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so i gave my boyfriend a blowjob for the first time last weekend. i gagged a little bit. but then when i did it again last night, i gagged a lot more and couldn't breathe at some point. i'm not grossed out or anything, i'm just gagging because of my reflex. are there any ways to stop doing this? should he just not go as deep in my mouth/throat or what? please help! thanks
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Nobody wants and Emergency Response Team sent to your house because you started to sufficate when.. Well, you get the idea.
We can't give how to tips here as it violates terms of use regarding minors on the site and what they can't be exposed to.
However, I can say you're going about it all wrong if you are repeatedly gagging. That's not supposed to happen and would turn off your partner if you were to throw up or pass out because you couldn't breathe properly.
All this boils down to is that you're taking in far too much here and need to figure out another approach not to. That way you won't gag and will not have further problems. You should never be hitting that gag reflex regardless of technique.
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how do you get a orgasm? how can u make it feeeel reeealy good with out any other person. (link)
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Only you can answer the question you asked. Even if someone here gave tips (against the site rules) they would be totally useless to you.
Every girl and every guy for that matter respond differently to certain types of stimulation. This is no different. The only thing to do is keep experimenting until you find what feels really good for yourself. You are the ultimate and only expert out there on your body and what stimulation it responds to sexually or otherwise.
I have to warn you though that I'm rating this question as 1 as teens answering back with tips is a violation of the rules posted elsewhere on the site. You didn't know, but we need to keep minors safe.
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my boyfriend has depression. i feel terrible for him, i'm so in love with him and i was wondering if anyone knows anything i can do to make it better? he's one of those kids that you would never expect to have depression because he has tons of friends and is really outgoing and i just wanna know anything i can do or any advice to help him get through this. we're both 16. thanks soo much. (link)
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It sounds so simple but the best thing you can do is LISTEN and NEVER judge. Encourage him to be vocal with his teachers, counselors and psychiatrist about how he feels.
Ask him to keep a journal of his thoughts and show it to you frequently. This will show you his state of mind and when adults need to know something isn't right. Bug him about his medication, ask him what it does etc and know his symptoms. This is how you can make sure you are helping.
If I were you I would also ask him to check out what out patient support groups they have for teens at the local hospital with mental health issues or groups that exist outside of it. He may find friends there dealing with the same issues.
If he's depressed and nobody knows this yet than I would encourage him to tell an adult and visit a hospital emergency room and get assessed as sometimes with depression you can't leave it to wait. He would get helped that way.
But it looks like you're being better than a good friend or girlfriend by showing concern and figuring out what you can do. My best advice being BP myself is to LISTEN, NEVER JUDGE and keep your eyes and ears open for anything that looks or sounds wrong to you. Also, don't be afraid to talk to to adults, your parents and his about this either. If something doesn't seem ok about him speak up.
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ok. um, this is kinda...akward...and scary.
so, me and this guy (we'll call him L) have been going out for the past year. he's one year older than me. L's always been real sweet about the whole sex thing, but lately, he's been...pushing, and i'm kinda scared, cause he's getting kinda angry/violent. i'm scared he's really gonna hurt me, cause he hit me last week when i made him stop, taking of clothes and stuff.
I dont know what to do.
Help?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? (link)
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Tell your parents that he tried to force his way o ntop of you,and has struck you and used violence to try and get his way sexually. They'll take care of it and likely press charges which I encourage you to do for assault both physical and sexual.
If a guy genuinely loves you than he would never do this. It's dangerous sticking with a creep like this. You just never know what else he could be capable of when it comes to force.
Cease all contact with him and move on. Make sure your family, friends, peers and teachers know what he's done. They'll handle him. Focus on your own life and new opportunities and wtach this guy self destruct. He's a time bomb as this will escalate.
Talk in confidence to prior girlfriends and see if he has done this to them and get them to back up your claims. If you know he can seriously hurt you than GET OUT and don't look back forget loving him either as it's not a loving environment.
