im always here to help im really good at giving advice mostly about teenage problems not like my computer software crap! look im not supa smart, ask me questions that i'll know. but other than that im great! that doesnt mean i wont have questions of my own im still learning too so if i dont answer a question of yours than dont get mad b.c i havnt been through it. im very honost to people so if u ask i will certainly tell thats my motto! Just one more thing people if you dont like the way i type then get over it. thats how i am and its not like im typing to some important person. well you are but not that important!
E-mail: sml111992@yahoo.com Gender: Female Location: NY Occupation: student Age: 17 AIM: SLearnarO92 Yahoo: sml111992@yahoo.com Member Since: February 26, 2006 Answers: 607 Last Update: November 3, 2014 Visitors: 34938
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hello i'm 17 year old woman and i'm pregnant and don't know if i should get an abortion or not both me and my boyfriend havent told our parents and i'm scared of there reaction because my parents are very religous Catholics and would kill me if they found out if i did anything like this i'm leaning more towards getting an aborting because i can't take care of a baby and i have a career to look forward to this is my senior year in high school and me and my boyfriend have a very good chance of getting noticed for sports and a baby would heavily destroy that so what should i do? (link)
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if you really think about it what can your parents do to you. your pregnant they cant ground you thats so dumb your almost legal. and there are other options its called adoption and yes its hard im sure. but you can have an open adoption. where you can se your baby as it grows up. i think you decided to have sex and knew what could happen so you should take responsibility i would. but its also your choice im just telling you my opinion!
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This was kinda of split between two categories so sorry if you feel its in the wrong place.
So to start with I've never really been a petite girl. I'm 5'5" give or take an inch. I've inherited a large frame from my dad's side to start with. I realize I'm never going to look like Eva Longoria but I'd just like to not feel so huge anymore. When I went through puberty I had a little extra weight because I didn't do much outside cheer practice. I think I was about 145 lbs then. Freshman year I was still that big. Sophomore year I quit cheer and ate less. I lost weight and got down to 128 was my lowest. To me that's still not as small as I'd like to be, but it's the smallest I was. I've always thought of myself as fat. End of high school I weighed like 138.
When I met my boyfriend 7 months ago I weighed 144, I was already trying to lose weight because I was self-conscious about it. He doesn't think I'm fat but honestly I don't care what he thinks. This is something I think about constantly every day. It's always on my mind. Since I met him I lost my old job and had to get a job as a waitress. At the restaurant I get free food when I'm working, and they don't have the healthiest things to eat there. I'm limited in what I can eat because I'm a vegetarian.
Since I've started working there I've gained 10 lbs. This has not helped my self image AT ALL. I'm disgusted with myself. This is the biggest I've ever been and I hate it. I'm to the point that I've been looking at anorexia websites for tips. I know that sounds horrible and I'm not proud of it but I don't know what else to do.
It's like I sit here and tell myself this is the last straw, I'm gonna eat like 1 banana all day tomorrow that's it. (I know that's not healthy but at this point I don't care). I tell myself all these efforts I'm going to make but then when it comes time that I'm hungry the fact that I'm trying to lose weight doesn't even cross my mind. I look for something quick and easy instead of taking the time to cut up an apple for a snack. SOMETIMES I'll remember and those times I eat super healthy. But I can't seem to get myself to make the effort to lose weight.
Now the reason this is in the category this is in is because I can't bring myself to be intimate with my boyfriend at all. When I was smaller I never had a problem with other guys but now that I'm this big that's all I can think about when he asks me. Like that's all he would see is my fat rolls and I'm so disgusting don't look at me. So I'll make up excuses like I just don't feel comfortable with my roommate in the next room and blah blah. So then when my roommate goes out then I have to come up with some other excuse like I'm on my period or I have cramps....It's getting ridiculous. We've been dating for 7 months and we haven't had sex yet because I can't bring myself to do it.
I need to lose this weight NOW so I can get over this I'm sick of hating myself.
I don't care how unhealthy it is I don't care about anything anymore I just want to be thin.
***I need some tips of how to remind myself not to eat unhealthy.
I dont want to write it on my hand, and I can't write a note in the kitchen because my roommate (who weighs like 90lbs and eats like a teenage boy) will see it and I'm embarrassed about it. If it's something physical it needs to be something I can leave in my room.
