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Hello Everyone. I am Kaci. I am 18. I may be young, but I can give some good advice. If you ever need anything at all, do not heistate to ask. I'll help the best I can.
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See the thing is that her and I have two mutual friends. And we're all having a friends Christmas after Christmas so I feel like if I do that then its going to make it akward at the friends Christmas and I don't want that. _(link)

Oh, I understand. Have you tried talking to her about it? Maybe she doesn't realize thats she's treating you the way she's treating you. I'd really talk to her, and see what she has to say. If she doesn't seem like it's bothering her that you guys are drifting apart, I'd tell your mutual friends than you will not be able to attend the Christmas thing, because you don't want to be around your bestfriend and/or Maggi.

I know that will suck, and you don't want to do that to your other friends, but if the chick isn't going to be nice and fair to you, than I wouldn't want any part of that.

I have had a somewhat colourful life, sexually abused as a child for a period of 8 years by a family member. I grew up in a household where drugs and alcohol were a daily vice. I was removed from here when I was 14 and lived on people's sofa's going from one house to the next. I longed for love but when I got it, I used and abused it.

Years passed, I got into university, but not before going out one night and being so drunk that I woke up in the morning in my house nakered and covered in bruses. I had been rapped but had no idea, when, how, where and by whom.

I chose to put this behind me, I had a goal in life and started an academic career.

I went through uni, getting drunk, sleeping with random men. Feeling completely ashamed and empty everytime. I realised that this would never happen if I didn't drink alcohol. I stopped drinking. Things moved on, got better. I got some self respect back. I have met the man of my dreams. He looks after me, he cares. I have confided in him about my past antics and helped me through! I really love him.

After a night round a new friends, I drank wine. I ended up asking my friends to come back to my house, where my boyfriend was waiting up for me. Upset that i didn't consider him, he left.

I ended up in bed with 2 people. We didn't have full sex but we kissed. This has left me feeling terribly ashamed and guilt ridden. I normally have great insight into myself and I know that to change my behaviour, firstly I need to look at what I want my ideal self to be. I am waiting for therapy around my past but it's taking so long. Do I risk telling my boyfriend, breaking his heart and loosing the best thing that has ever happened to me, or do I never tell him and put this behind me? I am English female nearly 30 _(link)

Honesty, is the best policy. If everything your saying is true (that you didn't have sex with them; JUST KISSED) than I don't see your boyfriend being so pissed that he will never talk to you again; maybe alittle hurt, and confused as to why you'd let it happen; but nothing major. Now if you did anything other than kiss; than you're going to have a hard time coming clean.

I agree with the advicenator below me. You need to tell him straight up. Don't sugar coat anything. He's your boyfriend, he deserves to know.

Hey Shay! (that rhymed) :P
How are you? I've been reading the questions people post and the advice your giving them.. WOW your good, i was hoping you might help me out? Im 16 years old and my boyfriend is 17, he's kissed girls a couple of times, but i havent even had my first kiss yet.. Hes got experience and i dont, We're going on a date after exams and we havent seen each other for a while, so i think he would kiss me.. I would like to kiss him back if he does, but i dont know if im a good or bad kisser, PLEASE help me out here, i really love this guy.. He means the world to me and i just want this night to be perfect, How do i know if im a bad kisser, and how to be a good kisser if i really am a bad one.. Thanks a million :)
-Manar _(link)

I'm not Shay, but I think I could help you out, until Shay gets here, (:

There is no way to tell that you'll be a good/bad kisser until you actually kiss someone, and they judge it. It sucks, I know. It makes you even more nervous!

But from past experience, I've learned to do these few things;

1) I learned the more nervous you are, the more sloppy and unattractive the kiss is. So when that night comes, just make sure you are totally relaxed, and keep calm.

2) Let him take controll. Kissing is instinct; when you have someone guide you, it becomes easier. Just follow his lead.