Do what your gut screams at you to do and tell an adult you trust and ask for help because you're in over your head. Your parents may be angry and upset over what you tell them but they'll know what to do and that anger/upset will be directed towards this punk and not you.
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I have to do an interview with somebody that is a Wiccan. The only problem is I do not know anyone and I have nobody to ask.
Are any of you Wiccan, and if so, can you please fill out a list of questions for me?
What does WICCA stand for?
Where and when did the brief in WICCA begin?
Since the Cross in the Catholic church has a symbolic meaning, what is the background of the pentagram?
Do you have things like the Ten Commandments?
What exactly do Wiccans believe in? Who do they follow?
How do go about becoming Wiccan?
Since Wiccans believe in witchcraft, do they believe there is some way they could bring the dead back?
What do Wiccans believe happens to you when you die?
Please leave your first name and state, thank you so much :]
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It's a policy of this site never to do someone's homework for them. Also, I doubt your teachers would let you get away with using someone on the Internet. I would talk to whomever assigned this to you and tell them straight up that you don't know anyone who practices it let alone where to find them. Let them point you in the proper direction.
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I was dating this guy for a year and we got on so well about a month ago he dumps me he said becous I am mixed raced he cant be with me as it is to confusing and he is white but he said it is to difficult I dont understand what he means or am I just weird? (link)
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Weird? Not at all. Either he or his family are ignorant and racists. Trust me, you don't want to date someone like this. As hard as it may be move on. He's probably following his parents wishes or concerns about biracial dating.
The only thing I can suggest is to invite him and his family over to hash things out. It seems to me as though he really does like you but dropped you because he was told to. You can't like someone a lot and drop them that fast with no warning sign.
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I doubt many people will be able to answer this, because not many people know anything about this situation, but if you can offer any info on any part of the question, that would be helpful!
Anyways, I take the Rx drug, Seroquel. I take it at night and when it starts to kick in, often it will give me a stuffy, runny nose. When i wake up, my nose is incredibly swollen, like i don't look like the same person. If you have taken this drug and had some kind of nasal symptoms, let me know! My shrink says she hasn't seen this in her other patients.. but i've found online that a stuffy/runny nose is a common side effect of the drug. but i had a nose job like 2.5 years ago, so i guess my nose is just a lot more sensitive.. which i guess would account for the swelling. The reason Seroquel does cause that side effect is because it inflames the lining of the nose (crazy drug). And i have found out from doing research that when the lining is swollen, the openings from the sinus to the nose are blocked and sinus fluid can't drain. Sounds like that is my problem. So i do what i can, i take nasal decongestants and use the nasal sprays, but it really doesnt help THAT much. So, does anyone know something i could do to prevent all this swelling? Is is possible this is causing permanent damage to my sinuses/other stuff up there??
Also, i've heard about people with sinus problems getting turbinate surgery. Could this help my swelling and other nasal symptoms? If anyone knows anything about turbinate surgery, or shrinking of the turbinates, please let me know!
I went to an ENT and she was so rude and just told me there was nothing she could do, because my problem seemed to be caused by a psychiatric drug, which is something she doesnt deal with. So it seems like my only option is doing some research on my own.. no one seems to know the answer!
For anyone who actually took the time to read this, THANK YOU. (link)
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You never mentioned what medications you are on plus the Sereoquel. That's important as while they make you stable they all interact in a way that you can have multiple side-effects and feel sick every now and then. Let me know the amounts and what illness they are treating.
Seroquel is an anti-psychotic and IF you are bi-polar usually coupled with lithium and several "band-aid" drugs to provide a floor so you're not all depressed and a ceiling to make sure you never go manic. It has other purposes too.
How much if any water are you drinking in a day? The thing with Seroquel, Lithium etc. and other drugs you are on requires you to keep chugging back bottles of water constantly. If you don't it can make you nauseated, could dehydrate you or make you have symptoms like you are sick and then go away. Often you can have flu like symptoms.
