I am a legal expert during the day and a philosopher at night, but I'm also a friend and counselor to many, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
My name is Shawn, I am 22 years old, and I am from Chicago, Illinois. I work at a law firm as a paralegal and legal specialist, while in the evening, I am currently studying at a law school.
Gender: Male
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Occupation: Paralegal
Age: 22
Member Since: February 18, 2009
Answers: 32
Last Update: February 19, 2009
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if you're giving a guy a handjob in a hot tub and they cum can you get pregnant? (link)
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Sure you can, if the semen somehow travels to
the area of your womanhood.
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hi!
when i go on myspace or facebook or any other website really i close out of it before its done loading and like 30 myspaces pop up on my computer and i have to shut it off so it will stop how can i make it stop popping up?
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Soudns like it was taking forever for your
internet browser to open, so you clicked the
icon a few too many times before the main window
evne opened.
I say, it's either that, or it's a virus. The
only way to tell is to scan your system.
Best wishes.
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I've been seeing a guy for about a year now. I'm in my senior year of high school and he is a few years older at a college many miles away. I am going away to college next year.
It doesn't seem like that big of a deal, since our relationship has been long distance for the most part anyways, except for winter break, spring break, and the summer (he lives about 10 minutes away from me so i always see him when he is home). But we talk every single day and we have really fallen for each other.
I've always been one to say that it is stupid to try and hold on to a relationship through college. College is a time for new experiences and new relationships, etc. However, now that i'm actually in the situation, it is hard. I have such strong feelings for him and we make each other so happy.
I just don't know what I'm going to do when I go away. I don't know if we should still try and make it work, or take a break, or end it all together. I'm pretty sure neither of us wants to end it. I mention it every once in a while to him but we both decide that we just want to enjoy the time we have together including this whole summer ahead of it and make the best of it. And then we can talk about it when the time comes. I think this is best, but it's hard to keep it off of my mind.
If i could get some feedback/advice/some of your own experiences and situations (positive or negative), that would be so helpful. Thank you!
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It all depends on what you define a relationship
as, and how your needs our of a relationship are.
If you honestly see a future between you two, I
say, yeah, go for it.
If you don't, then you deserve better than a
L.D.R. with no possible future.
Be good to yourself.
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So, I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now and he's been the one to give me my first sexual experiences. But, the problem is that I have yet to reciprocate. And I love him and I want to, but I don't know how to begin or anything! Please, help! (link)
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If you don't know where to begin, then you're
simply not ready. Don't rush into anything you
don't really want or are ready to do. Think
things over twice.
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i don't get out much, and i'm pretty anti social..
for some reason i have sexual thoughts about kids, i won't do anything about it and i hate myself 4 it...
i'm so confused cause i don't consider myself a petifile..but it can't be normal
it dosen't happen all the time, just occassionly
like i havn't thought about it 4 a while..what is wrong with me? (link)
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We all have thoughts that we feel guilty for,
or that keep coming back even though we don't
want them.
It's important that you simply don't act upon
these urges. You're endangering so much in your
life and in the life of another if you do, and
it's simply not worth it.
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Ok, so I've always written different. Always. I learned to hold my pencil differently then others. I used to think it was pretty neat, writing all different and stuff. Well about a year or two ago, when I started drawing seriously, I noticed that my hand smudges EVERYTHING! I write with my pencil sitting on top of my ring finger. Over time, I guess it created an indention because the end of that finger is pressed inwards. My middle and pointer finger aren't necassarily on top of the pencil, but they just are on the side, helping guide it. Then my thumb wraps around my pencil and presses down on my pointer. Well, that leaves the rest of my hand to just lie there, on top of my paper so that anytime I run my hand over it because I'm writing or whatever, lead gets ALL OVER the side of my hand and smudges it and it's terrible! D; I know what the "normal" way to write is, but it just feels weird to me :( is there anything I can do to prevent smudging but still write and draw comfortably? Thanks! (link)
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This is going to sound silly at first, but bear
with me and just try it, and you'll see why I
suggest it.
