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I just tried the Monster Energy drink yesterday and I loved it, so I asked my mom to get me it again today. She told me it's not a good idea to drink it. I thought it was harmless and I know it's not a good idea to drink it all at once in like 10 minutes.. but I want to know, what is bad about it? Are there any reasons not to drink it? What are your experiences with it? THANKS!

Energy drinks have alot of caffeine in them. Hints, the energry. They're okay to drink everyonce in a while, but kids now-a-days use them as a way to almost get buzzed, so they drink loads of them. The caffiene can stop your heart in some cases. Alot of my friends have been hospitalized from being sick after drinking them, it was mainy throwing up and horrible stomach aches for days. This may also be linked to the large amounts of caffeine in them.

So, they're okay to drink once and a while :)

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Does PANTENE TIME RENEWAL really work??
yesterday i got the Time Renewal Shampoo and it's Frizz ControlConditioner. Both from Pantene Time renewal type

i was wondering if it really works.
Thanks

My best friend tried it and saw an increase in shine and softness. However, she said she still continued to get split ends all the same.

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i like my weight rite now, but my stomach isnt...muscle-y or tight...how do i get it to not be a lil flabby?? situps? crunches? HOW MANY??please&&thankyou

Cardio burns fat, if you want to lose flab, do cardio. Start about 3 times a week for 30 minutes, then go to four times for an hour and such. Also, crunches work when done right. Seventeen magazine, or online has many ways to keep your stomach tight. However, you have to be willing to keep up the exercise routine or else you'll never see any results.

Do about 50-100 crunches a night. Keep your feet flat on the floor about 6 inches away from your butt, hands behind your head, and back flat. Lift up your torso using your stomach muscles, it may help to put your feet under a couch or a bed to keep them down to make sure you're only using your stomach muscles. Inhale as you sit up, exhale on your way down, otherwise a pooch could start to form. Concentrate on doing them correctly and your breathing.

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i want my boobs bigger!!!!! i mean, im 14 years old, and i hardly have boobs. i mean im a 34b. Any exsercises or ANYTHING i can do NATURALLY!?!?!

You could easily search this question and get tons of answers, or even look it up on google. Anywho, no, there is no exercises, no magic pill, cream, or prayer that will naturally get your boobs bigger. Only time and genetics .. or even a scalple and implants will get them any larger.

Learn to work on your other positives.
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OKAY. my hair is already wavy.. but i dont like the way it is. i want my hair to be like:
http://static.flickr.com/14/18569002_fd91786c8d_m.jpg

http://images.oprah.com/images/health/beauty/h_hair/hhair_yearlong_120x140.jpg

like i dont know i want it like flat kinda and wavy. but falt becasue when its really big waves it makes my hair look a whole lot shorter and poofyer.
i want it like i came from the beach!

help!

dont say anything about braids or scrunching because it doesnt work!! anyadvice

There are a couple of ways to get that beachy look: but, both of them involve scrunching your hair. First, wet your hair, then apply Garnier Fruitic Surf Wax (its in a little pot) and scrunch your hair with that and twist your hair around your fingers for that beached look.

The other way is to wet your hair, and spritz a mixture of sea salt and water into your hair, .. hints the beachy look there too.

In that picture, the way Jessica's hair is done is by a curling iron. Just section off your hair, and curl each piece at a time. When you're done, gently shake your head to loosen up the curls then apply hairspray.

Also, Mary-Kate and Ashley make a spiral curling iron which is great for getting that beached up look.

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my room mate has really bad breath she has for awhile (a mutual friend and i have noticed) but recently all of our friends are starting to say things and noticing it . She is sensitive about most things so i don't want to say something that will hurt her feelings or make her mad but i think she needs to know rather than hearing it from someone randomly. what should i do? and how should i do it?

This happened to a friend of mine recently because she had horrible body odor. I tried hinting as much as I could, I even bought her perfum which didn't help. She never really got the picture until one of our friends just blurted it out. We all laughed about it and she thanked us a thousand times for letting her know.

So you could either:
1. Buy a bunch of packs of mints, leave them in your room and tell her she is welcome to help herself.

2. Actually tell her yourself she had bad breath. Just do it nicely, "Hey, you might want a tic-tac incase we see any cute boys out there!"

3. Keep dropping hints by saying someones breath stinks when you're around her, that might be too hurtful though.

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what does lust mean and what are some examples

Most people use lust as an excuse for a
crush or mistake love. But a dictionary actually defines it as a sexual attraction towards another person. So, the actual meanings and how people use it are often different.

An example would be if you saw a guy on the street and all the sudden you had an urge to run over and make out with him or something of that sort.

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Hi, I know you can't MAKE a guy like you, but can anyone give me some TIPS on how to MAKE them want you? Like things that would help them start to like me maybe, besides being myself. What are some things guys like? Thanks.

