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If someone knows something about this or have exprienced it i would appreciate any feedback as i'm beginning to get paranoid about it! for about 4-5 days now i've been experiencing a rash like scaly,peely,dry,red skin on my vagina not in my vagina just around like the lips part and around the opening of my vagina almost to my rectum. The first couple days it was just sensative but for 2 days now i've been having that scaly,peely,dry,red skin and it hurt a little when i had sex more uncomfortable than sore. No burning but have become slightly itching now at times but not extreme itching as a yeast infection or something. I don't know what it is and have been experiencing it ever since i ended my period and at first my thought was because i wore pads for about 9 days straight and i had some kind of pad rash but now i'm starting to think it might be something else. I might just be paranoid but i would like to be more safe than sorry. I've been in a 5 years relationship so i don't think it's an STD unless he has been unfaithful which i doubt but you never know. Thank you in advance for any feedback. (link)
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None of us can say with certainty what is affecting you here. We aren't doctors and can't see what you are describing. The best thing you can do is call a gynecologist and have them look at it and tell you if it's normal. The itching, dryness, peeling etc. etc. isn't normal. I doubt it has anything to do with your partner.
Is there any chance you switched soap to a perfume kind and washed this area? My cousin had what appeared to be an infection that was triggered by bubble bath. Bottom line see a doctor and get it looked at.
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ok i am a girl. i have never had an orgasm from sex or masturbation or anything like that.
this is totally weird and i dont know what is what but the other night i woke up in the middle of the night and i honestly felt like what i would think an orgasm felt like that....i have no idea...then it happened again last night...can any one explain? (link)
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I just wanted to point something out that the other posters haven't. You don't need to be thinking sexual thoughts or having a racy dream to experience what you did. In males it just happens sometimes and is called a nocturnal emission.
They orgasm and release semen. Girls don't release semen of course but they can have an involuntary orgasm in their sleep from time to time and become wet. If this has happened to you or continues too don't worry.
If you felt your muscles contract and several small and or intense ripples that's definitely an orgasm. Bottom line you're fine and don't worry about it. It's a normal part of life. Some people experience this and others don't while sleeping.
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how would u guys treat a back stabbing friend???? especially she spread nasty rumors about you??
also she take your friends away?????? (link)
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Nobody can take anyone's friends away. It's up to them whether to be persuaded or not. Even if you don't want to admit it as fact there's something perhaps inadvertent you've done to piss them off. It could also be an issue with jealousy, boys etc. etc.
Give this friend the benefit of the doubt. She might not have started the rumors on her own. She may be following someone else's lead to stay in their circle. Either way have a talk with her privately and hash this out. That's the right and mature way of doing it and don't fight.
If you can't repair things move on and show that nothing she says or anyone else does can bother you. People will soon forget about it and you'll eventually find more supportive and solid friends. This could be a blessing in disguise when every piece of this puzzle is finished with.
Don't allow rumors to bother you let this slide off of you like water on a duck. The only power they have is when you let it get to you. don't waste your time as other people simply disregard rumors and your real friends know the truth about who you are.
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I had sex for the first time this week, I don't think I did it too soon. I was ready, and Its the right guy, deffinetely.
But some people think its too soon, what do you think? (link)
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It's actually not legal for people under 18 to have sex with anyone. That's a law not a lot of people pay attention to so I'm just making it known. It's never a good idea for 14 year olds or minors to get involved with sex.
As long as you are mature, educated and being careful that's the key as you're going to do what you want regardless of the advice on here.
It doesn't matter so much what others think yes, you're too young but it's always your decision and if you are being mature and protecting yourself it's the best anyone could ask of you if continuing to be sexually active. I urge you to get a birth control method in addition to condoms to avoid having a pregnancy.
