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well there is this kid.. that i used to like.. and i think he used to like me.. well a little bit because he flirts with me all the time.. still does but he had a girlfriend all this time.. so im not sure if we are friends.. bc he talks to me..sits with me on the bus and stuff..but some days he doesnt even talk to me.. so im not sure how to view the sitation..its really complicated i dont get it guys are so retarded! and.. also i was wondering..how you can get a guy to notice you..like i think i like this guy..but i dont know his name.. i just see him in the hallways and stuff and hes older than me but i was wondering how i could get his attention... thx for the help

Flirting for a guy is not the same as it is for girls. A girl will flirt with a guy because she wants a relationship with him, a guy will flirt just because. Especially if he flirted with you while he had a girlfriend. It sounds like he's just playing with you. Besides, would you want a guy that would flirt with other girls? I don't think so.

How to get a guy's attention...just talk to him! The first "Hi" is really hard, but after that it's smooth sailing. To get him to notice you more, make eye contact, smile, and say his name.

I am 16 /F. Last week i visited my girl friend, she told me they are naturalists and celebrate all week ends as a naturalists and they wear nothing at home. So I went their to see and I was astonished to see all of them nude (Dad, mom, my friend, her 12 year old sis and 19 year old bro). Is this kind of thing allowed? Isnt it a kind of incest?

No, it's not incest. They don't do it for sexual reasons, and they children willingly participate. As they as they don't touch each other in a sexual way, it's perfectly okay.

When you shave are you supposed to shave the upper part of your leg too? I never have because the hairs are so light you can notice...but are you supposed to?

There are no rules for it, it's completely up to you. If you think it's pointless, don't do it.

i heard that lemons can help make ur hair lighter...does that really work?
and if it does, what do u do with the lemons?

Well, you don't need a lemon. A simple bottle of lemon juice will do the trick. Go out in the sunlight and pour it in your hair, but make sure you're wearing a shirt that you don't care about because it will lighten the fabric, too. Just stay in the sun for a little while and there you go!

hi i am rohit. i have been doing masturbation since 4 years. tell me what are the ill effects of doing this? should i stop doing this? what are the advantages of this too?

As long as you don't do it in public or obsess over it, masturbation is harmless.

Unless, as I always caution people, you use a knife to masturbate.

whats the best way to put on a condom so you can be POSITIVE the girl wont get pregnant?

and how do you know wether to buy a small, medium or large etc...?

15/m

There is only one right way to put on a condom, and the instructions for it are included. Never use two condoms at once, that is even more risky. However, condoms will NOT make sure that the girl doesn't get pregnant. For that, you would have to get a vesectomy, and I don't think many doctors would do that to a fifteen-year-old. To be pretty close, she should be on birth control pills (as well as using the condom), but that's still only 99.99999% effective.

The size you buy should be according to the size of your penis.

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/medicalinfo/birthcontrol/pub-condom.xml will give you more information.

this may sound wierd but i have a hairy back. not MANLY just a little and it makes me feel wierd when im in a swim suit cause people go om my gosh you have hair on your back and it makes me feel really upset. i like to go swimming but im afraid to now. my mom wont let me shave it. its really just the top with a little. its not a lot but still. what can i do. please dont think im a man.

its not the manly kind. i swear please dont hink im some strange person!!

That's completely normal. Everybody has a little body hair. We're animals, it's there to keep us warm. It's really not a big deal. Nobody is going to think you're a freak if you have a little bit of hair.

how do i know if im having an orgasm when i masterbate?ive never had sex or anything like that, so i dont know what an orgasm feels like, or if im actually having an orgasm when i masterbate.

An orgasm is really, really intense. Believe me, when it happens, you'll know.

I really dont like aim triton and i cant find a place to download a different version of aim any help? I want a good version.

Sounds like you need Trillian.

http://www.ceruleanstudios.com/downloads/

is swimming with a pad ok?? and how long does your period stop in water

Swimming with a pad is definitely not okay. Pads absorb water, you see, so it will either be destroyed or very uncomfortable, or both. Also, due to the nature of bathing suits, it will probably be clearly visible. Your period will stop the entire time you're in the water, but when you get out, make sure you have a towel on hand so you can cover up quickly. If you don't want to risk it, you can use a tampon.

My boyfriend been asking me to do Oral for a while now and I finally started doing it. But he holds my head and make me choke and he even get on top of me and put it in my mouth. I don't know anything about this because everything I have done sexually I have done it with him, He taught me everything about sex. But is this a normal for Oral Sex. I NEED MALES TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION ALSO.

'Normal' has a very loose definition. If you are uncomfortable with it, then no, it's not normal. You need to confront him about it. If he continues to do things that you don't like, break up with him. It's just not worth it.

Which burns more calories, biking or jogging?