3) Use your hands.
*Hand motion during kissing can also help with making you seem confident. If you want a simple, romatic kiss, place your hand on the side of his neck, on the side of his cheek, or even have your fingers run up the back of his head, into his hair*

4) If you notice that its more than just a peck kiss, try sucking on his bottom lip; nibbling on his bottom lip.

5) If there is tongue involved- all you do is just stick your tongue in his mouth, and move it around; its kind of like tongue wrestling. [Personally, I hate kissing like this; but most guys do it]
*If thats the case, than some guys like it if you suck on their tongue while you guys are kissing*

I'm sure if this boy loves you as much as you love him, than he won't see a problem in your kissing. He will still love you; If he sees something wrong with the way you kiss; tell him "well, its my first kiss; so what could I do to make it better?" Tell him to teach you! Guys love to feel like their in controll, so teaching you how to kiss, will not turn him off, but make him excited! Some girls adapt to how other guys kiss, and once again thats kind of instinct. Just go with the flow.

Good Luck!

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Okay so this is going to be long sorry. So my best friend, lets call her Mindy, and I joined basketball cheering together with my other friend Nikki and Mindy's friend Maggi. So the first day of practice there was a girl missing and the couch asked Maggi what the girl looked like and then Maggi statrted talking shit about the girl. So then the girl found out and the next day at school she comfronted Maggi, then teachters got involved makeing it a bigger deal the it was. So that day at practice Maggi goes to the couch and tells her what happened and then she started making a list of people it could have been. Well on that list was my friend Nikki and Maggi started talking shit about her too, thus proving that she talks shit. Well the next day my friend Mindy started being distent with me and not talking to me and when i would talk to her she would give me one word answers. So later that day I found out that Maggi had told Mindy that I was the one to tell what she said. There were 10 other girls that heard it ! So at lunch we brought up the subject (me, mindy,& Nikki)and Mindy straight out defended Maggi instead of me her best friend and she still wasn't talking to me so I didnt talk to her either. Then two days later she sends me a message asking why I was mad and I said I wasn't and that she stopped talking to me so then she said sorry and we went back to talking. But the problem is she is still distent with me and its pissing me off and when Maggi is around she completely ignorce me. Everyone says that she treats me like shit and that shes never there for me which is partly true. What do i do i'm going to her varsity dinner with her on Wensday and I don't want us to be like that. Should I keep trying or just give up on my best friend since 4th grade? she 16 and im 15 _(link)

I'd give it up. She isn't a real bestfriend. Best Friend's don't believe other people over their "best friend". If she ignores you around this Maggi chick, than I wouldn't want a part in her friendship. You need a good, real friend; not just a part time friend. I think the only reason why she apologised to you is because she didn't want the akawardness in class and/or the fued between you too.

If anything, I'd slowly let myself drift apart from her, and what not. That doesn't mean that you should be mean to her, or sink to her and Maggi's level, but simply be the bigger person and just realize that you don't need what these girls, ESPECIALLY YOUR BESTFRIEND, are doing to you.

As of the Varsity Dinner situation, I'd be the bigger person, and just be nice. Just do what you have to do to get through it in a calm, cool, collected manner. If your so called "best friend" notices you acting differently, than you need to tell her,

" Look, here lately, after that big deal between Maggi blaming me for telling on all those girls; you've been treating me differently. You ignore me when Maggi's around, and when she isn't, its not like how it was before. I don't want to fight with you, and I don't want to end on bad terms; I just simply realized I don't need what you have to offer as my best friend; and I'm better off like this."

That way, things in class won't be akaward for you guys; instead of being bestfriend, you guys will be acquaintances (sp)

Good Luck!

