My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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so i never had a boyfriend, but ive kissed 4 boys, im 14 by the way. does this make me slutty in any way to be kissing/making out with boys who arent my boyfriend? (link)
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Technically, no, because the word whore refers to sex. Now, since you aren't having sex, it isn't that big of a deal for most people.
BUT you can get a reputation as being slutty. AND it could either 1) be harder to get a good boyfriend because of what people think of you or 2) make you particularly attractive to the wrong guys because they'll think you're easy.
A reputation like that at your age is not a good thing. If people are saying you're slutty, maybe you should tone it down a bit. If you're making out with completely random guys, people are going to think of you as a slut. If these aren't random guys, they could still think that, even if it's not true.
At 14, kissing all kinds of boys really isn't that important, although it's fun. Saving your reputation is probably more important right now. You don't want to get up into high school with that whore label all over you. That is NOT good.
Just, if you want to make out with a guy you're attracted to, don't do it in front of people. That might help a bit...even though he probably will tell his friends all about it.
It's best, being so young, to have a good, respectable image. And slut isn't a good, respectable image.
Do what you want, but also think about it before you make the decision.
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i couldnt find this question on the site so i thought id ask. i want to lose my belly pooch really fast! what should i do to lose it? (link)
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Haha, this is pretty much every other question on this site. Everyone has that belly pooch they want to get rid of or slim up their "thunder thighs" as they say or slim up their arms, etc. The fact is, though, that there ARE exercises for toning these body parts, but it's impossible to get into shape REALLY FAST. It takes time and patience to get the body you want. And trust me, NO ONE has the body they truly want.
As for ab exercises, 200-300 crunches every other day. Other exercises you could try are leg lifts. If you do sit ups or crunches, make sure you get your sides by turning to your left or right as you come off the floor.
If you get one of those balls made for exercising (not the heavy medicine ball, the one that looks like those big bouncy balls you had when you were a kid), you can do crunches easier. And it works better because you can go back further because the floor isn't there to restrict you.
You can also google "ab exercises" to get more.
And you can't really do this without eating healthy. If you already do, that's good, but make sure you have lots of veggies and healthy foods and LOTS of water.
Good luck!
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i was over my boyfriends one night. and he wanted to have sex. and i want to wait till im married so i said no. he flipped out and got on top of me and hes much bigger than me and stronger and he started fingering me. and then his friend came and helped hold me down and he stuck his penis in my vagina and it hurt i kep tscreaming for him to get off but he didnt. and now he keepsasking me why i wont talk to him. what should i do. i really honestly love him also.
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He RAPED you. Whether you love him or not, you said no and he did it anyways...that's the definition of rape. There's no way that you should stay with him after that. He forced you into doing something you didn't want to do. If he loved you, he wouldn't have done that. Hell, that's a crime! If you told the cops he would go to jail for that! And that's what you should do. If he did it to you, he can do it to anyone.
I can't force you to press charges, although you should consider it, but I can advise you to no longer talk to him and to NEVER be alone with him again. Who's to say he won't do it again? You can't stay with someone you physically hurt you on purpose just because you think you still love him. You can get over him, but if you stayed with him you probably wouldn't be able to get over what he did to you.
Just stay away from him...break up with him, and move on. And again, I strongly advise you to press charges. It is what needs to be done so he doesn't go and do it to some other girl.
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Um some brushes I downloaded are really huge like the picture I'm making is like half the sze of this brush that I'd like to use. Is there any way I can like shrink the size of the brush so I can use it?
I have adobe photoshop 6.0 (link)
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Right click on the image and there is a scale that you can resize it on. Or you can go to the top toolbar where you see the brush you're using and do the same things. :)
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is dry humping really enjoyable or is it like a strange hug? can you really get aroused from it? (link)
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Yes, it is enjoyable and you can get aroused. Rubbing up against the other person can definitely be pleasurable. The guy will DEFINITELY be aroused, and if the girl lets herself enjoy it, she will.
