My friend has many talents, like, sing, drawing, playing instruments. Well sometimes I feel like poop because it like she better than me. She gets random people on instagram telling her how talented and how pretty she is and sometimes it's like, wow what the heck am I. And the thing is she always like my life sucks or boring or something like that, but yet she's like the most luckiest person I know. She talks to people like Diamond White on twitter and get them saying stuff like I love you and your so amazing. And I always feel like a piece of poop when she tells me stuff like that. But I want to be happy for her, but it's just hard because I want to be able to draw and have people tell me I'm pretty ( even though I already believe it) and be able to talk to famous people too!
She may seem lucky, but she's worked like hell to become good at so many talents.
Some people just have a desire to be great at things-a fire in their belly, and others do not.
So if you want to be able to be as talented as your friend, respect the fact that these talents have come at a cost to her, in terms of time, money and energy. Trust me, people don't just get good at something it takes time and effort.
If you want to be like your friend you have to be prepared to work as hard as her.
Its also relative-what people want out of life. She may WANT to be admired, you may prefer to be happy.
The only way you can be admired is if you work hard at something yourself...don't waste time and energy into being slightly jealous of your friend. Put this energy into a talent your good at. Or start up a new hobby.
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What is the best and easiest way to make money?
Get a job.
Sell on Ebay.
Run a small business
Be an Avon Representative
Do a stall in a car boot sale
But yeh the best one is to get a job because its steady income.
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Ways not to get preganet
Don't have sex
Use contraception
If you don't know this then clearly someone's not ready for sex! Know the facts!
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i want to really die please help me sir give your number i will come my house please
What's annoying is that the time it took you to write this you would've called someone for help.
You've not said what country you live in, but in the UK we have Samaritans-give them a call?
Forgive me for not being able to empathize with you, but It's up to you to ask for help from the people around you-friends & family. If this kind of support is not available, take yourself to hospital now and go get help. There's nothing strangers like me thousands of miles away can do to help you any futher. But there is help out there, and if you get off the computer and pop outside, you'll be able to find it.
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I am depressed so much because i did't passed my entrance exam my dad was so angry. he did everything for me and he was confident that i will pass, but i didnt do well... But I have remained some hope. I am afraid so much.I feel like i messed up all things and i really hate this world and i afraid to become adult. Adult world is so scary. I don't have much brave...
Where are you from? Perhaps if you said this (country etc) I could give you advice to suit your situation.
I'm guessing your 18? I am too, and why are you so scared to enter the adult world?
Its great to have that independence as well as to follow your goals. But if you don't have a goal, may be that's where you're going wrong. You see, I have a dream job, that basically MADE me work hard for my A-levels and gain my place at Uni. It helps to have something like that to work towards-say a dream job/career?
I think you dont want to go into the adult world as you call it because there is so much responsibility. Some teenagers cope much better than others-I guess I am the opposite to you in that I've been ready for this since I was 16!
The truth is, there are extra responsibilities, but it depends if you view this as a hindrance. Just because you're an adult does not mean you have to stop having fun! The stark reality is that whether you like it or not, you can't put off entering 'the adult world' for much longer.
So I suggest you find your dream job/career, and use that as a goal to work towards. Over the summer or even into a gap year, take volunteering up and volunteer in the sector of your 'dream job'. Or you could try another course?
Things always happen for a reason, remember that.
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i am so ashamed but where do i start basically im 19 i already have a one year old not with the father because i choose horrible men and he didnt want me anymore just the baby, ive had sex with about 13 people since i was 16 and ive cheated before i feel so ashamed of how my life has become and am looking for some reason to change but i cant find it please would you be able to help me?
I would have thought the biggest reason to change would be for the sake of your daughter.
No daughter wants a mother with a reputation.
You've obviously concentrated on the social life way more than getting a good career/Why not enrol on a course? To help you get a job when your child is old enough to go to nursery?
You can't change the past but you can make your own future.
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Can anyone think of really summery tunes. They have to sound summery, but not too obvious-like not anything with 'summer'or 'sun' in the title?
I'm doing a countdown-so already have the obvious ones!
Thanks in advance :)
Anything by:
1D
The Beatles
Kid Rock
Paolo Nutini
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I'm a thirteen year old girl, slightly insane. I have a neighbor/friend named Jonathoan. He's thirtytwo. He's a conspiracy theorist, and, although his ideas might be a little out there, I don't think they are all definitely wrong. We like the same kind of music- greenday, the beatles, matchbox 20, etc. We both enjoy learning, and want to know the truth about everything possible. He's funny, and nice. He isn't some weirdo who hangs out with little kids, I'm just kind of odd, and prefer to talk to adults over kids my age. The point of my story? I have a bit of a crush on him. I, of course, haven't told him, and don't plan on acting on my feelings.