Water is needed to make Seroquel, Lithium and other drug combinations they would have prescribed work in your body. Always be hydrated for that reason. Although you had surgery on your nose or a deviated septum if it wasn't given you trouble for years it's not now. It's drug related. Keep bitching to your doctor to look into it and he will.
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okay so on friday me and my boyfriend had sex kinda it was like only a couple of minutes haha of course we used a condom (YAY safetey) and it was my first time that a guy ever put his penis all the way in. ya it hurt like a bitch but not to much so an hour later when i came home i used the bathroom and i started bleeding like a little bit it wasnt tons of it but you know and iknew it wasnt my period becuase it didnt look like that kind of blood ( i just ended my period the day before though) and im still kind of sore now and its sunday but only when i wipe. just wondering if thats normal.? and i want to do it again on friday like till we finish or he does idk if it will feel good for me or will it hurt still or less? will i bleed again? when will it start to feel good? (link)
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I can't say with absolute certainty what is causing the bleeding as I'm not a doctor. I also don't have the benefit of being female either. I do however know about sexuality, mechanics and anatomy.
The leading cause for the bleeding could be your hymen tearing. That causes spotting most of the time and it goes away. However, if you use tampons that negates this. It could be from friction, forcing his penis in, not being lubricated. It's only a real problem if the bleeding keeps happening (for several days) and never ceases. In that case you need to see a gyno to have a look down there.
Soreness that you describe is normal as is it hurting like a bitch for females the first time. One of your biggest mistakes was not stopping when insertion seemed too hard. You weren't properly lubricated and this accounts for the pain, soreness and maybe even bleeding you describe.
In a strict definition you didn't kind of have it you had it as there was penetration. You're not considered a virgin. I would hold off on Friday and let the pain, soreness and bleeding stop. Then the next time get an artificial lubricant from the drugstore as that will help with insertion and cause less pain. Eventually everything will feel good but that's how you avoid what you've described.
Being well lubricated as well as aroused has everything to do with whether you'll experience friction, pain, burning, soreness during intercourse. Like I said, artificial lubricant will help if you can't produce enough naturally.
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i am a fit 14/f. i was wondering if there is anything i can do to make my waist smaller.. like exercises or cut down on certain foods ?! (link)
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Not eating junk food, sweets or soft drinks will help for starters. If you can refrain from eating fast-food when you are out it will greatly help you. As far as exercise goes aerobics, swimming, cycling, beginner's yoga, stretches, anything such as weights for strength.
What you need to do is visit your doctor and get weighed and checked out first. He or she needs to tell you your BMI and target weight that is safe and weight that is dangerous to go low to. They will set up a plan so you can reach your goals. You should also ask for a referral to a nutritionist who can teach you what, how and when to and not to eat things.
The weight you should be is based on your height. You can look that and your BMI up to see if you are where you should be online. The fat or baby fat you may see might be normal for you and indicate you shouldn't try losing more. Have a look and you'll know whether to see a doctor.
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My boyfriend likes when the girl is on top and he likes when they take charge and are really aggressive....well..i'm shy, and quiet. I've thought about pushing him onto the bed, holding him down and having my way with him but when it comes down to it and we're actually together..i dont know, i just dont do it. I'm not against it, I want to be more aggressive but I don't know how. (link)
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I think the problem lies with being too analytical and always questioning yourself and holding yourself back because of fear. You try to reason with yourself but can't let yourself be spontaneous.
You need to figure out what makes you shy, what holds you back and what about sex or being in control has you worked up? It's obvious you are okay about the idea and have been responsible but just can't go there. It's all mental and not a physical inability. Is it something to do with body image or how you'll look?
You need to talk to him and tell him that you're shy, quiet and being in full control isn't something you are used to. Tell him you'd like to try things but at your own pace and that you fear disappointing him and embarrassment. If you can trust your partner 100% than you should be able to handle this together. Let your fear out to him. It may be all it takes.
