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what are the different bases? because people always have different opinions.

There's quite a few variations. My own opinion is:

1st: Making out
2nd: Hand jobs
3rd: Oral
4th/homerun: Sex

Some people go by the "4 F's"
"French, feel, finger, f***."

Or even
1st: Making out
2nd: above waist
3rd: below waist
4th/homerun: sex


It's really all about your own opinions. There is no 100% right code for the bases.

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14/f.

i feel extremely sick, for the past 3-4 days. these are my symptoms ..

-constant headaches.
-stressed out.
-my stomach kills
-dizy
-i feel like im going to throw up
-cant eat
-trouble sleeping.
-cramps.
-lower back hurts.

i am however, on my period. but i've never ever ever, felt this stuff before, usually i just get cramps and the lower back hurts. ive never feeled stressed, im really laid back, and lately i feel stressed out and everything. are these common things to happen during your period? ive had mine for, like 2 years. and ive never felt this way. so, i didn't think that was causing it. has this ever happened to you?

i know no one on here are most likely doctors, or anything, but, i was just curious, if anyone has ever felt that way, or gone through it, or know anyone that has.

ok thanks so much.

I've had it twice.. both during that time of the month.. and like the same as you, I don't normally get bad ones.
It could be because of your period, or you may have picked up a virus.
Periods do cause those symptoms, but you need to be 100% so you can be prepared if it happens again.
Either way, if it persists and you still have the symptoms within, say, 3 days, consult your doctor.
Either way, period related or not, a doctor can relieve your symptoms.
I hope you feel better soon.

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Ok I'm 13 years old and my breast are only an 34A. But one of them is bigger than the other! i already figured out that their is no friken hope and that im going to stay this small for the rest of my friken life!!!!! WHAT DO I DO????!!!! THIS IS SO FRUSTRATING!!!! HELP!!!!!!!! What do I do about the size and how do i get them the same size and how do i get them bigger?

What 13 year old has big boobs? Not alot!!
Patience is the only answer I'm afraid.
and don't worry about them being un-even for the time being. It's 100% normal and happens to alot of people. They will most probably even out, so waiting is the only thing you can do.
If you want to give an illusion of bigger boobs, why don't you wear a push up/padded bra? You can get them at most stores if you're that bothered about your size. But don't forget, you are young and have SO much time left for them to grow. No worries. :)

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If you ask someone out, and they say no, what do you do next?

Most people will suffer rejection at some point in their life.
[I'm guessing you mean face to face]
Imagine being the other person. It takes alot of honesty and courage to just say no and not beat around the bush. That's how I think of it anyway. So if I ever get into that position, I'd say "that's fine. and thankyou for being honest with me." Or something along those lines.
It's important to remain cool and calm.
Rejection is a lesson in life. So if if happens to you, you become wiser and learn from experiences.

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i like to watch gay porn and jack off to it but i hate seeing guys kiss, its just weird and i can never think of loving a guy. i date girls all the time and naked girls turn me on too i like to think of myself of straight...what do u think.

To be honest, before you start jumping to conclusions whether you're gay or bi, I don't think you're either.
"It's just weird and I can never think of loving a guy" - If you can't see yourself in a relationship with a person of the same sex, you're straight.
I take it you're a teenager, so you obviously have alot of time to find yourself and your sexuality, so for now, don't put pressure on yourself and worry about it.
You could like watching gay porn for the simple reason of having something in common with the guys you're watching. It's quite common really.
If you see yourself as straight for the time being, then that's what you are.
Give yourself time to mature and see if your feelings towards guys expand. If they do, and you still like women, you have the best of both ;)
Don't worry about it!

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When a dick is hard do you suck it or just jack him off?

I really need help!!!

I'm sure the guy would be happy with either!
Do what you personally feel comfortable with, or talk/ask him which he'd prefer.
Remember to only do it if you're 100% ready. :)

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I am having trouble with my let eye...it constanly feels irritated...i have to blink it almost every second and it soetimes feels like there is something in it and like there is a cloudyness. I also cannot foucs on things. If i m looking at somethign everything has to be the same colour,not moving and almost equal..if it isnt i cannot look and i get very irritated. It is irratated when i have my eyes closed to. i have pain behind it too...i think this is becuase i am straing the muscles...any ideas whats wrong??

This happened to me. Turns out i'd got a piece of salt in my eye (yes, salt!) and it scratched the eyes surface. The doctor gave me eye drops to stop the irritation.
You may have a foreign body in your eye.. and you may not. It could be a different problem which needs treatment.
As noone here can be certain, you need to make an appointment with an optician or a doctor so they can get a closer look and finally stop your eye being irritated.
I hope your eye feels better soon.