Okay, no offence but that last advice
wasn't true what so ever.

It totally depends on the type of guy you're going for. If he's more of a jock, sure he might be into the more preppy time. If he's into rock, he'll probably want a girl that will go to shows with him. Like I said, its all about who you're going for.

I recommend not shying too far away from who you truly are because it can catch up with you in the end. Guys like girls that can get prettied up but can also chill out and watch tv with the boys. So don't be all high maitenenced, but don't be a grunge either.

Try flirting a bit more. Start conversations with boys, smile, and laugh. Say cute things and maybe even try a hug or two to get started. Guys like challenges, so don't crowd him. Make him chase you a bit. Don't take it too far, he could end up getting bored and moving on. However, if after trying and a guy still doesn't like you, try another. No use in making a guy like you if he doesn't want to, right?

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i recently got my period for the first time yesturday. im having really bad flows. like they are extremley heavy. i asked what i should do about it on here, and everyone said it should die down in a while but its not. if anything its heavier. im pretty much disgusted and dont want to use a pad anymore so im thinking about trying to get my fucking anyoying dad who i serouisly HATE at the moment out of the house, and ask my mom to go get me tampons because pads are WAY to much of a mess.
any good brands of tampons i should use?
and any advice on the whole period thing?
i serouisly hate this like its uncontrolable. EW.

For your first period, your flow will most likley be one of your heaviest considering its the first time and all. So yeah, that will EVENTUALLY die down after a few flows, so I wouldn't stress over that. I was the same way.

I do recommend tampons cause they are so much more comfortable. I would highly recommend Tampax Pearls because they are 10x easier to use. I've used cardboards ones and I wasn't the least bit happy with them.

Be sure to keep up with your hygeine by showering everday especially since you're on your period. But like I said, your flow should die down in a little while. If your flow remains insanley heavy for several months you can talk to your doctor about birth control options, thats what my friend did. In the meantime, try to find something else to keep yourself busy.

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okay so i just got a new really hot boy friend and im friends with his ex girlfriend and she said that they never kissed the whole time they went out, and that they only hugged. and he always hugs me but i really want to kiss him but i have only kissed one other guy on the cheek and i was really nervous. but im scared that if i kiss him or try he will be mad and im really uncomfortable talking about it with him. thanks in advance!

I went out with my ex boyfriend for almost
four months before we kissed. Which, btw, I had
to do first. Yeah it took a little bit of guts,
but it was totally worth it. We talked about it
later and I found out that he had heard I was
more of a slow-pace type of person so he didn't
want me to feel uncomfortable. So, he just may
be nervous or he may just want to wait until the
right time.

When you decide to go for it you could
try this:
1) *This was how I did it* We were laughing about
something and when we stopped I leaned forward
and put my forehead onto his forhead. Then we
laughed for a little bit, lol, then I tilted my
head to kiss him.

Or

2) If you two are walking and holding hands,
slowly stop and gently pull him back if he keeps
walking. When he turns to face you grab his other
hand as well and just look up into his eyes.
You can then either A. Kiss him. B. Wait for him
to kiss you. or C. Snake your arms around his
neck THEN kiss him.

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how do you communicate with your boyfriend when your in the same class? like all lovey dovey, or like.. as friends? idk.. i just got my first boyfriend today and i dunno how to act tomorrow.. he sits near me for like 2 classes and we already had our first kiss.

Just act like good friends.
The whole cute-teasing-and-playing-around thing is totally fine too. But try not to sit there and say "Baby I love you, no I love you more" over and over again. Remember, your friends are around you, no need to make everyone uncomfortable.

Just act totally normal. Don't stress about what to say, just go with the flow! He obviously fell for who you are, no need to have to change that. Have fun and enjoy your time together!

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I'm sick of every hair product that I buy not working. I've never tried Paul Mitchell, Big Sexy Hair, Back To Basics, or Redken though. Has anyone who has very (Not just a little bit frizzy, a few split ends here and there. I mean VERY.) dry and damaged hair ever tried these products and have they actually worked? If not, does anyone know what else I can do with my hair? Any possible things that you can do with it can all damage it in some way. I can't straighten it anymore (That's part of the reason why it's so damaged...along with coloring and highlighting it). I can't curl it because that fries it. I can't scrunch it because when I do it the only way it turns out good is by blow drying it, which damages it also. I can't put it up because it causes breakage according to everyone I've asked. I can't wear it normally because it's so damaged that it looks terrible. Gosh, what else is there to do?!

My problem used to be just like yours.
Heres what I recommend:
-Invest your money, go to a salon.
Ask them to take care of your hair. They will have to cut your hair to get rid of as much damage and split ends as they can. Also, upon request they will deep condition your hair which can bring your hair back to life.