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i used to cut myself when i was depressed but im not depressed anymore and i havent been for awhile but i havent been able to stop cutting, or burning myself sometimes i do it just cause i feel like i have to in order to be okay for the rest of the day or to go to sleep. i just do it on my hips because i dont want anyone to see. but i want to stop wanting to cut or burn and i feel like im never going to be able to stop.
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If you truly want to stop you have to tell and adult what's happening. I KNOW you don't want to do this or for people to know. That's pretty common. However, if you don't rely on the help of others you'll never break this cycle.
NOBODY will blame you for any of this or make you feel bad or even miserable. The adults you approach may be shocked at first but when it comes to your parents, teachers, clergy etc. they'll always give you support and not judgment. They can get you the help you need.
Proper care from a psychiatrist who can treat the illness and provide medication if need be is required. Cutting is linked to several mental health issues and can be stopped with professional help.
Again, I KNOW you don't want to do this because it's hard but you need to if you genuinely want to stop. Think about it what's worse the cutting or being brave and getting help for it? When it comes to this you have to want it more than your next breath or equally as much. You can tell people in a letter even. The illness thrives off of you not taking action. That's how it has worked on you the victim in all this and trapped you. Don't let it have the power anymore.
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Theres this guy im almost sorta going out with. I seen one of his friends and thought oh hes cute and seen how he acted and thought maybe he'd be good for my best friend. I told my best friend about him and I want them to meet. I haven't formally met the guy either though. so how should i tell my crush that his friend and my friend should get to know eachother? And he doesn't know my friend either. I could say oh my friend thinks that your friend over there is cute [even though she hasn't seen him] and/ or what else could i say? I have it set for them to go out, i dont know why but i really want them to. (link)
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Invite them to a movie or a party and formally introduce them to each other. Tell them both that you thought they would really hit it off and let them do the rest of the work. That's the best option.
You could also talk to your friend about his friend and your single buddy being so much alike. Ask him if he can set something up so they can meet. Tel him that you think they would be a perfect match. Let him talk to his friend and set something up.
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Ok, so I've always written different. Always. I learned to hold my pencil differently then others. I used to think it was pretty neat, writing all different and stuff. Well about a year or two ago, when I started drawing seriously, I noticed that my hand smudges EVERYTHING! I write with my pencil sitting on top of my ring finger. Over time, I guess it created an indention because the end of that finger is pressed inwards. My middle and pointer finger aren't necassarily on top of the pencil, but they just are on the side, helping guide it. Then my thumb wraps around my pencil and presses down on my pointer. Well, that leaves the rest of my hand to just lie there, on top of my paper so that anytime I run my hand over it because I'm writing or whatever, lead gets ALL OVER the side of my hand and smudges it and it's terrible! D; I know what the "normal" way to write is, but it just feels weird to me :( is there anything I can do to prevent smudging but still write and draw comfortably? Thanks! (link)
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You should talk to your teacher or hunt online for a teaching supply store near you. They sell a plastic item that is usually the shape of a triangle that slides into position so you always grip the pencil correctly. There's at least seven different kinds you can get which allow you to write small, do artwork etc. They call it a Pencil Grip.
In Canada they have a store called Scholar's Choice (formerly Moyers) that you can purchase it from online. I don't know if they ship to America or not. Google them and see about that. It may not feel natural at first but if you continually use the device it will become so. It should improve your artwork and get rid of smudges.
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Hi there,
I was recently given a Maltese Shitzu Puppie for Christmas.
I bath her regularly or when necessary. I know you can't get water on their heads because it causes ear infections..
Problem is her face is always smelly.. the hair around her face gets wet when she eats and when it dries it goes very hard a smelly...
Any ideas on how I can clean it for her?
