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i have a lot of hiar on my arms
i want to make it less noticable
is it bad to wax,shave, nair it?
should i just bleach it or forget about it?
any suggestions or comments,
thanks (link)
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You should shave use any type of smoothing shaving cream that will keep the skin it's natural softness,yes it's safe to use a shaver,if your going to wax it use lotion to take the redness away.
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Well, as soon as I get home from my game, dad jumps on me because I changed the password to my computer so my sister wouldn't be able to get on because she was online for four hours at the library and she doesn't need to be on for more than an hour. Well, some background information, my sister ids depressed, and she cuts, and she's been like this for like three years and her medical expenses is what drove my family in the poor house basically. Any hoo, I get home and I hear it from my dad. and I tell my mom that I already got bitched out from my dad and I don't wanna hear it from me. Then I don't even know what happened....we started going at it because of my sister. Yada yada. And this fight went on for like over an hour. I said some horrible things. So after a while, I went to talk to my mom for an hour because for some reason I made her cry, and that puts a big cloud of guilt over me. So I went and talked to her and even though she said she's sorry, and I said I was sorry, and she told me that she loves me and yeah, she still seems very upset at me. Or it just might be the guilt talking. But how can I make things right with my mom again? And also, how can I control what I say cussing wise to my mom and dad?
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It's like that saying"be carEful,think before you speak".I could understand that you would get really upset with your sister about her causing the huge economic problem,your mom shouldn't defend her,not spoil her because it's most likely she'll be back with her old ways.Sometimes not saying anything helps when you usually know that your going to say something very unpleasant.As far as your mom maybe buy her some flowers,a card saying your sorry once again,she'll thank you,as soon as you know it things will go back to normal so don't worry about it.It's wise to remind them of their mistakes of what they did in their childhood if you know they are being unfair to you that's when you use this method.
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okay so my best friend likes this guy annd in all of hger texts it all talks about giving him head where shes gonna blah blah blah and she gave her ex-boyfriend head last weekend[they WERE going out]and then dumped him and now all she talks about is that and said she feels like a slut.wtf (link)
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I can see that you're not a nice person if you can't appreicate the advice don't even bother to ask!How would you like it if someone did that to you just because they don't like you just remember what comes around goes around and one day someone will be mean to you!
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in yr 6 there was this boy who apparantly used to like but i never knew, i didn't like him then but i do like him now.stupid i know, it's just that i wasn't into the whole dating and liking thing then. i'm in year 9 now and i'm a girl(of course)i like him now but i have no contact with him, we don't go to the same school but my aunt is a teacher at his school. the one person i do know that has contact with me has blocked me on messenger. i guess it's too late, i threw away my chance-how can i get contact with him?
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I know it sounds crazy what I'm going to advice you but if you really like this guy go to that school find him you're lucky to know where he's at because others are very unfortunate you're not to late,tell him how you feel about him,that you're sorry for not taking the chance before but at least now your taking the risk to have a chance with him but first ask him if he has a girlfriend first o then you don't get embarrassed and good luck!!
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im 17 and have been putting up with my mom for years. she has used drugs for a while mostly coke and pain killers. she seems like really fuckd up from everything and it just really sucks. she has such a bad personality most of the time and can be the biggest bitch. it really sucks and im so fucked up cuz of all of it.im not gunna ask what i can do because theres nuthing i can and im not going to btrig her to rehab or anything cuzxz she`ll fight me. but one of the bggest problems is that shes like parranoid, i have no privacy anymore. its nothing about like where i am or anything, its my room. she looks through everything. everything. i am not even kidding, there is not an inch in my room she wont check. for no reason either. so last night i came home and she didntt really say anything different but i went in my room and saw that one of papers i have was out (from this spot i keep stuff) so i checked the spot and everything was gone. i had pregnancy tests in there from a few months ago that ive never taken out because i dont know what to do with them because she chekcs the trash all the time. she hasnt said anything but today my aunt told me my mom found them. i dont know what to do like i dont care she found them so much its just the fact that i have no privacy. this sounds bad but i really dont like her, i havent been able to stand her few years but now i just dont know what to do it sucks im 17 and a girl needs her damn privacy.
