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//hey its me again
Well... I tried the personal space thing, he doesn't mind me being close to him which is good isn't it? But I told him I like him again and he just says "Oh not that again" sometimes he even gets annoyed at me for doing the same joke again when it isn't a joke. Basically, telling him is out of the question :( so what should I do now? Oh and I don't want to make a friend tell him, because I don't really tell my other friends anything because they would tell everyone; he is the closest of all my friends.
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Yes, that is a good thing, however, if he is your closest friend, that could be a reason why he's so comfortable with you doing it.
If I were in your position, after telling him numerous times to his face, i'd take the last option.
I'd write him a letter, email, message, etc, explaining how serious you are and how the fact he thinks it's one big joke is upsetting you.
Bearing in mind, he could be getting annoyed at you for doing this "joke" because he doesn't have the same feelings back for you, which gives him an excuse to pretend it's a joke and not have to answer you truthfully.
I've actually been in this position before, where a friend has told me he has feelings for me. and at the time, I didn't want to hurt him by giving him a blunt no, so acted as if he was joking and to stop. After me not giving in, he eventually did stop.
Now, I hope this doesn't turn out the same way for you, so give him an ultimatum. Let him know you're deadly serious. Tell him you'll do anything to make him believe you. and if he doesn't, try not to make him feel too bad, but let him know how it's affecting you.
Still, don't forget if he doesn't have feelings for you to let him know it won't affect your friendship or make it awkward. Because deciding you have feelings for your best friend unfortunately makes things weird.
It's a really awkward situation, isn't it.
For now, tell him everything in some form of message and keep it on a serious note.
If that still doesn't work and he honestly, honestly thinks it's a joke, or you still would like further assistance, i'll be here to help. :)
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