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18,female.
i've always had a good relationship with my parents, they do trust me and we're probably closer than most parents and teenagers are. i can talk to my mom about alot of stuff but there is one thing i can't talk to either one of them about and that is sex, and being sexual. they know i'm on birth control, my mom went with me to get it but i went on it to control my periods and they also know i'm a virgin (i hope they still believe me) well anyways a couple weeks ago my dad caught me doing something he probably didn't want to see, and that was me in my bra with my best guy friend. they both love this kid, but they thought we were just best friends. well i tried to cover it up, but my dad knew exactly what was going on. now we were not having sex or really doing anything sexual we were just messing around with each other and cuddling but i've never had a boyfriend before so they think i have no interaction with boys, at least in a physical state. well he talked to me about it that night and was like i don't care if you mess around with him, just be smart about it and i was like i know dad i'm not stupid!! well i would hope this awkward situation would be put in the past but today i was driving with my mom and we were sort of fighting and then she brought up how i should go see the doctor, well i want to, to ask them about my birth control and make sure everything is okay and she was like maybe you should get a papsmear and i was like NO! i don't want to, doesn't it hurt? and we were talking about it and she was like you can start getting them when your 18 but usually if your sexually active, and then she said "but i know dad said you and nick (my best friend) were "fooling around"" and i was like yeah mom we are having sex, being sarcastic and she was like well maybe he gave you cooties then i was like whatever. AWKWARD!!! it's just annoying that they assume i'm doing this sort of thing. i think it's cool that they don't really care if i do things like this or not just as long as i'm smart and safe but i hate talking about it because it's not what it seems. me and this guy haven't like done anything but i don't think my dad beleives me no matter what i say because yeah what would you think if you saw your daughter with a boy in her bra when you came home? i just don't know what to do!! it's not that i want to stay a virgin until i'm married, i'm just waiting for that right guy and they always bring up how i don't have a boyfriend, which also gets on my last nerve. they put me down when they talk about it, like i'm not good enough for any boy because they say "i'm too needy, and all i care about is myself and no wonder why i don't have a boyfriend" which makes me feel so good about myself..yeah...
well any suggestions would be well appreciated thank you so much. (link)
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I read this late last night and forgot to answer it. If I were you I would tell them that your guy friend no longer feels welcome in your house and refuses to come over.
Also tell them that while you may have been in your underwear that you've never done anything sexual with anyone and were cuddling. Tell them you haven't had sex and don't plan to any time soon with anyone and don't want to be pregnant or have an STD.
They should understand but alas you can't make anyone see anything they don't want to. I would get them to invite him and his parents over and show them that he's a standup individual and nothing is going on sexually and won't be.
As far as talking about sex goes as hard as that may be to do have the discussion and get what you want to get across and listen to them. They care and are the best source of solid info.
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I am 14/F. I am single and I am pretty popular at school. A guy friend of mine told me he had a crush on me for the longest time, and he never asked me out. When I asked why he never did, he said it was because I am Student Body President of my school. (I am also one of the brightest kids in my Acc. classes, and I am kinda pretty I guess.
I have TONS of guy friends... but how come nobody asks me out?
Are guys intimidated by me?
Why do guys get so easily intimidated?
WHat can I do to show them I am not scary and that I WANT them to make a move?
I know this is a lot, but I need to know.
Thanks a bunch!! XD
Lyssa (link)
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It sounds as though your status and considerable popularity with teachers and students has intimidated some people. The best thing you can do is show that you include everyone into your circle and want more friends. Start seeking out friends and speaking to guys and girls both who people would think you wouldn't.
Show how sincere you are and approachable and your problem will be licked. As for this guy you mentioned apologize if you came off as unapproachable in the past as that's not how you are at all. Tell him thanks for bringing it to your attention as you would hate to be viewed as a snot or a bitch just for being president etc.
Then, tell him you would love to go out with him if he's still interested. Problem number 2 solved. If you don't want to date him just continue being nice not kiss but but nice to everyone you know or don't know and then they'll see you're anything but an ice princess. Good luck and do be sure to let me know if you wind up dating him. It seems to be what he wants--reassurance and a solid answer.
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I guess it would be fan mail, although he's not necessary a "star." Thanks! (link)
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Try using the contact for for Team U.S.A. wrestling. He's ranked by them and a current member. http://wrestling.teamusa.org/ They should follow all mail to their athletes or give you the write address to send something to him.
He has an official web site but there is no form, address or e-mail address listed. I tried an easywhois search on the domain name but that didn't yield any contact info either.