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Well I'm your age now I also have a mom is so over protective,I agree it's very hard to get some privacy since ,you said that can't get her to go to rehab so try locking up your room or putting your very valuable things in a safe box so they will be safely secure, and you won't have to worry about your mom trying to look through it.I know that eventually one day you're going to have to talk to your mom but you have to at least try one more time,see what's going on with her,you won't regret it knowing that at least you tried,if your relationship with her gets very distant it'll be because she didn't cooperate.
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I know that if you really like someone, you probably won't like someone else...but my case is very confusing.
Okay, so I like this guy John. I had one class with him last year and none this year or the previous years. He always flirted with me but not the way he flirts with other girls. As in he won't give me a hug or talk to me much. I kind of lost my feelings for him over the summer but I'm starting to like him again.
Then there is Matt. He's 1 or 2 grade levels above me and what can I say...he's perfect. He's cute smart funny nice athletic is in drama!!! I sit with him everyday at lunch and talk to him a lot. I think he likes me but I don't know. It's hard to say considering that I don't have any other ways of communicating with him other than talk at school for eh 30min? But I really like him
Then there is Tommy. He's in 3 of my classes He's funny athletic cute -- not very nice but funny. He seriously flirts with me A LOT. And I'm not making this up. Even his friends sya that he flirts with me. But the thing is that I sometimes get the feeling that he's only into girls that are athletic and trust me, I'm far away from being athletic.
And the last one. Oh goshness. This is going to sound so wrong and weird. My best friend and basically the only friend that I have--I really like him but I don't know if it's a friend love or cursh love. I know that I shouldn't throw away such a good friendship...but I can't throw it away this way. He is homoesexual as in gay.
I like all these people and I really need help in being able to sort out this whole mess! Who do I really like? What about my bff? What about matt and tommy and john?!?! (link)
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It seems from what you said it's your best friend who you're really interested,the other guys are just guys who you have a crush on, but since you said that your bestfriend is gay then you don't have a chance with him so you should either stick with your boyfriend or decide to take the chance with one of the guys you like a lot.You need to ask yourself how does your boyfriend make you feel if he just makes you feel secure,protected then it's not love or like its more like a friend thing.I know it will require some time so don't get frustrated everyone also goes through a moment of confusion but you'll get through it I can assure you that.
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I messed up bad this summer with this guy i liked. I never went o ut with him but we were together. we tried ending it a lot of itmes but we both still liked ecahother so we always gave in.
now its been over for good for a couple weeks and he was trying to get over me and told me we couldnt hang out one on one and stuff, it crushed me. i cant get him out of my head and i love him sooo much. homecoming is coming up and our friendship has been a little rocky since we ended but i really want to go with him. i was thinking id tell him i know someone who wants to go with him really bad, and then later tell him the pesron i know is me. and ask him if he would want to or no. do you think this is a godo idea? shoot.... hes perfect. (link)
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Well honesty is important in a relationship but since it seems that the circumstances force the person to go to extreme measures I would say that's a good idea because like you said he didn't even want you too to hang out since it wasn't working out,once you convince him to show up then tell him the truth he will have to see,realize how much you like him that you would even do something like that not that it's a crime or anything but there are times you would have to fight for what you want so do what yuo have to and I wish that you , him be together again have faith, and confidence in yourself.
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Im 13/f
SO.. this girl in my school likes my boyfriend. Shes constantly hitting on him and flirting. So the other day i went up to her and told her to back off. Now she is hitting on him MORE just to get back at me. She is REALLy ugly and thinks he likes her, but he doesnt. How can i get her to stop hitting on my bf? Any advice it greatly appreciated!! (link)
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If you say she's ugly then you shouldn't really be worrying about it but then again she is a psycopath that will try to do other things.What you have to do is first tell your boyfriend that you don't want him near her or talking to her whatsoever,not even to stare at her,completely ignore her,keep an eye on the enemy,show that girl how much you too are into each other,make her very jealous so she gets really upset,when your guy does what you tell him she'll get the message that he doesn't like her at all,and only has eyes for you.