Try applying rubbing alcohol, vinegar, peroxide,
or something with astringent qualities to the area
of your hand that's smudging everything, and also
loosening your grip slightly of the writing medium.
It'll help a little.
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i just bought this acai juice stuff called "genisis acai" from the GNC store. it was $40 cause its suppose to help you lose weight! theres 15,000mg of acai berry in each tablespoon. has anybody used this? or a acai berry product like this? did it hlep you lose weight fast? (link)
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False! Acai berry does not help you lose weight.
The only way to healthily lose weight is by diet,
nutrition, and exercise.
The ways to cheat out of this combination are
either unsuccessful or dangerous.
Acai berry is rich in antioxidants and nutrients,
however, as a weight loss solution, not at all.
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Hi, I'm a 17 year old female. and I have been in a relationship with a guy for almost a year and a half. we've been really close our whole relationship. until about 4 months ago, when I started liking someone else. It turned into a huge mess, we fought, and broke up. I was with the other guy a lot. and eventually I realized that i didn't like the other guy and I missed my ex. so after a lot of hard work, we got back together. and we have been pretty good, got back to our old relationship, but there has always been a trust issue. he doesn't trust me and i know it. even if he says he does, he just does things that prove he doesn't. I'm starting to just be over it. I love him of course, but I don't really want to be in a relationship anymore. I'm going to college next year and we're gonna break up anyway. but we go to a SMALL highschool and have the same friends. I would feel alone and be littled if i broke up with him. plus, he thinks I like someone else, so he'd freak and shit would hit the fan. I feel horrible because I don't know how to act. I still act how I used to, but I don't feel the same inside. what should i do?? (link)
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My advice is that you end it now, before it gets
even more serious than it already is, and thus
causing the healing process for the both of you to
need even more time.
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i used to cut myself when i was depressed but im not depressed anymore and i havent been for awhile but i havent been able to stop cutting, or burning myself sometimes i do it just cause i feel like i have to in order to be okay for the rest of the day or to go to sleep. i just do it on my hips because i dont want anyone to see. but i want to stop wanting to cut or burn and i feel like im never going to be able to stop.
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You want to stop wanting?
Then technically, you already don't want to.
Having this identified, it would be clear that
its continuance would only suggest alternative
motives behind your actions.
I say, it's as easy as stopping it.
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I get really into movies. When I'm watching a movie I'm oblivious to anything else that goes on. But movies always make me sad afterwards, even if there's a happy ending. It's like, for a couple of days, I just can't stop thinking about the movie and I always feel kinda down. Even if I'm not thinking about the movie it's in the back of my mind and the feeling takes a few days to fade away. What do I do? (link)
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It's a sign of other problems going on in your
life and in your mental patterns. I say, you
might have another disorder going on that you
should seek treatment for.
Small signs like this usually and collectively
point to something much bigger.
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My cat, who recently got back from the vets office, won't stop pooping on my floor. She started doing this awhile ago and all of the sudden she stopped. I took her to the vet to get fixed and now she started pooping on the floor again. I've tried the spray to kill the pet odor enzymes but it doesn't work. I've tried everything and am at my wit's end. I've got 3 litter boxes for 2 cats, I haven't changed the kind of litter she's used recently, her box is cleaned DAILY.....I'm running out of patience and ideas. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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Two words:
Animal adoption.
If it's not what you desire out of a
pet, then give her away.
Cats are some of the hardest animals
to train. You can't. They're too
stubborn.
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ok, so i go to my boyfriend house almost every day. and it smells of smoke in his house. but not enough to make my hair smell bad. but my boyfriend and i smoke, and i usually dont cover my hair over there because my parents usually just think "oh, their house smells like smoke, so we expect her to come home smelling like smoke"
but when my hair is clean and i havent been to my boyfriends house, i cover it up with my jacket.
but lately, even after i wash my hair and condition it, it STILL smells like smoke. not as bad as before, but i can smell barely smell it.
how can i COMPLETELY rid of the smokey smell out of my hair?! i cant quit smoking, and frankly, i dont want to. and if you're going to tell me to, you might as well not answer this question, thanks.
and also dont tell me to cover up my hair when i go to his house because i look retarded when i do. can you just tell me how to get rid of the smell when i shower? thanks.
