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Okay so I need advice on how to gain someones trust back.
Me and my guy friend [were not dating] had sex like 2 days ago.
&& we were supposed to just keep it to ourselfs but I was extremely excited so I told my best friend about it and well she told her boyfriend who is friends with him and her boyfriend told him..
He confronted me in txt.
he said he wasnt mad just dissapointed.
He also said that he doesnt know if he should trust me.
Also that it will take time to gain that trust but it could happen.
that im a great girl but i have to learn to keep good things to myself.
that i fucked up but he still loves me.
Yeah i just sumed it up because there were like 20 txts but yeah.. what do you think?
Sorry my writing is all over the place. I just dont know what to do.
I want to be trusted again and soon.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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I give you credit on admitting that you made a mistake. Good for you, seriously, not many people will admit something when their wrong. I would say to explain to him why you were so excited, and that you do understand his point of view, of why hes upset. It may take him a little while to trust you again, but show him that you can be trusted, for instance, if he tells you something, just keep it to yourself, even if he does say you can say something. Tell him more stuff about you, to show him you trust him. Time heals all wounds and in time he will trust you again. I promise. And say sorry to him in person, it shows you are a strong person, and you have great character.
Good luck with everything. Don't stress about it, things will work out for the best, I promise!
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During the summer holidays I've gained a shitload of weight.
Before I used to be ok, a little tubby, but I looked good, and guys complimented me...
But now...I look and feel huge...and I hate it so fucking much!
What are some things I could do to boost my self esteem and confidence, while I'm dieting and working towards loosing weight.
My aim is to loose a minimum of 10kg, by November at the latest.
What would be the most efficient way to loose weight at a constant pace.
I don't have too much time for exercise on weekdays, an hour at the maximum, basically no time on weekends.
I'm in no situation where I'm forced to eat, but I would like to have one proper meal a day, which would be dinner (my parents cook quite healthy good, always some salad or vegetables)
So yeah, please help me, I want to be confident about myself again...defenetly by November, cause there's a lot of things going on then for me, and I want to look + feel good.
It's bad enough that I have to wear a bikini basically all next week, when I weigh fucking 64kg (I should not weight this much. I've gained 5 kg in like a month D:< ) (link)
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my best suggestion would be to A.) work out, all you need is 15- 30 minutes a day. Do maybe twenty crunches and some cardio exercises. Also, continue to eat healthy, eat fruits, vegetables, skinless chicken, I mean their are so many healthy foods out there you can eat that can cause you to lose wait instantly.
And don't feel bad about yourself, if you eat healthy food, not only will you lose weight, youll be in a better mood too. Exercise itself, gets your heart rate and adrenline going, youll be smooth sailing through summer.
The outside really doesn't count, the inside does. Don't hate yourself or put yourself down, you'll be fine. Their are healthy weights based on healthy heights, you want to be in the range, so just do a little exercise a day, continue to eat healthy and just watch the lbs come off.
Good luck, youll be fine. Let me know if you need anything else.
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all of my relatives have had and lived or are living with or died of cancer. iv been to so many funerals an i hate myself cause i can't even cry at them i think its not use. iv ben dealing with it my whole life but i just don't know what to do anymore its crushing me. now my mom thinks i may have cancerous mole but she doesnt wana scare me cause iv been having an extremely hard time lately. i also have a brown bump on my nipple.. iv had it for a very long time but its just getting bigger little by little n its kinda freakin me out. is that cancer to? what do i do, i really don't wana go to the hospital, for many reasons, one being i kinda ben skipping it bc theyve ben doing all these different testings on me but not having to do with cancer. i dont wana go back for one that they go in and look threw me, they did alot of blood and weird rays tests. idk what to even think or do anymore but i dont wana go. :( btw im 14 female (link)
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I understand why you don't want to go to the doctors, but seriously you need to get that mole checked out. I mean if cancer runs in your family you want to be safe and not sorry. I don't blame you for not wanting to go, believe me I understand. But if comes down to being scared for a little while or your life, I'm guessing you would choose to be scared instead. I mean your life is too important to blow it off by not checking something that could turn out to be nothing.
And about not crying, don't you dare feel bad about that or hate yourself. We all handle grief differently. You should not feel bad whatsoever because of it. Some people laugh when their grieving some get serious and some cry. We are different so we handle it differently, just remember that.
I'm sorry that you have had to deal with funerals and stuff like that. I hate to say it, but it really prepares you for the future, the older you get the more you experience it unfortunately.
Lastly, stand tall, you are a strong person, who has been through alot in her 14 years, you have no reason to be ashamed. But i bet those funerals, remind you how short life is right? Everything will be fine, just have faith. And please get the mole checked!
