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HEY GUYS. I figure i know a lot about advice. I have been threw a lot from family violence and growing up in environments with a lot of stress and stuff to relationships and sex questions. i have had my best friends move away, feel the pain of a lost love one, feel the hurt of loving some one so much it kills, and many different levels of love, pain, sorrow, and CONFUSION! so just ask away ill try to helps ya out ;D later

Hey so Its been a while since I have been on here just wanted to update a little.
I have had a few more life experiences. I have a best friend new to my life as of a few years ago now and she is amazing. I couldn't ask for some one better.I lost my first love from stupid choices i made and now am trying things a little differently i won't do the same stupid stuff as before. Hit me up ID LOVE TO HELP!!
Oh and I started college :)

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13/f well i just found out the other night that my boyfriend (also 13) had sex a couple months ago at a party with a girl thats 15. we wernt together then but we were a couple months before that. i really love him and i know that i always will because we have such a good friendship but should i except this? so far i convinced myself that im okay with it but im not sure if i really am. i think that since hes already done it then hell try to pressure me into having sex. well what i want to know is should i except it and how?

if he does try to get you to have sex then slap him or something if he does not listen when you say stop. i am 13 also. i would not want to have sex yet . and i know that even if you love a guy it is not worth doing something you don't want to like sex. trust me one of my friends is kinda lke this. hope i help.also i wouldbe like a little coshas about what you do around him and becarful not to lead him on . i might trust him if he is nice other than that one thing. but oter than that no.
Andie

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17/f
I'm not going to prom b/c i have an AP physics final test two days later and i don't want to get distracted. But, my friends are mad at me b/c they are seniors and its our last year to go to a dance as a big group-their being mean "subtley"-like they'll slip in some mean things-wat do i do? and how do i not feel so miserable?

ok i am only 13 but i think if you really don't want to go don't but if it was my last year i would and if not just don't worry about it and i know there you frieds but if they get MAAD at you for not going to a dance what kind of friends are they? and if you don't like that i know they will get over it. hope i helped.
Andie

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13 female

when i was born i lived with my grandparents becasue my mom had a bad life. she sold drugs and lived in alot of places wich we not suitable for kids. and so when i was 2 my mom came to my house drunk and kidnapped me. my grandma didnt try to get me beacue my mom was way stronger then her and so she just let me go. * i dont live with my dad becasue when i was born i was a mistiake and my dad is a player* so my mom went to jail and some lady returnded me when my mom was gone *but now me and my mom are okay* . and so when i was 4 it was the FIRST time i ever saw my dad but i couldnt really see him becasue it was like 10 o clock at night and he didnt want to come inside. and after that visit from when i was 4 i counted the days weeks months hours years miutes and seconds from the last time i saw my father. and finally i saw my dad again when i was 10 and he expected me to act like nothing happened and he was like all can i have a hug blah blah blah and my grandpa told him that if he wanted to come that day he just cant leave me again and yes he did.. he didnt come back and i didnt hear from him or anything and im 13 and i havent heard from him in 3 years but its not like i want to or anything. i just have mixed emotions. and im the "tough" one at my school because i dont open up or talk about my feelings. well at night i dream about me and my sister haveing this "Perfect" family with my mom and my dad but then something happends to me and my dream shows a picture of my dad getting killed and my mom dying ( my sister has a different dad and i have like 3 other sisters that have different moms and i dont even know them) but after my dream i wake up with tears in my eyes and me all sweaty. but heres the thing.. i want my life to be good. but i dont want anything to do with my dad and my dad is gonna try and talk to me over the summer and my other grandmaw too but i just dont want to be a part of them. my questions are.. how can i tell them i dont want anything to do with them. and what do i do about these dreams, and how can i open up and talk about my feelings

sorry its long but ill rate 5's to any good answer

ok i am 13 to and like that is amasing that you have been through so much and have been so strong. ok the deams they are you said you dad was a pimp that is why in your dream you have lik e3 sisters with dif moms. and you other sis like maby that is like a fear of yours. your dad and mom dieing is another fear . see i think you wish you could have gotten to know them right and like since you didn't they are like never there and not a part of your life so to you in oyour mind they are dead . not apart of you but they are. the deams are just like what u really think, or want to do or wish , or hope, or fear. we learned about this allittle in school . and you can tell you father you don't care about him but before you think about it reallly hard . do you really not ever want a father that might be there even if he was not there before. i hate my dad. but even though i hate him i love that i have a dad i guess like I hate him alot but i still love him cus he is my dad. and i give long answers to sometimes sry. the way to open up and talk to some is to find a friend that you real;ly trust like i have a secret about my mom and i will take it to my grave probably and i have 2 or 3 good friend i really trust and i tell them ALMOST every tyhing. you just have to trust a good person . some on who does not talk to people about other peoples fealings and stuff alot and go for it.i hope i answered you questions.
good luck
Andie

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I have really bad panic attacks and they seem to be controling me. I am running out of ideas on what to do. I have had aniexty since I was 4 years old. I am 15 now. I just need to get my life back in order. I am just not sure how. If anyone has panic attacks, can you give me ideas to get over them?

I also I many mental issues. Like angoraphobia, O.C.D, Panic disorder, Aniexty, and alot of others. I have been to two mental hospitals and 50 or more doctors and consualors.. I am losing all hope on myself.

