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3 years = 3 some?
Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about three years and she is the one who first brought up the idea of a three some so how do i get her to follow through
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I must advise against you both pursuing this,
unless the relationship at hand is only for
purposes similar to what's mentioned in your
question.
It can do bad damage to your bond with one
another.
Think with your mind, not with your wishes.
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Talk about it.
And for goodness sake, do not use the words 'make her follow through'.
If a guy said he needed to make me follow through on something, I'd put him in place rather severely. I say a lot of things I have no intention on doing. Any moron who takes my every mentioned sexual interest to heart deserves a swift kick in the ass and a firm dumping.
People don't want to follow through on everything that comes out of their mouths.
Frankly, after three years, if it hasn't happened, it probably isn't going too.
But if it's important to you, talk to her about her feelings on the subject openly and honestly. Ask her if she really wants to make that idea a reality or not. Ask for details: Who? When? Where? What sort of rules after wards?
If she doesn't have answers to those questions, and doesn't seem interested in talking about those fine details, then she isn't interested in having a threesome, and no decent person would try to make her 'follow through' on something she clearly has no interest in pursuing.
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LOL well, compromise. Have 2 3 sums. One will be you two and a girl. The other, you 2 and another guy. Then ask your self, are you ok with that? Would you really want to share that one person you love oh so much with someone else? She probably wouldn't either buddy.
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Speaking from personal experience... Dont do it!! It will ruin your relationship and cause more drama then its worth!
IF you BOTH really want to do it, find a complete stranger and never speak to them again afterwards... But afterwards there's always going to be the "you liked her more then me didnt you?" or "she did (insert sexual act here) better then me didnt she" ...etc...
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If you have to get her to "follow through" its not a good idea, and probably won't happen.
I don't think anyone here is going to give you the advice you want. My advice is forget about it.
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Are you sure that's the road you want to go down? This kind of thing tends to ruin relationships and go sour. There's jealousy between all parties and regret. There's often a rivalry and bitterness between the two women afterward.
Odds are your girlfriend may have been bluffing to gauge your reaction to it. The only way to know if she was serious is to pose the question to her about her stance. Good luck finding a third person to get involved as odds are they'll think negatively or feel disgusted given society's viewpoint.
It's a bad idea all around. You can't make anyone follow through for this or anything else. They either want to or they don't. You can bring it up with her but after that let it die. What you have in your mind is the fantasy aspect of it. In reality it can be awful, something you both regret. She might even leave you as she'll wonder if you like the other person more.
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