rested on our arms.
-He kept talking to me during the movie.
-He let me take sips of his drink.
-When I said I was cold, he said if he had a jacket on him, I could have worn it.
I'm not sure if it sounds like we're just "pals" or could possibly be more? I really can't tell so I was wondering if someone who was more experienced in relationships could help me out. Thanks! Sorry it was so long!
JaMiE x3 (link)
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Yup, he likes YOU. Otherwise he wouldn't have gone to the far side to be sitting next to you... and/or he wanted you to be able to talk to your girl friend too. Next time take him up on the jacket and get snuggly!
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I am so in love with my girlfriend. She is amazing and everything I need her to be. But this summer I have the choice to move away to Philly with my father (which I been wanting for years) to get away from my mother. And I will be getting paid to play basketball there. But my girlfriend will still be here and I don't want to leave her cause I know we would have a great future together if I stay and I know things won't be the same even if I do come and visit a lot. What do you guys think I should do? (link)
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You are a smart guy to consider all the options. Let me tell ya a couple things from experience. I bet you have a wonderful gf and want to stay with her, but reality is - that she is more than likely not the one you're going to be with forever and ever. You'll probably have lots of gf's before you find one you want to spend the rest of your life with. If she truly is the "one" you'll be back together somewhere down the road. If you don't take the opportunity to go to Philly you are going to be kicking yourself for years, especially since you said you've wanted this for a long time. If your gf doesn't encourage you to do it, then she isn't mature enough for a good healthy relationship anyhow. Hope you make the decision that's best for only YOU.
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if someone says theyre thinkin of you, does that mean they like you?? (link)
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Yep, it sure does! (You would never say that to someone you didn't like, right?)
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how can i lose pounds fast?! ill rate a 5! i need help! (link)
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keep it simple... go for a walk every chance you get and whenever you sit down for one of your 3 meals a day, cut it in half! people eat way too much anyhow. no snacks in between unless it's fruit or something else good for you. if you want to lose the weight quickly you need to go hungry a little bit.
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ok to set the pic i am 13/f and he is 16/m. ok so on to my problem: this kid, lets call him john. well anyways i really like john, but he doesnt like mein that way. he used to be my bros bff, but now we pretty close. wheni was younger i used to like him, and he liked me, but we were too young. well anyways the thing is, i asked him is he liked me nad he was like no,i like this other girl in my grade and i am gonna ask her out. i said oh ok. they just broke up today, and idk if i shopuld tell him how i feel. like i dont want our friendship to change but i really want tolet him know. please help i need to know what to do. also should i ask him how he sees me, i havent seen him in like a month but we always talk on im. so please help
signed,
confused about *him* (link)
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Hi there... even though 13-16 seems close, in ways of maturity/relationships it is a million miles apart. You are still a girl growing into a young lady and he will still see you as a child until you're 16+. Sucks, but that's life... find a cute 14 yr old and just be friends with the older guy.
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i like this one girl, and she's really sweet. we've made out a couple of times, but we don't have a serious relationship. my mom is threatening to disown me because of our relationship. not because we're both girls, but because she's also my sister's daughter. but i think that my mom is completely over-reacting, because i really like this girl. should i continue to see this girl and strengthen our relationship, or should i break it off so my mom loves me again? (link)
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Grow UP! Your sister's daughter is your own Niece... that's called incest, look it up in the dictionary.
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Dear All,
I Hope you can offer some advice here. This is an extremely disturbing story.
Recently my Friend Angela started displaying some weird behaviour. First of all she accused my boyfriend of having sex with my best friend. I did not believe her as i totally trust my man. Anyway- we were not talking to her because of this and other malicious accusations towards my Boyfriend, and general nasty things about me.
So then its my friends wedding reception. Angela turns up dressed like the bride of Dracula and proceeds to walk around the reception telling people to watch out for my Boyfriend etc.
