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what is sex? (link)
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I'm guessing your very young and should ask a parent. Parents wpuld know best. Or you could get some books on sex or read the definition from a dictionary. Your better off asking a parents, sweetie. It's for you to learn and you will probably learn about it in school beccause most schools are requiered to teach the subject in 'health claass.'
hope i helped.
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so I'm almost 18 , there is this guy who is almost 20 who says he loves me and misses me, (I have known him for almost a year) he has a kid but he ins't with the baby's mom anymore, although he is far away right now I feel like I love him too, I have no idea what to do..I don't know if its going to work out with the fact that he is in another city.. how should i solve this??
Thanks in advance for reading this and also if you take the time to give me advice. (link)
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If he loves you a lot he will come back for you. If the kid doesn't interfeer with anything then the kid shouldnt be a problem. But kee in mind every dad should keep his son than keep the person he claims he loves. So make it a test, if he comes nack to you, he loves you too. If he doesnt come back then maybe his feeling for you weren't as strong as yours were towards him. Hope you two all work out. Good luck :)
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So me and my boyfriend have had a rocky couple of weeks and valentine's day is coming up and I wanna surprise him and let him know I really care. We've been together for about 8 months and we're pretty serious. What do guys really want for valentine's day? like i really have no idea. I wanna try to make this special. Also this is his first valentine's day with a girlfriend and he's actually pretty excited about it hah.
we're both 19 btw. thanks! (link)
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Guys like video games, sports, television and food. You could get some tvalentines treats like chocolates or a cake or cupcakes, a vide game would b good and you could get heart, wrapping paper. Make sure to make him a csr though cause it makes it special. What does he like? Find that out then fine something you could find as a gift like that.
Hope I helped and Happy valentines day!
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I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and i would say we are perfect and plan on marriage after we are done with college. I love him to death but he is breaking me and it isnt his fault at all. He has terminal brain cancer and won't be cured. Only his parents and I know, not even his brothers because he just doesnt want anyone to treat him any different. I cant talk to anyone and wont, but its like im cutting myself off from reality because i can't handle the fact. Yesterday i guess you could say he died, but was brought right back. He fell unconcious with no pulse/heartbeat. What can I do about any of this, its like iv gone mute i dont even really talk around people anymore. What do i do about him too, my life is done if he dies. Any help on anything is highly appreciated, but no i will not go to a therapist. 18/f (link)
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If you love this man and his permant issues don't affect your love for eachothr this is no need to leave him. If you love him and he loves you stay wth him and help him. It's tuff seeing the one we love in pain, but dont pull back. Just help him when he needs it. If he dies and you did everything to help him all that help will come to you one day. So stay and help. Contact me if you need anything darling :)
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My husband and I just got married in October and he looked really young he said he was 22 but I looked on his profile and it said he was 42. I'm 19 so he's old enough to be my dad almost. He's been married before and he has 4 kids but his wife and kids left him and never came back to him. I know he's too old for me but I love him and I don't wanna leave him even if he lied to me. I asked him if his profile was right he said yes. Since he lied to me what do I do about it ? Should I keep him or devorce him ? But I hate to leave him he's so sweet and caring. (link)
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Fist think of it. He lied to you in the first place so he's most likly to do it again. Why do you think he would lie to you? It's not ok to lie about things especially to te person you love. Sure, age doesn't affect love sometime but hell yeah, lying does. So if you dont want to be lied to in the future divorce him. Now sweetie i know it's going to be hard but do what YOU think is right? Do you think he'll lie to you later in life possibly about super important stuff? Why do you think hs wife and kids left him? This is a hard desission! But if he wont lie, still cares for you, and is sweet maybe try continueing the marrige. It's all up to you. Just think about it 1st. Also feel free to ask me anything if you need more advice/help on this.
Hope I helped :)
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How to have a conversation with your boyfriend on the phone for the first time? (link)
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First you need to have reason to call him for example: Are you calling to say 'i love you' or to talk about a problem you have?Are you calling just to hear his voice?
So first you need a reason like I just listed.
Second you need a topic. Whether it's sports, school, pproblems or anything at all!