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Hey, remember answering me question (http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=600235) couple of weeks ago? Well, I could use your help again... :)
I will try to shorten it as much as possible - after the talk we had we continued talking regularly, and two weeks ago she quit working where we work...During the whole last week (where we didn't see each other at all) she was texting me daily just to start a convo, and one day when she saw I didn't answer she called and said stuff like "what?? I left work so you don't call anymore??" (jokingly of course). Yesterday she came to say an "official" goodbye to everyone at work, and I told her that she shouldn't even think about we don't staying in touch, and she said "of course!!".
I also talked with one of her (female) friends from work and told her about all that, she said she knows that I'm really important to her and that she likes me a lot, and that I should wait, but shouldn't count on it because we can't know what she thinks...

Well, what do YOU think? because I must admit I got a bit confused...Thanks :) _(link)

This is a big improvement on her part. She is slowing opening up to you in a female way. She's actually allowing herself to become close to you, even if it is as just really good friends. Her friend is right; I can tell you are important to her, because if she left her job, she probably wouldn't have worried keeping a relationship with you, if you didn't mean anything to her. If her female friend says she likes you, than I'd believe it. Girls gossip, especially about cute boys, and boys that we like. She probably told her that she likes you because she really does, and the reason why she hasn't told you is maybe she doesn't want to tell you, and you push her into dating her. She just wants to keep how she feels for you on the down low so neither of you gets hurt, if things between you guys don't expand.

In my opinion, I think the cards are in your favor. Carry on the friendship you guys have, and let her know that you still care for her, and you are still waiting for her, when SHE is ready. Let her know as well, that you understand her reasons for not wanting a relationship, because if you two got together, you'd rather have ALL of her, and not just HALF. You understand? That kind of sound confusing to me, so I'm making sure it made sense to you, lol.

You want someone who can give you 100% and not 50% because of baggage from a past relationship. I think if you continue being there for her, and reminding her how you feel (without pushing it) she will begin to lean towards you, when she is ready to be in a relationship.

Thank you for coming to me. If you need anything else, don't heistate. If you feel like writing a book; than great. I don't mind, because Lord knows, my advice isn't short lol.

My 17 year old boyfriend and I have been going out for about six months now. Since christmas is just around the corner I'm running out of time in deciding what to give him. He is a very sweet, handsome, and respectful. Not only that but he loves music and plays guitar, violin, and piano. Additionally he plays video games, and is really funny. I tried asking him what he wanted for christmas but he said he does not know. Im stumped, please can anyone help me out? I really wanna make this christams present very special, cute, and sweet. Just blurb out any ideas that come to mind. thank you for the help.
Female 16 _(link)

Gift giving for boys is always diffcilut. Especially boyfriend, because we want it to be perfect! I know exactly what your struggling with, because I'm struggling with the same exact thing.

But, you say he likes to play guitar, buy him some picks; or how about a mix CD of your guys' songs? That will be something he will love; or even just a CD of songs that he likes.

I'll tell you what I got my boyfriend for christmas, and if youi like any of the ideas, than go for it :

A pair of shoes, two pair of jeans, 5 shirts, a ring (with our names engraved on it), a necklace,underwear, socks, a shaving kit, his favorite cologne, a hat, some basketball shorts, I wrote ghim a love ltter; got some pictures of us devolped and into a piocture frame; a made some coupns for free massages whenever he wants, ahome cooked meal; a date on me; sexual things; like you know; lol;some of his favorite candies; some chapstick, a new head set for his MP3; a toothbrush, some mouth wash, some body wash, shampoo, and deoderant; ect

If your looking for more of things that don't cost money, which are usually the best type of presents, or if your on a really slim budget, than your more than welcome to send me a message to my inbox, and I can give you some more ideas!

Good LUck!

Okay, so i am an 8th grade girl
In the 7th grade I met this really nice guy who was funny, smart, and sweet. over the year we became almost bes friends. I think he likes me b/c he always waits for me at my locker, passes me gum during class, and sometimes walks me to class. Recently, he told me hes moving away to switzerland :(, and i really like him. im afraid to tell him in case he doesnt like me and it ruins our friendship forever. Im not the prettiest or most outgoing girl, so i would not be okay with just asking him just because i can. im really stuck and scared im gonna lose my best friend :( _(link)

I know exactly what your going through.
You have to look at it like this; *He is moving to another country*

Therefore it would be hard to maintain a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Now if he was only moving for a couple of months and than comimg back, I'd really tell him how you felt; but if he is moving there for years & years (possibily the rest of his life) than there really isn't any point in worrying over losing his friendship. Chances are once he moves, you guys will barely talk. I know thats tough to hear because he's your bestfriend, I've been there, and it really sucks; but its a part of life. Just tell him how you feel and let him know that you care for him; and regardless of how he feels, won't even matter.

