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Shopping w/ grandparents
My grandparents usually take me shopping for my birthday and i get to spend 100 dollars.
well i use to really like doing this with them, but now im 13 years old and(i really dont want to sound rude and ungrateful) i dont really like shopping with them any more.
i know it sounds really selfish, but i would rather them give me 100 dollars so i could go shopping with my friends.
i really need help. thanks!
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If you have a fairly close relationship with your grandparents, then ask them if they mind if you wait and go to the mall (or shopping) with your best friend and other friend's.
They should understand that as they were teenagers once themselves.
Tell them you like to get your friends' opinions on clothes and things as you shop and that they find neat stuff for you too.
Your grandparents will know they are too old to be hip ;)
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There will come a time when your grandparents are no longer around to shop with or spend your birthday with. I would definitely let that sink in that one day you will wish you could go shopping with them one more time.
Your grandparents get a lot of joy from doing this and enjoy spending money on you. While you feel embarassed about shopping with them I feel you should suck it up and go. It won't hurt you to do so and if your friends see you it's not a big deal.
At least you can say you are close to your famly and especially your grandparents. However, you could talk to your mother about starting a new tradition.
Ask your mother to talk to your grandparents and have them take you to your favorite restaurant for dinner instead of shopping. She can tell them a semi-truth that you're hitting a growth spurt and buying clothing, shoes, shorts etc. is not a good idea as they won't fit soon.
Have her tell them that when it comes to music there's not a lot of bands you are really in to these days and you download all your music rather than purchase CDs or burn them off of friends.
Leave the restaurant and a movie idea on the table as well as gift-cards. It's up for them to decide what to give you for your birthday. Although you might not like to hear this even though they are your grandparents they owe you nothing, not a gift, not $100.00.
They do this because they love you and hope and think you'll enjoy and appreciate it. Being seen with them at the mall is no big deal. Talk to your mother about this and let her determine what is right.
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The advice the last person gave you is pretty good. To avoid hurting their feelings you can say you are saving up for something.
BUT, definitely do SOMETHING with them. They're your grandparents and they want to spend time with you. Go out to dinner or to a movie or something.
I used to be embarrassed to go out to malls or the movies with my mother or grandmother...but now I'm 17 and I've realized there's absolutely nothing wrong with doing that. I go to the mall with my mother sometimes, and I don't get embarrassed, even if I pass a group of girls my age that are there together like I probably would before. Besides, she's the one with all the money. When she's there, I get more stuff. haha.
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i think you should tell your grandparents that you are saving up for something or you dont exactly know what you want yet. then they can just give you the money for you to spend when you want to and when you figure out what you want. then this way it wont hurt their feelings. then take the money and spend it with your friends. =]
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