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this girl at my school wont stop preaching to me about God. "God loves you, he loves you do much, he has a purpose for you, blahblahblah" and yeah. ive told her this before: I KNOW ALL OF THAT!! i go to church, i hear this every week. iknowiknowiknowiknow. but she just wont shut up and leave me alone. what do i say to her? is it bad for a christian to not want to talk about God because its getting on my last nerve?? (link)
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Tell her that you respect her beliefs but would like it if she kept them to herself in the future. Let her know that you have your own beliefs but don't go about broadcasting it to your peers.
There's a chance she may have grown up around fundamentalists or those fanatical about religion who think they must make everyone follow them. If she continues to make these views known and harass you into following them tell your teacher and principal privately to tell her this isn't the proper time or place to share them.
She probably has that mentality and her church or parents have told her to be in people's face about God and saving others. Once the school teaches her that she must curb it all should be well.
She could also be a bit off it and be obsessed with this one thing to the point nobody could tell her anything. I've had this happen o me in the past with someone who wouldn't stop with their views. So, I left a Christian Science Journal on my desk to show I was Christian but not open to constant or any discussion. That's all it took as it gained her respect.
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I used to use payday loans because an ex got me in debt. I have 600 dollars worth of court fines that need to be paid by the end of jan. Instead of waitin last minute til tax time and possibly get in trouble for not paying them would it be an ok idea to use payday loans to pay off the fines then with tax money pay the payday loans off? (link)
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Not a good idea. There's too many things that could go wrong. Either way you wind up in debt or without money in the end. You don't want to further wreck your credit or deal creditors or people at these agencies who act like loan sharks or close to.
Tell a family member that you are in over your head because your ex ruined your credit. Tell them that you will go to jail if you don't pay $600.00 by the end of January. Better to owe family than them.
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I was trying to find a job recently and put in job applications to all sorts of places I thought might be hiring. I know lots of places are currently hiring holiday help since Thanksgiving and Christmas are approaching. I put in applications to WalMart, KMart, Target, Fashion Bug, and Dollar General.
I got a call back this morning from WalMart. WalMart wants me to come in for an interview! I am excited and nervous but I've never had an interview before for WalMart.
What is an interview at WalMart like? What sort of questions does WalMart ask during an interview? Will I need to bring anything in particular to my WalMart interview? How should I dress for an interview at WalMart? Is there anything I need to know about WalMart before I am hired? Is there anything I should ask the person who interviews me at WalMart before I take a position?
As you can tell, I am clueless! Please help before it's time to go to WalMart for my interview! (link)
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Going for an interview at Wal-Mart is no different than going to an interview anywhere else. Dress in business casual wear (dress pants, sweater, blouse for girls, dress shirt, pants for boys) to be on the safe side. They'll look at how well you are groomed and present yourself.
You won't need to bring anything with you except for your resume if you have one and references. In this case you won't need to know a whole lot about the store and its history. They might however ask you what you think of it.
Definitely ask questions. Ask about the amount of hours, how much you will be paid and when, what job do they want you to do and days of the week you'll be working. Ask anything else you can think of that you really want to know in order to make a decision to work for them.
Above all if this is your first interview for a job tell them that and you're nervous. They'll make sure you feel comfortable as you progress. They know a lot of people have their first job through them.
If you've had a job before they'll ask you about that experience and why you left. You can also expect questions on how you handle people who are rude, idiots, angry and how you get along with others.
If you wan to fill a specific position like McDonalds or people greeting more so than being a cashier let them know and also if you suck at math don't take a position as cashier to begin with.
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i work at a day care and there is a little girl who is five and is special needs and there are also problems at home she always comes to the day care stinking like her parents never give her a bath and she is a huge bully to the other kids she hits them pushes them kicks them throws things at them i just dont know how to handle it any ideas (link)
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Talk to her about what is happening at home and gain her trust. There may be something more awful happening to her that you don't see.
Talk to your supervisor about her poor hygiene, get clearance to bathe her and get her a nice outfit and send her home with a note that she must come bathed. The parents might get the point.
I would work privately with her and your supervisor on her social skills and how others respond to her. let her know being a bully isn't tolerated. Take into account her special needs and try to get her on the right track.
It might be hellish at first. I think her parents have thrown in the towel or don't know how to care for her. Bail her out to the best of your ability.