Third you gotta sound out going and not bored. Laugh and use expression in your voice but dont do to much of it to the point he's like creeped out. He's probably wondering the same question you asked so keep that in mind:)
Fourth, be your self.
Fifth, when it seems like there's nothing else to talk about and he seems tired or bored or your tired or bored it's time to say good bye. Saying goodbye you should say "I really enjoyed talking to you but i have to go now because..." Or u dont even have to tell why.
Hope I helped and I know you'll do great it's like talking to a friend on the phone, same thing. Try not to make it awkward and you got this girl :)
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Hey!! I have a question(: Im going to hangout with my boyfriend this weekend, and im not sure if its going to be awkward between us. If it does become awkward, what should i do to break the silence? I would willingly talk about anything if it were just me and him, but he is bringing a friend and as am I. I need your guyses help(: (link)
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You seem young. So I'm going to suggest going to see a movie, maybe go to a fun park/amasment park, or go swimming or if you would like go see a sports team play. After that you could all go out for dinner and all could talk as a group about how much fun you had or school. Something thay interests you all would be best.
Hope I helped and don't be shy! Start conversations and get out there girl! I hope you ave SO much fun but I know it will be fun :D
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why does fingering hurt so bad to me? (link)
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Maybe something was displaced when the person did it. It may not hurt you if you do it the way our body would like and able. Try again.
hope I helped some :)
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hello,
I would like to know what subjects you tutor as I too need extra help at school.
Thanks (link)
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I'm sorry to say this is an advice website not a site to find tutors but maybe you could search for some turtors around your area. If you need major help feel free to contact me :)
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i am 12/f and 127 lbs. is that over weight? (link)
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It depends on your body. How much muscil you have and what foods eat and how much you exersize. If you eat really good (veggies, carbs, fruit and protein) and exersize 5 hours each week then you're fine!
I'm also a 12 year old girl and weigh 70.2 pounds but I eat obnoxiously healthy and exersize 2-5 hours a day. (yes, I'm the sporty girl in which everything comes natural to) but i've been told at 12 you don't need to worry about weight because we're all different :)
Hope I helped
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Hey,
16/f
Okay so I've had 1 previous relationship before that lasted 5 mnths however he ended it and then began to play around. I know at this point i could get him back easily because he wants me back, but I don't want him back as he's a player.
Trouble is that was two yrs back now and I'm wondering if I will ever find that special someone? Guys have been know to call me 'fit' round college and there are many nice ones there but i am shy. what shuld i do? Any advice welcome (link)
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One day your special some one will come. At this age there is no love to be forced. If you wanted you could try some college guys if you feel comfortable but just wait and I promiss he'll come. I'm happy to know that you know you don't have to get back together with the guy if you don't want to. You only live once o there's nothing to be scared of. Get out there girl and go have fun because being single is still pretty awesome ;) Good luck hun!
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I have known this boy for a long time ( and have been crushing on him for over a year) He's very sweet and Christian like myself. I have NO interest in becoming his girlfriend, but I want to get to know him. He's in a shell, and I think he's a really special, sweet person inside. I want to know that person. Also, he's awkward around me, and vise versa. He doesn't talk to me, doesn't look at me, or acknowlege me. i want to talk with him normally. please heeeelp me!!! No CLUE what I should say to him... (link)
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Start a conversation he might be interested in and you won't get bored of. What are his interests? What questions do you wanna ask him and ext. Starts a conversation about football or something. He's probably just shy. It would help to know your age so I could suggest more topics to you since now a days different ages do different stuff.
Anyways, I hope I helped some what!
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So my boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over two months and we haven't kissed. I know he wants to kiss me, because he has said so before. I'm just nervous because what if I do something wrong? He will be my first kiss and it will probably be after school, in front of all our friends. Oh and so you know I'm in seventh grade so I'm not that young. Also, please nothing about " You're too young, you don't know what love is " because last time I checked you don't have to be a certain age to love someone. Thanks c: (link)
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Don't be nervous and open your heart. If he wants to kiss and you want to kiss then go for it! It takes two and I agree you don't have to e a certain age to love someone you just got to know what love is. Nothing's perfect, especially your first time at it. So here's some tips;
Make it enjoyable for both of you
Don't show off
Make romantic
Don't over do it
&have fun!