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I was talking to my best friend on the phone yesterday. (She's a girl, im a guy.) And she said she liked me. I like her too, and I told her that. It should be easy to figure what to do next but it's not. We want to be more then friends but were afraid of ruining our friendship if something happens. Also, she is afraid it would be too weird but I don't think it would. So I guess Im asking, should I ask her out? Or should we just stay friends even though we want to be more, just so it won't be weird? (link)
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Don't let this oppurtunity fly away like the wind because you may regret it for not taking the chance,think about it if you don't it will most likely happen that she finds someone else,then you won't be able to be with her so take the risk go after this wonderful girl who is interested in you just as you are,and good luck!
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So I have liked this girl pretty much all of my life. I have been talking to her every once in a while trying to build courage and so I finally attempt to call her and tell her how I feel about her. I had to text her first to make sure it was alright to call. She said she was about to eat dinner with the family so she'd tell me when it was alright. She can't talk past a certain time and she texted me after that time and said that she couldn't talk now because it was past the time and wanted me to text what I wanted to say instead.
I'm pretty sure she knows what I'm trying to tell her since someone pretty much told her I liked her. So I said I rather call her instead and asked if i could call tommorrow. She said she didn't know what she'd be doing tommorrow but I could try and then said "sorry". I asked if she could tell me when she was free then and she said "i'll try". Recently she has gotten involved in sort of a long distance relationship.
Should I take this as a polite "I don't want to talk to you?", a "I'm kind of nervous about this" or what? (link)
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Take it as she's nervous about what's going on,that's good that you mention that she was involved in a long distance relationship because maybe she might probably be scared that you may not be interested in having one,that you are the type that just wants to date for a while or she just needs some time to figure out things,and get everything together.Don't worry I'm sure this mood is just temporary.
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Lately my parents have been REALLY argueing. Tonight at dinner I left and they just fought for 3 hours straight. The past 2 months have been really stressful for them I think. My mom is having trust issues with my dad because he went out to lunch with 'some fat lady' and it was because of work. He had to take her out. Anyways, he has lied about who he has been with but personally, I don't find it to be THAT big of a deal. I am so stressed lately because well, I have my own problems and they have their's to add to mine.
Recently we moved about a year ago. They want to move back now because this place has nothing to do. Back at my old place, there were things to do. My parents think this is another reason to why they are fighting.
Please help me. Anything is totally appreciated :) (link)
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Your parents will need to attend some therapy to stop the fighting,express their ideas,speak for what is the problem that they have,the therapist will help them work on the problem,and convince them that they just need to spend more time together,agree on things or try compromising,benefiting the both,and believe me once they get into this they will stop fighting.
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me and this guy told eachother that we liked eachother, and as soon as that happened.. i figured we were about to hook up.
but then he had a talk with me, and tld me he realized he's in love with his ex, and he told me we have to postpone whatever it is we have until he gets over her..if he ever does get over her.. doesn't it sound like he doesnt wnat to get over her??
anyways, the questions is, does this sound like a bad idea? i dont know, the reason im hesitating is because´im afraid of being his sloppy seconds, or hisplan B, you know??
but still.. i really want him, so something inside me tells me maybe he was just trying to be honest with me, he didn't want to start anything while he still has feelings for her..
so what am i supposed to do now?
wait for him?
go on with my life until he's decided what he wants?
any ideas? anyone been in a similar situation?
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Yes,if you really want to be with this guy then wait for him until he gets over his ex,don't get impatient,you said it yourself he likes you back,he'll notice that you,him are meant to be together,that his ex was just a past in his life,and you are his future.
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I want to success in school and try my hardest to get straight A's or at least 4 of them. I want to make my mom and dad proud of me and I'll feel really good in side.
My true question is, how do you increase your memory? I want to have a better memory so when I hear it, I learn it quicker.
OR
How do I remember things? I want to do really well in school. Should I read more books? Should I read at least 1 hour a day? Should I review old things over and over?
Teachers, parents, friends, you can help me!
Any advice will help a lot. (link)
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Like to remember important dates or events write it on a post it and place it in a place where you will always go through.As far as lesoons you learned yes go over it,make sure you reviewed enough,test yourself to see if you got it or have a friend to help you with,reading at least a book daily makes you a better reader,and keep track of everything so you don't forget,and it will make your memory improve for sure.
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Okay I put this in the category "Relationships -> Friendship" because I didnt know what else it would be classified as.
But lets get one thing straight,
the girl I'm going to talk about I am not friends with her.