If you don't plan on acting on your feelings, then what exactly is it you would like advice about?
If you could just click 'additional info' and write out what you want advise on, I will help you.
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For some reason, I'm scared of my sister. Whenever we're home alone, I get really scared and always have a phone next to me. Whenever she's the only one awake, I'm TERRIFIED that she'll do something to me in my sleep or steal something of mine...
She's about 2 years older than me. We were close when we were young and I always try to act casual around her... But on the inside, I'm scared to death.
The thing is, I don't get scared that easily. I think I do have a paranoia disorder. I definately have anxiety, though I wasn't diagnosed. Any advice on how to deal with this without medication? Or why I'm so scared of my sister?
I have an anxiety disorder, diagnosed. And it aint fun. What you seem to have is the 'phobia' aspect-an irrational fear. It doesn't sound like generalized anxiety so treatment without medication is always best.
Also, I'm guessing you're young if you live with her? In this case, a doctor would not let you take medication unless it was the last resort.
Unless she hurts you and you have a reason to be scared, it sounds like an irrational fear. Type in CBT self help into Google. You'll get loads of help, on how to challenge this fear you have.
You may also need to learn how to relax in stressful situations, so this disorder does not manifest into something much worse. Try 'mindfulness'-a Buddhist philosophy that works wonders for me.
If you are as I suspect below 20 , then you can't have schizophrenia, the Paranoid type because its been proven the age of onset is early twenties.
The thing is, all what I suggest will help you if you are persistant enough to help yourself. Anxiety is something you have to learn to cope with, there is no cure. Remember a little is great because it keeps us alert and safe. Too much can lead to minor/serious illness. This is why its best to hit the nail on the head now, because trust me it can manifest itself, to a point where you can't control it.
If you're still concerned see a doctor who can refer you to a counsellor.
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I currently live in the US and will be going to a uni here, majoring in nursing. I've kept a close eye on the UK Job Shortage list because after I graduate I would like to live in the UK, and for a few years I wanted to be a Nurse Anesthetist. However, recently I realized that the UK does not have those, however they have PA(A)s, which are similar (correct me if I am wrong). On the shortage list I saw these were needed:
"non-consultant, non-training, medical staff post in the following
specialities:
- anaesthetics"
Now, seeing this, would that include PA(A)s? If it does, how do I become one? After reading on some websites I found this:
"PA(A)s are qualified healthcare practitioners who are currently voluntarily registered with the Association of Physicians’ Assistant (Anaesthesia) and are invited to be Affiliate Members of the Royal College of Anaesthetists. A career as a PA(A) can begin via two routes. The main groups of people eligible to commence training as a PA (A) are:
-Registered healthcare professionals (examples are nurses or operating department practitioners) with at least three years clinical experience and/or degree level studies."
Statement says that to begin a career as a PA(A) you can start out as a nurse, correct? So if I get my bachelors degree in nursing in the US, can I then do my 27 month studies to become a PA(A) in the UK (with a visa) and then get a job and live in the UK (England specifically)? Also, would anyone have an idea on the salary of a PA(A)?
Any help would be SO much appreciated!
By the way, I am really interested in Anesthesiology, so if you see something on the shortage list that wouldn't take that long to get qualified for please let me know!
http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk/sitecontent/documents/workingintheuk/shortageoccupationlistnov11.pdf
One last thing, I begin uni in the US in Early September and plan on majoring in nursing, so again, if you see a career that I could study for with a bachelors in nursing on the shortage list that would be great!
I live in England :)
Yes there is a shortage but also remember the NHS we have is facing a radical shake up, due to baby death cover ups etc.
Also, immigration here is only set to increase as more and more members join and are due to join the EU, like Romania.
Check this out https://jobsearch.direct.gov.uk/GetJob.aspx?JobID=2321181&JobTitle=Staff+Grade+General+Anaesthetist&rad_units=miles&pp=25&sort=rv.dt.di&vw=b&re=134&setype=2&tjt=Anesthetist&pg=1&AVSDM=
A bit long, but this is Job Centre Plus-the leadinbg jobsite we have in the UK. As you can see, it lists qualifications needed. I reckon for a junior the starting salary would be about £20,000 and for a senior nurse it'd be say £50,000 ?
Its funny, I'm also starting Uni in England this September, and I want to go to the US not to get a job but work experience :)
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I am 13 years old and I talk to spirits in my head. They dont reply. I just tell them to keep my family safe and healthy (kind of like my form of a God). It scares me and whenever I wall into a room I have to tell them not to harm me. Is there a name for this (like a mental illness)? Ive never told anyone about it before, should I seek help? By the way, i have OCD if that could have anything to do with it.
You have OCD? That's an anxiety disorder.