I am taking her to puppie school.. hehe.. seems to be working but as soon as I get a pair of scissors near her face she goes crazy so it's very hard to chop the necessary hair off.
Any Idea's??
Thank you :) (link)
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The best thing to do is tell the puppy trainer about how her face always smells and if there's any gunk on fur surrounding her face. This is common with some smaller breeds especially pugs. I have a pug/shitzu cross myself. You have to clean their face and wrinkles often.
Your trainer will show you how to care for this kind of problem on the spot. Your vet can also give you hands on advice. I wouldn't cut her hair as it's not the hair that is the issue it's a discharge. I would go ape myself if I were her with scissors near my face.
As far as baths go talk to the trainer and or your vet as small dogs especially puppies shouldn't be bathed until a certain stage and certainly not as often as you're doing. It could affect health. Even my adult dogs only get bathed 1 a month.
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Hey so i tried shortening this but it was hard for me to make it two paragraphs because there is a lot of stuff that is needed for me to say or else its hard for you to understand how i feel, i am sorry:[
well there is this guy who is a year younger than me, i am a sophmore he is a freshman [in highschool] who is friends with my friends brother and i met him at her house back in december. weve been talking here and there on facebook and i saw him again at their house in january. after i saw him there we would talk and he told me how he really wants me badly [only in a sexual way] and how he wanted to do all of these sexual things with me [i think he was just going to use me] also something else that is weird is that he likes this girl who lives an hour away who he only sees once a year and im pretty sure they are going out. but anyways i didnt think he cared if he had a gf so far away and talked to me like that too.
one night we were talking and he pressured me into sending a picture, he said hed be mad if i didnt.. but it was just of my chest while wearing a tank top and then my butt in jeans..
but after i sent them i looked at his fb wall and that girl had wrote, I LOVE YOU TOO!!!! so i think they are going out.
about two weeks ago I IMed him because he hadnt IMed me since i sent those pics and i was confused. and so our whole conversation was him begging me to give him a bj. i kept on saying no i dont think so sorry but he kept asking and making me feel bad..at the end of the conversation he just said i want a deep throat from u sexy ;] and then he said for me to text him. so i did. but his phone was off and he didnt get it until two days later but then never responded.
so about two days ago i decided to IM him..only because we havent talked in two weeks and i dont understand why..i thought maybe its because he hadnt seen i was online at the same time or something. so i IM him and all i get from him is, hi
which is weird because i always get a hey. and HE usually IMs me first.
then i go, whatsup
and he just never answered. what the hell did i do. but i mean he didnt treat me nice at all or anything but i just dont see why he doesnt want me anymore, why so sudden. im so confused and i feel so bad about myself and so ugly. please tell me what it was that i did..he always told me how badly he wanted me, he really wanted to do stuff with me, but now all of the sudden im just nothing? things dont just change like that. he used to just fine with me not giving him a blowjob so how could that change this? he told me im really hot. like all the time. so ..i dont get this. at all. i just feel stupid for IMing him now. (link)
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Trust your instincts and what that little voice in your head says about him. It's a cliche but alarm bells should be going off in your head. You're right the guy's a slimeball who only wants you for his own gratification.
He doesn't give a damn about you and only wants sexual favors. What concerns me is that he asked for racy photos. You made a HUGE mistake in responding. Luckly, what he posted online was not pornographic. He embarrassed you but it could have been worse.
You need to get smart and document his e-mails, IMS and write down what he has been saying to you. Tell your parents, principal, guidance counselor etc. what he has been doing and how he has been sexually harassing you. He can and should be charged by the police for this. He has serious head problems.
You caught on to him and denied him the very thing he wanted a sexual favor. Once he saw you weren't going to oblige and were disgusted he moved on to a potential next victim who might give in.
You don't want to be with this guy. He has serious head problems and tells girls what they want to hear and pressures them to do things they don't want to do. Be sure your family and the people I mentioned get the full story on him from you. There's tons of other girls he's doing this to or has but they might not have courage to come forward until you blow the whistle.
