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This is gunna be really long, im sorry. but thanks in advance to anyone that helps! ok, so last night i was hanging out with my boyfriend of almost a month, and we were drinking but neither of us were even feeling a buzz. well one of his friends touched my stomach, and my boyfriend is extremely protective of me and got really pissed. he was trying to calm down and was shaking, he kept telling me he was gunna kill him, so i told him not to worry about it that his friend has no chance with me and i said 'your all i need'. right after i said this he got the sweetest lok on his face and said the 3 words i would of never thought would come from his mouth- "I love you". this caught me by complete surprise, i didn't say anything back, i just kissed him, well throughout the coarse of the night he told me he loved me 8 times. each time i said nothing. We've only been going out for almost a month (will be a month this friday) but have been really close and flirtly for 3 months. i finally gave in and said i love you too one of the times he said it. I do care for him soo much, just for me its so hard to believe in the word and meaning of 'love'. But yet i said it to him, and i think that was a mistake on my part. but i couldn't just not say something. But i want to talk to him about it and tell him i dont want him to say those words until he is sure of what hes saying and when he means it. but how am i supposed to talk to him about it?

well, girl, it sounds like you've got a good one.
just ask him do you love me?, then ask him why does he love you.
tell him you want him to make sure he feels that way before he says it.
tell him thats the reason why you haven't said it- because you wanted to make sure.
trust me, whenever you have to force yourself to say those 3 words-you aren't ready to say them and you shouldn't. you'll know when you wanna say them.
Best of wishes 4 ur relationship! Hope I helped!

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I was talking to the guy i like, and I thought that he liked me, so i started asking him who he liked and i was going to tell him that i liked him if he liked me, but he didnt like me ( i thought he might have been lieing because he thought i didnt like him) so i just made up a person, and said i liked 2 people. He guessed that i liked him but i was like NOOO! cause it would be embarrasing (plus hes my bestfreinds ex). Should i have told him the truth?
(sory this was so confusing)

well, i think you should have. i would like someone i care about to know how i feel. i find it nerve-wracking if they don't know.
but, tell him you were just skeptical whether you should tell him or not and you decided to tell him.
about your best friend: he's her past. this is between you and him.
hope i helped at all.

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okay i have a guy friend...hes nice and sweet but not liked very much at school...tonight he threatened to kill himself. im really scared b/c im not around him much at school and never after school...i care about him alot but sometimes dont show it very well. Should i bring our IM conversation to the councelor tomorow or something else...talking to him doesnt help...he doesnt listen.
please help...i rate hight
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honey, this is no joke. he may not mean it, but what if he does?
you have to tell someone who can help.
i lost one of my friends like that.
even though he was high when he said it, i wish i would have listened. you have to do something before you regret it. trust me, you don't wanna go through what i did.

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I'm 16 years old and I seriously need a job. I worked at Target over the summer and retail is...just definitley not my thing. Are there any jobs you can suggest where I can make money, but don't involve retail? Also, what are some good ways to make LOTS of money?

well, my favorite would be hair. Do you know how to braid or do beautiful styles? You could color hair and everything. That's the only good thing I have now. Sorry. But I hope I helped any.

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Valentines Day, is coming up! & I really want to get my boyfriend something special. On Valentines Day, we would've been dating for almost 3 months. He's really into baseball and LOVES New York Yankees, and likes Derek Jeter. His favorite band is Simple Plan. But I really want to get him something special, that is a really good price, not to expensive.. I was thinking about getting him a necklace of some sort, or maybe a ring, but do you think that seems "gay?" Or Maybe a big bear that says I LOVE YOU, or Your mine or something? Do guys even like bears?! I'm really confused. Any help would be greatly appreciated. THANKS.!!

well, boys are not as sentimental like us girls, so anything with a heart on it would be too much.
how about a nice gold or silver chain w/a cross on it. most boys love that. or if he doesnt have it, maybe a simple plan cd or a couple posters... i'm not good w/ this.
but i hope was of any help!
good luck!