PS: i use a dandruff shampoo, and some conditioner that silkens my hair so its easier to straighten. :) (link)
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Believe it or not, the "smokey" scent is coming
from your own pores. You can sometimes smell that
someone is a smoker, even if they haven't had a
cigarette for hours, and have just taken a shower.
it'st he chemicals being absorbed by yoru body
and being oozed out your pores.
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i like this boy name JOE he soooo cute, funny, smart, but he already has a girl freind and i want to tell him how i feel but without making him feel weird. (link)
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Go ahead and let him know. he just might
pick you over her. You're only young once. :-)
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I'm sixteen years old and I really would like to look older. My boyfriend is nineteen years old and 6'5". When I'm with him I feel as if I look like his little sister not his girlfriend. I'm only 5'4" and a b cup, so I don't look very old. In fact, I feel like I look like a little girl. Is there any way I can look a few years older through clothes or makeup or anything like that? Any help is greatly appreciated :) (link)
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It's probably becuase of the unhealthy age
difference between the both of you.
Should I also mention, that it's illegal?
Because I will...
He can be thrown in jail for statutory. Be
cautious.
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I used to use payday loans because an ex got me in debt. I have 600 dollars worth of court fines that need to be paid by the end of jan. Instead of waitin last minute til tax time and possibly get in trouble for not paying them would it be an ok idea to use payday loans to pay off the fines then with tax money pay the payday loans off? (link)
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Pay those court fines first. I assure you, failure
to do so, or at least first negotiate a financial
term of agreement with the judge at your next
hearing date, can result in jail time.
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I lost my job, and now I can't find a job anywhere at all. Even mcdonlands, pizza hut wouldn't hire me.
I have debt, need to go to school, and now I'm on the last of my money.
My girlfriend has to pay all the bills.
What the fuck? How the fuck? Can I do anything to unfuck myself? (link)
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It's the recession, bro. I'm stuck in the same
mess. I'm on the brink of getting fired, and no
one is even calling back from my apps.
Remember, that it's better to starve on the streets
in serenity, undisturbed by the world's systems
that cause poverty to be so-- than to be rich and
constantly worried, stressed, and angry.
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So I have bulimia, and this morning I woke up with a bad sore throat. It hurts to swallow. The thing is, I thought that you have to vomit a decent amount of times before this would happen. I generally do it only a few times a month. Maybe I do it more often than I realize? Anyone have any ideas as to why? (link)
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The stomach acid burned up your through,
along with the "puking" reflexes that
made the muscles sore.
Keep it up, and you'll lose your pretty
voice, and end up sounding like a frog.
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I heard that people take a concoction of drink and drugs to commit suicide, any ideas as to best 'mix'?
Don't waste yout time and mine saying stuff like 'think about people who care' knowone does! from the day my brother used to spit at me accross the bedroom when we were growing up, to todays vain, bitching two faced slags. And if you give me any religious crap, maybe i'll take you with me. (link)
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You know, that's an awfully pitiful reason to
want to go.
Grow some strength, would ya?
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So I got fired from a job I loved.
I've never been more humiliated in my life.
And I am beyond traumatized.
How am I supposed to handle this?! (link)
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We've all gotten fired or layed-off from
nice jobs before.
I myself am actually on the brink of being
fired from a job that I really like...
due to false charges my bosses are making
against me to the board of directors.
it's a money thing, at this point. The
recession makes it hard for them to pay
my salary.
I just remember, a job is a job. We're not
defined by our jobs.
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have you ever been so completely fooled by a guy? so entirely PLAYED? the feelings of disappointment and anger are fired up inside me. i dont know weather i should cry or punch my pillow and scream. i feel so stupid. how could i have fallen for his bullshit?
encouraging words might be helpful? (link)
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You deserve much better than this. i think in
modern times, almost everyone has been played on.
Lord knows, I've had girls cheat on me many times.
The best thing you can do, is to remind yourself,
you deserve better. Keep repeating this and the
sting will cool off.
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