NEVER LOSE HOPE. i am only 13 but i have been threw some stuff to but not like that i lost my ant resently my fish died my bff moved to oklahoma my grandpa is sick and could die and now my dad is really sick and might have to be in the hospital and who knows what els. but what ever happens you can not give up. if i did not answer your qiestion right please tell me like exactly what you are asking. thanks bye
hope i helped. also i have had a panic attac to
i was at camp ( swim camp and like i got so upset cus it was so crazy at night in the dorms like i could not controle anything like it was hectic and stuff nthing nasty and i just went in to a panic attac and the only way u get out of them is just to slow down stop don't think but ask for a wet paper town rub it on your forhead and sit and breath deep breaths that is what i did. hope i help.
Andie

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Hi. Tonight I am babysitting an 11 year old girl at my house. I was wondering some things I could do with her to keep her accupied. Any ideas would be helpful. Thanks.

if she is like a real girly girly then she might like to paint nails and maby play some bordgames. if she likes sprots and stuff maby some vidio games or eather way she might want to play hide and go seek i know i still like it sometimes she might like to jump on a trapolean if she has one . ok well i hope i helped

i am 13
Andie

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what are some good "truths" and "dares" for "truth or dare"?!

who does _______ like and tell _________ u lik eor love them and call your crush and tell him/her you love or like them and tell ________'s mom/dad they are hot or something like that i hope i helped

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One of my best friend's brother died in a car crash because of street racing. Tomorrow I am going to his funeral with our friends and to be there for my friend. I really dont know what to wear and what I'm supposed to do there. Do I bring a gift. I feel really bad. He was onlt 17 years old. Please help.

i don't think you bring gifts to funerals because i have only been to one but u just say i am sooooooooo sorry for our loss.and if you feel like you need to cry it is ok to cry i lost my ant about a year ago and it was realy hard she was my dads little sis and i was realy close to her and i cried like a baby that just skind her knee and it was bleeding like heack but any way i hope this helps any more quetions e-mail me dotintexas@hotmail.com or just ask me .

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For v - day... if i got my boyfriend two little teddy bears... (ones a girl and ones a boy)... that have magnetic noses so its like they are kissing... would that be too girly like giving him teddy bears and stuff?

yes it is to girly. i know from some of my friends and i are one thoe phone when we answered the question. and one guy is on the phone with e and said it would be to girly so maby you can get him like a red phoot ball or a something.

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You know on aim when people have that very lil cell phone on the side of there SN?? Well what is it? And is it like text messaging? What if you cant get texting on your cell. Can you still use it? And is it free?

that means that there screen names is forworded to there cell phone and that is just and im to there cell phone.i think it is free

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hi my parents left at 12 this afternoon and theyre not coming back till like 1 am and im reeealy hungry i havent eaten anything ive been saving my appetite for a pizza and my sister was supposed to drop of my nephew but i guess hes not coming and i want to order a pizza but im scared cuz im all alone and i dont want him to kill me and my house isnt safe and i dont want strangers coming in and im scared =( should i order the pizza anywys?

ok well do what you think is best and if you have any food in your fridge at all then eat that or in your panty just pig out for now and then if you are still hunger she what you feel like doing.

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In your opinion, is 13 years old too young to be fingered? If you really can't get any STDs then what's the harm?

YOU REALY CAN GET STD I AM SORRY BUT I AM 13 AND I WOULD SAY NO AND IF OTHER people have already been fingered that was up to them and if you want to go ahead but i worn you just be carful and make sure you want to do that . right now we are studying stds and i am telling you please don;t just wate there is no rush good luck and think realy hard about what you are fixing to do . please.

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Im 14/f and ive never had a boyfriend..is this weird...is it normal??

ok that is ok i am 13 and only had one boyfriend and that was because ihe asked me out 4 times and i finaly said yes just to give him a try and he was not hot not at all but he was nice and the only thing i got out of that at the end is that i became friend with his mom and lots of my friend have never had boyfriend and thye are 12 and 13 so u have nothing to worry about. if you need anything els just ask me.

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I feel like my bestfriend likes her other friend more than me. she sits by the other girl at lunch together more often than with me.they do lots of things together, but not with me.How do i get my best friend to like me better?

aloner,

well i was in your same situation not to long ago and i thoughtmy bestfriend like this other girl more than me but i just said hey katie(that is her name) do u like hr more us you do more stuff with her and u hang with her more and you are over at her house more and she said no taylor you are my best friend i would never like you less than i do now or ever and so i guess what i am telling you is just to tlak to her and let her know that you wanther to remeber all the times with her and maby sped more time with you and maby and and that other girl can get to know each other and become one of the best group or 3 best friends ever.i hope my adcise helps this is just my 3rd time.

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my best friend has a boyfriend who she thinks is more important than me. when i say something about him, she gets mad at me!does that mean she doesnt care about me anymore?

no that does not mean she does not care about u it just mean s that she relay likes this guy a hole lot and that she has her priorities all messed up. you just need to tlak to her and tell her how you feel and see if she understands if you need anything els i will be intuch.

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I have this party coming up in about 3 weeks time but I have absolutely no idea what to wear. It's kind of smart/casual, not too dressed up but I don't have anything. All my jeans are too casual and torn to wear to a party and I don't have any other trousers. I don't have enough money to buy anything new. I have a black sparkly top that I could wear with my black school trousers but I don't know what shoes I would wear with it and whether it would look okay. I can't borrow any clothes off my friends because I'm really small for my age and none of their clothes fit me. What should I do?

wellfirst i need to know if you are a girl or guya dn then if you are a girl go and look and see if you like any of your moms clothes and see if they fit. if your a guy then do the same but with your dads clothes and see if and nabors have feet the same as you or any friends sisters or brothers do. this is my first time ever so i hope this helps.

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