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Hello, all- I'm Becky. I'm 16 years old but wise far beyond my years, so hopefully you can expect some good advice from me. I'm not here to spit out cutesy answers to every single question- I won't be a bitch, but I'll be sure to tell it like it is. Just accept it, and consider less-than-sweet answers as tough love. :]


advice

well what if you and your boyfriend want to have sex but you are both still virgins and you dont want anyone one to know if you lose your viginity

It's not anyone's business but yours what you and your boyfriend do in private =] you don't have to tell people if you don't want to, but it might be a good idea to tell your doctor next time you see her, because you'll start needing pap smears. you can definitely request that she doens't tell your mom though =] and make sure that you have safe sex: use a condom, and probably another form of birth control, like contraceptive foam or "the pill" hope i helped!

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WHat if your ex bf keeps on trying to listen to your conversation? what does that tell you?????????????????? PlEASE HELP ME>>>>

Hmm well it seems like maybe he's jealous, and the reason he's listening in is to see if you have any new crushes or have plans. If he seems interested, and if you start to like him again too, then just remember that he's your EX for a reason =]

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how do i get my make up to look like hers?


http://imagecache2.allposters.com/images/pic/MMPH-AI/IMG_0106~Carrie-Underwood-Posters.jpg

Looks like she has dark gray pencil eyeliner on her lower lid, with a touch of mascara on her lower lashes. On top she has heavy black mascara, black liquid eyeliner, and pale pink eye shadow going up to her eye crease.

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George Bush. I have a question for all republicans out there. I am a democrat, but i am also an open person who doesn't just dislike people because of their beliefs. There seem to be a lot of people out there who support and like George Bush and everytime I ask someone why they just say "he's a good president" or "he's cool" or "he cares about the country" but seriously i want an honest ANSWER! with examples, what has he possibly done so far for this country that has been good? i honestly want to know, please answer

Hmm I'm not really sure exactly what he's done. He's definitely tried to tape our country back together after 9/11...and if you haven't noticed no more terrorist attacks have happened here since then. Still, I hope that with all the new Democrats in office that things will start getting better =]

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what kind of accessories would look good with this shirt?
http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?rcid=clearance&scid=cat90062&sscid=cat90094&navroot=clearance&productId=0373_8253

i dont want to leave it plain, but i have no idea what to pair it up with

Hmmm first of all I have to say that I love that shirt. I have it in the pink =] What I wear with it is a short silver necklace with pink flowers hanging off of it (you would obviously try to find one in maybe teal/aqua/whatever you want to call that color) and matching earrings. It's pretty simple, but looks cute (in my opinion =] ) hope i helped!

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Has anybody bought the version of Ugg Boots that are crocheted? They look really nice to me, i just don't know how they'll hold up. Any opinions? Thanks. x x

They are very nice shoes. They're warm and comfortable, and go with a lot of stuff. Still, like the other person said, do NOT get them wet or they will be ruined.

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I need advice on what to do, so my best friend Ashley was nice to me since 7th grade. Ashley has another friend named Megan. Well Megan and Ashley don't have any school classes together, and they are really close.

It's like this, One day I asked Ashley if she was doing anything, and maybe we could go to the mall, and she just makes up some silly excuse like "I have homework to do, and I have to clean the house" when its a FRIDAY NIGHT!!! And then I ask ashley if she wants to come home with me on my school bus, and she says she can't, and then I find out that she is able to rid Megan's bus. UGH!
Ashley just sometimes really bugs me, but other times it seems like we get along. Like we laugh at things we say, or do. (not laugh at each other, but laugh in a fun way) but our friendship is so weird, Ashley and I have absolutely nothing in commen. We are both athletic, but we have completely opposite intrests, like food, sports, hobbies.

Well I'm always seeing Ashley and Megan together, and It seems like Ashley is being annoyed around me. I think I have a habit of interrupting people, talking too much, asking too many questions, talking too quietly. What i'm asking is If Ashley is a good friend, and does it seem like she's annoyed around me? and how can I get rid of my habits, to make friends easier and not be so annoying to people.

