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Is This Normal?
I know that if you really like someone, you probably won't like someone else...but my case is very confusing.
Okay, so I like this guy John. I had one class with him last year and none this year or the previous years. He always flirted with me but not the way he flirts with other girls. As in he won't give me a hug or talk to me much. I kind of lost my feelings for him over the summer but I'm starting to like him again.
Then there is Matt. He's 1 or 2 grade levels above me and what can I say...he's perfect. He's cute smart funny nice athletic is in drama!!! I sit with him everyday at lunch and talk to him a lot. I think he likes me but I don't know. It's hard to say considering that I don't have any other ways of communicating with him other than talk at school for eh 30min? But I really like him
Then there is Tommy. He's in 3 of my classes He's funny athletic cute -- not very nice but funny. He seriously flirts with me A LOT. And I'm not making this up. Even his friends sya that he flirts with me. But the thing is that I sometimes get the feeling that he's only into girls that are athletic and trust me, I'm far away from being athletic.
And the last one. Oh goshness. This is going to sound so wrong and weird. My best friend and basically the only friend that I have--I really like him but I don't know if it's a friend love or cursh love. I know that I shouldn't throw away such a good friendship...but I can't throw it away this way. He is homoesexual as in gay.
I like all these people and I really need help in being able to sort out this whole mess! Who do I really like? What about my bff? What about matt and tommy and john?!?!
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It seems from what you said it's your best friend who you're really interested,the other guys are just guys who you have a crush on, but since you said that your bestfriend is gay then you don't have a chance with him so you should either stick with your boyfriend or decide to take the chance with one of the guys you like a lot.You need to ask yourself how does your boyfriend make you feel if he just makes you feel secure,protected then it's not love or like its more like a friend thing.I know it will require some time so don't get frustrated everyone also goes through a moment of confusion but you'll get through it I can assure you that.
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You like all of them or at least parts of all of them. Now if only we could construct a guy that is the best of them all and none of the bad. It is easy and common to have multiple crushes and there is nothing wrong with that. As time goes on and you get to know all your crushes more, you will find that some of them you like more and some of them you will like less. It is a learning process and the enticing thing about getting to know someone is the mystery about who they really are. Sometimes you find out there is more great qualities and sometimes you discover you can't stand them. I doubt the gay friend is going to turn straight, but I want you to consider which qualities about him, as well as the others you really love. Make a list. Now, which of those guys in reality will have the most great characteristics? You'll have to get to know them all to find out, so don't limit yourself just yet, and enjoy the process of discovery!
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John- You dont have classes with him. Most likely wont keep up contact. He doesn't flirt like he does with others. He wont talk to you much. So maybe take him off the list.
Matt- Does he have AIM? MSN? A online journal? Ask for his phone number? Cell? Text? Myspace?
Ask him to go with you to a movie [just the two of you or in a group] And possibly make more plans? And see how it goes from there.
Tommy- I'm not sure where you're going with, with this guy. He seems interested in you.. but you are just going to have to ask him about that. Maybe show some interest in him, flirt back.. in a way he would? He could get the hint.. Maybe he's not interested in ONLY athletic girls.
Last one- It's most likely friend love. You know you can't change someone to like you... so I think you need to get the idea of 'friend love' into your head. You may end up getting hurt if you try to take this further. He's your best friend, you dont want to lose him.
I dont know who you really like. But you need to decide who would treat you better.. And how you would talk out of school. Phone? Internet? You should ask one of the guys to go with you on a date or just a thing with friends.. and hang out. Maybe that would help you decide.
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