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well, this is going to be really long and confusing. so, reader beware, you're in for confusion. here goes:
so, my boyfriend and i have problems like every other couple in this world. but these problems arent about cheating or not calling or ignorance or neglect. these problems are all caused by me. to him, i dont share enough of my thoughts. and thats simply because i dont want to run him off. but thats all over with, because i did.
we were talking on aim earlier and it was getting pretty heated. i told him i didnt mean to hurt him, but i knew i was. i asked him why he was so upset, and he said it was because i dont trust him. but i do! i trust him with my whole heart, but like i said. there are just some things that even he couldnt help with. he said that im giving up my whole life because i bury myself in my head to escape from the outside world. which is sort of what i do? but thats just the jist of it. sometimes, i just escape into thought and dont feel like telling anyone whats really wrong. is that so wrong? apparently to him, it is. and when i said that the outside world doesnt need someone like me, because i simply dont care about people i dont know(i know thats terrible, but thats just my inner feeling). i dont care about the environment(i know thats bad, too. but again. inner feeling), because its going to die, anyways. it was meant to. and when it does, everyone will just start all over. a new beginning. the beginning of the end. all of it. all of this "save the world" nonsense is just putting it off until later, but i honestly dont do anything to help the environment. i also dont care about my health. i smoke and drink when im depressed and i cut and he knows that. well after i told him about all that he called me a sociopath and said i dont care about anyone but myself, which is totally untrue. i care about my sisters and him. and the very few friends that i have. and i dont care about myself at all. God knows how im going to die, and he'll let time do its pleasure and make me die of old age, or make me die of smoking, or whatever. i cant stop what was meant to happen. i dont even know what a sociopath is, but it sounds like a mental illness term or something.
anyways...
we continued on this for a long time, and finally i guess he got fed up. i asked him what i could do to help, because i wanted to. and then he said that i didnt care and that he wasnt the one who needed the help. and then he signed off.
well, after that i just lost everything. my grip on reality. my sanity. all that? its down the drain. hes gone, so now my whole life is gone. i know that pathetic, but i love him. i truly love him and i always will. he was the only one in this whole world that i really, truly loved. this happened at about 3 AM. its not 5 AM and i havent gotten a wink of sleep. i cant sleep. i cant eat. all i can do is think, but barely. i have too many things on my mind right now, and its hard to focus on one little thing at a time.
but thats whats going on on the inside. in the physical world, i apparently ran to my friend's house and knocked on her window. she came outside and me, her, and her friend talked for about 30 minutes while i smoked two of her dad's cigarettes. (considering, im saving mine for when i need them) and while all this is going on, i had an anxiety/panic attack and couldnt stop shaking. its still hard to type right now, considering im still shaking. after i came home, i walked around for a while and ate a banana. now, there is nothing left to do and i cant sleep. i dont know what to do with myself. im scared of getting back on aim, and im scared to even go check my phone to see if he had called or left a message, because i know he didnt. i dont know what im really asking for, here, because i didnt even realize i was typing this until a few seconds ago, but any help or advice would be much appreciated. thanks for reading. (link)
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I want you to know this is not the end at all. You seem lost, and what I would suggest would to be take a little vacation. Get away from your life as you know it your home your friends, family. Take maybe a weekend in a nearby city. That way you can see a change of scenery. If you see something different then the usual, it will force you to see the world through a different perspective. You will look at things slightly different, but that can do wonders to your mind. When you come back prioritize everything. Put whats most important in order to the least. You really just need totake a deep breath, relax, and think. It sounds like your blocking something from your mind, whatever it is, let it out. It sounds like your keeping something locked up inside. Let it come out, and breathe. Also, you really need some sleep. Give things around you some time, to settle down, before you try to fix it.
Also, the cutting and drinking and depression is not healthy or okay. You are hurting yourself so much. I would say maybe talk to someone, who can help you sort out your life. Please get some sleep too, your health is going to deteriotate if you don't stop.
Also, the world is not going to end. You will be fine I promise, even though your break up is hard, the world has not come to an end. Just look up keep your head up and stand straight. Stand in the rain, everything is coming down around you, so stand up to it, don't hide in your thoughts or ignore it. Stand your ground, and have Fatih. Faith will get you through everything. I promise.
I hope things look up for you, I know it will. Good luck, and don't lose faith, everything happens for a reason.
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Hey
im just wondering would anyone on this be able to educate me about eating disorders and would anyone be able to talk about it because I have a friend that has 1 and would really like to know what is going through his mind.