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So i'm a 17 year old girl. nothing special. but since july ish i've been having this feeling of being alone. i can't talk to my best friend about it because he's always like "i'm here for you" even though he goes to college and i'm still in high school, and he really doesn't understand what i mean. i mean alone, like, i feel like i don't belong anywhere. i'm single so i don't have a bf to talk to, my ex best friend and i are in a fight because we're not always on the same page, and she's so touchy about everything i say. i feel like all my friends are moving on with their lives, while i'm still stuck here not knowing what to do with myself. i want something new in life but i can't seem to find it. i haven't been to a doctor because i don't have one and i know i might have anxiety. my mom had depression so i don't know if that's rubbed off on me or not, but i keep getting this recurring feeling of being disconnected from the world. i've tried doing things to stay away from people, like read and go to the library during school, but nothing feels right anymore. am i mental or is there an explanation for this?? (link)
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Mental illness doesn't need to be hereditary and seldom is. It can affect anyone and I'm proof enough of that. The feelings you describe especially of feeling alone and disconnected from the world need immediate attention.
Document them in a journal and go in detail about how they make you feel. Talk to your mother immediately about them and use what you have written down to back it up and take to the emergency room to show the psychiatrist there.
I feel you need to be accessed at an emergency room as the thoughts you are having aren't normal and can be dangerous. You may be depressed but it could be more. If these thoughts and moods fluctuate it could be a symptom of bipolar disorder.
This is definitely an emergency situation where you tell your parents and go to a hospital. The doctor will then make an assessment and treat your illness. Usually it will be with medication. Don't be scared thy only keep you 72 hours if they think you can get hurt or be a threat to your own self. That's not an issue.
But yes do look into this as it's about your mental health. There's enough presented here to take it very seriously and seek help. It's not about a lack of a BF or good friends though it factors in but about your dark thinking and thoughts. It ain't normal.
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I want a small indoor dog who can get along with my cat, is preferably easy to groom, doesn’t bark like crazy without good reason, and is affectionate. There are no children in my home which is in a rural area, I’d love taking him/her on a walk with a leash, but the dog also needs to be able to entertain itself for about 9 hours while I’m gone at work on weekdays. If anyone can give me breed suggestions, tips, or any other info, that would be great! I’m considering an Australian Terrier. (link)
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If you are gone nine hours a day and expect it to entertain itself than I wouldn't get a pet. That's asking a lot of the dog and especially a young one that needs all the attention you've got and to be trained.
My aunts leaves her dogs for hours and we feed them and care for them then drive home. Aside from that little bit of exercise and chow they're starved for affection and their owner doesn't see that.
If you want a relatively calm dog that seldom barks, is affectionate, and adapts easily pick the Shitzu the person below mentioned or any mix that is crossed with it. I also recommend a Pug as they're very intelligent, fast, seldom bark and enjoy being cuddled and held like a baby.
They're big sucks and will milk this and their size for all it's worth. A pug-shitzu mix is what we have and I adore him. They imprint on a person very fast and are tremendously loyal to that individual and won't want to be separated from that person for long.
I find that they don't like traveling or at least this one does very well at all. Mine gets sick every time. But that shouldn't be a deterrent. It sounds as though you need a cat not a dog. The cat can tolerate your 9 hour absences a lot easier than a pup can. Just a thought!
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him 17 me 15
ok so for about a month now me and one of my best guy friends have been being involved....but not dateing....well for like 3 weeks now people have been bugging me about dateing him but he told me he dont want me to ask him out he will ask me out and so this keeps going on...well today we were hanging out with our other frineds and they started asking if we were dateing and he wouldnt say anyhting and I said no and he just sat there and kissed me...It's been driving me nuts because everyone keeps buging me about i and not him and he dont get it...should I just give up on the whole thing with him since I have been waiteing a month or should I keep going forth and being annoyed untill he asks...if he ever does (link)
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They're bothering you for two reasons. Their lives are boring and he's likely put them there to feel things out. He's gutless and looking for you to make the final move that he won't.
If these people are bothering you just say "I appreciate your friendship but my private life/business isn't up for discussion." They won't bother you if you are assertive. You could also call it a "dead issue." They want a reaction or he does from you. Don't give it to them.
