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my 38 year old cousin was seeing this guy for 2 years and he cheated on her like 10 times so she broke up with him for good and now she is so depressed she stopped eating and she is thinking about putting herself in a mental institution how can i help her not feel so sad anymore? (link)
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There isn't much you can do but support her and just be her friend. Show her that you care about her and way more than that guy did. It would be tough for her but you need to be there for her. Go out with her and meet some guys. I hope everything works out though.
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15/f
me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and i've been thinking ahead instead of last minute like i always do hah. he loves the Bright Eyes so i was thinking of getting him a bright eyes t shirt and he plays guitar so maybe some cool guitar picks or something? is that a good idea? any suggestions welcome! (link)
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Its sounds like a great idea. If you know he likes that kind of stuff then get him it! Some other cute ideas are stuff like you can take him somewhere out to eat or somewhere fun where the two of you can do something. You can also get him a cute card, get a picture frame with the two of you in it, make him brownies or cookies. If you can cook you can make him a nice dinner. Well I hope this helped and you guys have a good Christmas.
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What should I get my 3 month boyfriend 4 xmas, he's 30 n I am 24 (link)
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There are so much stuff you can get your bf. Here are some ideas.
-You can take him somewhere fun or go out to eat somewhere.
-Get him a picture frame and put a picture of the two of you in it.
-Get him a really cute card.
-If you know what kinds of music he likes or something else he likes get him something like that.
-Make him brownies or cookies.
-You can even cook him a nice dinner.
Well I ran out of ideas but I hope this helped and I hope you guys have a good Christmas.
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So basically, I've never, ever made the first move, cause I've never really had to. Yes I know, it's a bad way to live through life, but it's just easier. Anyway, tonight I actually get the cojones to talk to this guy, and something tells me I got blown off. Technically, he had made the first move, cause he said hi about a week ago, I just thought I'd return the favor. He seemed oddly uninterested, like he was rushing. I'm so....confused. I've never had this happen to me before. I'm not mad, just kind of amused. How do guys do that on a daily basis? How do they handle the rejection? It's not that hard for me to ignore him the next time I see him, cause if he wants bitchy, he's got it. But am I jumping to conclusions? I'm certainly not approaching him again, but I do wanna know what went wrong. Suggestions? Opinions? (link)
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I think your jumping to conclusions. I've been that way before with a guy. All guys are different. Maybe he was busy or something else was on his mind when you said hi. He said hi to you before so it can't be that he hates you. So maybe he was busy or something else. Maybe try it some other time. I said hi to this one guy I liked awhile ago and it seemed like he was uninterested in me or something. So I was thinking like, "what did I do wrong?" But he did end up saying hi to me first another day. I don't really know where you were or anything so I can't exactly tell you a straight answer. But just say hi to him again. Good luck!
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to start from the beginning a long time ago me and my best friend got in a fight and werent talking and i started talking to her ex boyfriend me and him are currently dating and have been for eight months. i always here so much things about him like he cheated on me all the time. and honestly from his backround i kind of beleive it. And before i dated him i had so many friends, and i did whatever i wanted to. Now that im with him me and my best friend are still fighting because he hates her because she tryed to get him sent to jail. But i miss my best friend and and i miss all my friends and miss being able to do what i wanted to. I also, dont know what to beleive is hes cheated or not. ovb. hes not going to tell me if he did. i dont know what to do help me. (link)
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It sucks how friends fight because of a boy. You have come to the point where you have to choose between your friends and this guy. You miss your friends and being able to do what you want. I would give it a break at least. If your hearing that he is cheating on you then I would choose your friends. Its gonna be hard but you have to choose what you want more and at this point you don't even know if this guy is completely yours. This is your call. We can't exactly tell you what to do we are just helping you think through this. So good luck and I hope everything works out!
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ok so this boy asked me for my number...well im kinda nervous to talk to him and i was wondering what are some things we could talk about with out there being any silent moments and i dont want to be boring but i dont want to talk too much either..plz help me...thanx alot!!!
xoxox (link)
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Don't worry about silent moments too much. If you think about it during the convo then it probably will happen. So don't try to think about it. Talk about what you did that day, what he did. About his life and usually he will try to help it too so it shouldn't be too bad. Talk about things you like, school. There is alot to talk about. If things don't go very well at some point then talk about the weather! Like, "its really hot outside" or something. Good luck!