Now, once the salon has done all it can its up to you to keep your hair healthy. Wash your hair about every other day, and always condition it. The more you wash it the more dried out it will become. I suggest Biolage Damagage Repair shampoo+conditioner. (Or the Hydration shampoo by Biolage)

Ask the salon to show you some ways to style your hair that take less usage of a flat iron or a curling iron. I'm sure they'll be happy to help.

With their suggestions, try some new styles for your hair. I do realize you'll still want to straighten it and curl it at times, so ALWAYS be sure to use a heat protectant before using any hot tool on your hair. Also, try a deep conditioner about once a week for a few months to restore your hair. (Garnier makes a great one) Also, there is a Pantene Shampoo call Pantene Pro-V Restorative that says it'll take care of up to two years of damage, my friend tried it and loved it. Dove makes a restoring shampoo as well.

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hm okay well i would love ANY answers :] thanks so muchh..

this story is going to be kind of pathetic. well back in the 7th grade my friend emily and i exchanged screen names of some of our friends so that we could meet new people. i started talking to one of em's friends, pat. pat's in the same grade as us and he lives in the same town too, but he just goes to the private school in our town and we go to the public. anyways, so i started talking to pat for about a year, over the internet at all times of course since i never met him before. well we ended up loosing touch after a while and i forgot his screenname...but then i began talking to him again in october (2006) through my friend jason. jason is one of my guy-friends and jason&pat are pretty much best friends. well by then pat&i both had myspaces and it turns out pats really hot. (i still havent seen him in person at this point) and i guess he felt the same about me because soon after we had a few convos and began talking on the phone with jason & some other people on 3-way, pat told a couple of our friends (who passed it onto me) he really likes me and wanted to go out. he "asked me out" a few days later. by then i developed a major crush on him even though it was only through the internet and phone. so i guess we "went out" for about a week. we broke it off when we decided that there was no point in "being together" if weve never even seen eachother in person. but now its so awkward between us. pat&i have been through a lot & even though none of it has been face to face, theres been a lot of feelings between us. and i mean, ive been crazy for him since november-ish. so i guess i really do want to meet him, but i just dont want to get my hopes too high, because he could look nothing like his pictures and act like a total jerk, who knows. and i dont want him to think that I`M ugly or weird or anything like that. im just totally afraid our friends will make it even more awkward or something, or i wont like him when i meet him, or whatever. i dont know. i really would just like for someone to tell me what i should do. in person or not, i still really have strong feelings for him and i care for him way more than i have cared about any other guy i've been with. even though i only really know him as a person by his screen name and phone number, i still really like him a lot. what should i do?

I think you should both take a chance
and meet each other. You two could be totally
right for each other, then again you could
be totally wrong for each other. You'll never
know unless you take a chance.

Set it up as a neutral situation: you
both should bring two friends just to be
safe. Meet each other at local hangout,
bowling or whatever. I don't really recommend
the movies cause you two wouldn't get to know
each other well because you don't talk much
during movies. But hey, if thats your thing
then go for it.

When getting ready for the hangout,
try not to over do it. Just be yourself,
because if you put on a fake act you're going
to have to keep up with it as long as you
know each other. Just wear cute clothes,
wash up and do your make up nice, and
pop in a breath mint just in case.

Also, when taking friends with you,
talk to them ahead of time and ask them
to be chill about all of this. I'd recommend
bring friends that wouldn't put you in
awkward situations such as "Just ask him out
right now!" when you're standing in front of
him, that can get things messy. Just make sure
they're reliable.

Just take a chance, you'll never
know until you try.

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15/f

So. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little more than five months. we do alot of things together. making out, fingering, him feeling me up, phone sex. stuff like that.

My problem is that my parents are SO OVERPROTCETIVE. they will not let me go to his house. he can't come over here without me having like three other people over besides him.

So pretty much all we do is go to private places like after school (closets, behind dumpsters, lame. i know) or go to the movies(my parents won't let me go with just him, so i have to usually bring along friends or go with a larger group)

SO yesterday, we went to see dreamgirls (AMAZING MOVIE btw)and it was me, him, and like on of my close girlfriends. we made out, he felt me up AND freakin fingered me.

I told my friend that she should bring some of her friends because i didnt want to make things awkward for her. But she came by herself. and now i feel emotionaly horrible. i feel just terrible that she had to sit through that, with nobody. i have never felt like such a rude and inconsiderate friend in my life. I love this chick, and i feel horrible about what happened. But i did tell her to bring other friends, and she was just like nahh, it won't be awkward.

HELP?
pleasee&thankyouus

From what I understand,
you took off your pants in front of your
friend at a movie theater? Please correct
me if I'm wrong. I just want to make sure
I understand the situation.