Do I even sound annoying to you?

I don't think you sound annoying, I think you sound like a friend who doesn't want her friendship to break apart =]

I think you need to realize that since Ashley and Megan don't have any classes together, they want to spend some time together. Still, that isn't any excuse for them to exclude you. Are you friends at all with Megan? Maybe you should talk to her some time, and see if you have any common interests. Then, you will be friends with both of them, and you'd have a better chance of getting invited to do stuff with them. Also, you could invite both of them to do something.

If the friendship with Megan doesn't work out, you need to talk to Ashley about this. Tell her that you are sad that she doesn't spend any time with you anymore. There's a good chance she doesn't even realize she's being exclusionary. If you have any more questions, feel free to drop them in my inbox. Hope this helped!

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so i have a problem. i'm in love with my boyfriend. and he tells me all the time that he's in love with me.

well... today he told me that he never wants to get married or have kids. what should i do?

have you guys heard anyone say this and then change their mind?

please let me know. i need advice ASAP.

Of course. Lots of guys say that. I'm guessing you and your boyfriend are in the high school age group. Have you heard of many teenage boys who desperately want children? They'd rather watch football than take care of babies. (no offense to any guys, i know that's a stereotype, but really...how many of you want kids right now?) Just wait it out. If you two do make it together to an age where marriage is a possibility, then his mind might change. And I can almost assure you that even if he keeps on saying "NO KIDS" if you tell him you two are going to have a baby (when you're married) he will be happy. Hope I helped =]

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13/f, a boy a year older than me reallly likes me ALOT. i like him too but we go to different schools like 45 min away.now he wants to hookup with me and stuff, but he said if i don't want to its fine, but i want to. i know he has hookuped tons of times and said he had a lot of girlfiends but 'doesn't like commitments'. i saw his myspace/facebook and he has a million friends that are girls and they all comment saying 'i love youu!' or 'the movies were so much fun' and like i think hes a player or a manwhore.
but i really like him, so what should i do? just let him go? is he worth it?

Ask yourself: Do you want to have just a little bit of fun, knowing that you'll get hurt? It seems a waste of time to go into a "relationship" that has no future other than you getting hurt when this boy finds someone new. Don't put yourself through that.

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I have a hair straightener that works okay.. but I asked my mom for a new one for Christmas and I was wondering which one would be better: Remington wet2straight, Helen of Troy (I think that's the name), or Conair Infiniti? Thanks! :)

Hrmm definitely do NOT get the wet to straight. I used to have that and my hair was very curly by the end of the day (it's naturally curly). The one I have now is a CHI and it works really well, but out of the ones you suggested I would go with the Conair Infiniti; I have a friend who likes it, and I've never heard of the Helen of Troy. Hope that helped!

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okay well my friend is 12 andshe just start4ed going out with this kid whos 16 he turns 17 in junee... is there something wrong with that?? or is that allright?

I think that this relationship is wrong. People say things like "Age is only a number" or "When you are 50 and he's 55, you won't even notice it!" Still, when she is only 12, and her boyfriend is almost 17, it's not right because the 17 year old has a lot more experience than her. He's been through probably half or more of high school, and she's only in 6th or 7th grade. He can drive (at least a learners permit) and she can't and won't be able to for a long time. He's been in more relationships than her. And also, the biggest one is that he is much more mature, physically and...how would you say this?..."hormon-ally". Yes, I know that isn't a word =] but he is probably going to want to do things like sex that she isn't ready for. So that relationship isn't such a good idea. Try talking to your friend about all the stuff I said. Hope I helped =]

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I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.

Lots of teenagers have had plenty of life experience. When teens ask about issues they're having (stuff with love, how to look good, issues with tampons, etc) they aren't looking for some stuffy doctor telling them things they don't understand. What we look for is someone who is actually going through our same problems. Some teenagers may not be qualified or able to give advice on heavy issues, such as how to have children. But not all the questions are like that- some questions may not seem so complicated to the genius you consider yourself to be, but to young people who are confused about what they are going through, it really helps to get a peer's view on how to handle things.