Next speak with this guy and tell him you're beginning to get pissed off over people asking and him not doing anything. Tell him to ask you out and make it official or scram. he's not handling things maturely so you being 17 might want to aim higher or if you like him give him the ultimatum to put up or shut up.
Sometime's a girl has to do what a girl has to do to get her point across. Manners only gets you so far in certain situations. Let the gloves come off here if need be. Don't behave like a mouse.
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Is Lily's Talent Agency in Chicago a scam? (link)
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I don't live in Chicago but it could be. How to tell? Are they making promises of roles to people they can't keep? Do they want to charge you for pictures, lessons, a portfolio? Do they want to put your image on the Internet to get you roles? Do they want money up front? If so RUN.
You shouldn't hire any agent that isn't listed as reputable on the ACTRA web site in Canada and SAG in America. They are the unions representing actors. They put out a list of good agents. If your agency isn't listed there don't sign with them.
The biggest scam these days is agencies that want money for representing you or for a portfolio, photos, lessons or putting your info on the Internet. Casting directors never use the Internet to cast anyone.
An agent never gets a thing up front. They make 10% of what you earn from jobs they got you. The only exception to the rule is for a kids only agency or a background talent agent for extras. They can charge up to $100.00 a year as people keep bailing once they see that there is often 18 hour work days involved in certain shoots.
If you're looking to see how films are made and experience that process get a background talent agent to be an extra in film and TV shot in a large city near you. Then you'll know if you want to pursue this further with a principal agent who reps 10-20 people for regular gigs.
They don't take on anyone without experience or raw talent. A kids/teen agency listed on the SAG/ACTRA lists would suit you if you find you enjoy being an extra first.
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I shake. I love to act, I'm not scared to preform i'm not nervous at all i just shake. I can't help it I'll be completly fine but the min. i start talking i shake BUT I"M NOT NERVOUSS! I got a good part in this play thingey and i don't know how to overcome this shaking!! HELPP! (link)
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Are you on any medication that could lead you to get tremors at random? There are many anti-depressants and lithium that require you drink tons of water or you get the shakes. If so, you likely need to drink a lot of water and the shaking will fade. That's the case with me.
Try drinking a lot of water through the course of the day to get hydrated before going on and see if that works. It may also be psychological and related to an anxiety disorder or fear.
I would bring it up with your doctor and get referred to a psychiatrist just so they can determine if that's the case and if medication will stop it. If this has been going on for a long time and isn't recent it sounds medical rather than anything else.
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I am currently living in the United States but I have found something online (on Ebay) that I want to purchase from Canada. I contacted the Ebay seller that I wanted to buy the Ebay item and that I was from the United States. The Ebay seller mailed me back and told me that I had to pay in Canadian currency.
I was planning on sending a money order to the Ebay seller, but I'm not sure how that will work since I don't know to get a money order in Canadian currency.
How can I do this and how do I convert my U.S. money to Canadian so I can buy the Ebay item? I REALLY want to buy this from Ebay but I don't know how to do it the right way. Please help before the ebay item closes! (link)
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All you need to do is put in a bid and wait. Then when you win tell them you're going to the post office or bank to get them a money order in CDN funds. Let them know that it takes at least 7 days for mail to get there or send it with a tacking number.
All you have to do is go to your local post office and ask for an INTERNATIONAL (that's the key word) Money Order in the amount of X dollars and X cents and you're set. You don't have to convert any cash into American or CDN at all.
The teller will know the exchange rate between CDN and American and will tell you to pay X in American which is X in CDN in American funds but will stamp CDN funds on it and International.
If in doubt ask the post office clerk for assistance. All you do is fill in the name of the recipient and put your signature. I strongly recommend you send it by tracking number so they can't deny they never got it let alone can't cash it if they didn't wait for it.
You pay a small fee for the processing of the money order. You can also go to a bank and do it but it takes longer. This is quick and simple. I do it all the time. So go ahead and bid in confidence.