Hope I helped and good luck with thaat kiss
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My boyfriend and I are 15 and we've been dating for seven months. And he has been having phone and internet problems. So I haven't talked to him in over a week. And unfortunately, homecoming is in three weeks, and I really want him to go. And I don't want to invite someone else, and then come in contact with him. I've already tried messaging him on Facebook and twitter. But he hasn't been online. Should I wait another week and a half before asking someone? Or should I wait it out? Any other solutions. . by the way I don't know where he lives exactly and I don't go to school with him. (link)
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Try calling him on his parents # or even a different # but keep trying and don't give up if you really want him to go with you. If you know if he has anything to do certain times of the day then try and meet him there or if these ideas dont work than wait for the time. Have an awesome time at homecoming hope it's awesome ;)
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theres a year 7 girl i want to ask out but im scared she wont like me or we wont be friends and im embarassed about it also im a 12 year old boy (link)
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I'm a 12 year old girl and have been asked put quite a lot but I feel more comfortable getting to know the guy 1st. So really get to know her. After you are both 'friends' and you feel more comfortable asking her out, go for it! Say something like " I really like you so will you go out with me" but the less awkward the more chance she will want to say yes. Good luck ad I hope she says yes :) Contact me for anymore questions
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How do I ask out a guy? (link)
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Well first got to get to know him. After you know him well you should know the right time the say "will yyou go out with me?"
Good luck :)
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wha does a man really mean when say he cares about you alot (link)
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When he says it in the special way, when you think it's the special way, is the special way, or you believed this for any second that he really did care about you and part of his heart was for you then you know. :)
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Basically, im a 16 year old girl who one night decided to go to a party that my mom did not know about. I told her i was staying at a friends and ended up stranded, so i stayed at a boys house with a few of his football friends. I ended up getting really drunk and one of the boys, who i do not know, forced me onto the sofa, unbuttoned my trousers and fingered me against my will. I tried everything to get him off but i was too drunk so i started to cry, he then said if i tell everyone hes going to start rumours about me. What do i do? (link)
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Think about it...What's more important to you, having rumors about you spread and teling? Or not telling you and having him get away with it, do it to other women, maybe rape you if you don't tell. If you don't tell he's gonna think ' O she's scared to tell and now I'm gonna do it again' DO WHAT'S RIGHT AND TELL! Because honestly he's just gonna hold that against u and do it again and again! TELL. Rumors are faulse information more than 95% of the time. Please tell cause it's the right think to do and I say so. Just think about what could happen if you don't...
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Well hey thanks for reading this well I'm on middle school and I'm not to Shure how to express my self all the time im really quite but I don't know what to say and and some think I'm boring but I'm not Im really not quite on the house or when I'm with my friends and I want to all see that I'm not boring I liked to have fun not be boring how can I show them I'm not boring and please don't tell me to be myself
If you read this thanks for taking your time (link)
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Find interesting topics to talk about that you think are cool or exciting.
Tell me people funng storys about your life or you or if you don't have any make a joke. Try and laugh a ton! Sing or dance around people amd don't be shy! Good luck :)
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Hey there!(: So Me and my friend are trying to geth this boys number in 6th grade. We both think he is really hot, but we only want to talk to him! Well I have a best friend in 6th grade thats been trying to get it. First he told the boy that he knew two 8th graders who liked him and he said "cool" then, I came up with idea for my friend to get his number, and so my friend asked him and then the boy said "ya sure" to my friend then at the end of the day I asked my friend if he had the boys number and my friend said no he has to know who it is first. Well i've been trying to get in touch with the boy but I never can find him, Do you know any other way I can get it? I need it reallly bad for when my friend spends the night with me we really wanna text him! I even got my sixth grade friend to ask one of the boys best friends for his number and my friend said the guy wouldnt answer! So please help me and give me ideas!! thanks(: (link)
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Why can't you ask? Go up to him and be like " Hey what's ur #?" and he'll give it to you hopefully and walk away. There.
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