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"lets postpone this" a bad idea?
me and this guy told eachother that we liked eachother, and as soon as that happened.. i figured we were about to hook up.
but then he had a talk with me, and tld me he realized he's in love with his ex, and he told me we have to postpone whatever it is we have until he gets over her..if he ever does get over her.. doesn't it sound like he doesnt wnat to get over her??
anyways, the questions is, does this sound like a bad idea? i dont know, the reason im hesitating is because´im afraid of being his sloppy seconds, or hisplan B, you know??
but still.. i really want him, so something inside me tells me maybe he was just trying to be honest with me, he didn't want to start anything while he still has feelings for her..
so what am i supposed to do now?
wait for him?
go on with my life until he's decided what he wants?
any ideas? anyone been in a similar situation?
thank you!
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It sounds like what he said is more or less of an excuse to not date you. That doesn't mean that he doesn't like you or doesn't want to date you. He clearly does.
So why would he be hesitant about dating you? Because you live so far away from each other! He has it in his mind that the relationship would not work well or get to its full potential long distance. Which is absolutely true. Long distance relationships are very stressful. Sometimes they can work, but unless you can get closer together within a few years, they end in a lot of heartache. You get very emotionally close to someone when you are far away from them, so it's even more painful when the separation happens. If he could see you more, the feelings for his ex would likely go away much more quickly. It's important for a relationship to be close emotionally as well as physically. A huge percentage of what people say doesn't come out of their mouths. You're missing out on a huge part of each other by not being together. You can show more intimacy and be able to trust your partner so much more.
My advice would be to wait. Date other people, whatever you want. If it happens that you can make it so you can see each other, say once a month, then I would suggest to pursue a relationship. Until then, keep friendly contact with him, but don't expect anything to happen anytime soon. Good luck.
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Yes,if you really want to be with this guy then wait for him until he gets over his ex,don't get impatient,you said it yourself he likes you back,he'll notice that you,him are meant to be together,that his ex was just a past in his life,and you are his future.
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well it seems like you really like eachother and for a really long time. so i think it is worth waiting. but if you wait too long like a month or two you should start looking for a new guy.
but don't just give up on him, keep in touch and talk. maybe there are someways you can help him get over his ex. tell him that he can always talk to you and you are always there for him.
make him like you more so he would want you.
good luck and i hope i helped
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