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so me and my boyfriend just started having (protected) sex. i was a virgin before, and we've done it like 3 times but the first time it didn't go all the way in, the second time it did go all the way in and it hurt but it was bearable. but the third time it hurt so bad i bled. will it get better? and is there any way to make it more comfortable for the time being?
thanks a ton =] (link)
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You need to be lubricated a.k.a "wet" to make sex less painful or friction and trusting not hurt as much. That's why adults have foreplay to lead into the actual act.
Over time it will get better. Some women don't produce enough natural lubrication so using an artificial one or KY lubricants or warming gel may work.
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18/f, VIRGIN.
well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while, i love him to death and i'm definately ready to have sex. anyways the problem is we can't do it at either of our houses, our parents are ALWAYS home and neither of us have a lock on our doors, plus it would just be weird knowing parents are in the house. so my boyfriend was like if either of them don't leave somewhere we can do it in my car. i just laughed and was like oh god and he was like it will be hot :) i'm not sure how i feel about this, i don't think it should matter where but it's my first time you know. and where i live, the high temp is around 30 degrees at night which is cold. what im asking is what sex is like in a car. he has a ford explorer, so it's not like that little and i'm also worried about it being cold! well thanks, any stories or experiences would help! (link)
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ADDITIONAL INFO: I didn't catch you were 18-years-old and not younger. The advice is for someone younger. Having said that you're 18-years-old and legally an adult. Why do this in a car if you can do it comfortably and safely at a hotel? It would be a lot more comfortable and memorable if you plan to make it special. You don't want to regret who it was with as well as where and it being rushed.
ORIGINAL:
I wouldn't do it in a car period. It's a stupid thing to do to be brutally honest. It's not legal as it's lewd behavior be it in a parking lot or not. If someone sees you or a cop sees you charges would be made if not worse.
Try explaining that one to your family. Being cold, uncomfortable or not dressed to please your boyfriend will be the least of your problems if you do "it" in a car somewhere.
Also, you may not know this but it's not legal for anyone under 18 to be having sex with anyone regardless of age. I learned that from here in any state. We can't stop you from doing it either.
What I would do is be honest in a letter to your mother that you plan on being sexually active but need birth control pills and to be safe. Let her take you to a doctor. Your parents would rather you do that, not in a car, not without protection and in their home rather than not.
It's better to be open than them find out some other way. Sure it's hard to tell them but nobody said it was easy either. This keeps you safe.
However, if you are both 18 you're free to do what you want and use a friends place, hotel, dorm room etc. but as you aren't it's not an option or wise choice period.
A car is cramped, cold and unpleasant especially if this is a meaningful thing to express true love which it should be if it isn't. I honestly have no idea about the condom but do know that you cant leave them in extreme cold, warmth or hotness in a glove compartment or other storage.
Your first time is something to be remembered and not rushed. I encourage you to be open with your family, wait a bit longer and find a comfortable place if you decide to do this.
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hi, well right now im am 18 year old female, but this has always been a problem for me. during the school year, i like never do anything during the week. i come home from school, sometimes will take a nap and then do homework. i wish i could hang out with my friends but i'm such a freak about getting my homework done and i feel like i can't enjoy myself while going out during the week because of school the next day. i feel like i'm the only one who does this but i can't seem to break the habit. i go out on the weekends, but the weekends arent long enough! is there anything i could do? i'm a good student, i always get my homework done but i just can't seem to go out and hang with my friends. (link)
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You need to make a chart. Write down all your subjects and due dates for material. Then allot no more than 1 hr 30 mins per day on homework. That's about the average amount of time to do work that has been assigned on a daily basis.
Space things out that way and develop a chart for how much time spent on each subject or what you'll do today vs tomorrow. You should then be able to go out and do whatever you want to. That's what your friends are doing.
Also stop being a bloody perfectionist either as the world won't stop if you don't get all As or do lousy on something. Loosen up and just go with the flow. I do mean to put best effort in but don't kill yourself trying to do it.
It's unhealthy to be doing what you are doing when it comes to school. Your guidance councillor will say the same thing as would a principal, teacher or a psychiatrist. It isn't good for your mental health let alone social life.
Go hang out with your friends! That's exactly what everyone would tell you to do and let things fall into place using charts and spending 1 hr 30 minutes a day on things and then tend to what you want to do with friends. Your siblings and parents who likely want rid of you by now would agree. Just ask 'em!
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