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LIFE IS JUST UGH!
ok... so i know this is going to be one of the dumbest things you've ever heard... but... my best friend.. idk she doesnt make me feel very good.. she does things that cause me to cut myself.. and she steps all over me.. i bend over backwards to try and make sure she's happy and everything.... but she just doesnt seem to appreciate me.. i'm a really pure hearted girl.. and it's gotten to the point where she could slap me and say she hated me and i'd still love her.. kinda like when you hear about those guys that beat there wives and they stick arond and dont rat on there husbands.. i know its dumb.. but idk... im not happy in life... she's made me weak and insecure... she swore she hated this girl amanda....those two hated eachother for the longest time... and now its like nothing happened and they're best friends again.... i hate it.. and all of my friends say to just forget my bf because she isn't worth it.. but no one understands how hard that is for me..... i know i shouldnt stick around... but gosh.. its so dang confusing.. please help me anyone!
5's to anyone that helps...... :'(
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Why do you feel the need to hang out and be best friends with someone who makes you so miserable? There are so many other people out there who would be your friend and not treat you like a door mat. You really need to work on your self esteem and realize that you do not deserve to be treated that way. Demand some respect! :)
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Ok, personally, if she is doing this and making you cut yourself you need to just leave her and go to your other friends. Honey, nothing, and I repeat NOTHING is worth cutting your self over. Especially not a so-called 'best friend.'
But, if you still want to be friends with her, you have to talk to her about this. Tell her how you feel and everything that you've stated in the question. You just have to let her know you feel like this and that you still want her as your best friend.
I hope I helped and good luck, hun! ;)
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ok i know you heard this so much...
but "you should go find new bf because she is not worth it!"
before you dump my thing ...hear me out...
i am not those people who forgives everybody, but i had a friend like that...she cursed at me, hit me and all that crap load... first i forgave her since she said she was sorry...but later she started hanging out with people and cursin at me behind my back and callin me and cursing too.
and i got pissed off at her so i ended friendship there! and i AM so glad i did BECAUSE...
it gave me a chance to make NEW best friend who doesnt treat me like piece of you know what!
and you deserve so much better than that
you are CUTTING because of that! and Self esteem if going down ! DONT DO THAT!!!!!
it just makes me so mad when people dont let go of things that isnt worth it... i am sorry if i made you feel bad and all that but i try so hard to help people around and if i couldnt help them i get mad at my self so bad! i curse at my own self for not being help ful enough...so please hear me out why you gotta let go of her...
1. FRiendship is NOT Cutting, Hurting!
its all about the caring, and loving in sisterly way.
you know what! in fact it is whole new SISTERHOOD!
2. if you care so much about her, but she dont care a single cent about you than what do you have to show for? NOTHING but CUTTING!
3. you HAVE other friends who's trying to help you forget about her! but What do you do instead?
think your so called "bf" is better than them and listen to her and not the people who's trying to help you.
and i know i am pushy and all that but i am really trying to help you. i've seen such a bad thing come out of all this i dont want that to happen to anybody else!
i HAD been through same thing! i know it hurts. but you gotta realize if you bend more she is stepping on you more ! and so on and so on until your back gets so bent that you will get injured.
i mean rEALLY injured... i've seen people DIE from so called "friendship" and get Injured severly...
so listen to your TRUE friends who is trying to help you.
realize THIS!!!
"YOU are not the only person who is gettin hurt out of all this! think about people who ACTUALLY CARES ABOUT you! do you think they are happy with all this! NO SIRREE! even i am getting pissed of at your so called bf when i dont even know you!"
and mostly YOUR other friends will be hurting if you dont do something to solve this!
so please email me and i will do my best to help you out!
i know you've been hurt and you are still hurting but trust me please...