Edit: I read your apology on the site news. Apology accepted -at least from me =] everyone has bad days, but next time, try and think about what you're saying before you lash out unfairly against hundreds of people. just a thought =]

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Okay, i like this boy and we used to be friends and all but now hes a total jerk and hes mean to me but i still like him ALOT, like i dream about him every night etc.
But he stares at me and tries to get my attention.
Theres this other guy, that everyone says id look good with and he likes me , and hes nice and all but i dont like him that much.
Supposedly hes going to ask me out sometime, and i dont know what to do.Becuase i dont wanna go out with someone and be in love with someone else.
Help!
14/f

It's not really fair to either you or this boy to go out with him if you truly don't like him that way. If he asks you out, just tell him that you like him as a friend, but you don't feel like taking your friendship to the next level. Don't expect him to be happy when you say no, but it'll fade after time. And as for the problem about liking someone who isn't nice to you, that will hopefully fade over time too.

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My friend asked this boy before taking a sip of his soda does he have mono? what is that?

People call mono the kissing disease but thats not really it. Mono is short for mononucleosis (not sure if I spelled that right) and its just a disease that you get from coming in contact with someone's saliva. Basically, it makes you tired all the time. And it takes like 6 months to a year to get over it. Hope this helped!

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wrong category.. okok! Is a sidekick 3 a phone as well? Like or is it just for txting??


ahh thank youu

Yeah the sidekick is a phone also. You can play games, and email, and text, and call people, I think.

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what is with this lonelygirl15 stuff, i dont get it. all i see on her youtube video comments are you've been faking this whole thing and w/e. Can someone tell me the story behind this please? im thinking shes an actress who just put together like a fake drama series to entertain people but it was all fake, on the other hand people believed her though. Am i right?

She's totally fake. I think that she just made that series to entertain herself and whoever may happen upon it. There really isn't any story to her videos, she just says really random thing =]

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what does it me when someone says "hes whipped"

thanks

It means that the guy is under complete control of his girlfriend, and she dominates the relationship.

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Hey its etnies40210 I wanted to know how would i become a level two moderator on Advicenators? Would i have to be on like 24/7 and get a strait 5 or is it just being a level one for a long time? In advance, thanks for the answere
Nathan

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=69

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If seems like everyone wants to be thin. Does being skinny mean your heathy. I mean there are thses girls that pig-out on junk food and are lazy, but there skinny? WHAT THE HECK!!! I'm having weight problems and I jsut don't know what to do. I can get up put on shorts and tennis shoes and have lots of engery - but I don't know what to do with that engery. I know what your thinking just go to a site to get some exercise moves. I guess i'm spazing. Any enercise tips, opions about skinny is heathy?, or something to jsut make me feel better - Thanks. =)

Healthy means that you eat well and exercise often. It doesn't really necessarily correlate with weight, although it can. As you said, lots of teeny tiny people eat tons and excercise never, but there are some who are aren't itty bitty but eat well and work out. It isn't really fair, is it =]
As for having lots of energy, one thing that would be great to burn off lots of energy is to just plug into your iPod and take a run. It's a great use of energy. One tip would be to run around a track instead of a street, simply because of safety reasons: if you are listening to your iPod/portable CD player (whichever you have) you might not pay tons of attention to what cars are doing.

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hi, okay im 15/m and theres this girl at school i like, shees a Jehovah's Witness (im not),and im sure she likes me too, but wen i asked her out she said no, it was like really confusing for me because we like each other.i really like her but i cant think why she wont go out with me, we tell each other ALL our problems and everythings going fine in her life, so can someone plz tell me what i should so next or have any insight as to why she wont go out with me. by the way, shees really into her religeon

It might be that she just likes you as a friend. If thats the case, still talk to her a lot, because friendship is just important as boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. Just remember that if she really does like you, but the fact that she is a Jehovah's Witness is keeping her from going out with you, don't convert your beliefs to hers or compromise whatever you may believe in just so she'll go out with you.

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