Then she text my Boyfriend (David) and asked him to come over to the house at 5.30 in the morning- which he did as he was worried. She apologised to him and said the real reason she had invited him round was because she needed his help on a mission, and there was a glitch in the Matrix!
I went round to her house later in the morning and she just went mad- saying that her boyfriend who she had recently dumped was a peodiphile but she had to go out with him so that she could prove he was and get him arrested. The reason for this was that she was a "Cleaner" and sent by God to get rid of all the "Black Cherries" in the village. She also said (and this is the disturbing part) that she had to examine a little girl and do Reikki on her because of what had happened to her. And that there was a cult in the village but she had nailed the leader due to the secret work she had been undertaking for the headquarters in Bedford.
Anyway- as you can imagine all this was very disturbing for me and David. She also said that she had been sleeping with David and me(!) behind everyones back which is totally ridiculous as i am straight, but she really believed it to be true.
She also thinks her name is TRINITY and the end of time is coming soon so thats why God has sent her on a mission to sniff out all the bad cherries and get revenge on them.And that i work for the devil etc etc etc
I could go on and on but i wont as you can see this is not normal behaviour!
What should i do- im disturbed about the peadophile thing and she also has 3 children - she sent me a text message saying "Hello Charlotte (the little girl) Sugar Princess- Ive got your Dummer" This is really scaring me and i dont know what to do- please help! I need some sound advice! She is Crazy and im worried what she will do or say next.
Thanks
Katy (link)
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Don't be a dipsh*t. Change your telephone numbers as quickly as you can. You don't need to be her "saviour" in helping to straighten out this nutbag. You sound old enough to know better, just get and keep the hell away from her!!
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When you shave your bikini line, what kind of shaving cream or gel should you use, and lotions? i know not scented ones, but i have horrible bumps, and sometimes it itches soooo bad! can you please give me some advice!
I rate high and leave feedback, if that matters!
thanks so much in advance!!!
-KeLs- (link)
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Hey Kels.... if you're shaving, only shave in the direction the hair grows. It doesn't get as close (you need to shave every day) but you definitely won't get the bumps.
You might try waxing, but it's not for everyone... it hurt me like hell and she said it'd last for 6-8 weeks. Well, in less than 3 days I was out of my mind it itched and hurt so bad. The waxing hurt like hell too.
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This guy keeps coming up to me and saying can i feel your boob and i really don't like it and it gets annoying. I only let people i like do it and he is just not getting that straight. He thinks i like him and i don't like him like that!! what do i do (link)
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Say NO, very loudly and clearly and walk away. And just what is your deal..."i only let people I like do it" ???? so someone you like can walk up and say something like that to you? That's wrong... your own body is the most precious, private gift that you have. Save that stuff for someone you love.
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i have a question me and this guy are going out and like his family like his parents like arent the fondest of me like she is holding something against me. see me and this other guy went to prom together and the guy im going out with now is obviously pretty bummed about this so his mom is constantly holding this against me and just wont gimmie a 2nd chance! So i plan on writing her a letter. I need some help on what to say to her. Like explaining why i did go. I went because he proved 2 me it was so important and that he wanted to go with me. Well this guys mom (my bf) is obviously protecting her "little baby boy"... well trying. but i cant tell her why i wanted cuz she'd hate me more. So please help! (link)
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Definitely don't write her a letter. She's being a little petty, but you being the GF and writing her will only make it worse. If you and your bf are good together, eventually she'll see that.
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i have been going out w/ this dude for about 2-3 weeks.. he is REALLY REALLY into me.. but im not that into him.. i just went out w/ him so he wud stop bein soo sad.. and mad.. i wanna break up w/ him..but all his friends (that r gurls, which is ALOT!)said they wud jump me.. im sure they wud to..b/c he's really popular.. and he has ALOT of ppl on his side!! wut shud i do?? shud i break up w/ him? and how? or shud i not break up w/ him??
signed.. confused gurl (link)
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First you should learn how to spell. Then if you still don't like him, you should break up. Why waste time with someone you're not into... and gee what a cool, popular guy that his friends will hurt you if you break up with him?