pinkfairy1773@aol.com
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Listen, your question is not pathetic, and niether are you. You know you need to tell her to get out of your life, but its hard for you to think about letting go. So that doesn't make you pathetic at all. I really think that talking to your best friend wouldn't be too much help. I think its time that you've done something for yourself, and something you could start with is letting her go and cleaning up the cutting situation. Pure hearted girls like you don't deserve to have scars on them and a rude best friend that causes the stress of your cutting. Be that pure hearted girl to yourself and clean up your situation. You have those other friends you talked about in your question to have. They respect you, and they don't want you to be hurt. You can bond with one of those friends as a best friend after your cutting problem gets itself a solution. You need to tell your parents, yes, I am crazy, but you need to get help. And if you want to talk to me about how you should go about getting help, I am begging you to ask me, I will listen to you, and help you through it. I hate picturing a girl like you losing her happiness or innocence to cutting. So, if you need support, I can be that support.
-TheTeenGirl
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honey! she is NOT your friend!!! True friends would never ever treat you that way. Friends are loving and caring and supportive. I know this... i stuck with a "friend" that constantly put me down and embarrassed me for years (from ages 12 to 28!). Close the book on her and if she asks why, just say that it's time for you to start a new chapter in your life. If she keeps bugging you say the exact same line over and over. Don't take her calls anymore, and don't reply to any messages. You are better than that - and you don't treat people that way, don't let them do that to you!
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Hey sweetie, I know exactly what you are going through because I just got out of the exact same situation. How do I feel? Pretty relieved. Life will never be the same.
Basically, you have to make a choice that will change everything. It might hurt at first, maybe not. Sounds like you are just as loyal to her as I was to my best friend. I tried to stake it out for as long as I could but it ended up catching up with me. I turned to my mom & she gave me advice that I want to share with you...
Anyone that makes you feel degraded, hurt, scared, unloved, unappreciated, pushed aside, un-needed, unimportant, or drives you to self harm, they are not worth it. You have to decide whether you would rather live a life free of pain & sorrow without her, or go on living the same troubles WITH her there.
I know you're having alot of trouble making this decisian & that's what keeping you from deciding but you really have to choose. You deserve way better then someone like. I wish I had a friend like you that was that loyal. Anyone would be lucky so I suggest finding someone who will treat you kindly.
Good luck! If you need anymore help, feel free to ask, I'm here for you ♥.
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okay i had the same problem...i had this best friend and then when she meet some one eles she for got about me like she still said we were bf and everythign adn then she would make me do her homework so she could go off wiht veryone eles i left her made new frinds and now im happier.....you could talkk to her about it but i dont want to say ne thign that might not work yall might end up fighting and it will just get worse from there say that you have to spend some time alone to her then durning this time you would go make new friends .......right now the real only thing to do is talk or walk....if i were you i would walk!?!?!
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ahw hun. you're her bitch.
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I can't imagine what you must be going through. Good friends are hard to find. Sometimes it may seem like a hard thing to go through to let someone go. I think in the long run you will be better off to have a TRUE friend than this girl. A TRUE friend would be equally as nice to you as you are to her. Maybe over the summer you could try spending less time with her and more time with your other friends. Then it would not seem like such a dramatic change in your life to not be friends with her. Find other things to do with your time besides spending it with her. It sounds like her and Amanda are starting a new friendship and maybe you should do the same. Don't worry about her feelings... she has Amanda to lean on. You need someone you can lean on too. Maybe this will at least put a smile on your face. "A good friend will come bail you out of jail. A TRUE friend will be sitting beside you saying "Darn we messed up" Hope I could help!
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If you don't want to stop being her friend stand up to her when she does something you don't like. Tell her when she is hurting you or your feelings. If things don't change your going to have to let her go. Good Luck!!!
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Ok...it is hard to forget your best friend, I mean, she's been through everything with you and understands you better than anyone, but there is no reason that she should be treating you like that. She should be giving you the same respect that you have given her. So, as hard as it may seem, you should tell her how you feel, and if she doesn't like it then, screw her. She doesn't deserve to be a friend to some one as nice as you. You deserve better. You deserve some one how wont bring you down like that. My answer to this question is forget about her if she doesn't realize how much she is hurting you, ok? Good luck...hope my advice helps
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Why don't you cut her instead of yourself?
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