He's moving away; there isn't any point in worrying about being with him; it will not work. Save yourself the heart ache and pain; and just remain as close as friends as you can;;

21 female. Nick 19. This may be kind of long but I will really appreciate any help! :)

Me and Nick have been together for about 4 months. He is the nicest guy I've ever been with I really couldn't ask for a better guy. We've known each other for a long time but just started dating months ago. He pays for me when we go to dinner or get anything to eat. I'll be like "Nooo!" And take out my wallet because I feel bad that he pays for me. But he won't take my money he makes me put my wallet away.

Well last weekend we were going on a double date with my brother and his wife. Nick called his mom for something and she asked what we were doing that night and Nick said going to dinner and his mom asked if he was paying for me and Nick was like well yeah. And she said well do you always pay for her? And he said yeah. And she was like does she ever pay for you? And he said no but she said that she was going to take me to dinner soon. Then she said ..well that's not right and she said it kind of in a mean tone. And she was on speaker phone so I heard everything. Nick was pretty quiet and his mom was like is she right there? And he said yeah, and I walked away. It was so uncomfortable and I was kind of offended.

That night when we were at dinner I took out my wallet again and he said no, put that away and I insisted I at least pay for the tip then and he wasn't even going to let me do that but I forced him to let me.

And just a couple nights before this happened we were talking and I even said I hate that you pay for me I feel bad! And he said no I want to pay for you babe and I said well I'm taking you out some time then! :)

It just bugs me that his mom would say that about me acting like I'm taking advantage of him or something saying "well that's not right, she should pay for you" I couldn't stop thinking about it all night and I was really quiet. Nick could tell something was wrong and he kept asking me if I was mad at him. Finally I said, I know your mom doesn't like me. And he said she likes you babe, you wanna know why she likes you? Because she sees how happy you make me. And I said well it didn't really sound like she liked me too much on the phone and he said well I don't think she said anything bad, what part didn't you like? Obviously he was sticking up for his mom and didn't think anything she said was offensive. I just let it go. But now whenever I see her next I am going to feel really uncomfortable around her. Would you be a little offended if you were me? I don't know what to do!

Plus, he told me way back that he wanted to pay for me & take care of me because I am doing school full time and can't work that much and he is working full time right now before he goes back to school so he knows I don't have a lot of money right now. But it's not like I say, you have to pay for me! No, I'm not like that at all. _(link)

I understand where your coming from. I would be offended in a way too. Guys are hard headed, and very stubborn. His mom only sees one side of it, and thats him always paying for you. She doesn't see how you always insist on him letting you pay. Therefore, its nothing to be upset over. Your boyfriend needs to explain to his mother why he pays for you, and to let her know that you offer sometimes too. Because its really not your fault, I mean you try, what else can you do, ya know?

So I'd talk to your boyfriend, and tell him that since that night she called, you have really took it to heart that she may see you as a user, and you don't want to feel akaward around his mom next time you see her, so you'd really appreciate it if he would let her know that he doens't always pay for you because he feels like he has to; its just because he likes to EVEN THOUGH you offer.

I say next time you guys want to go out; before yall do, make it settled that this time you'll pay for it, and the next time he will. You guys gotta switch it up, or like Zane said, he will start to feel negatively, and I know you don't want that. He's just being a gentleman, don't let it fool you though. (:

Good Luck!