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i've been dating this guy for a couple of weeks and he wouldn't kiss me but he said he really liked me. so when i went in to kiss him he backed off and i got really mad and yelled at him why he wouldn't kiss me if he liked me so much. he told me he didn't like to be kissed on the mouth but he does like to be kissed on the neck and stuff. i don't kno what to do. i like to be kissed on the mouth and he's driving me insane.
please help!! (link)
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The advice already given is definitely good, but I have another idea that may work. I'm guessing that you like this guy and don't want to break up with him over this if there's another solution. So, here we go:
If he has kissed girls before, he may have had a bad experience. Maybe the first girl he kissed accidentally bit him...or had bad breath...ANYTHING can turn you off from something just from one bad experience.
You can ask him why he doesn't like kissing and don't take "I just don't like it" as an answer unless he gets really sensitive about it.
On the other hand, it could just be one of those "things" that people have and there's nothing you can do about it. If that's the case, another solution will have to be taken.
Hope that helps!
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hm well i didnt know what to put this under put i have never used a tampon before and i am going to a waterpark this saturday and unfortunatly, i just started my perios =[. i am really nervous because i dont like being tuoched or anything being stuck up my vaginal area, its uncomfortable. my sister said to use ky jelly, does that help? im not sure how heavy it is gonna be but is it okay to start out with beginner tampons? and how much does it hurt to take out, ill probably cry. i get soo uncomfortable down there so if there is any tips please help!
thanks in advancee =] (link)
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Argh, that sucks about getting your tampon before going to a water park!
The first thing to remember is that if your nervous it probably won't go in. You'd probably clench up down there and the tampon won't budge. You have to relax and let it slip in.
Yes, KY jelly does help.
Beginner tampons are fine, but if you find you are leaking through it a few hours later, you'll need to switch to something more absorbent.
If you put it in the wrong way and it's uncomfortable so you have to remove it, it won't feel good at all because it is still dry. If you get it in the right way and wait the alloted time to change it, it should slide out just fine because it is lubricated with blood.
This is a pretty though problem but just be glad you don't have my problem. No matter how relaxed I am NOTHING will go up there. A tampon, a finger, nothing! Because of this, I have to see a doctor before I decide to become sexually active to get it checked out. Who knows what will have to happen to help that?
Most girls do feel uncomfortable the first time they use tampons, but just make sure you follow the instructions in the tampon box and you should be fine. Good luck!
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Okay do ALL guys like shoot out down there or do something just drip like girls? And what does the stuff look like? (link)
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Well, the process of having an orgasm for a man is similar to females. What happens is they get hard, and then begin to excrete precum, which is sort of like a girl "getting wet" during foreplay. Then, while most girls don't squirt when having an orgasm (some actually do "shoot out", but not many), guys DO shoot when they have an orgasm.
While for girls it is clear, what guys excrete is more white and definitely thicker. And it most certainly doesn't taste the same. Semen tastes thick and salty/bitter.
Hope that helps. :)
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so, um, what part of the penis gives the guy most pleasure when you rub it or just touch it? (link)
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The head of the penis is the most sensitive. The underside of it is also pretty sensitive. The next most pleasurable thing would probably be his scrotum, or the area between his scrotum and his anus...that small patch of super soft skin. Some guys liked to be touched there while some don't.
It's all about communication. Ask him what he likes. But really...anywhere you touch it will feel good. :)
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Well, I finally decided to get off my butt and do something about my weight. I've always been fairly active, but since moving in with my boyfriend, I've gone up to around 200 pounds.
So I started the South Beach diet. I'm on my second day.
Thing is, I haven't been having cravings for food, but I have had some problems.
- Depression/Irritability
- Constant hunger
- Exhaustion
- Weakness
Is this normal (for the diet)? I'm ready to quit, if this continues.
Anyone else tried it and had the same sort of experience? Or have any words of encouragement?
Thanks! (link)
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I've never done SBD, but I have done Atkins, so I know that when you cut down on carbs so drastically like that, your energy level will go down. That explains the exhaustion and weakness. The constant hunger is also because of the carbs because carbs fill you up with fiber, which keeps you satisfied for long periods of time. A way to cure that is to eat protein (meat) if it fits into your day's worth of food. These things should only last 3 or 4 days, if that. If it goes on longer, that diet probably isn't for you.