My e-mail address is irish.bob@hotmail.com if anyone would be wiling to talk to me about any of the eating disorders.
Thanks again especially to Advicenators :) (link)
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I will do my best to help you:
1.) Bulimia- is were someone will eat normally, but then will force themselves to throw up afterwards
2.) Aneroxia Nervosa- Is were you think your fat and you don't eat anything. Eating makes you nervous, so you basically starve yourself.
Purging is also dangerous, its where you don't eat for a while then eat a ton of stuff all at once. Like you go maybe 7 hours without eating, then youll eat a bunch of food for like 30 minutes. Its also very dangerous to your health.
Does that help you for the most part?
I hope your friend gets some medical attention, eating disorders can be serious, but if treated in time, a person can recover fully.
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my armpits sweat really, really, REALLY bad all the time. i've tried tons of different deodorants, & nothing seems to help. it's so embarrassing. any suggestions? (link)
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I had the exact same problem. I used Certain Dri and it worked out great. You can purchase it at Walgreens for only like six dollars. And you put it on atnight it works great. Just follow the directions and youll be sweat free!!
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ok i am gettin EXTREMELY annoyed with my freinds freinds putting me down all the time, since i have started working with them all in a shop all they'v proceeded to do is demise my intelligence and throw ideas at me like "well if he did that it would destroy the county" and other stupid things liek that, it normally doesnt annoy me but i dont see any of us leaving any time soon so i need a way around it. the key points of them i want to block out is thier annoying *omfg your such an idiot* attitude towards me because i dont see them doing it to any of their other freinds. i may not be the most skilled to apply to thier oh so high list of needs but they dont see what psycological hate i am growing for them. any advice on these pathetic lowlifes would be much much appreciated cause im gonna end up beating the living **** out of them (link)
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okay first of all take a deep breath. Okay, now I'm sorry your friends are treating you like that. I have also experienced that too. And I'll tell you how I handled it...
Okay so I had a friend, ex best friend now, who would always call me dumb and make fun of me,she would act like I'm the biggest idiot in the world. I stopped being friends with her. I told her that she hurt my feelings, and she didn't seem to care, so I realized that she isn't worth being friends with. I chose self respect over popularity. What you choose is your decision, but personally in my case I needed to remove myself from those people, and now I'm the happiest I've ever been. You may wanna try it too. There are so many people out there that you can be friends with, and the people you talk to now, are absolutely not worth it. Elanor Roosevelt once said "No one can make you feel inferior with out your consent"
You have 2 choices:
1.) Suck up their nasty comments and be miserable
or 2.)) Be yourself and cut them out of your friend circle, b/c they are putting you down, and making you feel worthless. So instead of beating them up, just walk away, it is easier said then done, I know, but just say "enough is enough, you don't own me, you can not control how I think about myself, I'm worth so much more then that." And believe it, its true.
Sorry this is so long, but I hope I gave you some options. Good Luck, and don't ever let people put you down, thats not what real friends are like.
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I recently saw the movie Charade on TV and it was so awesome! I love black and white thriller movies that have a bunch of twists. Sort of like the movie Sorry, Wrong Number. It's like once in a blue moon that I find awesome movies like this, does anyone know of anymore?
thanks so much =)
PS- not Psycho. (link)
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You may wanna watch the Twilight Zone too. There are some good shows there, some are thrillers, and some are science fiction. You may wanna check video stores and see if they carry them. Theyre pretty interesting.
Good luck!
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Does anyone know any home remedies to make your hair softer? You know, using things you could find in the kitchen. Thanks a lot! (link)
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I know its digusting but vinegar makes your hair shinier, mayo makes it softer, lemon juice makes it blonder.
I would use mayonnaise.
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in school people are always talking shit about me, and i just go home crying or take it out on my parents. how do i not let what their saying get to me? (link)
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You know the old saying sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me, that saying doesnt cut it. I know that words hurt. But what you need to do is have a strong core, have so much faith in yourself that you don't let what other people say about you sway you in anyway. What does that mean? It means believe in yourself, those kids are just jerks who have nothing better to do than make fun of you. What you need to do is stand tall, God made you differently than everyone, know that as a child of God, we are born to be different and stand out. He made you in his image and who would dare to insult God? If they call you ugly or dumb, there calling God that, and they shouldnt be. You are beautiful, and you are an individual, stay true to yourself. One day theyll stop making fun of you, and youll rise as the bigger person with such a strong sense of self. And that will carry you so far inlife, and youll be so strong.
Good luck, please email me if you need anymore help with this, you have no reason to cry, you are a talented person, and you will survive this unscathed, I promise.