I sure as hell hope you didn't delete anything he e-mailed or Imed you as that's all it takes to nail him and teach him a lesson as sooner or later he'll get arrested as an adult for something far worse like sexual assualt. He's developing into a real predator already. Put a stop to him.
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hey i was hoping maybe you could help me understand this guy and why he did this to me.
im really sorry this is so lengthy, i just have a lot of thoughts on this and for some reason i cant seem to get over it.
well there is this guy who is a year younger than me, i am a sophmore he is a freshman [in highschool] who is friends with my friends brother and i met him at her house back in december. weve been talking here and there on facebook and i saw him again at their house in january. after i saw him there we would talk and he told me how he really wants me badly [only in a sexual way] and how he wanted to do all of these sexual things with me [i think he was just going to use me] also something else that is weird is that he likes this girl who lives an hour away who he only sees once a year and im pretty sure they are going out. but anyways i didnt think he cared if he had a gf so far away and talked to me like that too..because he is very low and shallow and once called himself a pimp. one night we were talking and he pressured me into sending a picture, he said hed be mad if i didnt.. but it wasnt a bad one i had clothes on..but after i sent them i looked at his fb wall and that girl had wrote, I LOVE YOU TOO!!!! so i think they are going out. and it bugged me because he was talking to me like that WHILE he was saying "i love you" to that other girl? i dont understand. but anyways, about two weeks ago I IMed him because he hadnt IMed me since i sent those pics and i was confused. and basically the first thing he said to me was, hey i love your rack. then i go, thanks haha. and he sais, no your supposed to say i want your dick in my mouth. after i read that i started shaking. because i knew this was it. i knew if i didnt agree to that, he would stop talking to me. but i just COULDNT agree! i mean what on earth makes him think that is normal?! we are not going out, ive only seen him twice, he does not like me. i think he has a gf. that would be so messed up. and so our whole conversation was him begging me to give him a bj. i kept on saying no i dont think so sorry but he kept asking and making me feel bad..at the end of the conversation he just said i want a deep throat from u sexy ;] and then he said for me to text him. so i did. but his phone was off and he didnt get it until two days later but then never responded..so i was really confused because at the end of the conversation he didnt seem mad since he put a winky face after he wrote that..so i didnt know why he wasnt talking to me..
so about two days ago i decided to IM him..only because we havent talked in two weeks and i dont understand why..i thought maybe its because he hadnt seen i was online at the same time or something. so i IM him and all i get from him is, hi
which is weird because i always get a hey. and HE usually IMs me first.
then i go, whatsup
and he just never answered. what the hell did i do. i mean i know that he has friends that go to my school and i feel like MAYBE his friends said something about me to him or something? i dont think so..i think im just paranoid. but i mean he didnt treat me nice at all or anything but i just dont see why he doesnt want me anymore, why so sudden. what did i do to make him not wanna talk to me anymore, i mean, two weeks ago he was like drooling over me and now its like he wants nothing to do with me. im so confused and i feel so bad about myself and so ugly. please tell me what it was that i did. im really so confused?! like..he always told me how badly he wanted me, he really wanted to do stuff with me, but now all of the sudden im just nothing? how could that happen?! things dont just change like that. he used to just fine with me not giving him a blowjob so how could that change this? i mean he was really eager on getting one last time we talked, he was begging me..but at the end of the conversation he didnt seem mad..so i dont get it.. he doesnt even want to talk to me. i really dont know what i did wrong..maybe he thinks im ugly now or something because maybe his friends from my school told him im ugly. but im not ugly. i think i am kind of pretty. he told me im really hot. like all the time. so ..i dont get this. at all. i just feel stupid for IMing him now. and also for some reason i just cant stop thinking about him. i guess i just liked the attention, i usually dont get male attention like that and i guess it made me feel important. i really wish i was more strong, confident, and not so self concious, or dependant on other people, or insecure. i also wish i could just get over him already. (link)
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Would you mind going over this e-mail again and give just a small paragraph maybe two with the core problem you want me to solve. I'm glad to help but get tons of long e-mails.