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hey , uhm well you see i love my best friends bro . he asked me out . but the only thing is he is 11 and i am 13 . everyone is asking me if i am with him and i dont no what to do cuz i dont wanna get made fun of . please help me make my desicion signed
perfect flaw (link)
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11 and 13 year olds do not "go out" let's be realistic.... just be friends, don't get yourself tied up with that kind of stuff... you've got the whole rest of your life!
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HOW do i become more outgoing?! I want to get more friends and be funny,instead of a shy good girl!! can anyone help? thnx! (link)
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Good question, i've been working on it for years!
Poise and good manners certainly help, and asking relevant questions and Really listening to people when they answer.
You can also practice by yourself... just saying "thank you" or "it was so nice to meet you" takes some practice.
When you go out to a party, make sure you're wearing what you look nice in, but feel really comfortable in too.
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Okay my period has been going on for 1 month and i don't know what to do. It this normal or is something wrong? i don't feel comterbal to talk to my mom about this only advice colums and my friend. i need help FAST!!!!! Because me my friend won a trip to hawaii and we leave in 1 week. F/13 p.s. if it helps this is my second period. (link)
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Having your period for a month is reason to go to the doctor, but it's probably not abnormal. At your age and development, lots of hormones and all that are just going crazy. It takes a few years, but you will have a regular cycle (regular for you - everyone is different)eventually. If it continues to be out of hand, and your family would let you, birth control is a great regulator. You know exactly when you'll get your periods and exactly how long they last.
Good luck
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Hi all I need help My wife and I have been married for 28 years have a good relationship but we have a few problems. one is when I play softball in the summer she does not like it when all the guys get together and drink beer or go back to the bar for a beer, I have to tell you that I am not that fond of beer but it is fun to get together after, I find myself just leaving after the game just to avoid a fight with her is it a major thing that I would like to stay for a quick beer and just hang around I personally do not see anything wrong but she hates it.. what should I do thanks... (link)
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After 28 years of marriage, she's being kind of ridiculous. Unless your not giving all the details or she has another reason to mistrust you. If it's only because she doesn't want you to have friends and outside interests then something is wrong with her. A good, healthy relationship is one of honesty and trust and varied interests! Then when you get home you share the different things in your days.
Good luck!
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Here in the past 2 months one of my friends mother died. And as you know. Sunday was mothers day. and it was just so bad. and she kept wanting to talk to me about it. and i wanted to talk to her about it. but i didn't know what to say! And she still talks about it every day. and she carries her mom's picture around. and i think this is just making it worse. but i want to talk to her about her mother. and i want to be able to comfort her. but i don't know what to do or say. I've told her that any time she needs a mother figure. that my mom is always avalible. but she just says it's not the same. and i somewhat understand. but i just don't know what to do. any suggestions? (link)
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One of the nicest things you can do is just listen.... ask her to tell you about the best time she ever had with her mom, or what was the funniest thing her mom ever did, or even if you tell her that you thought her mom was funny when she did such and such. Lots of people think that when the funeral is over, it's all done with, and it's not! I lost my dad in 1979 at 14 yrs old and still carry his picture and I'm still so happy when someone says, remember when your dad took us all sailing and tells me a funny story about him.
I know it may seem uncomfortable but all the strange feelings are completely normal. You can help her immensely by not just ignoring her loss.
My sympathies go out to you and your friend.
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i am a 15 year old female and,there are these prople that say that my boyfriend
is cheating on me but, i know that he is not because he talks about me all the time . He tells every one that he loves me. and he gets mad when other boys look at me . so please help me i am going crazy .
Love always barby......
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Trust and honesty is the best part of a good, healthy relationship. Those other people are jealous and trying to upset you. Go with your heart until real facts tell you otherwise.
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