***I also need some tips of how to force myself to get into the gym or force myself to do a small workout at home. I don't have any workout equipment at home (unless you count the Wii Fit lol) but I could go buy some weights or maybe a yoga dvd? Do you think that would help? I don't want to waste money if it wont help.
And does anybody have any advice on how I can get over this self-consciousness with my boyfriend? I really want to enjoy our physical relationship but right now I can't and it's causing a lot of fights between us. (link)
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okay i know what your feeling despite my age. i used to have a problem with my weight not that i was huge i guess but eating like one thing in a day was what i did and everytime i went to go get something to eat i would look at the calories and if it was over 200 i didnt eat it. it was so bad i hated feeling like i couldnt eat anything and constantly thinking how much calories this is. so what im trying to say not eating gets really bad quick and hard to get over. and you dont loose weight fast it actually keeps the wieght on more. if you cant go to the gym on a certain day and have a lap top. then go to seventeen.com and they have great work outs for you to do in all areas. of your body parts. for the eating part you can sigh up for weight watchers if. or they have eat healty meals it has less to eat its all about portion. like when your eating preztles and it says 12 pretzles a serving eat 12. its hard to eat healthy i know but if you dont have it in the house you wont eat it. make it okay to have ice cream or something like that once a week. keep a picture of what you want to look like in your room. even though you might not look like that. your not going to be perfect no one is everyone has rolls i have them and im 5'5 and wiegh 133 of what ever around there. just remember its not about the number its how you feel and look about yourself. also when you and your guy want some alone time or he does. you have to get the fact that you THINK you look bad and your rolls and what not. hes not going to care hes not going to tell you to stand in the middle of the room with the lights on to look at you and point out your flaws. honostly they dont even think of that. im sure he doesnt care its you who he likes. just dont think about what you look like because thats going to frek you out in anything and keep you away from doing certain things. i know its not easy to just stop thinking that way, but when you start excersising and eating just a little bit right your going to feel good and happy.
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well my boyfriend broke up with me because his mom said i was too young for him.. but then last night i talked to him and he told me that there is another reason why he doesn't want to date me.. he said that school was around the corner and that he didn't want people to to talk shit about us because he is small and I'm thick....he tells me he loves me but he doesn't want anything to do with me in public .. does he really love me? (link)
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honostly if a guys is going to say that you then he doesnt love you forget about him and find a new guy who loves you.
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my boyfriend and i's one year annivarsary is ina week and im not sure what to get him. i have $70 left to spend. i was thinking about getting him a guitar but i cant find a cheap yet good one. shud i get him that or somethin else? he does concerts and is amazing at many different instruments so i dont wana get him a beginners one. i also wanted to customize it, like write on it or draw since he loves my art but what shud i write? we really love eachother and he goes threw soo much for me just an example, i have had cancer and ben hospitalized so many times for bein psycho and it hurts him so bad as hes ben with me threw it all.. we're both 15 nearly (link)
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i think that you should get like a mini guitar and write i love you on it and get a card saying that how much you love him and all the things that you both have been through just shows how strong your relationship is. you dont really need to get him something huge i didnt for my boyfriend. its just great to know that your still in love and lasted this long.! hope everything goes well.
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15/F
I want to get ear gauges. However, my parents think it's a dumb idea and I won't ever be able to get a job with them. They believe that they won't heal back if I decide to take them out. They say I can have them when I move out, but I know I won't want them then.
How do I convince my parents to let me get them? (link)
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try to reason with them both agree on a size that you can go to. and when ytou take them out for a long time they heal back to almost normal.
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well im waiting till marriage to have sex with my boyfriend. is there other ways i can please him. BJS is working pretty good but my hand gets tired. (link)
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o dear ok first things first bjs are known as blow jobs! and a blow job is when you put your mouth on the penis and bob you head up and down im just thinking you didnt know that cuz your hand gets tired.... im glad your waiting!!!!!
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i share a room with my little sister right now. i am 13 which means i am a teen now and i need my own room. it would give me more privacy and some peace and quiet. i need someone to tell me how to ask my parents into letting me have my own room. (link)
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wow i love this one i shared my room until i was 16 with my little sister the only reason i got my own room was because two of my sisters went away. you can talk to them if you guys have an extra room. tell them your ready to be your own self you need your privacy tell them to think about it dont cry or wine be mature maybe they reall will give you your own room.