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might be long but theres a guy and we've been great friends for 6 years and this year we gotten so much closer we hang out atleast once a week and he says things like hes wants to be by me and wnts to sit with me and like we talk about college (im 15)and he says that he wants me to be his dorm buddie and he offers to buy things for me, plays with my hair , hold the door and says nice things about me. we both manipulate each other by doing things like he gets me to go somewhere if i really don't want to and i get him to go places too and we sing (link)
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You can never know for sure but it seems like he does like you. The way you can know for sure is to ask him but to me it pretty much seems like he does.
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ok so i like this guy and i think he likes me back. we havent talked to eachother yet though haha :) only smiles.
so i dont know how to talk to him. im very very shy and dont often talk to attractive guys, because of it. :S
we go home by the same bublic bus so i thought that's a good time?! sometimes hes with his friends though. so how should i start a convo ???? *_* (link)
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There is so much stuff you guys can talk about. First off if you guys don't know each other that well and he doesn't know that you know his name, ask him. Then from there you can start talking about weather, interests, what he does. There is so much stuff. Then maybe the next day it will be easier to talk to him. You can say, "hey ____" and start talking. But don't go on talking about yourself the whole time. Ask him questions too. And you don't want to be known as the annoying girl who will not stop talking. Try talking to him without his friends there first. It will make you feel more comfortable. I am kinda like you too. I am shy at time and I don't usually talk to guys until they talk to me but sometimes when I get my confidence I can do it. Try and look nice that day so you won't feel insecure. So good luck and hope everything works out!
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Ok so I like this guy and I think he might like me back.
Yesterday we were supposed to go to a party together but he couldn't make it.
Anyway, to cut a long story short I got really drunk and a guy took advantage of me. We didn't do anything past making out, because my friends saw and got angry at him. They had to go home early though.
When I sobered up though I pushed him away and was like 'WTF am I doing? Go away' heh it was amusing.
But, how do I tell the guy I like? I don't want to say 'yes I did make out with someone at the party but it was because a guy took advantage of me whilst drunk' because
A) I don't want him to kick his ass
B) I have mutual friends with the guy who took advantage of me, and if a huge drama started it could be awkward.
I have to tell him though. I can't lie, plus he has friends who went so I think he'll know anyway.
How do I tell him? (link)
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You could take him somewhere where just the two of you are and tell him. Just make it clear that you don't want him to go and beat him up. Just don't say that it was all the guys fault that you guys were making out because then the guy you like would want to go and give him a piece of his mind. But you also don't want to put so much on you either. He might think your always like that. So you might want to think about what your going to say to him and how you are going to say it. But be more calm about it and make what you what to be made clear, clear. So good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
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how do I tell a girl I like her even though she has a boyfriend? (link)
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Talk to her in private, where no one else would be around. And just tell her. But be careful, you could ruin a relationship by doing this. She may like this guy alot and then she will get these mixed feelings. You don't want to do that. I'm just telling you that to have you be aware. But just talk to her and let her know. Good luck!
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My friend is driving me nuts. Every day she calls to complain about her 15-year-old daughter. She spent the last two years trying to transform the girl from a quiet tomboy into Miss Popularity... and she's obsessed with her daughter getting a boyfriend. She's forced her to wear makeup and jewelry and dye her hair and wear certain clothes, and she made her try out for cheerleading, even though the girl didn't want to. She restricts her diet so she won't get "fat", and makes the girl work out and run three miles every day.
Up until recently, she'd complain to me about the fights they'd have when her daughter resisted these things. But she's finally gotten what she wanted - the girl has been completely transformed - and now she's complaining about that!
Now the girl is just as obsessed with boys and popularity as the mother is. She's gone from being a straight-A student to failing several classes. The counselor has advised her to drop down to an easier schedule, but the mother won't do it because there are boys she likes in those classes and the girl would "throw a fit."
Instead of making her stay home and study, she lets her go out every night - god forbid she should miss a social event and a chance to increase her popularity! So mom stays home and does her homework for her... if she can figure out what it is. The girl never writes down her assignments, because she can't see the board. Does she wear her glasses, I ask? Oh, no! She'd never do that - they make her look ugly! Can she ask the teacher to let her sit closer to the board? Oh, no! She likes the friends she's sitting by! So mom goes online each night, finds the assignments and does the work so her daughter can go mingle with boys. On the few occassions that she's tried to make her stay home and study, the girl threw such a fit that the mom "had" to give in or she'd make her life miserable.
She won't make the girl take any responsibility... yet she calls me every day, whining about how the poor thing is doing so badly in school, how mouthy and belligernet she's become - and how she can't do anything about it!
I'm getting so sick of hearing about this. And I'd love to knock some sense into her and say, "Can't you see that this is all your fault!?? Is pimping off your daughter really that important to you??" But I usually just sit and listen, because I can't think of a nice way to say it.