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All of my boyfriend's friends tell me I'm ugly and he can do so much better than me. What are some ways I can improve the way I look? I just don't think I look pretty.

here are a couple of pictures of me (my hair isn't blonde and brown anymore it's dark brown/auburn)

http://s52.photobucket.com/albums/g14/kiirstinthegreat/?action=view¤t=DSC00108.jpg

http://s52.photobucket.com/albums/g14/kiirstinthegreat/?action=view¤t=l_77a2cb1b3f4578957a051490d299f973.jpg

Those are the only pictures I have that you can really see my face

You're a stunner.
If you're boyfriends friends insist on calling you ugly, they're either blind, or jealous your boyfriend has such a wonderful girl.
Chin up, love.
and your new appearance sounds rather fantastic.
Don't listen to anyone who puts you down.
and don't feel you need to change for anyone - only yourself.

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me and this one kid who i have dated
before still like eachother and we
are both single... we makeout a lot
but we arent going out... would this
be assumed as friends with benifits
without the totally sexual part?
cuz i never really liked that idea!

Personally, I wouldn't consider making out as friends with benefits.
Some people would, but I guess it's your own opinion.
If you took it further and experienced the sexual side of things, then it definitely would be.
You're just hooking up. and many people your age probably do that, so you shouldn't label yourself as something you don't like the idea of :P

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whats a myspace profile tracker that actually works?

None. Trackzor did work at first, but now Tom has banished it all and forbidden any sites from doing it.
If you come across any, don't be fooled. Most of them are plain trash or contain viruses.
Plus, isn't it better to keep it anonymous? ;)
Who knows, with the amount of tracker requests, Tom may make one for the future!

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hi im 13 and i have masturbated about 10 time with back of pens cucumbers and random things in the house which you shouldnt masturebate with im scared about my period i turn 14 in 3 weeks will this affect my period coming im scared about if i damaged something i have stopped masturebating now please help im really scared thank you

Masturbating doesn't affect your period! Relax. :)

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I think my cousin and boyfriend are falling in love right in front of my eyes, and I can't do anything to stop it!

SHould I let love/destiny take its coarse, and let it pair them up, I mean if they're meant to be together, who am I to stop them?

Or do I fight for someone who appearantly doesn't even want to be with me?

Help!

FIGHT.
You should never lay back and watch something happen. Even if there's a 1% chance you'll win him over, do it.
I've been in this position, it's not pretty, but if you fight, at least you'll know you tried.
Best of luck sweetie

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Hi!

Does skype have spyware or anything? Can you get viruses from it?

I guess what I am asking is: Is it safe to install Skype on your computer?

Oh, and please tell me how you like skype and give me a review if you can. :)

Thank you!

I used to have Skype when I was younger. I didn't get any viruses etc on it and neither did any of my friends. It's also well known and many people use it, so I doubt it's a threat to your computer.
I found it to be fun - much less effort than typing to your friends etc. You can also talk to anyone, at any time, from any parts of the world. Of course you should still be careful and treat it as you would with any internet chatroom etc by not giving out any personal details, but apart from that, it was a really enjoyable experience. and now you've reminded me about it, I'd like to download it again!
Happy Skyping!

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I love music.
But, i want some good christian bands, or songs. So, does anyone know any?

The rocket summer.
DEFINITELY check them out. It's one talented musician and he's one of my favourites, ever.
www.myspace.com/therocketsummer
Hope you like :)

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Well... I tried the personal space thing, he doesn't mind me being close to him which is good isn't it? But I told him I like him again and he just says "Oh not that again" sometimes he even gets annoyed at me for doing the same joke again when it isn't a joke. Basically, telling him is out of the question :( so what should I do now? Oh and I don't want to make a friend tell him, because I don't really tell my other friends anything because they would tell everyone; he is the closest of all my friends.

Yes, that is a good thing, however, if he is your closest friend, that could be a reason why he's so comfortable with you doing it.

If I were in your position, after telling him numerous times to his face, i'd take the last option.
I'd write him a letter, email, message, etc, explaining how serious you are and how the fact he thinks it's one big joke is upsetting you.
Bearing in mind, he could be getting annoyed at you for doing this "joke" because he doesn't have the same feelings back for you, which gives him an excuse to pretend it's a joke and not have to answer you truthfully.

I've actually been in this position before, where a friend has told me he has feelings for me. and at the time, I didn't want to hurt him by giving him a blunt no, so acted as if he was joking and to stop. After me not giving in, he eventually did stop.