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So I might hang out with my friend (n) on friday and my other "friend" (g) is jealous I'm hanging out with n so g invited me over just to make sure we don't hang out. It pisses mi off how jealous she is. G drives me nuts, she even called my mom and texted her to see if it's ok to hang out. So now my ma said I should go and if n can hang out than g has to come. I'm super mad and don't want g because she always texts when we hang out. She never talks to me in school too! _(link)

You need to stop being friends with her. Real friends will be your friend inside and outside of school. I use to have a friend like yours (G) and I felt like I was dating a controlling boyfriend. It was terrible. You have to tell her either how you feel,
or stop being friend with her. Sadly, people like this don't change, they will always be like this until something forces them too;

Its not right that she is basically controlling you from hanging with this new girl.

18 f.
sso i masturbate... and i wanna orgasm like girls in porn where it squirts like everywhere... also, when i do masturbate.. i get close to orgasm or do orgasm and then im done. my body gives up. not just being tired, but my mind is totally somewhere else and i my body doesnt care to continue. why is this?
thanks _(link)

I know what you mean! I'm a squirter, and I hate it! I mean its not as much as it is in porn videos, but I do squirt. Not everyone can do it, if I could I'd trade with you in a heartbeat.

Once way I figured out how to squirt is by masterbating myself. I sat on the toliet, or in the bath and I found a place that felt good, and I kept doing it; even after my body wanted to stop, and I kept on, and eventually it happened. Gross I know, but hey, its life.

Getting an orgasm makes your body go through a million mixtures of feelings and emotions. Thats why your body gives out. It's really hard to continue over and over again after recieving it once. But I'd wait a couple of minutes, because if you notice, certain areas of your vagina are very senstive, so I'd wait a couple of minutes and go at it again; you just have to really find what works best for you; and one major thing is to make sure you have privacy and you are completly comfortable. It also helps to hold in your breathe and really concentrate on getting your orgasm!

Okay, so i started to think about my ex and the good times we had because honestly we have a lot of chemistry and i don't see why we're not friends. So i started to talk to him and when i first started to talk to me he was asking me advice about his girlfriend. He kept throwing things in my face like, "Shes the only girl that i loved." "Shes the only girl i was faithful too." The worst thing he said was "I had sex with her last week." I mean that's personal? Why is he telling me. Out of all people, why me? I have a feeling hes trying to make me jealous. I don't know im kind of confused. I need someone else point of view on this. Ridiculous. _(link)

This is a sign you guys shouldn't be friends to begin with. If you were ready to be friends with him, the things he was saying to you wouldn't bother you. You'd be able to listen, and give him advice regardless of the things he says. Obviously you cannot do that. I understand you'd rather have him in your life as a friend, than nothing at all; and I know how hard it is to listen to someone you once care about say things like what he said. It kind of makes you wonder, "what about me"

He is trying to make you jealous; I honestly think this guy and your plans of being friends with him is a waste of time. You don't deserve someone like him in your life. He's better out of it, than in your life causing you pain and confusion.

I agree with Zane. Let him go completely. You deserve so much better!

Good Luck!

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I was close friends with this guy, and we took the 1st step to be BF/GF. It went fine, after a month went by he suddenly became very agressivly mean. He called me a pathetic little loser and dumped me.It Hurt me So bad I couldnt eat or sleep or basically function for days. 2 weeks later I started talking to an old male aquaintence...and he asked me out. My new ex hadnt known about the date, and wanted to start a friend relationship. This aquaintence wants me to be his girlfriend, I dont know whom i love more though. My ex is a jerk, but i care about him. and my aquaintence is very nice and respects me. Also I still feel like i'm a cheater when i hang out with him, even though im single? _(link)

You really shouldn't go back to your ex. I wouldn't even be friends with him. He doesn't deserve you. In a way he kind of abused you, verbally. No one deserves to be put down the way he put you down; even though it happens to the best of us. You have to take a stand for yourself and forget what you want, and remember what you deserve.