Do you think I should say something? I doubt she'd listen, but it's really hard keeping my mouth shut! (link)
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First try and talk to her. Don't go and scream and yell, just tell her. I wouldn't be able to hear this lady talk about this girl. If she doesn't listen, which she probably won't, don't talk to her. Sooner or later she will get that message. If not then there isn't much you can do. You don't live with them and you can't change what that girls mom does to her. So I hope everything works out for you and good luck.
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well i'm in a blah situation. homecoming was tonight, and i danced with this guy who is totally amazing. and it made me realize how much i like him. the problem is everyone would probably think i've totally lost my mind. and we don't talk, like ever. tonight was basically the first time we've really talked, and we only said like 2 sentences to eachother. but he's so sweet and gentle, and he gives me the cute little butterflies, and ahh. i don't know what to do. can anyone help me? id greatly appreciate it.
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Try talking to him more and try to be friends. Take it from there. When you see him say hi or smile or you can wave. Don't make it too obvious you like him though. It can scare guys away. So I hope everything works out for you and good luck!
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I'm 17/F
I've had my period since I was in sixth grade. I'm a senior now..
What I've realized from having it..
is that a week before I get it,
I get severely moody, and irritable,
and its almost like I'm depressed for a week,
and then when I get my period I'm not moody, I'm normal. And maybe this is normal? But I just get so down and in a funk before I get it, it just doesn't seem like something thats "normal" you know?
It makes relationships with people difficult because for one week, I'm really irritable and easily angered. And it causes unnecessary fights or arguments, that lead to me in the end always apologizing. I try to control it, but its just.. not exactly working.
Is this normal? What should I do? (link)
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Its normal. I get that way sometimes before I start. You just got to let your friends know when you are all moody and stuff so they don't end up hating you. So that's about all you can do and you try to control it. At least your trying, just let your friends know and they will understand. Good luck!
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so theres this guy. and we're always texting/iming and stuff.
he is ALWAYS asking me who i like. and the one who i like, is him.
so i really can't tell him yet. i don't know. it seems like he might like me since he's always asking me that. he has greeted me with smiley faces, loser (haha as a joke), and sexy. once. but still.
and today he asked me if i was prude. and was hypothetically speaking, what if i liked you and you liked me but we never knew because you wouldn't say who you liked. so tell me!
what do you think?
the only reason i'm doubting it, is because him and this girl were like in love and they broke up a while ago, but they stayed really good friends. and they like stopped recently. and sometimes i'm like whats up, and hes like talking to _____ :/.
i'm like is that bad?
hes like i don't know yet.
soo....help? (link)
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This is tough. If he is still talking and staying good friends with this girl he was in love with then I think you should wait just a little more. He seems confused and unsure. He sounds like he does kinda like you but remember there is still this other girl in the picture. So I think you should watch for that. So if he likes you a little bit and then another girl that is your friend then he doesn't know what he wants yet. Just wait a little bit until he gives you a real answer. I hope everything works out!
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im in a white family, and my mom is raceist. my best friend is black, n i showed my mom my group picture of before homecoming, and she was like omg who is that n poined to her n im like ..thats sammy my best friend. now she doesnt trust me at all and keeps askin if shes comin whenever i go somewhere. im staying friends with her wether my mom likes it or not, but what can i do i hate this? i dont see anything wrong with people from different races bein best friends and neither does sammy. only my mom does. im 14/f shes 15/f (link)
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Its sad how things like that are happening. There isn't so much you can do to stop your mom being racist. I don't know if your mom is stubborn at all but my dad is and he is kinda that way too, only sometimes. I try to talk to him, it doesn't change his view. I would say try talking to your mom about it. Everyone is equal and there is nothing wrong with being friends with someone who is a different race. So I hope everything works out.
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16/f
ok so i like 2 guys but I've never really spoken to either of them because theyre a year above me in school. but both seem like they really do like me. so theyre's A and D. I always smile at A when i see him and he always smiles back. we never said anything to eachother yet. but he's really cute and for example yesterday we were standing infront of our classrooms which are close together and we kept smiling at eachother and then he kind of opened his mouth and it seemed like he was saying hi or something but it was quite far away.
then D is like the cutest guy ever. he's really shy around me and we've also never talked before but he's been kind of checking me out for a year now. and once when i cried really hard he saw me, looked at me all sad for a while and actually had to wipe away a tear from his eyes :[
AND he always says hello to my mom when he sees her. But hes really shy around ME though and its quite complicated. but ALSO yesterday after the whole thing with A he was walking by with his friends completely ignoring me at first, but once he walked by he turned around to look back at me and his smile was just soooo cutee. and i mean he did it infront of SO many people. i just dont know which one i should like and try to talk to yet. i dont think talking to both is a great idea because i dont talk to many boys in general which would make it seem weird, besides i already know what theyre like because we all go by the same bus so i hear them talk everyday.