Jogging, in my experience, but you shouldn't rely on it. Running and jogging will burn fat, but won't tone the muscles. You might end up with flabby skin. The best thing is walking because you burn fat AND tone your muscles at the same time. Ideally, though, you should do a blend of several exercise types. I do walking, weightlifting and yoga, and I want to get into martial arts. Don't rely on just one thing, and of course, eat healthy.

ok, this is weird...and i've never told neone before, and your the first to know. i...kinda have sex w/ myself. i know, ew. but, the problem is, i don't know how to stop! i just get these feelings like i want to do it, but then like i don't want to but i feel like it. and whenever i think about sex, i'm like gross. but i don't think that when i'm doing it to myself. an also i've never had a b/f. i'm really scared, but it feels good to do it. HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's called masturbation, and there's nothing wrong with it. In fact, many people (and I'm one of them) believe that it's better to know your own body before you have sex with another person. Don't worry about never having a boyfriend. I don't know your age because you didn't say, but you seem young. There's PLENTY of time. Just be confident. You find a guy you like, take him--don't sit there and wait for him.

I have HORRIBLE stretch marks..and i feel embarrassed when i put on a bathing suit..is there any way to disguise them or completely get rid of them? I've tried the cocoa butter thing but i dont like the results..I've heard tanning helps disguise them...is this true?? any suggestions?

Thanks In Advance!

I recently found out that, while stretch marks are normal, having many of them is actually not good. If you have them all over, you may want to speak to a doctor about it.

SO in ethics class last week we learnt that statutory rape is basically when someone has forced sex with a minor (under 16) and it could apply when 2 minors involve themselves, etc, etc. We also learnt that you will immediately go to jail until the trial.

My question is:
When a girl gets pregnant and she had sex but she's say 13 or 14, do they just deliever the baby? I see girls like 15 and 14 with babies and I'm wondering...don't the doctors of nurses ask them questions....cause that's statutory rape right, so can the mother be jailed or the dad? ...does anyone know if this happens or they just deliever the baby no questions?

As far as I know, it's really none of the doctors business. Obviously they need to ask "Are you sexually active?" but they don't need to know who you're sexually active with or how it happened. They are concerned with your physical body, and that's pretty much it.

Also, statutory rape isn't really FORCED sex with a minor. The minor in question could consent to it, but not being 18 (in my area, atleast, apparently in where you live it's 16), they are not legally allowed to consent. So it's kind of like their word doesn't matter. That's why statutory rape is different from regular rape--because it doesn't neccessarily have to be forced.

I am a 19/f,I met dat guy online 2 months ago he gave me his number,I called him the same day Sinca dat day we keep on talkin we talk until 2 or 3 in da mornin we don't know each other but we send each other pictures.He keeps on tellin me dat he loves me and he wanna married me ,and the way he talks to me make feel that he is not lying. Do you think that relationship will last?

No, I don't. I'm sorry, but if a guy said that to me (even if I hadn't met him online) I would be creeped out. It sounds to me like a line he's feeding you, and honestly, he could be dangerous. Sure, I could be wrong, but please, for your sake, try not to be so trusting.

is fingering or sticking things up there bad for you? does it affect your health in any way at all?

Fingering is fine as long as your fingers are clean. For other things, well, it depends on what they are. A vibrator would be perfectly fine (that's what they're made for, in fact), but a chicken bone would not.

this is probably the wrong category. again. but oh well.

i've been asking lots of questions lately so sorry.

okay. this is goingn to sound dumb but whatever. when i get horny i masturbate, and blahblah. but once i climax, i'm done, and i'm just like, "okay. whatever. how could i not resist doing that?" i don't know why, and it's kind of annoying. maybe i should just stop doing it so much and then my 'orgasm' if that's even what it is, would last longer.

i also feel kind of guilty afterwards, because i'm already paranoid of having something happen to my family or pets, and though i'm not really, really religious i do believe in god, and i pray occasionally, so i'm worried that he's going to punish me for masturbating, even though i'm not hurting anyone or thinking of anyone when i do it.

sorry my questions are all kind of messed up but i don't want to ask people in real life. haha.

thank you.

Not doing it isn't going to make the orgasm longer. You should probably try fantasizing about something. That way, when you've already had your orgasm, the fantasy is still going and you can keep going too.

God isn't going to do anything to you. You're celebrating your sexuality. That's a GOOD thing. Never feel guilty for masturbating. I don't know if there's a God or not, but if there is, why would he care about you pleasuring yourself when there are people living in slavery?

So just masturbate. Have fun with it. Get experimental--it gets boring when you do the same thing every time. And don't worry about it.

how do you use limewire? when i search a song it always says No Results Found, and I tried every song and artist in the known world.

Sorry, it's been a long time since I've used Limewire, so I haven't got a clue. You can try looking for them on myspace, though. Or, if you get really desperate, you can always purchase the CD.

if i burn a cd can i get the music free that i want to put on the cd? or do you have to pay for the songs that you burn? IM REALLY CONFUSED. i need help

You can download a lot of songs for free, or you can pay for them. Or you can take a CD that you already have, rip it onto your computer, and then burn the songs onto the new CD. But you don't have to pay when you actually burn them onto the CD, if that's what you're asking.

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