This new guy, as you say, respects you and is nice; you need to stick with him. You shouldn't feel like your cheated, because quite frankly, you are SINGLE. You are not committed to anyone; that being said, do what you wanna with who you want, and DONT worry about your ex. He is your ex for a reason; and taht reason is because HE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT HE HAD WHEN HE HAD YOU.

I also believe the reason why you feel like your cheating is because you haven't got use to the fact that you and your ex aren't together. You haven't really gave yourself time to heal from the bad experience you went through with him.

You'll need a little longer than just 2 weeks, sweetheart.

So give it a couple more weeks, and go slow with this new guy. That will give you time to get rid of those other feelings for your ex, and actually build REAL feelings for this total sweetheart!

Good Luck!

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so I dated this girl for a month.(im a chick as well). We broke up but now are maybe getting back together. She said I was too clingy. We just started dating so we was hanging out a lot and I was staying. So how can I not be clingy this time around? _(link)

Hm, it would help alittle better if you could give me some reasons of why she thought you were clingy; like what exactly did you do to make yourself seem clingy?

I guess this time you can just be more laid back. Don't always try to be around her; let her have her space. I mean show her that you care, but don't be smoothering. If you guys text, don't send it more than twice; give her a chance to text back before you send a new text. If you guys talk on the phone, don't be mad when she wants to get off; or try to keep her on longer than she wants;

When she goes places, don't ask her a million questions- I mean its okay to ask the typically, where ya going, have fun kind of thing; but don't make her feel like she has to check in with her "mother"

I'm not sure if this helped at all, because like I said, I don't know how exactly you were clingy, but if you wanna detail it for me, just write something to my inbox.

I hope you guys work out this time!

hai thurr
you helped me out with my virgin boyfriend before! haha, but i was just wondering how long i should wait before i actually try to do anything.
and also, how would i go about getting into the uhh..situation?
like i said, im a dominant person in a relationship.
he didnt even know how to finger me, which he was embarrassed by, but i didnt mind.. _(link)

There shouldn't be a time limit to how long you should wait. You'll know when the time is right, because of the past experiences you've had before. If you want to be safe than sorry, I'd wait ti'll you guys are together for atleast 4-6 months, because you guys are still so young into the relationship anything can happen; you don't wanna feel bad for taking his virginity and than something happen and you guys don't work out. Sex isn't everything, so I'd take it slow.

Just make sure you guys use protection and/or birth controll; you don't want any babies! hahah.

Well, before you decide its time to have sex. Talk to him first. Make sure he's ok with doing it, because you don't wanna seem like your pressuring him. Figure out why he's waited this long to loose his virginity; like I said before, it could be morals, or never had the opportunity.

But if he's okay with it, than just start with the typical fingering, blow jobs, hand job, whatever you guys are comfortable with. Kissing and rubbing on each other really helps that.

Since you said he didn't know how to finger you, maybe you should take baby steps. You don't want him to be over whelmed and feel not good enough, ya know?

While he's fingering you, don't be bossy, or rude (not saying you are; just saying this will turn him off and give up completely on trying) kind of lead him to what feels good to you in a real sexual tone; that'll turn him on. Let him know also that he's doing it right once he finds that spot.

Example:

"Right here"

"Go faster"

"Oh yeah babe"

Sorry if thats too much, lol
But whatever your comfortable saying; I'm sure he will lvoe it. When he realizes what you like, you won't have to communicate with him about it anymore. Its just to help him loosen up.

so there was a school dance a couple weeks ago and i was thinking about asking this boy to go with me so i watched him and it seemed like he really like me he was staring at me through all of our classes and flirting so when i got the nerve to ask him to the dance he said "i will get back to you on that" winked and walked away and he still stares at me but doesn't flirt as much so does he still like me????? _(link)

Are you sure he really liked you to begin with? Like did he ever just come out and say, "I like you"? Because just because a boy looks at you, doesn't mean much of nothing. I look at boys all the time, and that doesn't mean I like them.

As of flirting, are you sure it was flirting? Like he doesn't do it to other girls?