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My bf of 4 years told me to take a break about three days ago...i dont understand why he would ask me that bcoz he was the one who messed up..we constanly aruged becoz his girl friends from school kept texting him, and it really bothered me alot..i even cried and told him that i dont appreciate them texting you and he seemed to not do anything about it...so we got into this really deep arugement about the girls texting him....n now he wants a break..i dont understand why he would want to take a break instead of trying to change and work things out for me....He thinks that since we been together for long and wanna get married in the future that its ok for him to take advantage of me and do wat he wants bcoz imma always be with him..idk what to do.....im just really mad that he taking a break with me... (link)
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no ones perfect he probally hates that you guys are fighting all the time and if your looking through his phone he might be thinking second thoughts about you guys you told him you dont like it. i wouldnt like it either just give him time. dont be mad he wants a break you also take this time to think about your self thats the whole point of being on the break. hopefully things work out if not then it doesnt you can always find someone else.
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hello :) im wonderin which one of these piercings i should get. im turnin 16. i already have 3 holes in each ear plus my cartilage in the right one. i have my nose and belly button also.
either one of these id get on the left ear. which one do you guys think i should get ?
if you need a picture to visualize my advice column is sweeethoney.
thank yall in advance (link)
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i got the industrial done and really it dosnt hurt that much its just sore for the first few days thats all. i did bleed but that stoped i could sleep on it the first night and i think its cool
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hi, 17/m, from the UK.
My girlfriend went to the states on the 13th of july. First she went to seattle, and the day she went to sanfrancisco, she text me, and i tried ringing her, but she hasnt picked up since. She went to San Francisco about 4/5days ago. Before that we talked regularly, either texting or talking on the phone- it would cost more but we didnt mind. But now, it goes straight to voice-mail. Like its off, or dead. Any ideas? what could have happened? how do i know if she is ok? i havnt heard from her at all since. thanks a lot. (link)
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she probally turned it off or something she needs to pay money to talk to someone out of the country just chill shes fine. my boyfriend last year went back home to the UK. and didnt call me once he says he tried. he was there for a month or more i think it was real long to have contact with someone you just started dating. so at least shes talked to you and not at all. ik the feeling though it sucks. shell call give it time. leave a voice mail and shell hear it later.
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14/f
hey, so my boyfriend and i just started making out. It's a first for the both of us and surprisingly, I ended up giving him a SUPER bad hickey when, honestly i wasn't even trying. Our first time was two days ago and i accidentally gave him four that look absolutely HORRIBLE. he didn't seem to upset and laughed it off saying it was ok cause it was, after all, my first time. So today we met up again for a second round in order to, you know, learn together since we're both noobs. BUT this time he told me to try avoiding giving him any hickies, so i did. :( unfortunately, i ended up giving him two more. I swear i didn't do it on purpose, i didn't even suck very hard, just mostly licking and pecking. But even so, SOMEHOW i still ended up giving him even more! I need some advice on how to kiss. I know i must be doing something terribly wrong because everytime i end up giving him a hickey. PLEASE i would greatly appreciate some advice. i just find it strange that he's tried to give me one a bunch of times and it never seems to work. We're both noobs. so yea. like i said, some advice here would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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well i hate getting hickeys myself so annoying to hide and cover up. but so what you should do just kiss his neck lick a little bit. if you tend to give him hickeys still then go a lower so that it wont be noticeable. or tips on geting rid of hickeys and it works. put a fork in the freezer and gently rub the fork on the hickey so that the blood vessles will grow apart. dont do it hard because it will leave a mark. if theres a red irritated mark leave it alone it will go away. you can do the same thing with a spoon.
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Im 18/f and my boyfriend is 21/m we have been dating for about 6 months are up until recently it never hurt when we had sex. I've been noticing if we have sex more than like twice a day its like a burning sensation and i tense up and we have to stop because it hurts so bad. This has never happened before. Is it possible that each time we have sex he's tearing something? The burning sensation is like at the bottom of the "hole" is there something wrong with me? Why all of a sudden is it happening now? Hes not very big either, so i have no idea what it could be :( (We were both tested and clean)
Thanks a bunch
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my only guess would be that your not lubed enough thats why it would hurt so next time it hurts check if your a little dry then normal.