Truth be told I can't get to some questions due to the length. I'd hate to see yours fall through the cracks as I genuinely want to help you.
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Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about three years and she is the one who first brought up the idea of a three some so how do i get her to follow through (link)
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Are you sure that's the road you want to go down? This kind of thing tends to ruin relationships and go sour. There's jealousy between all parties and regret. There's often a rivalry and bitterness between the two women afterward.
Odds are your girlfriend may have been bluffing to gauge your reaction to it. The only way to know if she was serious is to pose the question to her about her stance. Good luck finding a third person to get involved as odds are they'll think negatively or feel disgusted given society's viewpoint.
It's a bad idea all around. You can't make anyone follow through for this or anything else. They either want to or they don't. You can bring it up with her but after that let it die. What you have in your mind is the fantasy aspect of it. In reality it can be awful, something you both regret. She might even leave you as she'll wonder if you like the other person more.
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Hey, I'm kayla. I'm 14. And I'm looking for a babysitting job. You of course will have to speak with my parents first before I babysit. But I live in Fresno, California. I have been babysitting a lil girl who is 4, for about 2months. But I have known her since she was born.I have alot of babysitting skills. And childcare skills. I of course will feed your child, do the dishes that the children make a mess in. I will clean, of course with just a lil extra charge. I will never hit a child. There is of course time outs. Only if the child or children have done something to where they need a time out. I love doing fun activities with the children. Like painting a picture or coloring or just sitting around watching a movie. If you have any questions or help on where I can look to get a babysitting job. Just leave a comment. Thanks so much. =) (link)
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This clearly isn't the right place to solicit potential clients. Having said that if you want such a job advertise using fliers hung up in libraries, laundromats, school bulletin boards etc. Ask permission to post first. Most parents won't hire you without references nor certificate from a babysitting course that shows you know CPR and other lifesaving techniques. Get that course done and then you'll find clients.
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I have liked girls since like I was 8. I told my mom and now it jus tore us apart. I'm scared to tell my dad because he hates homosexuals! And like I don't know. I'm scared about me and my moms realationship. And I dont know what to do (link)
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Over time she and your father will come to terms with it. Likely she is shocked and blaming herself or asking where she went wrong. Your father will take longer to come around. He has to learn not to hate on his own.
Where is the hate coming from? Usually it's from ignorance or fear. Perhaps he feels threatened by the idea or stereotypes he has seen. Truth is 1 in 20 people are gay so he knows a lot of them but may not be aware.
What do you do next? enlist the help of teachers, guidance counselors, friends you can trust and their parents for support. They can collectively confront your parents and try to get them to see they have to accept you or lose you. Old thinking dies hard. It won't happen overnight.
You should Google PFLAG (Parents and Friends Of Lesbians and Gays) They offer support groups and information for parents and teens and break down walls between them. That's one place to start.
You should also look for support groups, programs etc. in your city for gay youth to find friends that have the same issues in common for support. If you don't know where to look trying looking for the organizers of Pride events as they'll be able to steer you in the right direction.
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Ok so this guy has been known my family sense i was 5, I just started liking him over a month ago. My cousin says he likes me, But i dont know if he means just as a friend or more. People keep telling me he is giving hints to go out with me, and i dont know how to pick up on them. So what i was wondering is how do i let him know that i like him? I am a very shy person and so is he so its very confusing. I also can't talk to my cousin about this that would be to hard, If you get what i mean. (link)
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Next time you see him tell him he's been giving out mixed signals. Ask him to clarify his intentions towards you and go from there. Believe me guys are just as afraid as girls about stepping out on a limb. Someone has to investigate and take a risk or nobody ends up in a relationship here.
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