Okay, well I was adopted and so was this girl, from the same place. And when we were in elementary school we tried to be friends, it didnt really work, she like lives for PITY, (because she was adopted).. and after we figured out it couoldnt work (well I figured it out)
we just stopped talking.
But now speed forward, to highschool.
She is bugging the crap out of me, my freshman year (last year) i felt bad for her, so yet again I befriended her, and she made it worse, she became freakishly clingy, and caused a LOT of drama. And i said I've had it and I'm not going ot be your friend. Not now anymore, or ever. And you cant convince me too.
I've talked ot school counsulars, but they dont know half of our past so they cant help.
Just know that, we always argued when we were friends, and it was unhealthy and I cant take the drama from her.
But I'm going into my sophmore year,
and she has been obsessing over me it seems. Like reading my comments on xanga ( i have a tracker, and shes not blocked so its not like she cant comment) so yeah. And its annoying, and she thinks we have some tie together since we're "both adopted" but therea re other pepole adopted at our school, from teh same place, but does she bug them? NO? so whats so special about me? She thinks of her adoption of being "abandonded" and thats why she acts eepressed and wants pity all the time.
But I mean she can get help, btu cant she leave me alone? I've even gone to see conuslars about her, but they all told me how i can treat her, and what to say so she will leave me alone. But my questions are:
WHY DOES SHE KEEP BUGGING ME?
WHAT IS HER PROBLEM?
And also she has a hard time letting go of things, like our past.
And I've had it, with her, I'm liable to i dont know what, But I've had it. please help.
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She keeps buggin you because of a connection you too have that makes her think you too are meant to be,she has a mental problem,she needs to speak to a psychiatrist it will serve her well,they will see,convince her that it doesn't mean that that will make her meet her soulmate,you are right to feel frustrated,her obession will be fixed the person I only see that could convince her to seek a psychiatrist for help is you,since she has a thing for you,he/she will take care of her,then later on you'll be able to move on with your life without feeling unsafe,feeing frustrated,and you'll be able to do things the way you normally used to.
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14/f HELP ME SOON PLEASE....
Ok, well right now im crying. I was supposed to go to my boyfriend Ian's house but my mom just wouldnt take me. She left a note on my back so that I saw it when I woke up. It said," Sorry Rebecca, I love you. I just cant do this. You will be mad at me but I still love you. I dont want you dating anymore until you're 16. I dont want you to see Ian anymore. I love you." She's doing this because of my grandpa. I know she doesnt mean this because she approved of me and him. Its just because of what happened to my grandpa last night...
Right now we are experiencing a hurricane in my area and it has rained for the past four days now I think. My garndpa walked 3 miles in the rain to the cemetery where my great-grandma was buried, laid there for almost an hour, and talked to her. He told my grandma that my great-grandma said that she would see him soon, he would die soon. He told my grandma that no one loved him, no one cared for him, he was just too afraid to kill himself. He walked half way back and then started getting chest pains so he stopped and got someone to call the house. It was like 10:00pm. It's 7:00am right now, and he's still in chest pains, denying that he lives in th house, and my grandma is going to send him to an asylum. THIS IS ALL MY FAULT. IM A BAD PERSON. MY GRANDPA ALMOST COMMIT SUICIDE BECAUSE OF ME. IM A BAD PERSON. Rihgt now I just want all o this to go away but I love Ian, I dont want to stop dating him. I know that may be selfish in my current situation but I love Ian. I really do. And he loves me back. I dont want to break up with him. What should I do? I'm still in tears and the middle of a breakdown and I feel terrible about all of this. Please, if you're goingto give feedback, advice, ect., please dont say to break up with Ian. I dont want to do that and will not. I'll find a way to make this right for us. But I need help with my grandpa situation. I need help. Please...
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Let your grandpa know how much you love Ian but you also love him too,it would be so unfair to be asked to choose between the two or leave one out,just as he loved someone he should understand why you don't want to give up your love,how he makes you feel,that he has got to understand you,that to please respect the things you cherish,it would mean so much if he supported you,that even though you wil still be with Ian doesn't mean that you are not going to still care for him,stop loving him,that he will make you very happy for wanting to see you that way,and that it's nothing going to change your relationship with him.Talk to him at the right moment and when you see that he's calm.Good luck!