but which one should i choose??? theyre quite similar: very good looking, both play guitar and all the girls like them but they dont seem to care lOl.
i know its hard for you to pick but can you kind of help me on how to realise which one i like more or something. thaaanks (link)
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I think you should talk to both of them. Even if you aren't the kind of girl who will go out of your way to talk to boys. If you just pick one of those guys out randomly he could be like the worst guy ever and you wouldn't even be friends with the other guy. On the bonus side you could also have a chance of being friends with both. So I would say try talking to them and go from there. Good luck!
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I dated a good friend of mine twice (twice he broke up with me, the last time I chewed him out), and now ever since we don't really talk anymore. Before we started going out, he and I would always talk about our lives and what was going on and how we were feeling and it was nice to have someone to listen to me. We had been friends for about 1/2 a year until we began dating. It's been 3 months since we broke up last, and I'm not interested in dating him anymore, but I miss the relationship we had before all that mess. I feel like I should just contact him and say what's up and catch up with him, but I don't want him to think I want him back. What should I do? (link)
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You should call him. Tell him that you want the old relationship you guys had before you started going out. Tell him that you just want to be friends with him though so he won't think that you want to go out with him again. He may not want to be friends though so be aware of that and don't be too surprised. But hey, its worth the shot if you want to be friends with him. I hope everything works out for you!
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15/m
theres this girl shes 13 almost 14 i've been talking to her for 2 months like as a friend until now she would always talk to me first, she tells me everything now i think i like her we literally talk everyday but sunday i talked to her she said she had a boyfriend which i didn't really care about anyway but since sunday i haven't talked to her and im freaking out i miss her A LOT idk whats going on tuesday i didn't wanna talk to any of my friends i've become attached to her in some way its weird and idk if she really does like me even though she has a boyfriend (link)
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Even if she might like you, she does have a boyfriend. Don't try and make her cheat on the guy. I would say either wait till she breaks up with this guy to start flirting with her and stuff or try and meet other girls. Trust me, there is more than one girl in the world. She might be hard to get off your mind but if you find another girl she won't be there so long. So try and get your mind off her.
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Heya,
first of all, im going to use letters other wise your gonna get confused.
Well, Me and K used to be really good mates with J and B,
but then J and B randomly started hating on K. So then i though it was really unfair on K because J and B were being real bitches to K.
So now ive stepped in. Now J and B are being really mean to me! not trying to sound vain here, but i normally wouldnt give if someone said stuff to me, and ive been in fights and all, but normally people would just stop this thng but J and B just wont quite with it. Its really annoying me, and im not going to ignore, and im not going to someone about it.
Because that will all make it worse.
What else could me and K do for them to stop.
because, K is not that tough, and she gets really upset about all this!
THANK YOU! (link)
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Well if you exactly know why they are doing this then there isn't much you can do. Maybe try and talk to them and see whats up and if they act like idiots then forget about them. Ignoring them would be the best thing to do. If they want to act like that to your friend and you then they are being idiots. So forget them and try do make new friends.
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17/f, I like this guy he is a year younger than I am, but he is so cute. I go to a tiny private school (everyone-knows-everyone) type of deal and I have spoken to him in the past, but that was when we both were at the same school event together (and it was just small talk) and we spoke a little bit after that, but then summer came so this year, we haven't been talking or anything. I realized that I think this guy is so hot, and I want to start talking to him again. But every time I see him, he's with his guy friends, and it's a little intimidating talking to a guy (and probably awkward) when he is with his friends and say hey. I don't have any classes with him, and unfortunatly, my personality sort of blends in, but my looks stand out. The good thing is that I am friends with some of the guys in his grade, but once again it would also be weird if I mentioned to them about the guy I like. How should I approach this guy? I don't want to hear answers like flirt or say nice shirt, because then all the other guys would hear and stuff, or is it better to tell the guy you like oh your looking good today in front of his friends, because then they'll think you have the right confidence? I don't know how to approach him obviously haha so help (link)
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I have gone through the same thing. Maybe when he walks by say hi or wave or at least smile. And if you want to approach him and he is with his friends. Go with some of your friends. You don't have to do this alone. You friends will be there for support and to be there so you don't look very awkward. If you are a pretty open person and is outgoing you can go up to them by yourself and talk too. So goo luck and hope everything goes well!
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