To me, if he really wanted to go to the dance with you, he would have said yes. He probably didn't want to be mean, so he just came up with that. But than again, I'm not there, and I don't know how exactly he acts towards you.

I think your best bet is to ask him. That way you can know for sure if he likes you, and if he doesn't you can move on and find someone else! (:

21 F

I'm thinking of possiblity going to college but
the problem is i didn't take my SAT's i'd like to go to a community college my question is will i not be accepted because i didn't take my SAT's will it ruin my chances? That's what i'm afraid of

Thank you to whoever answers _(link)

You know, I'm in community college and I didn't even have to take an SAT. I had to take an ACT, but those are easy to schedule. All you have to do is search online for places that carry the ACT booklet, study; and than find a place where you can go and take it; (there will be certain dates) and schedule an appointment. You'll have to pay for it though, in the state I'm from (Tennessee) its like $20 the first time; and every time after that its $50. Get more information about what colleg your interested it, and see what it is exactly you need to be accepted. The colleges here require and ACT score of 21+; and some just require a GPA of 2.8-3.5 Depending on the college.

Just get more information and definitley ask questions as to what you need to have in order to be looked at for that specific college.

Good luck to you!

17/f
I am a senior in high school and in march my boyfriend and I are going to get a place together. He is 23, makes 10.00 and hr. I make 8.00 an hr. The job I have (a local pizza place) well honestly sucks. The manager only make 9.00 an hour so I am pretty sure I don't have enough room to grow there. I do not want my boyfriend to be the one paying all the bills and we do not want to live paycheck-to-paycheck.I want to stay away from fast food jobs and jobs where I stand in one spot(I get dizzy) What can I do to provide an income for us? _(link)

I know you don't want to hear it, but its true. You need to stay at home, where its free because of how bad the economy is.

I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 18, he lives with me and he's moving out in Feb (because thats the deadline for him living with me) his mom left him homeless. He is going to have a hard time making it, JUST HIM. He makes 9.40 an hour. I understand your depressed, but your going to be even more depressed living paycheck to paycheck and even have the possibility of having one of your bills turned off. You have to think, there is more than just being with your boyfriend too; you have gas, insurance, food, electricity, utilities, emergency's, plus furniture you'll have to pay for. (it sounds like you already know that) I'm not saying stay at home for as long as you can; March is pretty far away; but I say save up as much as you can and maybe try to move out in August instead of March that way you guys have alittle more money built up.

Now, as a college student myself; juggling college fulltime, and going to work fulltime, its really hard. But I guess you have to do what oyu have to do to make ends meet.

You may want to postpone college and go during the spring semester, so you can have more time to build up more cash.

As of your job, the economy is so bad, thats its hard to find a job that pays more than 7.25 (which is minium wage in the state I live in) to about 8.30; unless you work in a factory or something like my boyfriend. I'd just look around; going to college will also give you more options for the time being as well;

Like, I'm going for Labor and Delivery; so I work at a hospital just helping out nurses; I don't get paid much, just 9.75 an hour; but I only work 3 ours a day; 4 times a week.

So maybe going and doing something for the degree your learning for will help.

BUT UNTIL THEN, I'd browse some more. I use to work in fast food, and I hated it. Its so stressful! I told myself I'd never let my kids work in fast food. Bless your heart for that! I know it sucks!

But, I'd definitely look around; Idk where you are from, or anything so I can't give you specific places. I'd try to go somewhere where you can work up to a manager position that get paid atleast a difference of .54 cents more than the employees.

But, I wish you the best of luck! I hope you can make it through this sucky economy and do what makes you happy!

I am 17, why are my boobs still the size of a 12 year olds and they haven't grown in forever. I started my period when I was 14. And My left one is noticably bigger than the right one: and they feel kinda hard or something when I push on them,? _(link)

I'm in the same boat you are. I'm 19 and my boobs are barely A's! Well, my left one is a B, and my right one is an A. I talked to my doctor and she said its perfectly normal to have a boob bigger than the other. All women have it; just some are more noticable than others. That part is normal.