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lately i've been listening to alot of country music and i like it alot. i was just wondering what are some good songs or singers besides kenny chesney and taylor swift? thankyou. (link)
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I love country music, um I think you should definetly listen to:
Carrie Underwood- Jesus Take the Wheel, Last name, Wheel of the Wrold, Just a Dream, All American Girl, all her songs are amazing to be completely honest.
Kenny Chesney- Better as a memory, Don't blink, The Good Stuff, Who youd be today, There goes my life
Rascal Flatts- Take me there, Everyday, God Bless The broken Road, Fast Cars and Freedon, Winner at a losing game, My Wish, These days
Taylor Swift- I'd lie, Picture to burn, Our Song, Shouldve said no, her songs are good too.
Brad Paisely- Letter to me, When I get where I'm going
Lonestar-Mr. Mom, Mountains, Love can change your mind, Amazed
Martina McBride- God's Will, Anyway, Blessed, In my Daughters eyes
Lee Ann Rimes-- I need you, Somethings gotta give, Can't fight the moonlight, Probably wouldn't be this way.
Alan Jackson- 5 o'clock somewhere, the line dance song.
There are so many other songs, if you would like to know some more email me back.
Enjoy the music! it rocks!
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hi,
im from london,
um...there's this guy in my school that im proper into, and we was proper close friends and all and we nearly went out with each other but we didnt coz of me acting like a div! and for some reason he just stopped talking to me and i tried to talk to him alone but he just didnt want to he just refuses! and i always see him around school like every minute of the day and i dont know what to do its hard to seeing him around school! and i tried moving on but i just cant, its too hard!
what should i do?!?!?!?!?!? thanx...
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The best thing I can tell is to just give him some time. Say hi to him and give him a smile if you see him pass you by in class or the hallway. DO NOT ignore him! That will complicate things and they will not work out in your favor what so ever. There may be something bothering him out side your control. We all get annoyed with people thats human nature, but there may be something else bothering him that has nothing to do with you at all. If that is the case just give him some time and maybe let him know that you are there for him if he needs it. And if you think you did something to him, walk up to him, look him in the eye, I repeat, look him in the eye, and say something like "I'm sorry for whatever I did that bothered you, I will give you time if that is what you need, you know how I feel, if you want to talk to me you need to make the initiative, the ball is in your court."
Good luck, I hope that helps you win him back, we have all been in that spot before. It'll work out for the best, I promise.
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Sorry I didnt know where to put this...
Anyways, I have really thick big wavy/curlish hair. I love my waves when their wet/dampish but then when it dries it gets huge and frizzy. what kindof mousse does anyone recomend.
Thanks :) (link)
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I think you should try hair serum. It can leave your hair greasy which is why you don't put it on your roots. Put it on the ends of your hair. Itll smooth your hair and may leave it less frizzy. Put the serum on when your hair is still wet too.
I don't use mousse so I don't know a lot about it, but I know that hair serum works. If you decide to use mousse use a professional brand like Tresemme (I think I spelled that wrong, sorry.)
Anyways I hope that answered your question, and also, if you talk to your hair stylist she can give you some great products to use on your hair.
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just finished reading the noteebook
ohh im still crying from it!
my question is...
is true love like that just in books? i mean, im 14 & anyway im not looking for somthing thats going to heal desieses im just curious to know if true love with that much passion happens in real life. any stories/just your personal ideas would be fantastic thanks so much! (link)
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Honestly I believe that it does. True love can really happen if you really believe in it. It comes along when you least expect it. You can't go looking for love, some how it finds you. I know you are only 14 and young, but believe in love, if you have the chance to love take it. It comes around once in a while, you have to have the wisdom, to know its there. Also, when you do love, love completely, although you may get hurt, its the only way to really love and live life completely.
I have wondered that too so many times I have asked myself if love is real or a figment of Hollywoods imagination. I believe it is real. I hope you have the chance to find true love, but don't rush your young you have plenty of time.
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What is a true friend ? (link)
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I would say a true friend is someone who will go to the ends of the earth to find the things you need. Someone who you can truly trust with your life. Someone who will stay up with you all night and cry with you while your crying. Someone who will laugh with you when your laughing. Someone who is there for you every single time you need help. The person that has your back and you have theirs. When your uncertain of someting a true friend reassures you that everything will be alright. They are there forever til the end. They are honest and will not lie to you, they will be there in every part of your life.
Does that answer your question?
