Free AdviceGet Free Advice
Home | Get advice | Give advice | Topics | Columnists | - !START HERE! -
Make Suggestions | Sitemap

Get Advice


Search Questions

Ask A Question

Browse Advice Columnists

Search Advice Columnists

Chat Room

Give Advice

View Questions
Search Questions
Advice Topics

Login

Username:
Password:
Remember me
Register for free!
Lost Password?

Want to give Advice?

Sign Up Now
(It's FREE!)

Miscellaneous

Shirts and Stuff
Page Backgrounds
Make Suggestions
Site News
Link To Us
About Us
Terms of Service
Help/FAQ
Sitemap
Contact Us


self harm


Question Posted Wednesday February 18 2009, 5:13 pm

i used to cut myself when i was depressed but im not depressed anymore and i havent been for awhile but i havent been able to stop cutting, or burning myself sometimes i do it just cause i feel like i have to in order to be okay for the rest of the day or to go to sleep. i just do it on my hips because i dont want anyone to see. but i want to stop wanting to cut or burn and i feel like im never going to be able to stop.


[ Answer this question ]
Want to answer more questions in the Health & Fitness category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?


solidadvice4teens answered Thursday February 19 2009, 10:39 pm:
If you truly want to stop you have to tell and adult what's happening. I KNOW you don't want to do this or for people to know. That's pretty common. However, if you don't rely on the help of others you'll never break this cycle.

NOBODY will blame you for any of this or make you feel bad or even miserable. The adults you approach may be shocked at first but when it comes to your parents, teachers, clergy etc. they'll always give you support and not judgment. They can get you the help you need.

Proper care from a psychiatrist who can treat the illness and provide medication if need be is required. Cutting is linked to several mental health issues and can be stopped with professional help.


Again, I KNOW you don't want to do this because it's hard but you need to if you genuinely want to stop. Think about it what's worse the cutting or being brave and getting help for it? When it comes to this you have to want it more than your next breath or equally as much. You can tell people in a letter even. The illness thrives off of you not taking action. That's how it has worked on you the victim in all this and trapped you. Don't let it have the power anymore.

[ solidadvice4teens's advice column | Ask solidadvice4teens A Question
]




StandXoutsideX answered Thursday February 19 2009, 12:56 am:
Awh! Poor child. Well i've been there. I know what your feeling. Trust me. There is a way to vent without hurting yourself. It's going to be really hard to stop cutting and burning yourself but your really only hurting yourself. Just try to find a different way to vent. Get involved in something when you want to cut or burn. Distract yourself. It really helps. Or possibly if your parents or legal guardian is understanding tell them about it. Be vague about it and go see a shrink. They make you cry a lot but it really helps. :)
Good luck to you.
I hope the very best.
I'll be praying for you.
Try to learn about jesus.
HE really can be a big help.
Sincerly, Emma

[ StandXoutsideX's advice column | Ask StandXoutsideX A Question
]



Shawn answered Thursday February 19 2009, 12:51 am:
You want to stop wanting?

Then technically, you already don't want to.

Having this identified, it would be clear that
its continuance would only suggest alternative
motives behind your actions.

I say, it's as easy as stopping it.

[ Shawn's advice column | Ask Shawn A Question
]

More Questions:

<<< Previous Question: Movies
Next Question >>> boy problem

Recent popular questions:
Want to give advice?

Click here to start your own advice column!

What happened here with my gamer friends?

All content on this page posted by members of advicenators.com is the responsibility those individual members. Other content © 2003-2014 advicenators.com. We do not promise accuracy, completeness, or usefulness of any advice and are not responsible for content.

Attention: NOTHING on this site may be reproduced in any fashion whatsoever without explicit consent (in writing) of the owner of said material, unless otherwise stated on the page where the content originated. Search engines are free to index and cache our content.
Users who post their account names or personal information in their questions have no expectation of privacy beyond that point for anything they disclose. Questions are otherwise considered anonymous to the general public.

[Valid RSS] eXTReMe Tracker