But, she also told me that the reason why boobs haven't gotten bigger could be because of poor dieting, over weight, and even stress. She also said that boob growth can also be prevented by smoking, or doing other things that cause your growth to slow down.

As of the hard thing on your boob, thats something you'd really have to go to a doctor for. Of course, we can tell you lots of things of whta it could be, but we aren't doctors. Your best, safe bet is to go to your doctor, and ask!

Hello everyone,I love my boyfriend(well i just broke up with him yesterday) very much and i believe he loves me too.

I fight fair i don't say hurtful things,if i am the one at fault i apologize but i have never not even one said anything disrespectful to my boyfriend.Because i believe in respecting others and let them hold their dignity. My boyfriend on the other hand, he says mean things and does disrespectful things.For example he will answer me " what is it you wanted to say yesterday that was so important you cant repeat it now?" (If i ask him why i called him several times but he didnt pick up the day before), or "stop right there you are so annoying me right now,you can be mad all you want i dont care" or we having an important conversation on the phone,he puts me on hold five minutes later he texts me saying "call you right back" then like an hour later he tells me" my friends kidnapped me,i am out at the pub with them,what are you up too" ,which i find very disrespectful,if it was just a nonsense convo then yes but something important its wrong.The next day he says if he knew it was going to get me sad he wouldn't have done it.what i don't understand is , how he cant see that his kind of behaviour is just wrong before handy?I know its unfair for me to be putting things together but things have been happening like this a lot lately.Like girls posting pictures of him holding them on his lap on facebook and tagging him, or pretending to be sleeping on the couch with them,or him going to the movies with another girl and dinner without me knowing and yet i always make him know what am up too and make sure he is comfortable with it. At first he would say that he doesn't see anything wrong in what he does then he would come to me apologizing but how can someone not thing that taking pics with other girls on those kind of positions is plain wrong?I don't blame the girls i blame him,he should have refused ,or movies and dinner with another girl without their girlfriend being aware of it? the last fight we had, he posted my pic on his facebook for few hours on my birthday then took it off,i was upset that he did that since so far i've had 3 pictures of him and each has stayed for at least a week as my profile,thats when he said that i was too annoying and he did it to make it happy, that i was ungrateful,that i should be happy he put it there in the first place and i could get mad all i want he wouldn't care.But i have had his pictures for past year and it was his first time to have my picture. I am not saying he cant have female friends because thats just wrong i do have more male friends than female myself but i know where to draw the line and i guess he doesn't. I told him before that i dont like how he talks to me, and yesterday i repeated it again for the 3rd time and i asked him if i deserve to be talked to the way he did then he answered not everday but you got me mad i had the right to talk to you that way. Then i told him we were done,that i was ending the relationship,he just said " okay". Do you think that i overreacted?Ps we are attending different colleges right now. _(link)

DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK!

Seriously! I don't even know why your still with this fool! He doesn't love you. He doesn't konw the next thing to love. He doesn't care about you, or what you feel; or what you say. That is messed up. You seem like an amazing girlfriend, and you deserve so much better! Most girls would get pissed at pictures of their boyfriends with other chicks, especially with a girl on his lap or even laying beside him *AND YOU DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT IT!*

He is a waste of time! Let go of this loser, and find you someone who will treat you the way your suppose to be treated! He said "ok" because he doesn't really care. I know it hurts, and it sucks; but trust me girl, it's for the best. You've done put too much time and effort into this fool, that you could have put into someone who deserves what you have to give.

You need a man who knows what he has when he has it; not someone who isn't content with you and is constantly hanging out with other girls without informing you. It's just wrong, and once again, you don't deserve that. Your a strong person, you let go of him; and I'm proud of you. I'm sure it was really hard, but you had to do what you had to do.

Just remember what you deserve, not what you want; ok?

Good Luck!
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