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I lost my virginity when i was 13. Now i am 18 and i am a prostitute. i want to quit, because a client got me pregnant. How can i quit? I don't know how to do anything else I am only good at sex. :( (link)
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Who told you that all you can do is sex? I have never met you, but I believe you are so much better than selling your body. Have you tried anything else, I mean how do you know you aren't good at anything else? I know this may be hard, but get as far away from prositution as possible. You are damaging your body, health and image, more than youll ever know. And please know you are worth so much more than that. Try taking some painting classes, or dance classes, maybe youll be good at it. Try a business class, maybe you can get a business degree from college. God made us to be all that we can be, and He never intended for you to objectify your body in anyway. Please get some consulting on this, it will help you out so much. Just so you know, there are missionaries out there that can help you. You might want to give it a try.
If you need anything please email me, I don't want to see you ruin your life or health.
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Ok im in 8th grade and i am 13 well my bf is 15 so of course he wants to have sex i mean im not sayin it in a bitchy way im actually curiouse and i wanna have sex with him.I mean im not a hoe or anything i just reallllly like him ALOT and i wanna take it to another level.Im told that i dont act my age that i act alot older and look it to so i dont no if maybe the way i act is makin me wanna have sex so fast.But anyways ill get to the point ok i told him that i wasnt a virgan even tho i really am and im scared that when we have sex he will find out that i was a virgin and get mad at me.I mean i no you can tell by your cheery gettin popped but i think mines already popped because i use tampons and i have to use the large ones and i still have to change it every 30 mins so i thot since its so heavy and since i have to use large ones that maybe my cherry got popped by the tampons but other then that will he be able to tell if im a virgin u no while his thing is in me?And also he always askin me when i give him head if i will deepthroat i no wat it means but im afraid if i try that i will puke on his dick and that would be really embarising so is there any way i could be able to deepthroat on him or if i could practice on somthen cuz he said that his dick is 7 almost 8 inches so wouldnt that be hard to do? i dont no just please help me..(And please dont tell me im to young or anything like just help me out please) (link)
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I am not meaning to sound rude by any means, but you seem set on your decision to have sex. Please know that if you are a virgin and you have sex you can never get that back. You may love him, or like him ALOT but sex is a huge deal.That decision will change the rest of your life, and your relationship with him. You are 13, you have so much in your life, I mean for real you haven't even gone to highschool yet. Sex really will change everything. I mean I'm not trying to tell you to definitly wait til your married, thats your decision, but its a good one. Think about if you guys break up, how would you feel knowing you gave him your childhood. Please don't rush into it, it may not have the reaction or effect that you want it to have. And although abstinence is hard, it is so much more worth while. I promise.
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im a 13 year old girl and i havent even started my period and i am having sex dreams and i masterbate at least 5-9 times a day and i think it would be fun to have kinky sex so i guess what im really asking is should i have sex? (link)
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No honestly, you should NOT have sex. I understand that you may want it, and wanting and actually doing it are two completely different things. If you are questioning whether or not to have sex you are not ready. If you do it now, you may, no, you WILL regret it later on. I have watched it happen to people I know well and I 've seen what they have gone through. IT is not a chance you want to take. And also, once you make that decision, you can never go back and fix it, its done thats it. If you decide to ignore everything I have just said, please think about tommorrow what if you the protection doesn't work. So before you go on and make a monumentally life-altering no going back decision to have sex, please know that it forever changes your life.
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What jobs hire at age 15?
please dont give me bull crap answers like ["my son worked for his uncle at age 15"] -- that doesnt answer my question! thanks (:
- i already know of a couple of places
. mcdonalds
. dairy queen
. chick-fill-a
. burger king
please dont repeat those. just list some more for me please (: thanks (link)
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I think publix starts hiring at 14. You may want try to apply there. Is there any kind of relative that needs help around the house that can pay you $ x amount of dillars an hour while working there?
Good Luck! The ecomony isn't going so well, but I'm sure it'll go back up soon with an ample amount of jobs.
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I haven't really 'fit in' since the 6th grade when I was a cheerleader and hung out with their crowd.
Ever since then, I've had one or two friends.For the most part I'm just a helping hand when a random person needs it.
I just need a little advice as to finding a group or a few more friends to have a good time with. I'm in several clubs and sports teams, but I always seem to be the odd one out. (link)
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It sounds like your invovled and thats good. Why do you think people don't like you? I've always felt like I don't fit in too. I do stuff also like theater and different clubs. A lot of it for me is being paranoid. I tend to think people are always talking about me and that people dont like me. Its not true but psychologically I feel that way. My advice to you, is to be nice to everyone. Help someone every chance you get. If you say hi to different people in the hallway and your nice more and more people will want to tbe around you. And when you see people want to be around you, you'll realize that you are fitting in. It just may not be the way you thought of at first.
I hope this works, if you have any other questions feel free to message me.
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