No I don't think you do have a mental illness because you can recognise its abit irrational. Plus if it was anything it would be diagnosed as schizophrenia-the paranoid type. And you can not develop that until early twenties for girls and late teens for guys-hormones are thought to trigger it.
I think that everyone likes to think there is a being bigger than themselves somewhere. I know many people who think its in there head. Its a sense of security. Nothing weird about it.
OCD is an anxiety disorder, talking to spirits in your head is not. So they are not linked, and your understanding of reality seems to be fine.
Anyway we're not doctors on here so if you were that concerned you'd speak to a doctor?
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I'm 19 years old and I'm still an A cup. Is there any way that I can make my boobs grow faster? and why are my boobs growing at a very slow pace?
I'm 18 and totally know what you mean.
I managed to make mine grow slightly larger.
Its very hard, especially at 18/19/20 the body stops growing. So what you need to do is build the muscle underneath the breasts-the chest muscle.
You can do this through exercise. Obviously consult a professional before doing any exercise. Its kind of hard to explain on here, but I will try. You could do sit ups. I know your not a guy but try this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_hWz8PzPR9E It helped a little for me.
Also eat high calorie, but healthy foods. Such as nuts.
You need to combine the eating with the exercising. If you want larger boobs, it may be because you want to feel more feminine? Try also doing squats and things like hula hooping to enhance your curves. The smaller your waist looks, the larger your breasts will appear.
Also you could try, whilst your body is changing, wearing a push up bra now and again, as a kind of 'target'?
Hope this helps, remember you still need to eat healthily and be persistent in the exercise. The alternative, as you are frustrated by how 'slow' they are growing is to have surgery.
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I'm 15 (almost 16) and my boyfriend will be 18 in about a week. I'm not exactly sure what to get him for his birthday. we've been dating for 5 months and we're really close. I want to get him something meaningful. something he can unwrap but I also wanna take him somewhere. I'm his girlfriend and it's his 18th birthday so I wanna do something really special and I want it to be the best present he gets. I was thinking a Red Sox game but he can't drive, he can get his license on his birthday but the way it works out is kind of iffy. so I don't wanna risk anything. I was thinking beef jerkey, sour patch kids, and a sports hat or sports tshirt. but I wanna go somewhere meaningful or get him something meaningful. any ideas are help ful and greatly appreciated! from both guys and girls would be great too. thank you :)
I think its best to steer clear of driving games-no pun intended. They're just not SPECIAL enough.
I celebrated my 18th just over a week ago. I'm a girl, but I have a few ideas :)
Like I got a new watch. Ok, so it cost over £100, but perhaps if you could get a cheaper one-say £20-£30, this will be very special.
Also, why don't you try a special aftershave set, or even like a new fragrance?
You can also buy 'experience' days. You'll have to check the age of this though, because some of them require one person to be over the age of 21.
I would stay clear from what I call 'everyday' thank you presents. This includes chocolate-no matter how posh-its just not special enough. It'd be fine if he was just a friend, but for I boyfriend? I wouldn't. Also, stay clear of clothing.
A nice idea would be to get something engraved/personalised. In the UK, I know many people who use http://www.gettingpersonal.co.uk/ You could use this or similar sites? Its a nice touch that has the 'special' element to it. For example, if he is into sports as you say, you could buy a personalized sports canister/flask?
Hope I was a help :)
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Female 16
The one thing I love the most is acting, I'd love to be a successful actress in the future, but it's my confidence. I find it easy to do anything in front of close friends, but when I'm faced with the whole world, my confidence goes down a tad bit. It doesn't stop me, but I panic and get myself worked up. I did Drama at school, I would say I was successful but my the fact that my confidence went down, it got the better of me. I used to go red a lot when I acted out a play, and I sometimes still do when I do things. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice tips, especially how to build my confidence up, thank you.
I have an anxiety disorder, I'm 18.
I know what you mean. There's the carrot and the stick approach.
To truly overcome this you need the stick approach.
You have to force yourself to speak up. What I did was volunteered as a spokesperson.
When I was your age I was the shyest girl in the year group. But to overcome that, you just have to step out your comfort zone and put yourself in positions you may not like.
The more you do it the better you become.
Don't practice in front of friends-there not the same as a proper audience.
Start volunteering as a spokesperson or something, many charities require them. When your up on stage or in a public hall-you have to speak. And the more you do it, trust me, the better you get.
Good luck-remember to reward yourself as you progress each step of the way.
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To make a long story short, my friend and I drifted apart. I live across the country but moving back to where she lives very shortly. I have felt like she has distanced herself from me. I try to text and keep in touch, but felt like everything was one-sided. I wrote her an email to explain how I feel. She wrote back saying she re-evaluated the friendship because she felt that I was basically full of anxiety, and so caught up in my own issues that I was a burden on her and made her feel like the friendship was one-sided, like I wasn't there for her enough emotionally and too anxious and caught up in my own life.
