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I am so in love with my girlfriend. She is amazing and everything I need her to be. But this summer I have the choice to move away to Philly with my father (which I been wanting for years) to get away from my mother. And I will be getting paid to play basketball there. But my girlfriend will still be here and I don't want to leave her cause I know we would have a great future together if I stay and I know things won't be the same even if I do come and visit a lot. What do you guys think I should do?
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something like this was on roseanne last nite with becky and mark and they ended up getting married. that was a bad idea and your not getting married. but i personally think that love will always get you through everything. youll be able to see her on the weekends and in the summer. itl be hard but you two will just come out stronger from it. i hope i helped :
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yeah that situation sucks. my sister went to college last year in California, and i'm in Indiana, and so is her boyfriend. i would take the shot to go to Philly and play basketball because that's what you want to do and that's what you love. if you guys love each other as much as you say you do, then nothing should happen. you can just learn to trust her. you all could call each other everyday, you can bring her up every other weekend, and so on. it'll work. trust her, she'll make it work. things won't change. if you see that things start to change, you might want to talk to her about it. well idk if that helped.. but good luck!
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i think you should go with your dad. You are talking about your future! i know you love your girlfriend but come on worry about you!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
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You are a smart guy to consider all the options. Let me tell ya a couple things from experience. I bet you have a wonderful gf and want to stay with her, but reality is - that she is more than likely not the one you're going to be with forever and ever. You'll probably have lots of gf's before you find one you want to spend the rest of your life with. If she truly is the "one" you'll be back together somewhere down the road. If you don't take the opportunity to go to Philly you are going to be kicking yourself for years, especially since you said you've wanted this for a long time. If your gf doesn't encourage you to do it, then she isn't mature enough for a good healthy relationship anyhow. Hope you make the decision that's best for only YOU.
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i was wondering how old you were:-) 15..okay wll in tht case i dont think shes gunna move w/ you even if she wanted to..i dont think her parents wud be to happy. and i mean like if you really wanna get away from your mom and move w/ your dad then you really shud. it wud make you a better person cuz youd be w/ a person you wanna live w/. yah i kno you wanna live w/ you gf..and im not telling you to forget bout her..but the money you get from basketball cud help you go back and forth and see her. and she even says she`ll make it work- so she`ll try and make an effort to come see you... you kno?
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If you really want to go live with your father i'm sure she would understand. There are always long distance relationship's. And there are many ways to talk to each other these days. During the summer and that you 2 could still see each other!!
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Well it depends.. If you love her then you should stay down here with her.. Wait intil ur noth out of school then move with your dad and she can move with you. if you think that you and her have a life together dont through it away.It seems to me that you really do love and care about her dont mess it up. Follow your heart..
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How old are you both?? I personally think you should go to Philly! I mean you dont get that oppritunity all the time and you could still find time to see each other. Talk on the phone just always keep in touch. You will be together. If its true love between you both nothing will change that no matter how far away you live. Good luck with everything tho!!!! ♥
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Honestly, I think you should go to Phildelphia. I KNOW it'll be difficult to leave heR, but you need to do what's best foR *YOU*. Philadelphia seems like a window of oppoRtunities, and it would be unfaiR to youRself if you let this slip by without taking advantage of it.
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Well,I am not a guy, but let me ask this. How old are the two of you? Since you will be getting a job playing basket ball, how soon would you be able to have her move closer to you. Since you say you love her and she is everything.
If that is not an option within a year or so,then yes, the relationship may be in trouble. Though, it is funny, 25 or 30 years ago, couples waited for each other. Many young people went off to war, and they left girls behind and the girls waited for them,(not ALL of course) and they got married when they got back.
Today, I hear from young girls all the time,
they don't want to be alone, they want instant gratification, they want attention and they want it now.
If your girl friend is like that, and won't wait for you, well then maybe it was not meant to be,and you will be better off in the long run. sorry to say that, but I think if a couple really cares for each other, and want to spend the rest of their lives together, then a few months or years of separation should not make a difference. Yes it is hard but not impossible, if both parties are willing to sacrifice and think of the long term gains and not instant gratification.
I just hope this puts things in perspective for you. Good luck to you and good luck with the basketball.
Michele
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