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theres this girl in my school, she is a good friend of mine and i guess i kinda like her too and lately she has been gettin alot more plaayful with me is this even a remote sign she mite like me back?
and how can yoou tell if a girl likes u? (link)
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Yes,this could be a sign she likes you back either ask her to be sure or investigate more.You could tell if a girl likes you in a lot of ways like a)smiles at you for no reason b)giggles when you pass by her c)stares long and hard at you c)winks at you d)gets nervous when your near her e)sweats for no reason when you are near f)you always get her attention g)you could even see something sparkle in her eyes when she looks at you or even glow believe it or not,etc.....
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my friends always make plans to go places like the mall the arcade the movies etc. and they never invite me. i dont think they do it on purpose but when they are planning whos going to go they never ask me if i want to go and they know i never have anything to do. i hate it and when i ask them if they want to go with me they never want to go. i hate not being included it really bugs me and stuff.. for example today my 3 bestfriends are all having a girls day out today of course no one asked me if i wanted to go and i tried hinting that i was bored and wished i had something to do and they dont get it. i dont want to be left out anymore i always talk to them and say ya know what how come im never invited and they say oh sorry we will include you from now on and the next time they go somewhere they invite me but then they forget again. i tried just hanging out with other friends instead but the same things happen with them. its like im not loved by my frineds.... they will talk to me in school but they have their other friends. i only have 1 friend that i hang out with alot but shes so annoying and i avoid her sometimes and im wondering if my other friends think im annoying and thats why they ignore me. i hate this soooo much noone wants to hang out with me. im not shy or anything i dont understand why my friends would rather hang out with their other friends. :( (link)
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It's like they aren't real friends who care of how their friends are feeling,what is bothering them,I guess they just are the type you can never count on,believe me when I say that its rare to find real friends who are there whenever you need them the most,help you out,include you on things they do,try to see if you are the problem ask other people you know if you are annoying,if they say you're not then it's your friends who are the issue,if you do not see an improvement in their actions towards you then you'll see that it's a waste of your time talking to them,about including because you see that nothing has changed,so what's the point,even though other friends of you are the same keep on trying to meet other friends,sooner or later you'll have someone to hang out with at school,other places, and trust me on this I know what I'm telling you.
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I'm a 13 yr old girl and really like this 13 yr old guy and he flirts with me a little bit, but everyone says that he likes my bestfriend. Obviously he denies it. He knows i like him and i don't know weather to like him or not to because he might ask out my best friend?!!!
always as sweet as sugar,
candygrlxoxo87 (link)
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Ask him once more if he plans to ask your best friend,that you would appreciate his honesty because you don't want to have feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way you do,if he saids he's not then go for him, take the chance to be with him,and be happy.
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Every time a guy gives me attention or tells me I'm hot or something, my friend usually tries to make him like her and acts bitchy to me when I mention what a guy might have said to me. I suspect she might even go behind my back and say stuff to the guy. Funny, though, bc if a guy says something like that to her, she brags about it. Wack, huh? What's up with that? And what should I do about it? (link)
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I think it's fair for you to do the same I mean the girl needs to stop being so jealous,get her own guys,not the guys you have your eyes on she should have respect,tell her to keep away from a guy you're interested in,how are actions are unexcusable,she is not acting like a true friend,that she better change or the friendship is not going anywhere,that if it breaks apart it's because of her,that you want it to work out,and that you want her to cooperate.
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my friend and i liked the same guy but he didnt like me back. He confused me sometimes because i wasnt sure if he liked me or not, untill last night he asked my friend out. Now she is all happy, and i am left hurt. IT absolutely kills me inside how he picked her over me b/c of the age difference (she is 2 years younger) she is 15, and how i am his age. SHe even knew that i liked him, and we made a lil truse that we wouldnt be obssesed with him, now she's with him. (link)
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She shouldn't have at least take the consideration to tell you she was going out with him,ask if you're okay with it,show that she cared about your feelings but I guess not she's not a good friend,so you should not be hanging out with her no more,you are valuable yeah so he picked her but it doesn't mean there won't be a guy for you,one day deception will come her way, she'll feel your pain,you know that saying that goes"what goes around comes around",it's true too,don't take for what happened as much importance,she should apologize,feel guilty,but anyways she'll regret it for sure.
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