I'm not quite sure about the depression, that's mental, but the irritability can be caused by all of the other symptoms messing you up. I know I was pretty pissy the first day of Atkins eating a mere 20 g of carbs the entire day.
Hope that helps!
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I really like my best guy friend who only likes me as a friend. what do i do? im 13/f (link)
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Well, first, how do you know he only likes you as a friend?
-If you're just assuming he does, you can always talk to him about how you feel and see how he reacts.
-If he TOLD you he doesn't like you in that way OR if he has a girlfriend, it would probably be best to just leave it alone. The only thing you can do by pushing it is ruining your friendship. The feelings will eventually pass, trust me, but you don't want to make things awkward between you by trying to be his girlfriend when he doesn't feel the same way.
You can't change how a person feels about you, unfortunately. Just try to get over him and move on to another guy...or two.
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my boyfriend wants to have sex.
im cool with it, except for the fact that i have bad tan lines from my bikini.
i LOVE to lay out by the pool and therefore have tan lines. going to a tanning bed is out of the question.
what should i do? im self conscience about my tan lines. (link)
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Well, tanning bed wouldn't help anyways...it would take while for it all to even out.
Like the other person says, your boyfriend won't care at all.
Plus, some guys think it's sexy. I go to the tanning bed and wear a thong and I LOVE my tan lines. A lot of girls have them, and guys either don't care or like it. He's not going to reject you for having tan lines, trust me.
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Hey ima 13/f and i these dreams at night ware ima lezbian and dont get me wrong or judge me okay. But i dont think its just my dreams i think its accualy getting to me i think im a lezbian and like for some odd reason i have the erdge to touch other women and i have tolled my friends well kind cuz im afraid that if i tell them that they wont wanna hang out with me anymore but please help me
Love,
think ima you know....:( (link)
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Well, first, there's nothing wrong with being a lesbian. Even if you are, all it means is that you're attracted to women, you don't become a different person because of it.
But, here's something to think about. At your age and even up a few years, hormones are raging and we get strange dreams. We also get the urge to experiment. You're 13 years old, you don't have to label yourself right now.
Just go with the flow and sooner or later you'll know for sure.
And also, if your friends are actually FRIENDS, they won't stop talking to you over something like this.
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My grandparents usually take me shopping for my birthday and i get to spend 100 dollars.
well i use to really like doing this with them, but now im 13 years old and(i really dont want to sound rude and ungrateful) i dont really like shopping with them any more.
i know it sounds really selfish, but i would rather them give me 100 dollars so i could go shopping with my friends.
i really need help. thanks! (link)
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The advice the last person gave you is pretty good. To avoid hurting their feelings you can say you are saving up for something.
BUT, definitely do SOMETHING with them. They're your grandparents and they want to spend time with you. Go out to dinner or to a movie or something.
I used to be embarrassed to go out to malls or the movies with my mother or grandmother...but now I'm 17 and I've realized there's absolutely nothing wrong with doing that. I go to the mall with my mother sometimes, and I don't get embarrassed, even if I pass a group of girls my age that are there together like I probably would before. Besides, she's the one with all the money. When she's there, I get more stuff. haha.
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I need to know how to conjugate the Spanish verb "sentirse" in the preterite form. My teacher didn't tell me and I've tried google, and I know people always say they do- but all the sites that I found didn't give the preterite form of Sentirse.