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15 yr old guy and ive been with my gf almost 5 months and she wants to do more sexually and recently she says she wants to see my penis im worried ive got a really small penis im too embarrssed to show her will it grow? do girls care much about size? (link)
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if your not ready for your girlfriend to get to sexual then just say lets take it easy for a bit. but if not then if she wants to see your penis then let her see it personally if she doesnt have a penis to really compare it to then whats her to judge. and im sure that your penis is going to grow your still growing so why not your penis. theres something to look foward to! and size right now shouldnt matter your probally dont have a reallllyyy small penis so no wories if you do then you should still be proud of it and show what you got if she doesnt like it then to heck with her. hey and if she gets to see yours then you get to see hers.!!!
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i have been fingering myself since i was like 10. So recently as i was i noticed that it takes ,e longer to have an orgasm than usual then one night it didnt happen at all!
im a little scared because my first time is coming up next week, and im afraid i wont be...pleasured.
i need quick help please!
D: olie!!!
14/f
(dont tell me im too young please!) (link)
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well to tell you the truth you might be too young just somethings you wont know how to handle so be careful. and its true you might take longer to get an orgasm because you do it so much or for so long. your first time it might not feel pleasurble for a while actually when you have sex.
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i have a girlfriend who i'm very dedicated to. but my friend, also my ex, has a beautiful ass. i want to do so many things to it. what can i do to engage in activity with her without it being considered cheating?
if she rubbed it in my face would that count?
or let me sniff it?
any ideas? (link)
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alright dude thats mad weird... lets put it this way your girlfriend has an exboyfriend or a guyfriend and loves his ass would you like her to just touch it or rub her face on it sniff it whatever.? i think that counts as cheating but it doesnt but it would still piss of your girl it would piss off me.
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im 16 and my bf and are thinking about having sex
both our first time im nervous i hear it can hurt a lot a friend told me it doesnt hurt as much if the guy has a small penis is that true? my boyfiends penis is about average. (link)
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it does hurt the first time its like known to but you have to know that every gril is different so it might not hurt as much for you. i dont know about a small penis but average is just enough big im guessing. take it slow if it hurts to much tel him.
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im 16 a guy my gf and i are thinking about having sex were both virgins im a bit worried ive got a small penis and im worried i wont measure up and satisfy her i want to make it good for our first time what can i do will i be able to satisfy her? (link)
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well in my opinion if shes a virgin its still going to hurt her so take it a little slow tell her if it hurts to much. you should be on top. to pleasure her you should just like finger her of rub the clit! :p to me theres no way it cant be special and size doesnt really matter. like rub her clit when your actually in once in a while so it still feels good. use a condom unless shes on birth control but still either way you should use one. its going to be special just realax.
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16/f
i just lost my virginity to the boy ive been dating for 9 months. and he moved halfway across america the day after...... yea my life sux. but i was wonderin, do you feel when a guy cums onside of you? we wernt usin a condom n i think he cummed cuz at one point he started thrustin reali fast and hard then stopt and we stopt havin sex. thanks (link)
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not everyone gets pregnant the first time if you hear it only takes one time yah thats true but from how many poeple. to the feeling part like you cant feel it coming out but you should notice that your wetter then usual and stuffs dripping out. he should have told you if he came. he might have like away from you but i think you would know if he took out his penis if you were a virgin. im sorry that he moved it must be really hard for you. if i were you i would just in case go to your local plan parent hood and the get the emergency pill tell them about wat happend even if it has been five days you can still go its better then not going at all. i hope you dont get pregnant and im sorry that your boyfriend moved i would die if mine moved away from me. just keep busy and try to forget about him or keep in touch with him if hopefully not something like geting pregnant happends.
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He's being really weird around my girlfriend, and she doesn't know it, but he flirts with her all the time. I am afraid if I say something about it, my girl will get mad at me. What should I say without making my problem worse?
I am 16/m (link)
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trust me talk to her your girlfriend about it and your friend thats not right and needs to stop
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my boyfriend dumped me for this girl, but that was like a year ago is it okay to still be upset or jealous? (link)
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ya its normal i mean if your still in total rage about it then maybe you should find a little help find someone to talk to. think about something else, do other things hang out with friends i mean that has to be really hard i mean once in a while to be a little angry or jelous but to be totally jelous and angry theres someting to be like on the ughh get help side. but other tthan that..
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