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"I Love You"
This is gunna be really long, im sorry. but thanks in advance to anyone that helps! ok, so last night i was hanging out with my boyfriend of almost a month, and we were drinking but neither of us were even feeling a buzz. well one of his friends touched my stomach, and my boyfriend is extremely protective of me and got really pissed. he was trying to calm down and was shaking, he kept telling me he was gunna kill him, so i told him not to worry about it that his friend has no chance with me and i said 'your all i need'. right after i said this he got the sweetest lok on his face and said the 3 words i would of never thought would come from his mouth- "I love you". this caught me by complete surprise, i didn't say anything back, i just kissed him, well throughout the coarse of the night he told me he loved me 8 times. each time i said nothing. We've only been going out for almost a month (will be a month this friday) but have been really close and flirtly for 3 months. i finally gave in and said i love you too one of the times he said it. I do care for him soo much, just for me its so hard to believe in the word and meaning of 'love'. But yet i said it to him, and i think that was a mistake on my part. but i couldn't just not say something. But i want to talk to him about it and tell him i dont want him to say those words until he is sure of what hes saying and when he means it. but how am i supposed to talk to him about it?
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i think that you should tell him that you think love is a very strond word and your not sure if you love him yet!!
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Hey,
that was a great qeustion! I think that you should just be listening to him and see if he really loves you! Because sometimes love is hard to believe! just listen and maybe just tell him how you feel about that and you never know he may just be calm about it! Good luck! bye Hope that i helped!
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Saying I love you should not be said unless meant. Only say it if you mean it. If you aren't ready to tell him that you love him, tell him that you're not ready.
"i finally gave in and said i love you too "
gave in? makes it sounds like he was pressuring you into saying it. And from what you've said, he wasnt pressuring you. Just when you're ready, try telling him you love him before he says it, then he'll realy know that you love him. xO ali
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My guess is that this guy is all bark and no bite. He never wanted to "kill anyone" and just got strangely scared when the other guy touched you. It bothers me that after you said "You're all I need" that he was all better. One of two things here. He is either seriously insecure and needs constant re-assurance(which does not a healthy relationship make) or he just never felt comfortable telling you his true feelings until you said something first. Either way, he is coming on a bit strong here. I would back things up a little. If that seems to totally freak him out, then I would get out completely. If he seems understanding and is willing to take things more slowly, than give him another chance.
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OK, this is gonna take awhile. Your boyfriend is manipulating you. His saying he loves you after one month of dating should tell you that, his saying it 8 times in one evening should ring the bells in your head. The fact that you feel unsure even though you said it tells me you have your head on straight, even you it may have been a bit sideways -- and don't tell me you weren't buzzed -- trust me, you both were. Protective? My God in Heaven! Try "this is the first step toward abusive relationship." He is sliding down a serious path of problems if he doesn't get help soon. Don't try to change or tell him because he will deny it vehemently, believe me. Much as you care for him, I think you need to care for yourself first. Walk, don't run, to the nearest counsellor (or better yet, DOOR or CHURCH) away from him until he straightens out or leave him alone for an indefinite length of time. It may not be someone else next time. Am I making sense? And I have no doubt this is not what you wanted to hear, but I'm also sure that, deep in your heart, you kinda know this. Hope I helped in some way.
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well, girl, it sounds like you've got a good one.
just ask him do you love me?, then ask him why does he love you.
tell him you want him to make sure he feels that way before he says it.
tell him thats the reason why you haven't said it- because you wanted to make sure.
trust me, whenever you have to force yourself to say those 3 words-you aren't ready to say them and you shouldn't. you'll know when you wanna say them.
Best of wishes 4 ur relationship! Hope I helped!
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he sounds like a dangerous and abusive fellow. back off from that one and throw him back in the pond. i'm not kidding.
-hitler
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You should say exactly what you just wrote.. "But i want to talk to him about it and tell him i dont want him to say those words until he is sure of what hes saying and when he means it."
Although, the way he reacted to that stomach thing really worries me so be GENTLE. He seems a bit hostile.. especially if he wasn't even drunk. Does that not scare you? That temper could easily get worse with time. BE CAREFUL
hope I was of help..
peace
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