Thanks so much! (link)
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yo me sentí
tú te sentiste
él/usted se sintió
nosotros nos sentimos
vosotros os sentisteis
ellos/ustedes se sintieron
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Hey. Well, I'm 5'1 and I'm anywhere from 93-97 pounds. I don't know if some people consider that overweight, underweight, or whatever. But, the thing is, I really don't like my stomach or legs. I really am way too lazy to work out all the time, and I don't want muscle, just no fat. My stomach and legs are really flabby, and my arms are really muscular. I DONT WANT MUSCLE AT ALL! I LOOK LIKE A GUY! My arms are literally like jacked, becuase I was a base in cheerleading and the flyer was REALLY bad, so it took a lot of strength to lift her. I've tried not eating, and throwing up, but I don't want to thrwo up in school for fear of getting caught, and I'm to much of a pig to stop eating. I tried cutting down on how much i eat, maybe skipping a meal or two every now and then, and I think it's kinda working. So, what are some easy but effectinve things I can do to lose muscle in my arms, make my legs thinner, and dramatically cut down the fat on my stomach, I don't want ANY. PLEASE help, PLEASE. (link)
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According to your BMI, you are UNDERWEIGHT. Listen to these things that you said in this question:
-Too lazy to work out
-I don't want muscle at all
-I tried not eating and throwing up
-Too much of a pig to stop eating
-Skipping one or two meals a day
-Drastic weight loss techniques wanted
You know what that sounds like to me? Someone who is on the verge of developing an eating disorder. Or maybe something like Body Dismorphic Disorder. It's a disorder, and it shouldn't be left alone.
First of all, even if you WERE fat, which you are NOT, you can not lose weight in a healthy way if you have no determination to eat healthy or work out. It's impossible. And working out does not necessarily build muscle...it tones the muscle you already have and burns the fat away.
Not eating isn't a solution. In fact, in most cases, if you stop eating your body will feed off of your stored fat and you can actually GAIN weight. Plus, when you become malnutritioned, your stomach gets badly bloated.
Throwing up is just a plain ridiculous method of losing weight. It's called bulimia, and it's NOT a good thing.
If anyone actually gives you advice on how to lose weight the way you want to, they're just plain stupid and irresponsible. I doubt anyone will. This question can be summed up in one sentence. "Help me become anorexic!"
No one is going to help you do that. Sorry.
I really hope I don't sound like a bitch, because I'm not trying to. I'm trying to help you. What you want to do is not healthy.
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how do you double space?
like what do i press. like format, then what? or am i wrong? idno. help (link)
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A simple way to do it is type a couple of lines, select it all, and then press Ctrl + 2 to double space.
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so theres this boy today who just asked me the dance and as a gf! i like him but im not sure if its there!
how do i no? (link)
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Well it doesn't hurt to try, right? Just give him a shot and see if any sparks fly. You'll know before it gets serious if you like him in that way or not. And if you don't, then just let him down easy.
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has anyone used Sex Kitten [http://www.suncotan.com/indoor-tanning-lotion/caribbean-gold/sex-kitten.jpg] or Freak [http://www.lotionsource.com/products/supre/supre_freak_lotion.jpg] tanning lotion? did it work well? were you sastisfied? was it expensive? anything you could tell me would be great! (link)
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One of my friends uses Freak. It was about $30 at the tanning salon we go to. She likes it a lot and says it smells good. She has one with a triple bronzer so she likes that it makes her look darker automatically.
I'm not sure about the Sex Kitten one. I looked it up and it's an intensifier, which is what I use. It's made with hemp and has a firming effect, if that helps. If you get it here it is only $7. I don't know how reliable the site is though:
http://www.thesupplenet.com/sexkitten.html
But that's a pretty cheap one. I don't know how good it would be. The cheapest one I've ever bought was $30.
I think Freak would be your best bet. Here's more info about it:
http://www.suncotan.com/indoor-tanning-lotion/freak-sp.php
Supre makes a lot of good tanning lotions. :)
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this weekend i was with my brother and some of his friends and we were all driving around in my new car a 2007 escalade. I was driving adn it was raining and late at night and i have only had my license for about 3 months. we were coming around the corner and hit another car totaling mine and theirs. right away my brother took the blame for it and told me not to worry about it since he has been driving for a few eyars now and wouldnt get in as much trouble as i would. since the other car didnt see i was driving it worked out fine but now i feel awful that he took the blame for this but i know that if i came forward my parents would kill me. what should i do?
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It sounds as if your brother is okay covering for you, but the guilt feeling may not go away. Maybe if you talked to him a little more about it you'd feel better.
If you tell your parents, you'd get into trouble, but you wouldn't feel guilty for letting your brother take the blame.
It's up to you and what would make YOU feel better, but accidents happen and it's really no ones fault in this situation. Maybe if you talk to your parents about it they will understand.
Good luck!
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