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okay, so i'll start at the beginning. I like this guy in my school. We talk about every otherday, enough for him to know who i am, but i mean, we're not the best of friends. He has no idea i like him, but i want him to know. I don't have a really big self-esteem, i never really did. I'm chubby, but i still think i'm pretty, its just i'm so afraid of getting rejected, sometimes i hold back.
anyway, so i got ahold of his email address, made myself a new address so he wouldn't know who i was, and i emailed him, telling him i liked him and all that. well, that was 2 weeks ago, and needless to say, he doesnt check his email. I need some help here guys, what should i do? what if he doesnt like me, i've had my heart set on him.
Plz help and thank you!

baby, don't beat yourself up. let him know how you feel. be confident. if he rejects you, you'll still have your pride.
but if tells you something mean, you should instantly lose your feelings for him becuz you'll know he's not a nice person.
but don't be afraid. the second-worst thing he could do is say no.

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i feel like im losing my best friends karlee and michael..their going out. they have been for the past 8 months but now all of a sudden things seem to be changing alot! like their being more distant..and karlee has been talking to this girl she used to hate about her problems rather than me..someone shes known for 7 years. things are just so different i really dont know how to explain. what ashould i do?

losing your longtime friends really hurts.
you should let karlee know that you're there for her and everything.
she might not be telling you beacuse she might think that you will tell michael, since you're friends and everything.
if thats the case let her know you won't tell him anything. if she still doesn't confide in you, then it's time for you two to become distant, just like her and michael.
hope i helped any.

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I really love this guy alot and although people think Im crazy I know its true because all I think about is him. People have told him but Ive never told him myself in person. Hes single now which is cool but if I want him to like me like a girlfriend what do i do?

this is a gentle issue. don't rush it on him all at once. he might get spooked or something.
just set up a casual conversation one day, and slip it in that you really care about him.
but you have to make your move quick, because someone else might feel the same way you do.
good luck!:D

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okay the guy i like right now is totally flirting with me or at least thats what all of my friends say because when we hug he hugs me real tight and long... where with all the other girls its looser and real quick so im not sure but he always puts his arm around me and stuff like that in the halls so im not sure if he likes me like that or just a 'one of the guys' so help me plz thanks in advance!

i am really sure he likes you. otherwise, he wouldn't talk to you.
as for whether he's attracted to just your looks or is attracted to your personality, i dont know.
but this may not last very long, so remember every precious moment you're locked in his arms.:P

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yeah am 5;4 abour and 120 poundsi want to weigh like 100 or 105 but the hole exercising thing is like complicating.. is there any other way i could that wouldnt be much money.. also on my hips theres like fat or w|e and i dont know how to get rid of that.. the fat on my hips is the most important to me to get rid of cuz i cant wear stuff that id like to wear because i get imbarrasessed.. soo can you please help me!!!

one thing i accidentally found out that really works is if you walk about 1-2 miles a day, and lower your meals down to 2 big meals or 3-4 small meals daily. That really gets rid of excess fat around your middle.

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I like this guy so much and i dont even think he knows i exist i mean like i talk to him all the time but all he ever tells me is about his girl problems and how they all piss him in off when i know deep inside me we are meant for eachother but i dont know what to do...HELP!


well babe,he probably only sees you as a friend and nothing more. If he really likes the way you listen, and if you tell him that you're attracted to him, he might consider making you both "more than friends".

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ever since i was little, ive always wanted to go to florida. and so today, my bff(she knows ive always wnated to go there) calls me and tells me that her family is going to florida for spring break. then she said that she was going to invite my other friend kim, and not me. im soo mad!! y would she do that?? she didnt have to tell me that, and it really hurts, should i confront her? and how? thx everyone=)

yeah, you should definitely tell her. she pushed this in your face just to make you jealous.
call or something and tell her that it was wrong, but don't end the friendship. she may be mad at something you did before.
just explain to her that she has to straighten up her act or you'll break the friendship.

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is 12 too young to wear thongs?

well the real purpose of thongs is say, you have these pants or short and they would really show the panty lines, thats what thongs are for. so the clothes would look better. but if that's not the reason you wanna wear them, well, I don't think you're too young; if people find out, they might get the wrong message about you.
wearing them is totally your decision.

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Ok.... I went to my best friends b-day party and my g/f was there and we were watching a movie and we started making out for like 15 seconds. Now i can't wait to see her again because i really feel different becasue we made out. Is this normal?

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yeah, this is totally normal! you must have realized that you really like her, or its just your hormones going crazy. This could also be a good sign that the love is there..