I wrote back explaining that circumstances have changed-dueto changing life events as well as the fact that I am taking better care of myself. I explained that I was in a dark place, and couldn't be a good friend to her because I couldn't even support myself. I feel like a changed person- I am a better person and friend to others. I hope she can take my word for it because my concern is that she will dismiss it, and not want to re-kindle the friendship because of things that happened in the past, and who I was before.
Any thoughts or advice?
I'm not going to tell you 'she'll come round', because the way I see it is she's changed for good-people do. It may not be what you want to hear, but you did ask.
Sometimes, as hard as it may be, friends do drift apart.
It has happened to everyone at some point in their lives. The way I see it is that if the other person doesn't want to be friends with you, then you're wasting your time.
Like a romantic relationship, if one person ends it, the other will be better off in the long run if they move on themselves.
I think that if you carry on trying to be friendly to someone who doesn't want it, things could turn bitter. You do not want this bitterness to overshadow all the happy memories you and your friend had.
Its easy to be governed by emotions in this situation, so you need to think with your head. This means accepting it was a friendship, and accepting it may not be there anymore, but being thankful for what it was.
You seem friendly-so you will make a new friend even better than her pretty soon too. Someone who actually wants to be friends with you. But you can only do this if you learn how to let go-however hard that may be.
I'd send her a note saying you actually agree with her, and that perhaps if she wasn't prepared to support you like a friend should do, you don't want that from a friend. Sign it with 'best wishes for the future'. Its always best to leave on good terms.
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recently Disney Channel aded these dumb teen programs im glad they cancelled Hannah Montana Life with Derek So Random and hopefully they cancelled My Babysitters a Vampire but i think they must cancel Ant Farm Austin and Ally and Shake It Up so how can you get it done
No, you can't.
This is because you may not like it but if the ratings are good then it makes sense to keep it running.
Also, alot of money goes into the shows that people don't realise. Maybe the show is a good money spinner in terms of people wanting to advertise during the breaks of it?
If you want it canncelled, the easiest way is to not watch it and get others to do the same.
If it bothers you that much, don't watch it anyway?
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She hasn't been eating & she was laying on my floor & blood just came out of her bum. It's hard for her to walk and lift herself up. I've been trying to get her to eat. Does it mean she has worms?
It could be a blockage in the bowels-my cat has it all the time. She may struggle to empty them, so this may be why she is not eating-cause she's full up. My cat had this and he was also groaning and things.
Speak to your vet. Your dog needs x-rays, blood tests, the lot. She'll be fine, so long as you see the vet straight away.
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i want to do sex wth my virgin girl with out condom is it safe.
Safe for what?
Chances you can get an STI are very slim if she is a virgin.
Chances she could become pregnant are still very high.
Its always best to use protection, because you'll get into a habit of not using it otherwise, and then there's more chance of the passing on of STI's in the future, not to mention unexpected and dare I say it, unwelcome offspring.
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My "boyfriend" is really selfish. Whenever I ask him to get me presents, like a puppy, or a trip across the country, he says, "isn't the gift of my love enough?" What a fairy. Also he says he's giving me the gift of "sexiness" and "great hair" and "perfect teeth" and "seduction". All of this is true, but aren't girlfriends supposed to get puppies from time to time? Is that really too much to ask? Also, I am 12 and a half and don't tell me that's too young to have a boyfriend because you don't understand TRU LOVE. But then I wonder, doesnt true love involve a lot of presents? :( How do I make him appreciate me with money? Help!
You're a gold digger. I agree with the people below, I find it hard to take this seriously. 12 year olds arn't allowed to be on this site by the way/
Are you used to being spoilt or something? I hope he breaks up with you. Not because I'm nasty, because I think It'd make you a stronger person. Then you can come back here and honestly realise what a silly question this was.
I don't think this is a serious question, actually, so I can't 'Help' you at all. Only tell you to go and be a normal twelve year old.
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im getting the iphone5 and I want to know that its going to be around or something new isn't just going to come up since im saving for it and don't want to have to switch to a different phone in a short amount of time
The smartphone market as a whole is very dynamic. Of course it will become less fashionable.
Nokia is releasing another smartphone, and also Google's new phone is released in October which may be a hit.
If you're this concerned with wanting an 'in' phone, I'd just get it. I mean, people still use i-phone three's and i-phone fours, years on.
Also, the iphone five in my opinion can't be updated that much, the only thing would be on speed. And anyway, in a few years time you could always put a back cover on the i-phone 5-people may not b able to tell which model it is.
Sometimes there's only so much worrying you can do and 'what-if's' you can ask before you get stuck in a rut of not buying anything. Buy it! Its still new and in my opinion just having an Apple product looks good.
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