Now, I hope this doesn't turn out the same way for you, so give him an ultimatum. Let him know you're deadly serious. Tell him you'll do anything to make him believe you. and if he doesn't, try not to make him feel too bad, but let him know how it's affecting you.

Still, don't forget if he doesn't have feelings for you to let him know it won't affect your friendship or make it awkward. Because deciding you have feelings for your best friend unfortunately makes things weird.

It's a really awkward situation, isn't it.
For now, tell him everything in some form of message and keep it on a serious note.
If that still doesn't work and he honestly, honestly thinks it's a joke, or you still would like further assistance, i'll be here to help. :)

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so recently i posted a question about industrial piercings.

now that im scared senseless of the pain im fixin to endure, im gettin it done tomorrow =0

if i were to take some advil or some kind of pain killer, would that help me to not feel it as much when its pierced or make it less sore?

any last minute advice?

thanks!

Just try not to panic! I like industrial piercings. My friend has one also.
Of course it will hurt - like most piercings, but afterwards it will be a big relief and then you have the healing to look forward to.
Just so you know, industrial piercings can be awkward to heal, so don't play with it or touch it without a very good reason to. It should be fine if you look after it well and try not to bang it, however.
I don't think taking pain killers before hand is necessary.. Infact, I think it's a bad idea. Taking anything which can thin your blood 24 hours before a piercing = bad (alcohol/some pills etc) and can cause you to be a bleeder in the piercing studio! and I can tell you that's not an enjoyable experience.
Your best bet is to talk to your piercer and tell them you're scared of the pain.
They could numb it for you or just give you that reassurance you need.
So don't worry. and I wish you a very happy piercing experience. :)

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What, exactly, does friends with benefits mean?

A friend you hook up with - more so sexually.
They aren't your boyfriend or girlfriend, so if you're looking for commitment, it's a bad idea, because your friend with benefits could be seeing other people as well as you.

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14/f
What would you say is the best razor? I have both the Shick Intuition and the Venus Breeze. I want a razor (or good dipilatory) that will keep me smooth for a long time on my legs, bikini area, and underarms. Currently my leg hair grows back with in like 9 hours because i shave before i go to bed but when i wake up they are slightly stubbly.

If the razor is new and sharp, and you've tried more than one brand, it can't be the razor.
You say it can take as little as 9 hours for your hair to grow back. Bingo! Everyone is different in the hair department.
You can either shave in mornings or try other ways, such as wax. Waxing lasts alot longer and no, it doesn't have to hurt. :)
If the quickness your hair grows back really bothers you, you could get treatment for it if you visit a beautician, although that could be a waste of money, if you simply do it your self with wax strips or hair removal cream.
Also, it's worth trying different creams/gels etc before you shave. Why don't you try conditioner? It may make your skin feel smoother and the hairs less noticeable as they start to grow back.

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Ok well im 14/f and ive been depressed for like two weeks. i think that its because i really really like this guy. hes so cute and nice and funny. but i dont think he likes me as more than a friend. I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM! but im too scared to tell him how i feel. i dont know what to do. i havent told any of my friends, and they keep asking me whats wrong. HELP ME PLEASEE

I'm sure everyone has experienced this at some point in their life. and it's not a nice feeling, is it?
Okay, firstly, you say you "think" he doesn't like you more than a friend.
Would you feel better if you asked him and he turned you down (if he did) or not ask at all and never know the answer you would receive?
I think you should tell at least one of your closest friends. It's always good to get things off your chest and have a little natter about boys you like. Also, she may be able to help you and find out if he's interested or not.
If you can't stop thinking about him, you have to help yourself in some way. The last thing you want to do is cut yourself away from reality and live in some dream world thinking about him. It'll make you feel worse.
Get out and see your friends more. I know you might not feel like it, but it will honestly help.
Within time, you'll realize you might not like him afterall, or someone else may come along that sweeps you off your feet.
Everyone goes through this, so you shouldn't feel the need to be depressed about it. You're a teen. It's normal!
I wish you the best of luck. You can either get out and try to get him, or get out to take him off your mind. :)

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Hello everyone! This of course is my first time on this site and I have a very personal question. I've been having some really great sex and my only problem is I'm not sure if I have had an orgasm I'm actually sure I haven't had one .how long b4 I do u think? I must add that I was sex free for 3 years and I'm 30 yrs.old?

If you've had an orgasm, you would definitely know.
It doesn't have anything to do with not having sex for 3 years.
Perhaps you just haven't found what works for you.
What works for your friend for example, may not work for you.
Fact is, most women can't orgasm through sex alone.
You should experiment with masturbation to know how you like to be touched, or have your partner do it.
If all else fails, it could be worth making an appointment to see what could be wrong. It could be psychological.

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