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My boyfriend keeps asking me 2 give him a hand job. I tell him maybe later, or make up another excuse. But the truth is I've never given one. My question is how do I give a hand job? And how would I know if he's enjoying it?

i really couldn't tell you how(i've never done it before)but,if you and your b/f are close enough, then you could tell him you don't know how, and ask him to show you how to do it, and what he would like best. oh, and trust me, you'll know if he's enjoying it. hehe!
hope i was of any use...

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I haven't gotten a boyfriend yet (kinda sad, i know) and i don't know what im doing wrong. What do guys look for in a girl? Any tips?

baby, it's not sad u dont have a b/f yet. and you're most likely not doing anything wrong.
but guys all have different things they like in girls.
Most like a girl who respects herself.
they also like girls who can do for themselves and are not dependent on a lot of people. some also like girls who are not-so-shy.
as for tips, just be yourself, and try to be honest when you talk to guys. if you get nervous, they'll sense that and will not like you as much. hope this helped at all.

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Well hey ima 16*f..Well okay the other day i told my friend Steph something i though she could keep between me and her..cause she always keeps stuff between us and were like fam..well i guess its a big deal and everything cause i got hit by my ex boyfriend..well my mom knew bout it so i aint think she'd tell other people..well she told other people my business i guess..but she twisted my story completly around and said that the guy i go wit now is beating me and raping me i never said anything about getting raped..and it all got back to my mom and she belived it at first but my mom listens to me before one my friends so i told it wasnt tru..well the guy that really did hit me is my friend Steph friend..and the guy i go wit now she dont like and i think its cause he is black,, like she always has her little comments bout the mixed racial couple thing..which i dont care that she does..but i really miss her i havent talk to her in a couple days..and i dont wanna lose her but i dont want some lies gettin put out then me lose my baby..i rate high please help...

well she is not a very good friend if she does that.
but you still have to move away from her becuz theres no telling what she'll do or say next.
you don't want to be friends with someone who humiliates you.
as for your man, let him know whats going on so he won't get the wrong idea and leave.
hope i helped any.

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okay well i moved to Arizona a month ago, and I was 130 pounds when i moved here, I got depressed and sick and I lost enough weight to get down to 115 in just 3 months...just a week ago I was 113, and now im 105..I eat like a PIG and i dont excersize at ALL...is there something wrong with me? Is this normal??

I rate 5's

sorry, but that definitely isn't normal. I've never heard of anyone going through that just that fast.
You have to go to the doctor and let them run tests because that really is not normal. Please get checked. Hope you get better!

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I am 19 years old and have been seeing a girl for 2 and a half years. We recently broke up over christmas but have still been seeing each other because we get on really well as friends. I put my cards on the table so to speak and told her how i feel that i still love her and i want her back. She replied im still in love with you but i dont want to be in a relationship at the moment. When we see each other i keep on saying to her that i will get her back and she agrees with me she says we need time apart. Which i am willing to do if it means i get another chance becasue i really do care about her so much. The only thing i am scared of is there is another lad on the scene whos she assures me they are not seeing each other and just friends which i beleve, but im scared that when we are having our time apart she ends up having feelings for this lad and i wont get her back at all. What is the best way to go about trying to get her back? We went to the pictures lastight and it was goin brilliant then her phone went off and it was a text msg off this lad and her attitude towards me totally changed!

sorry to hear that baby.
well, me and my boyfriend recently broke around christmas too, and ever since i've been single because i don't feel ready to be in another relationship right now, not even with him. I feel very strongly about this, too.
The most you could do is keep letting her know you care, but you can't control her emotions and who she sees. She may just be leaning on the new lad for support, as I am currently doing now. I found a friend who can make me happy and I can talk to about anything until I am ready for a new relationship.
I can't tell you how long she'll be like this, but if she still cares, she definitely come back to you.
The text msg was probably just him checking on her if she's told him her situation.
But you did do right by putting your cards on the table and letting her know you still care.
Well, since I am going through this right now, I hope this advice really helped you! Good luck! I hope you get back together.

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I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 months now, which isnt much, but his birthday is coming up very soon and i dont kno what to get him. What do i get?

after 2 months, the best gift would be the thought, and yes it would be enough.

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