Now, since you did what you did and there
is no changing it, all you can do is apologize.
Have your friend over, explain that you got
caught up in the moment and you weren't thinking
straight unless you did plan to do that infront
of her. Other wise, just ask her what you can
do to make it up to her.

Just keep apologizing, then try not
to bring it up again. Next time, think
about if before you try something like that.
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ok so my boobs are not as big as i want them i am 15 115 pounds and only have an 32A it sucks and i am so ugly so that doesn't help i plan on having sex soon how can i make my boobs larger

Even though you might not want
to hear this, there honestly isn't anyway
to make them bigger without surgery.
Unless, you just eat pure fat and gain alot
of weight, in that case your boobs will grow
some but not without the price of full body
fat.

Other then that, sex isn't much about
boobs so I wouldn't worry. If you're going
to have sex with a guy, he shouldn't worry
about your breast size, there are more
important things.

Good Luck
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I'm generally not a shy person, but when you put me up in front of my whole entire class...things change. I either turn really red, forget everything, start shaking, etc. I was absent, so I couldn't help my partner with a project and the day I went back, the teacher told me that I had to do it by myself. Now, I have to go up in front of my class and present an African Fable with a moral that I made up. It sounds so stupid and plus we have to MEMORIZE it! She won't even let us use our paper, which is going to make me even more nervous since I have nothing to hold. We also have to draw a picture and I'm not the best drawer, so that's just going to make it even more embaressing. Everyone else in my class had a partner, but since I'm by myself...blah. I don't know what to do. I don't want to be so nervous about this tomorrow morning. Is there any way that I can calm down before the presentation and not act and feel so nervous?

I'm pretty much the same way these days.
Presentations used to be no biggie for me,
cause I never really cared what people thought
about me but latley they've gotten harder.

Before presentations I always:
1) Inhale to the count of 5, exhale
until the count of 8. This will slow your
heart rate down and calm your whole body down.
2) I always check to make sure theres nothing
wrong with myself that could result in
embarressment (boogers lol etc) it may sound
weird but it'll help you incase you happen
to be bleeding through or anything.
3) I sing a song to myself, I love music
and it always puts me in better moods so I
sing my favorite song and my worries go away.
4) Smile when you're presenting. It'll
give you confidence. Even if you're not confident
it'll give the impression that you are.

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okay so my bestfriend got this bf who she has been dating for awhile now and im really happy for her. But i just feel like she is always with him. she sees him every weekend bc he doesnt got to our school. she will ask if i wanna hangout with her but i dont want to bc her bf is there and it would feel weird help plzz

Well, since she hangs out with
him over the weekend, why not try to make
plans during the weekdays after school?
If school work is too hectic for that,
you both should reserve a weekend for each
other. My best friend and I did that once a
month when I got a boyfriend that way we
stayed close.

Also, when she invites you to hang out with
them you could ask to bring a friend so its
more comfortable.

Otherwise talk to your friend
about how you feel; she'll understand.

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ok so this may be weird but im just wondering, are there ever people [both guys & girls] that have like a myspace or xanga, and you randomly visit it one day, and then youre like oh well they seem cool or interesting or whatever, so you look at it again one day and then begin to do it often and its almost as if you start to "know" that person without ever talking to them? is that just me lol? im 16/f

I've done that before, ha.
Some of my friends say they've done it too.
I eventually ended up talking to the girl,
because it seemed like we had so much in common.
I wouldn't really worry about it too much,
unless you get almost obsessed with it. Then
it might start causing problems.

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What are some hairstyles
BESIDES....
-Straightening it & leaving it down, or putting it up into a sloppy bun
-Scrunching it (it never comes out good for me--always frizzy and comes out in like 2 seconds, I've tried those foam curlers over night and that makes my hair like an afro)

So my questions are...
-What are hairstyles other than straightening it, scrunching it, etc.
-How can you straighten it w/o it coming out frizzy? Do you scrunch it with wet or dry hair?

Any help is greatly appreciated!!!!

Heres a website that I love
with hundreds of hairstyles. (Click
the hair link to get to the page with
all of them on there. Then click on the
picture you like to get to the instructions
of how to style your hair like that)
http://www.geocities.com/mka_wonderland/

Now:
When straightening your hair be sure to
use a heat protectant if you don't already.
After you finished straightening your hair
either 1. Put in finishing cream. 2. Hair
spray lightly then run a brush through you hair
to make it look more natural. or 3. Flip your
hair over and brush it out a bit, then flip
your head up right again and see what pieces
still need to be straightened. Doing this will
make it easier to see which pieces aren't
straight.

Scrunching:
When you come out of the shower, wrap your
hair up in a towel for about 5 minutes. Then
when you take it out DO NOT BRUSH IT. This
can make it more difficult to scrunch your
hair. Then take scrunching mousse and scrunch
your hair with that and/or use gel. Hairspray
when done.

Good Luck

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